Pisces Female Dating Scorpio Female

Hi im a 42 yr old pisces lesbian dating a bi 28 yr old scorpio.. we have known each other almost 4 yrs dating 2 yrs now and living together since this november (4 months) we met at an online lesbian dating site.. When we started talking she was in a bad relationship with a guy for 7 yrs.. He was a mean drunk and treated her like crap and hit her.. She couldnt leave cuz she had no where to go and didnt have enuff money to live on her own.. So me and her were talking she would tell me she lived me and we were intimate so for a year she led me to believe we were together but then she came clean sayin we werent and she had been using me that we werent together because she was in a relationship and she doesnt jump from 1 relationship to a new 1 like that.. Despite this news i still fell in love with her that year i thought we wete a couple so i got an aoartment for her so she could leave that bad situation with him and she didnt feel trapped anymore.. So we talked for a while.. I lived in brooklyn and she lived in florida so it was a long distance thing.. We were on the phone,texting,calling, and video chatting a year then felt she had enuff time to heal after her break up from him and said she slowly wanted to try a real relationship with me i agreed.. I came for visits every month or so and wen i did she was sweet, mushy, and we were intimate almost every day.. She acted so loving and sweet just like on the phone iean we were talking all the time from the time we woke up till the time we went to sleep so we decided to step it up after officially dating 2 yrs she asked me to move in with her.. Its been 4 months now and feels like it all changed.. She complained about sharing cleaning and cooking duty so i did that she stopped.. I cooked she didnt wanna eat it she said shes picky so we both eat seperate.. We havent slept in the same bed since december finally did last nite.. Her xcuse i need space wen i sleep( its a queen size bed) so after we slept back in bed together she puts on FB she didnt sleep well.. We havent had sex since valentines day . She says sh hasnt been horny and going thru a no sex phase But shes not really affectionate, doesnt cuddle or even watch movies with me.. Says she dont like being suffocated shes never been a very huggy affectionate cuddle up person that she needs her space and alone time.. She says she loves me she just needs her down time and things change when u live together.. I dunno if she truly loves me or is just using and manipulating me to make me believe her because if we break up she has no where to go and will b homeless but i told her if we broke up i would still help her till she got on her feet cuz i wont let her b homeless no matter what.. There was an altercation with a neighbor twice.. I cut my face she cleaned it and put medicine.. Another incident i went to the emergency room cuz i thought id need stitches.. She hates hospitals but she showed up to check on me.. Im just so confused if shes being genuine and really loves me or is using me and manipulating me cuz when i tell her i feel ur using me she gets mad and says yeah think what u want, u need to take your head out of your ass.. im disabled also so everytime ive had to have surgery out of state she made me make sure to call her when i woke up after surgery and one time i had issues getting my painedication she called the hosp and yelled at doctors and nurses on the phone to get me my pain meds.. So u see why im so confused.. Also she recently told me shes still testing me and that i havent seen all her love yet.. I just dont know what to think..

Well I am a Scorpio woman so I'll try to help the best I can.

All those things you say she does like checking on you, and calling the hospital; she does indeed care about you very deeply. Where things get kind of rocky is sleeping separate, her not being affectionate, and her saying things change when you move in together. Scorpios are very manipulative and we can use people to get what we want if we know we can get it. But when we're in love, we want to be around you at all times, we want to talk to you at all times and we want to feel you at all times. Nothing you do or say can change that no matter what.

So honestly to me it seems like she really cares for you but could be making excuses to keep you around and is doing the minimum.

She's still around so she seems to be trying to love you but might not be completely over the guy as well and she's trying to cope with it.

When we're still in love with someone else but we know we have a good person in our corner sometimes it takes for us to feel like we're losing that person to stop taking them for granted. So I would just step back and give her some space and try not to worry about it. She'll come around

Sounds like you're both confused.

Just my opinion, she IS using you but I suspect she may have also developed an emotional attachment to you as well.

Posted by vlb4eva
Hi im a 42 yr old pisces lesbian dating a bi 28 yr old scorpio.. we have known each other almost 4 yrs dating 2 yrs now and living together since this november (4 months) we met at an online lesbian dating site.. When we started talking she was in a bad relationship with a guy for 7 yrs.. He was a mean drunk and treated her like crap and hit her.. She couldnt leave cuz she had no where to go and didnt have enuff money to live on her own.. So me and her were talking she would tell me she lived me and we were intimate so for a year she led me to believe we were together but then she came clean sayin we werent and she had been using me that we werent together because she was in a relationship and she doesnt jump from 1 relationship to a new 1 like that.. Despite this news i still fell in love with her that year i thought we wete a couple so i got an aoartment for her so she could leave that bad situation with him and she didnt feel trapped anymore.. So we talked for a while.. I lived in brooklyn and she lived in florida so it was a long distance thing.. We were on the phone,texting,calling, and video chatting a year then felt she had enuff time to heal after her break up from him and said she slowly wanted to try a real relationship with me i agreed.. I came for visits every month or so and wen i did she was sweet, mushy, and we were intimate almost every day.. She acted so loving and sweet just like on the phone iean we were talking all the time from the time we woke up till the time we went to sleep so we decided to step it up after officially dating 2 yrs she asked me to move in with her.. Its been 4 months now and feels like it all changed.. She complained about sharing cleaning and cooking duty so i did that she stopped.. I cooked she didnt wanna eat it she said shes picky so we both eat seperate.. We havent slept in the same bed since december finally did last nite.. Her xcuse i need space wen i sleep( its a queen size bed) so after we slept back in bed together she puts on FB she didnt sleep well.. We havent had sex since valentines day . She says sh hasnt been horny and going thru a no sex phase But shes not really affectionate, doesnt cuddle or even watch movies with me.. Says she dont like being suffocated shes never been a very huggy affectionate cuddle up person that she needs her space and alone time.. She says she loves me she just needs her down time and things change when u live together.. I dunno if she truly loves me or is just using and manipulating me to make me believe her because if we break up she has no where to go and will b homeless but i told her if we broke up i would still help her till she got on her feet cuz i wont let her b homeless no matter what.. There was an altercation with a neighbor twice.. I cut my face she cleaned it and put medicine.. Another incident i went to the emergency room cuz i thought id need stitches.. She hates hospitals but she showed up to check on me.. Im just so confused if shes being genuine and really loves me or is using me and manipulating me cuz when i tell her i feel ur using me she gets mad and says yeah think what u want, u need to take your head out of your ass.. im disabled also so everytime ive had to have surgery out of state she made me make sure to call her when i woke up after surgery and one time i had issues getting my painedication she called the hosp and yelled at doctors and nurses on the phone to get me my pain meds.. So u see why im so confused.. Also she recently told me shes still testing me and that i havent seen all her love yet.. I just dont know what to think..

she's trying to get over her ex so she is unavailable to you right now in the way you want. you can be patient and give her time to grieve the relationship or take a break while she does. either way it will take time. and after a 7 year emotion-filled relationship, it could take years depending on the person. patience if you really love her. love her by giving her the time and space she needs. eventually when the bond with him fades, the time you have put in should only strengthen yours with her. best wishes.

Sorry but from what you have said she sounds dependent on you, doesn't sound like she is in love with you otherwise she wouldn't blow this hot and cold? Or is she suffering from depression?

I feel really bad for you as it sounds like you have put your all into this woman and still would even if she leaves you, just so she doesn't hit rock bottom.

Can I just tell you now, stop putting this woman over your own worth. You deserve better. She might care for you but she needs to be honest about the relationship and if she can't then perhaps you should?

She cares about you.. Not sure if the interest is still there tho... Like the others say.. When we love the person we are with, we want them around ALL the time!! & she is pushing you away.. She may still be upset about her ex..

Take time to give her space.. If it is meant to be, she'll come around.

Not to make you feel worst.. Or be negative, but there is also the possibility that she is cheating.. 😢