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How do I break the on-again, off-again cycle with the Scorpio? He has decided he is gone-again. It's truly draining.

Posted by Wizardz

Duh do you really need the answer to this? 🤦‍♂️

Don't do the on-again part

You must be a Scorpio lol

Resisting the on-again part has been a poster of futility. Your words and actions are like honey on a hungry man's tongue. But I'm tired of it.

Posted by WarAngel

Block and delete their number/social media stuff.

Cold turkey for at least 3 months, by that point it will have become habit.

We share 3 kids between us so deleting his number is not an option. I think he's manipulating me as well. He comes for his kids, tries to rope me into their time somehow and then I'm back at square 1

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Posted by Jynjah

Posted by Wizardz

Duh do you really need the answer to this? 🤦‍♂️

Don't do the on-again part

You must be a Scorpio lol

Resisting the on-again part has been a poster of futility. Your words and actions are like honey on a hungry man's tongue. But I'm tired of it.

No, not a Scorpio, thankfully

Well if you can't resist the on-again part then do you see why he is able to do the off-again part without any fear or consideration for you..

Stand up for yourself - be strong - move on etc etc

Or put up with being a doormat 😅

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Totally deserved that 😂. I've been worried it would be cheating to move on. But I guess the best way to get over a man is to get under one. 😅

Posted by Jynjah

Posted by WarAngel

Block and delete their number/social media stuff.

Cold turkey for at least 3 months, by that point it will have become habit.

We share 3 kids between us so deleting his number is not an option. I think he's manipulating me as well. He comes for his kids, tries to rope me into their time somehow and then I'm back at square 1

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Were y’all ever married?

Sounds like he’s marked you as a built in, guarantee body for sex and affection when he wants it. If your emotions didn’t secure your attachment to him, the children sure did...and he knows it.

Time to give him the shock of his life, and enforce some boundaries for yourself, and your heart.

what kind of woman doesn't have a spare or 2 somewhere in orbit?

any other state is draining

imagine the offense if you're vague and like a 4

Can you have a family member do the hand off?

If this isn't possible then make plans so that people are waiting on you and you have to drop the kiddos and head out.

Posted by malloryor

Posted by Jynjah

Posted by WarAngel

Block and delete their number/social media stuff.

Cold turkey for at least 3 months, by that point it will have become habit.

We share 3 kids between us so deleting his number is not an option. I think he's manipulating me as well. He comes for his kids, tries to rope me into their time somehow and then I'm back at square 1

Were y’all ever married?

Sounds like he’s marked you as a built in, guarantee body for sex and affection when he wants it. If your emotions didn’t secure your attachment to him, the children sure did...and he knows it.

Time to give him the shock of his life, and enforce some boundaries for yourself, and your heart.

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I moved out with the kids a couple of years ago just to get some sense of power back. It turned into a huge fight when he came home and found us gone. So I didn't have the courage to broach the subject of divorce.

Last year, when the rona hit, he used the excuse that we were much closer to his work (he is a hematologist) and started staying overnight - hence baby number 3. I'm not proud of myself.

Posted by Sailor_Mars

I have been in this situation for years. If You really want to end it, just do so and start a personal rehab of the body, mind and soul. It is hard but You have to just cut it and move on.

I'll never yell at Telenovela characters again! Sometimes, in the deepest corners of my mind, I wish he was abusive, then it would make it all easier. Instead, he is manipulative.

And I can be pretty scheming too, but I feel so weak... guilty... confused. The obvious route out will be divorce and co-parent, but it doesn't seem possible for us. He always finds a way to keep this charade up.

I'm dealing with a Scorp, Leo moon, Aqua ascendant. I'm a Leo, Cancer moon, Cancer ascendant. I'll probably move again when I find somewhere secure for my kids and I. Somewhere much further away - out of the country.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Can you have a family member do the hand off?

If this isn't possible then make plans so that people are waiting on you and you have to drop the kiddos and head out.

We are far from family, and I'm a little private so I don't have friends who know so much. It is a great idea though. Maybe I could take the kids to the park (nice weather here) and let him pick them up while I run off. That way, there's no danger of close proximity.

Posted by Jynjah

How do I break the on-again, off-again cycle with the Scorpio? He has decided he is gone-again. It's truly draining.

Well, if there's one thing you can count on a Scorpio to do... it's that they wear thin

Same with fire signs!