Scorpio Children

How are your relationships with your parents? Are you clingy, never wanting to move away from them? Or are you fine to go chase a career, go to college states/city’s/countries away and start your family away from them?

Trying to figure out if this is a Scorpio thing or mine is just too dependent on me.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

How are your relationships with your parents? Are you clingy, never wanting to move away from them? Or are you fine to go chase a career, go to college states/city’s/countries away and start your family away from them?

Trying to figure out if this is a Scorpio thing or mine is just too dependent on me.

of all the scorpios I grew up with only one remains in my hometown but she literally has venus in libra lol. I know she has two kids a bf who's black but doesnt display relationship statues or show him off of Facebook or anywhere its prominently a white neighborhood btw very upscale.

Posted by poppyflower

My Scorp cousin is in the same province as me. My aunt and uncle (her parents) are on the other side of the globe.

Did your cousin leave or did they? Absolutely would never happen with my daughter, she’s 3 hours away and it’s trauma at the moment. Maybe this shall pass. I’m her one true support and she’s had severe anxiety/depression issues since middle school. One thing happens & she wants her mommy..

I was close to my dad but left home at 20. The relationship with my mum better as a child but she was a bit smothering, too religious and repressed for me. Dad and i became close as i became older

Aries father

Capricorn mother

*

Our Scorpio Son is independent, left home at 18 and now lives in another country but calls his dad and i every day and we’re all close

He always visits home whenever he can

North node in 4th (always looking for home)

❤️

Depends. Mostly I’m independent, especially when I was younger, but now I feel like I can help around with everything because I’m currently needed. In a year or so I don’t think I’ll be in the same continent as my family because I’m planning to move. 😄

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by PuzzlePieces

How are your relationships with your parents? Are you clingy, never wanting to move away from them? Or are you fine to go chase a career, go to college states/city’s/countries away and start your family away from them?

Trying to figure out if this is a Scorpio thing or mine is just too dependent on me.

of all the scorpios I grew up with only one remains in my hometown but she literally has venus in libra lol. I know she has two kids a bf who's black but doesnt display relationship statues or show him off of Facebook or anywhere its prominently a white neighborhood btw very upscale.

click to expand

Huh weird.

Posted by Cocosugar

Depends. Mostly I’m independent, especially when I was younger, but now I feel like I can help around with everything because I’m currently needed. In a year or so I don’t think I’ll be in the same continent as my family because I’m planning to move. 😄

You’ll find your wings soon 🤗

Posted by peachy06

Although I'm very attached to my mother I can also do things on my own. Since we get along very well I can't deny I like to spend my whole time with her. My projects are still important though and I have plans for the future.

I have no desire to have a family of my own since I don't want kids. I don't want to get married neither, so living with a partner is a no neither.

Sounds similar except she does want a family.

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was close to my dad but left home at 20. The relationship with my mum better as a child but she was a bit smothering, too religious and repressed for me. Dad and i became close as i became older

Aries father

Capricorn mother

*

Our Scorpio Son is independent, left home at 18 and now lives in another country but calls his dad and i every day and we’re all close

He always visits home whenever he can

North node in 4th (always looking for home)

❤️

She’s clingy but independent. I think it may have to do with her anxiety and me being her support system. She feels better when I’m around. I’m like you are supposed to be sprouting your wings…

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by PuzzlePieces

How are your relationships with your parents? Are you clingy, never wanting to move away from them? Or are you fine to go chase a career, go to college states/city’s/countries away and start your family away from them?

Trying to figure out if this is a Scorpio thing or mine is just too dependent on me.

of all the scorpios I grew up with only one remains in my hometown but she literally has venus in libra lol. I know she has two kids a bf who's black but doesnt display relationship statues or show him off of Facebook or anywhere its prominently a white neighborhood btw very upscale.

Huh weird.

click to expand

very much I think shes a nurse too but I'm not sure what kind.she does look evil as fuck too I'll give her that like hera not even kidding lol.

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

click to expand

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

Posted by _elle_

Posted by PuzzlePieces

How are your relationships with your parents? Are you clingy, never wanting to move away from them? Or are you fine to go chase a career, go to college states/city’s/countries away and start your family away from them?

Trying to figure out if this is a Scorpio thing or mine is just too dependent on me.

I couldn't leave home fast enough. My parents were really toxic.

click to expand

Ahhh I see. I’m support, and the reason she survived some bad stuff. So I’m where she runs to when she’s having trouble I believe. She also hasn’t seen her therapist in over 3 months, so maybe it’s time.

Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Librasetting777

Posted by PuzzlePieces

How are your relationships with your parents? Are you clingy, never wanting to move away from them? Or are you fine to go chase a career, go to college states/city’s/countries away and start your family away from them?

Trying to figure out if this is a Scorpio thing or mine is just too dependent on me.

of all the scorpios I grew up with only one remains in my hometown but she literally has venus in libra lol. I know she has two kids a bf who's black but doesnt display relationship statues or show him off of Facebook or anywhere its prominently a white neighborhood btw very upscale.

Huh weird.

very much I think shes a nurse too but I'm not sure what kind.she does look evil as fuck too I'll give her that like hera not even kidding lol.

click to expand

Lol nurse evil as fuck?

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

Oh I see. How long she's in theraphy. Maybe she needs time to get more independent step by step.

click to expand

10 years. She’s been off meds for 3 years & doing well. Tends to fall apart when something goes wrong. It was on a big level in high school and now not so much. She learns she can get through things with help of me & her therapist. Which is why she wants to be close to me,for when she needs me. In middle school she was suicidal & had post concussive syndrome after a really bad concussion. I think living 3 hours away is actually good for her, learning to handle things. I guess it’s a process.

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Cocosugar

Depends. Mostly I’m independent, especially when I was younger, but now I feel like I can help around with everything because I’m currently needed. In a year or so I don’t think I’ll be in the same continent as my family because I’m planning to move. 😄

You’ll find your wings soon 🤗

click to expand

Haha I can’t wait! Thank you love. 💕

Posted by peachy06

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

Oh I see. How long she's in theraphy. Maybe she needs time to get more independent step by step.

I share the same opinion as Capriquarius, she's a fixed sign, we do things step by step. She might need time to process.

What's her moon ? Sounds like a Cancer, but I could be wrong of course. 🤔

click to expand

Virgo

Posted by _elle_

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by _elle_

Posted by PuzzlePieces

How are your relationships with your parents? Are you clingy, never wanting to move away from them? Or are you fine to go chase a career, go to college states/city’s/countries away and start your family away from them?

Trying to figure out if this is a Scorpio thing or mine is just too dependent on me.

I couldn't leave home fast enough. My parents were really toxic.

Ahhh I see. I’m support, and the reason she survived some bad stuff. So I’m where she runs to when she’s having trouble I believe. She also hasn’t seen her therapist in over 3 months, so maybe it’s time.

Yes, that is more than likely it. It is positive that she feels safe, in that respect. It's not easy to gain our trust and maintain it.

However, I see how you don't want to encourage codependency as well.

click to expand

Ya part of the issue. She grew up watching codependency due to her father & my relationship. He’s an alcoholic, and I went to Coda for a couple of years & left him.. which is probably the best thing I ever did for my kids. So I encourage the healthy road, but they both tend to be codependent & have both had big issues too. Anxiety/depression/adhd related.

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

Oh I see. How long she's in theraphy. Maybe she needs time to get more independent step by step.

10 years. She’s been off meds for 3 years & doing well. Tends to fall apart when something goes wrong. It was on a big level in high school and now not so much. She learns she can get through things with help of me & her therapist. Which is why she wants to be close to me,for when she needs me. In middle school she was suicidal & had post concussive syndrome after a really bad concussion. I think living 3 hours away is actually good for her, learning to handle things. I guess it’s a process.

I see. 10 years seem long, but I think if she's 21 ( which is still pretty young), she off mess just 3 years it sounds she's doing well. I don't know how about others, but I fellt confident as an andult when I was about 30 Lol I know sounds bad because it's 9 years, but year after year she will be doing better and after her successes, like doing degree, finding proper career it will make her more confident to get more detach from family home.

click to expand

She hasn’t really needed to go the last few years. She wants to have a third party to talk to. I think it’s the fear of falling apart like she used to.. she actually is very strong now, but gets into these deep moods that can destroy all that. So I remind her that she’s okay. She just needs to deal with things.

Posted by Atargatis

My Scorpio sister is very dependent on my parents. I found out in the last year that my parents have been paying all of her bills still, minus her mortgage, which she pays with her fiancé lol. She has two sons of her own at this point and a partner. She always makes my parents feel like she can’t do things alone or doesn’t have the money or resources. She’s 30, has a masters degree, a full time job, a contract job and probably makes more money than my parents combined at this point. Doesn’t change anything though, I’ve told my parents they need to cut it out but they feel bad for her. She calls my mom multiple times a day and sometimes me also. It’s kind of crazy how independent and dependent she can be at the same time.

She could so be like that! I have a line on my budget spreadsheet where I enter my expenses each month with her name and “needed” I started that when she was in high school when she would swear she had to have & needed something.. and it turned out she didn’t actually. I have made her be responsible. The kid actually had like a 700 credit score at 19. I stopped paying for things that she “needed” when she was 16 & she started working full time in high school lol. I make her pay back things that I loan her. Only because she could be like your sister. But she is also very independent. She always pays me back btw.

They have to learn to manage, and that sort of enabling does not help at all. My daughter has it from her dads parents who have a lot of money, so I’m fighting against that.

Posted by ImperfectStorm

I moved out of my moms house right around the age of 18. I wouldn’t say I’m clingy but i don’t think I would be comfortable living at a far distance from my family. I think that has more to do with my cancer moon though. My mom passed away in 2009 but I still have my dad and sisters here. Even though I don’t see them or talk to them everyday, there’s comfort in knowing they are only a short drive away. Just the thought of having a family emergency and not being able to get to my family immediately gives me anxiety. But my moms death might have something to do with that, she died abruptly and unexpectedly and when my sisters called and told me I met them at my moms house right away.

Sounds familiar actually. She says I’m never allowed to die. 😂 She is only 3 hours away & that’s doable. She comes down quite a bit to see family & friends. The area is tough, because it’s a small area & you need to leave to do well in life. I grew up in the LA area which was so different. You can move and still not be very far, and further your career/life there. So she’s moved for college and has ambitions of becoming a lawyer but wants her mommy. I tell her go & spread your wings, create your life. Then it’s don’t you miss me Mommy? Lol of course I do! I’m thinking of her. Of course, she has some issues that take a bit for her, so I’m here for her too.

I love them to death and feel very lucky to have them. My father is the eldest of six and had to grow up very quick due to my grandfather’s deteriorating health— helping out my grandfather with work at 12 and assume full financial responsibility by 16-17. Although he’s pretty steadfast “family first”, he’s always preached about the importance of independence perhaps because he never had that. So that may have helped us a little bit. But if my mother had it her way, we’d probably all still be living at home. lol

I was never a clingy kid, in fact, I always ended up getting lectured for being too aloof. lol

And aside from summer breaks, I never returned home after college.

I speak with them 2-3 a week. We live in different but neighboring states. And if there is an important life decision, I still run it by them to hear their thoughts.

Posted by jazzykid

I love them to death and feel very lucky to have them. My father is the eldest of six and had to grow up very quick due to my grandfather’s deteriorating health— helping out my grandfather with work at 12 and assume full financial responsibility by 16-17. Although he’s pretty steadfast “family first”, he’s always preached about the importance of independence perhaps because he never had that. So that may have helped us a little bit. But if my mother had it her way, we’d probably all still be living at home. lol

I was never a clingy kid, in fact, I always ended up getting lectured for being too aloof. lol

And aside from summer breaks, I never returned home after college.

I speak with them 2-3 a week. We live in different but neighboring states. And if there is an important life decision, I still run it by them to hear their thoughts.

This makes sense to me. I never had to be far away because of where I lived. My mom moved away when she retired across the country, but dad was also close. Maybe 1/2 hour away. But it’s was LA area, it’s a huge area & lots of opportunities and schools. But we moved to Southern Oregon when the kids were young & this area is completely different. Kids go to college & don’t come back or maybe move back once they have families like in 30’s or 40’s.

Posted by Cocosugar

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Cocosugar

Depends. Mostly I’m independent, especially when I was younger, but now I feel like I can help around with everything because I’m currently needed. In a year or so I don’t think I’ll be in the same continent as my family because I’m planning to move. 😄

You’ll find your wings soon 🤗

Haha I can’t wait! Thank you love. 💕

click to expand

Freedom ✈️💃😃

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was close to my dad but left home at 20. The relationship with my mum better as a child but she was a bit smothering, too religious and repressed for me. Dad and i became close as i became older

Aries father

Capricorn mother

*

Our Scorpio Son is independent, left home at 18 and now lives in another country but calls his dad and i every day and we’re all close

He always visits home whenever he can

North node in 4th (always looking for home)

❤️

She’s clingy but independent. I think it may have to do with her anxiety and me being her support system. She feels better when I’m around. I’m like you are supposed to be sprouting your wings…

click to expand

What age is she?

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by jazzykid

I love them to death and feel very lucky to have them. My father is the eldest of six and had to grow up very quick due to my grandfather’s deteriorating health— helping out my grandfather with work at 12 and assume full financial responsibility by 16-17. Although he’s pretty steadfast “family first”, he’s always preached about the importance of independence perhaps because he never had that. So that may have helped us a little bit. But if my mother had it her way, we’d probably all still be living at home. lol

I was never a clingy kid, in fact, I always ended up getting lectured for being too aloof. lol

And aside from summer breaks, I never returned home after college.

I speak with them 2-3 a week. We live in different but neighboring states. And if there is an important life decision, I still run it by them to hear their thoughts.

This makes sense to me. I never had to be far away because of where I lived. My mom moved away when she retired across the country, but dad was also close. Maybe 1/2 hour away. But it’s was LA area, it’s a huge area & lots of opportunities and schools. But we moved to Southern Oregon when the kids were young & this area is completely different. Kids go to college & don’t come back or maybe move back once they have families like in 30’s or 40’s.

click to expand

Regardless of upbringing or circumstance, the thought of being a burden on someone is worse than death to me. It’s that extreme. lol

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was close to my dad but left home at 20. The relationship with my mum better as a child but she was a bit smothering, too religious and repressed for me. Dad and i became close as i became older

Aries father

Capricorn mother

*

Our Scorpio Son is independent, left home at 18 and now lives in another country but calls his dad and i every day and we’re all close

He always visits home whenever he can

North node in 4th (always looking for home)

❤️

She’s clingy but independent. I think it may have to do with her anxiety and me being her support system. She feels better when I’m around. I’m like you are supposed to be sprouting your wings…

What age is she?

click to expand

21

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was close to my dad but left home at 20. The relationship with my mum better as a child but she was a bit smothering, too religious and repressed for me. Dad and i became close as i became older

Aries father

Capricorn mother

*

Our Scorpio Son is independent, left home at 18 and now lives in another country but calls his dad and i every day and we’re all close

He always visits home whenever he can

North node in 4th (always looking for home)

❤️

She’s clingy but independent. I think it may have to do with her anxiety and me being her support system. She feels better when I’m around. I’m like you are supposed to be sprouting your wings…

What age is she?

21

click to expand

Where is her Moon, Roo?

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was close to my dad but left home at 20. The relationship with my mum better as a child but she was a bit smothering, too religious and repressed for me. Dad and i became close as i became older

Aries father

Capricorn mother

*

Our Scorpio Son is independent, left home at 18 and now lives in another country but calls his dad and i every day and we’re all close

He always visits home whenever he can

North node in 4th (always looking for home)

❤️

She’s clingy but independent. I think it may have to do with her anxiety and me being her support system. She feels better when I’m around. I’m like you are supposed to be sprouting your wings…

What age is she?

21

Where is her Moon, Roo?

click to expand

She’s a Virgo moon not sure of the house. I’d have to look it up & can’t right now. She tends to hold emotions in until she can’t handle it anymore. So I think that’s part of the problem. That’s why therapy has helped. She has gotten to recognize what she is doing now, so she can address it. But does tend to try to ignore til she can’t anymore. I think that’s a Virgo moon thing.

Is this the same daughter who dealt with the psycho roommate? If so at least 70% of her missing you has got to be because she's still processing that trauma.

Posted by MareInfame

Posted by jazzykid

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by jazzykid

I love them to death and feel very lucky to have them. My father is the eldest of six and had to grow up very quick due to my grandfather’s deteriorating health— helping out my grandfather with work at 12 and assume full financial responsibility by 16-17. Although he’s pretty steadfast “family first”, he’s always preached about the importance of independence perhaps because he never had that. So that may have helped us a little bit. But if my mother had it her way, we’d probably all still be living at home. lol

I was never a clingy kid, in fact, I always ended up getting lectured for being too aloof. lol

And aside from summer breaks, I never returned home after college.

I speak with them 2-3 a week. We live in different but neighboring states. And if there is an important life decision, I still run it by them to hear their thoughts.

This makes sense to me. I never had to be far away because of where I lived. My mom moved away when she retired across the country, but dad was also close. Maybe 1/2 hour away. But it’s was LA area, it’s a huge area & lots of opportunities and schools. But we moved to Southern Oregon when the kids were young & this area is completely different. Kids go to college & don’t come back or maybe move back once they have families like in 30’s or 40’s.

Regardless of upbringing or circumstance, the thought of being a burden on someone is worse than death to me. It’s that extreme. lol

That’s exactly how I feel. My mom also complained about me being too distant or secretive. She would dig, but I didn’t find it necessary to share… it all roots from “not being a burden”.

I’ve loosened up much more. But it was definitely a struggle growing up. Also because, in return… it would deeply hurt me if they read my intentions incorrectly. They let their insecurities run wild when you withhold - even IF the intention is quite altruistic.

click to expand

Self-isolating when troubled is definitely no stranger— it’s default.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Is this the same daughter who dealt with the psycho roommate? If so at least 70% of her missing you has got to be because she's still processing that trauma.

Yeah omg this happened to her. That’s enough to like not want to do

It again

Posted by LadyNeptune

Is this the same daughter who dealt with the psycho roommate? If so at least 70% of her missing you has got to be because she's still processing that trauma.

Yes ma’am and she’s still dealing with an issue related to that ( financial) and trying to get out from under it. She actually needed to do some trauma therapy because of it. She’s overall doing very well, and partially because she’s out of the area out of reach of the girl. My concern is when she says things like she wants me to live with her always or be her neighbor. She occasionally comes down & wants to spend time with me. So it’s nice that’s doable.

Posted by MareInfame

Posted by jazzykid

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by jazzykid

I love them to death and feel very lucky to have them. My father is the eldest of six and had to grow up very quick due to my grandfather’s deteriorating health— helping out my grandfather with work at 12 and assume full financial responsibility by 16-17. Although he’s pretty steadfast “family first”, he’s always preached about the importance of independence perhaps because he never had that. So that may have helped us a little bit. But if my mother had it her way, we’d probably all still be living at home. lol

I was never a clingy kid, in fact, I always ended up getting lectured for being too aloof. lol

And aside from summer breaks, I never returned home after college.

I speak with them 2-3 a week. We live in different but neighboring states. And if there is an important life decision, I still run it by them to hear their thoughts.

This makes sense to me. I never had to be far away because of where I lived. My mom moved away when she retired across the country, but dad was also close. Maybe 1/2 hour away. But it’s was LA area, it’s a huge area & lots of opportunities and schools. But we moved to Southern Oregon when the kids were young & this area is completely different. Kids go to college & don’t come back or maybe move back once they have families like in 30’s or 40’s.

Regardless of upbringing or circumstance, the thought of being a burden on someone is worse than death to me. It’s that extreme. lol

That’s exactly how I feel. My mom also complained about me being too distant or secretive. She would dig, but I didn’t find it necessary to share… it all roots from “not being a burden”.

I’ve loosened up much more. But it was definitely a struggle growing up. Also because, in return… it would deeply hurt me if they read my intentions incorrectly. They let their insecurities run wild when you withhold - even IF the intention is quite altruistic.

click to expand

The trust is hard & comes only when you’ve proven yourself. We dig because we care.. but especially when you’ve had a child with suicidal thoughts ( tried once but thank god didn’t really know how to), and used to cut, we need to make sure you’re okay. This is why she comes to me, for help. No one else because there is no trust.

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

Oh I see. How long she's in theraphy. Maybe she needs time to get more independent step by step.

click to expand

Your a mother shouldn’t it be natural to revert to you as the comfort. even as an adult when shit hits the fan I can depend on my parents

But they can depend on me as well. So yeah let her revert to her comfort level when she down n out. Don’t worry when we get strong we are independent.

Posted by Truemara

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

Oh I see. How long she's in theraphy. Maybe she needs time to get more independent step by step.

Your a mother shouldn’t it be natural to revert to you as the comfort. even as an adult when shit hits the fan I can depend on my parents

But they can depend on me as well. So yeah let her revert to her comfort level when she down n out. Don’t worry when we get strong we are independent.

click to expand

Yes I’m totally fine with that. I do worry when she just wants to stay though.. and talks like she does not want to become independent. She knows I’m always here for her, but the idea is to keep walking down your path & I encourage that. Sometimes home is too warm & cozy you know?

Posted by Wizardz_

Posted by jazzykid

I was never a clingy kid, in fact, I always ended up getting lectured for being too aloof. lol

.

Well you've certainly changed now you're all grown up

click to expand

Nope, just taller.

Posted by Wizardz_

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

She's 21 and she has already lived away from home and she doesn't actually live with you. I don't think this is any kind of problem. 21 is young. She needs you. As long as you are okay with it then just enjoy it and let her be. If you start to feel confined then of course try to get her to spread her wings a little but right now you might be doing her a world of good by being a stable base for her and she might need it to settle herself and regain courage

click to expand

I agree with this .... 21 is still young. I tell our son he can call any time of the Night or Day and that i’ll always be there for him. His Dad says the same. He is my main priority for as long as he needs me.

Brain maturity

Brain Maturity Extends Well Beyond Teen Years Under most laws, young people are recognized as adults at age 18. But emerging science about brain development suggests that most people don't reach full maturity until the age 25

Posted by Wizardz_

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

She's 21 and she has already lived away from home and she doesn't actually live with you. I don't think this is any kind of problem. 21 is young. She needs you. As long as you are okay with it then just enjoy it and let her be. If you start to feel confined then of course try to get her to spread her wings a little but right now you might be doing her a world of good by being a stable base for her and she might need it to settle herself and regain courage

click to expand

Yea that’s what I do. She wants me to move to her city & talks about living together when I’m older. I ask what if I want a relationship? She says we can be neighbors then. Lol I’m mom. I just don’t want to be enabling mom because that is a huge issue on the other side of the family. So I am trying to teach the kids to be independent & responsible. She is. I’m not sure what I want to do for me, but I really don’t want to move too far away. I would like to be there if needed, but I’d like to live my second stage of life too. The whole idea of moving away from kids seems horrible, the kids are supposed to do that. Or live in a big suburbs area where you don’t have to 🙃

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Wizardz_

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by -Capriquarius

My sister calls my mum almost everyday, but she left house as fast as she became andult.

Haha. My daughter has lived out of the house before and sometimes I wouldn’t see her hardly at all, but she’d always call. It’s like home base I guess. Now it’s hard not being in the same area for her. She’s coming down in a week because she’s homesick. Was just here two weeks ago..

Tbh I would say me and my Aquarius sister are more clingy than my Scorpio sister 😅 how old is your girl?

She’s 21. Interesting. My daughter has always been extremely clingy & we’ve always been very close. But TBH she has gone through a lot with anxiety/depression and I was always the one to be there. So I think it’s like when she has an issue she wants me there. The therapists said she should go off to college to stop depending on me. It works mostly. She’s doing well, and is fine most of the time. But then she reverts to comfort zone.

She's 21 and she has already lived away from home and she doesn't actually live with you. I don't think this is any kind of problem. 21 is young. She needs you. As long as you are okay with it then just enjoy it and let her be. If you start to feel confined then of course try to get her to spread her wings a little but right now you might be doing her a world of good by being a stable base for her and she might need it to settle herself and regain courage

I agree with this .... 21 is still young. I tell our son he can call any time of the Night or Day and that i’ll always be there for him. His Dad says the same. He is my main priority for as long as he needs me.

Brain maturity

Brain Maturity Extends Well Beyond Teen Years Under most laws, young people are recognized as adults at age 18. But emerging science about brain development suggests that most people don't reach full maturity until the age 25

click to expand

Yes I know. I’m always there. Her father not so much, kinda. I also have her 26 yo brother living with me. He has an initiative problem & he has lived away from home too. He’s severe ADHD and they say 30 for them. She is far more mature & independent than her brother. She just had a bit of a breakdown a couple of days ago because she’s dealing with a problem, trying to go to college & has some financial issues due to the ex gf. So will be down here for a week to 10 days to work at her old job & make some money and see Mom. So we talked about what was going & what she needed to deal with & that she’s okay.

Posted by peachy06

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by ImperfectStorm

I moved out of my moms house right around the age of 18. I wouldn’t say I’m clingy but i don’t think I would be comfortable living at a far distance from my family. I think that has more to do with my cancer moon though. My mom passed away in 2009 but I still have my dad and sisters here. Even though I don’t see them or talk to them everyday, there’s comfort in knowing they are only a short drive away. Just the thought of having a family emergency and not being able to get to my family immediately gives me anxiety. But my moms death might have something to do with that, she died abruptly and unexpectedly and when my sisters called and told me I met them at my moms house right away.

Sounds familiar actually. She says I’m never allowed to die. 😂 She is only 3 hours away & that’s doable. She comes down quite a bit to see family & friends. The area is tough, because it’s a small area & you need to leave to do well in life. I grew up in the LA area which was so different. You can move and still not be very far, and further your career/life there. So she’s moved for college and has ambitions of becoming a lawyer but wants her mommy. I tell her go & spread your wings, create your life. Then it’s don’t you miss me Mommy? Lol of course I do! I’m thinking of her. Of course, she has some issues that take a bit for her, so I’m here for her too.

Yeah, the thing that often hold us back the most is the fear that our family die. I have the same problem as well, especially since I'm an only child so I feel it more as I grow up. I've already had to go through the death of someone I really loved/care about as a child, I know it'll be worse if I lose my mother.

So in a way, I live as many moments as possible with her, because I know one day it won't be possible anymore.

Maybe we can be childish in that way, but I believe Scorpios unlike other zodiac signs are more aware of death.

click to expand

Agree 100 💯. This covid has had me more sensitive the thought my parents are old now and what is so without them. And I’m 47.

So yeah spending time with them much more than I used too.

My friend's kids (I consider them my niece and nephew) are both scorpios. Any time I visit, they follow me around and never leave my side. The infant constantly eats my finger, and the older one wants to always do show and tell. They are very endearing, and I think they need a lot of love at a young age. They're a very intense sign, and love intensely too...they need that closeness and connection so that they are able to fly away and be independent when they're older.

Posted by Hypnotoad

I left at 18 then came and went between mums and dads a couple times in my 20s when having shit times and when needing cheap rent and lockdown lol.

So had my sister to, same deal left right at 18 then came back. The dogs think this is great lol.

I know plenty of folks who are the same it's probably a generational thing, rent ain't cheap.

lol the dog loves it when she shows up! I do too, ; ) I just get worried. It is like a revolving door, and that is ok just moving forward is important. Her brother got stuck for a long time. Rent is paid via the college fund btw, but she has other bills.

Posted by Hypnotoad

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Hypnotoad

I left at 18 then came and went between mums and dads a couple times in my 20s when having shit times and when needing cheap rent and lockdown lol.

So had my sister to, same deal left right at 18 then came back. The dogs think this is great lol.

I know plenty of folks who are the same it's probably a generational thing, rent ain't cheap.

lol the dog loves it when she shows up! I do too, ; ) I just get worried. It is like a revolving door, and that is ok just moving forward is important. Her brother got stuck for a long time. Rent is paid via the college fund btw, but she has other bills.

I have ADHD so I relate to the brother, that's hard as to parent us we are basically 10 years behind in mental development lol

click to expand

Yes that sounds about right. It’s hard to know if you’re enabling or supporting, but he does make progress so it’s small steps