sierrasierra
@sierrasierra
12 Years
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Scorpio girl didn't reply texts for days.
She has someone else. When I'm in I'm 100% and when I'm out I'm 100% , only speaking for myself. If a guy loses interest in me I lose interest in him. Turn abouts fair play. Sorry it's the bitter truth.
Posted by ellessquePosted by theie
TOO MUCH OF TEXTING SHES BORED NOW, IN MY OPINION
FIRST YOU WERE ALL FUNNY AND INTERESTING TO HER NOW YOU ARE BORING BECAUSE YOU ARE PROBABLY REPEATING YOURSELF BY NOW
YOU SHOULD HAVE GIVEN HER SOME INDICATORS OF DISINTEREST AFTER SHE GAVE YOU THE FIRST FLIRT MESSAGE
ffs, don't listen to this idiot.click to expand
Yes, wrong listening to the above suggestion.
I think she is hurt you didn't step up. Any guy who has interest makes a little effort to see her.
Even if your texts were daily, they don't show genuine interest in a person. So I suspect she has given up on you. This doesn't mean she has found someone new... or let's say her new guy may not be at a level to hang on to him, because she may not know him long enough. Usually the ones we know longer, we are more comfortable with and they may have longer staying power.
HOWEVER, you may remind her and insist you see her because you promised each other after exams.
If you are truly sincere about this girl, then find a way to reconnect. It may feel difficult at first, but you may be able to convince her.
Posted by FUMPosted by ellessquePosted by theie
TOO MUCH OF TEXTING SHES BORED NOW, IN MY OPINION
FIRST YOU WERE ALL FUNNY AND INTERESTING TO HER NOW YOU ARE BORING BECAUSE YOU ARE PROBABLY REPEATING YOURSELF BY NOW
YOU SHOULD HAVE GIVEN HER SOME INDICATORS OF DISINTEREST AFTER SHE GAVE YOU THE FIRST FLIRT MESSAGE
ffs, don't listen to this idiot.
Yes, wrong listening to the above suggestion.
I think she is hurt you didn't step up. Any guy who has interest makes a little effort to see her.
Even if your texts were daily, they don't show genuine interest in a person. So I suspect she has given up on you. This doesn't mean she has found someone new... or let's say her new guy may not be at a level to hang on to him, because she may not know him long enough. Usually the ones we know longer, we are more comfortable with and they may have longer staying power.
HOWEVER, you may remind her and insist you see her because you promised each other after exams.
If you are truly sincere about this girl, then find a way to reconnect. It may feel difficult at first, but you may be able to convince her.
click to expand
So now, how should I get her to text me back?
I wanted to ask "What's wrong?" but I don't want to sound clingy.
(I have phobias of being clingy, it was the reason I failed in my previous relationship)
If lets say she doesnt reply to my next few messages, how much time should I give before giving up?
It sucks because I recently started falling for her and then this happened. ugh.
I agree with FUM. It's possible that she feels hurt. While, on one hand, she understands you had exams and needed to focus, to go 5 weeks without seeing someone may have been too much. Texting only goes so far.
There's also another possibility. You mentioned that it was AFTER you had texted her something even more flirty than the one she had sent you. If this wasn't the normal for the way the two of you interact, and if she doesn't look at you like that, doesn't see you as a romantic interest, but does see you as a friend, you taking it a little further than she is comfortable with, might have caused her to pull back, not wanting to lead you on for anything further. She may enjoy the friendship but wants to keep it at a friendship, and is hoping that if she pulls back, maybe you will, too.
One way to test this is to stop texting her. Give her the cold shoulder. If she just ignores it and goes about her daily routine, then you know she only sees you as a friend. If, however, she starts sending you little texts, or trying to get your attention, then maybe there is still hope. There have been times when a guy has taken it a little further than I want him too, and I only see him as a friend and I'll back away. But there have also been times when a guy I really like takes it further and it suddenly makes me all shy and self-conscious, and I have to pull back and gather my wits. Now, if I am interested and he stops getting in touch, I'm going to reach out to him because I'll be afraid that my pulling back might have been too much.
There's also another possibility. You mentioned that it was AFTER you had texted her something even more flirty than the one she had sent you. If this wasn't the normal for the way the two of you interact, and if she doesn't look at you like that, doesn't see you as a romantic interest, but does see you as a friend, you taking it a little further than she is comfortable with, might have caused her to pull back, not wanting to lead you on for anything further. She may enjoy the friendship but wants to keep it at a friendship, and is hoping that if she pulls back, maybe you will, too.
One way to test this is to stop texting her. Give her the cold shoulder. If she just ignores it and goes about her daily routine, then you know she only sees you as a friend. If, however, she starts sending you little texts, or trying to get your attention, then maybe there is still hope. There have been times when a guy has taken it a little further than I want him too, and I only see him as a friend and I'll back away. But there have also been times when a guy I really like takes it further and it suddenly makes me all shy and self-conscious, and I have to pull back and gather my wits. Now, if I am interested and he stops getting in touch, I'm going to reach out to him because I'll be afraid that my pulling back might have been too much.
Posted by ellessque
you might have missed the boat.
depends.
if I'm not seeing anyone exclusively, I will flirt as long as the day is long.
if someone steps up and can be taken seriously......and my interest is there and there is even a hint of a potential relationship transpiring.
I will immediately stop flirting with everyone else. Full stop. Done. Finito. Adios.
Sure, that might hurt some feelings, but if you really had interest in me...I figure you'd say so and not make it cloudy or elusive for me.
I can't handle when relationships get off on a murky start, it sets the tone for the rest of it.
I'm not saying that is exactly what happened....but it's possible....if she just dropped off the earth and is feeling awkward around you.
...I'm also speaking from a libra venus point of view....so, that probably is where my opinion is coming from in this instance.
Perhaps, but I agree completely and respond in a very similar manner to what you outlined above. Sag venus.
Posted by ellessque
you might have missed the boat.
depends.
if I'm not seeing anyone exclusively, I will flirt as long as the day is long.
if someone steps up and can be taken seriously......and my interest is there and there is even a hint of a potential relationship transpiring.
I will immediately stop flirting with everyone else. Full stop. Done. Finito. Adios.
Sure, that might hurt some feelings, but if you really had interest in me...I figure you'd say so and not make it cloudy or elusive for me.
I can't handle when relationships get off on a murky start, it sets the tone for the rest of it.
I'm not saying that is exactly what happened....but it's possible....if she just dropped off the earth and is feeling awkward around you.
...I'm also speaking from a libra venus point of view....so, that probably is where my opinion is coming from in this instance.
Perhaps, but I agree completely and respond in a very similar manner to what you outlined above. Sag venus.
I'm not deleting that dup. *middle finger to the DXP Wizard* Fix the d*mn site!
Ok, like FUM said, you need to clearly communicate your interest. She probably assumes that you have a lot of "texting buddies" and she's just another one. If you like her, tell her! Ask her on a date! Do something, just do it!
Posted by sierrasierraPosted by FUMPosted by ellessquePosted by theie
TOO MUCH OF TEXTING SHES BORED NOW, IN MY OPINION
FIRST YOU WERE ALL FUNNY AND INTERESTING TO HER NOW YOU ARE BORING BECAUSE YOU ARE PROBABLY REPEATING YOURSELF BY NOW
YOU SHOULD HAVE GIVEN HER SOME INDICATORS OF DISINTEREST AFTER SHE GAVE YOU THE FIRST FLIRT MESSAGE
ffs, don't listen to this idiot.
Yes, wrong listening to the above suggestion.
I think she is hurt you didn't step up. Any guy who has interest makes a little effort to see her.
Even if your texts were daily, they don't show genuine interest in a person. So I suspect she has given up on you. This doesn't mean she has found someone new... or let's say her new guy may not be at a level to hang on to him, because she may not know him long enough. Usually the ones we know longer, we are more comfortable with and they may have longer staying power.
HOWEVER, you may remind her and insist you see her because you promised each other after exams.
If you are truly sincere about this girl, then find a way to reconnect. It may feel difficult at first, but you may be able to convince her.
So now, how should I get her to text me back?
I wanted to ask "What's wrong?" but I don't want to sound clingy.
(I have phobias of being clingy, it was the reason I failed in my previous relationship)
If lets say she doesnt reply to my next few messages, how much time should I give before giving up?
It sucks because I recently started falling for her and then this happened. ugh.click to expand
Perhaps don't text. Call? It makes a better statement. No side stepping this time around. Worst case, it goes to VM and you have to follow through with your suggestion to go out and ask her out then leave it in her court. If she does answer, you ask her out. I don't think asking her what's wrong will make you seem clingy. You're genuinely interested because she just stopped responding. It's a fair question.
Posted by VivaciousScorpio
You want her so badly? Find another chick, start getting her jealous and then allow her to see you as someone worth having. Her own nature should take over and she will try to win you "back".
I think this would really depend on the female Scorp in question. Someone recently tried this on me, I cut off all ties. Why start a relationship off with games?
We can handle clingy!
Don't do the game stuff.
Don't do the game stuff.
I dealt with a clingy leo day one 5 years now.
I even had a clingy Scorpio in the past. I liked his clinginess. He was forth coming, but when clingy... you also don't want to overwhelm with all the mushy stuff that cannot possibly be true in the beginning of a relationship. Unfortunately, I didn't feel any chemistry for Scorpio. I accepted to meet him because I hoped I feel something when I meet him in person.
The user who posted this message has hidden it.
awwwww.... why did you hide?
Perhaps it depends if you like the person or not.
I don't do clinginess real well in the beginning either, especially if I'm not certain how I feel about the guy. If a guy gets too clingy, it just makes me want to run away. I had a guy that I was dating that was like that. He was complaining one time about not being able to get any sleep during the day (he was living with his mom and brother who would get into arguments) and me, just being nice (we worked different shifts), I offered to let him sleep on my couch while I was at work on those occasions but to please make sure to lock the door before he left for work. He came by one day as I was getting ready to head out, I told him he could sleep on the couch. Something was bothering me that night at work and I did something I never do, I went home during my lunch break. The asshole had went out and bought a stereo system, put his clothes in my closet, and had moved in. I got home and he was beaming as he looked at me and showing me what he had done. I didn't have time at that moment because I had to get back to work (had enough time to run home, check in, and run back to work). I kicked his ass out as soon I as I got home. Put all of his clothes on the porch, the stereo system, everything. When he came to MY place after work, I was sitting on the porch waiting on him and told him I never wanted to see him again. I told him my offer was to allow him to sleep on my couch on those days his mom and brother were fighting and he couldn't get sleep, but my offer did NOT include him moving on. Him being clingy before doing that was really causing me to already consider not dating him, that sealed the deal.
Posted by VivaciousScorpio
You were doing the flirty text thing for a year. Then broke with the routine of seeing her for over a month.
That boat has gone, anything else on your part will be perceived as being desperate or weak. You want her so badly? Find another chick, start getting her jealous and then allow her to see you as someone worth having. Her own nature should take over and she will try to win you "back".
Once I see someone as being weak, it's difficult for me to see them in any other light. I have to have someone that is stronger than I am. Once I perceive them as being weaker than I am, I lose all interest.
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Me (Cancer) have been friends with a Scorpio girl for almost a year now.
We frequently text witty and flirty stuff and had lunch together once a week.
Recently I've been busy mugging for exams and didn't have lunch with her for 5 weeks.
We still did text though until recently.
The problem:
Recently when we bumped into each other in the campus (yeah, same college)
she avoided eye contact, fist bumped and she walked away quickly.
OH she recently didn't reply to my texts since when I replied her flirty text with a more flirty one.
I sent her a text every other day just to let her know she's still on my mind.
Tho she did liked my instagram photos and such, she didn't reply to ANY form of communication such as twitter and texts.
I just want to know why she suddenly give me the cold shoulder and how do I get her to go out with me? (we promised to go to the movies after our exams are over)
thanks!