Scorpio guy talks a lot but would never text

I have been friends with this scorpio guy for three months now. And I like him a lot. Normally, he doesn't talk or socialize much with others, would look like lives in his own world, but is actually very observant. But, when we are together, he wouldn't shut up, would keep on talking about everything from family to less trivial stuff also. Only when face-to-face though. Granted he replies everytime I text him and meets up whenever I ask to, but he never makes the first move himself i.e. would never text me or ask to hangout together.
Now, if I don't text him once in 3-4 days and leave it up to him, I think we would probably loose contact. But if I'm always being the one contacting him, I'd look really desperate and needy (which I don't want to, obviously). And oh! I'm a Leo. We are not supposed to be compatible but heck! communicating with him is so easy. I even talk with him about stuff I normally wouldn't with others and even he once said to me, 'i don't normally talk this much, but something happens to me when i'm with you'.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do here. Is he interested in me? Should I ask him out? Or would I push him away if I do that?

So you're clinging on to this notion just because you two can talk so easily?

It's a start, but not worth having to do all the work. Not saying ditch it, but don't use that logic as a reason to cling on.

Posted by GetMisted
Clinging on to what?

They have good conversation..
She likes him..
It's obvious he likes her..
She knows he's not a socialite..

Seems like good enough logic to ask the man out.

It's the typical start to an introvert/extrovert relationship.

He really does? 🙂 I'm sorry I'm really ignorant in these stuff, not good at reading 'signs' and all. This is actually my first time feeling so strongly about someone. I had never been in any relationship before, one or two crushes sure, but nothing like this. That's what making me even more nervous. I just hope I'm not just seeing things here that I want to. I was just planning on graduating from college, getting job, figure out what I actually want to do, and then this happened! 🙂 But don't even regret it though, its a nice feeling, must say (really annoying sometimes but still nice)
Plus I'm no extrovert either ( yes a introvert Leo). But when I see a fellow Introvert, I'll go out of way to make them feel comfortable, 'cause I know sometimes you just need someone to break the initial barrier. So, that's how it started.

Okay then, if he is not saying anything, then I should give it a shot?

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you're clinging on to this notion just because you two can talk so easily?

It's a start, but not worth having to do all the work. Not saying ditch it, but don't use that logic as a reason to cling on.

Clinging on to what?

They have good conversation..
She likes him..
It's obvious he likes her..
She knows he's not a socialite..

Seems like good enough logic to ask the man out.

It's the typical start to an introvert/extrovert relationship.

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Except the part where he doesn't initiate when she isn't in his presence. Seems too much like "out of sight, out of mind."

Not disagreeing she shouldn't ask if she so pleases, but come on. She's a Leo. She's going to cling to this little snippet because it'll fester away in her head that this HAS to work because they have great convo!!!one

Go for it, have fun, but don't think this is destiny and freak out if it doesn't work out, forcing it to happen. Seen too many women do this crap.

Just her post alone kinda suggested she's digging for reasons to make this work. I'm just saying don't try so freaking hard. You force things to happen, you won't get what you want in the long run.

But by all means, test it out and see what happens. ...just don't get all fixed sign crazy about it.

Posted by d3mon92


He really does? 🙂 I'm sorry I'm really ignorant in these stuff, not good at reading 'signs' and all. This is actually my first time feeling so strongly about someone. I had never been in any relationship before, one or two crushes sure, but nothing like this. That's what making me even more nervous. I just hope I'm not just seeing things here that I want to. I was just planning on graduating from college, getting job, figure out what I actually want to do, and then this happened! 🙂 But don't even regret it though, its a nice feeling, must say (really annoying sometimes but still nice)
Plus I'm no extrovert either ( yes a introvert Leo). But when I see a fellow Introvert, I'll go out of way to make them feel comfortable, 'cause I know sometimes you just need someone to break the initial barrier. So, that's how it started.

Okay then, if he is not saying anything, then I should give it a shot?

What do your life goals have to do with meeting this guy? You're going to alter those plans because you met a dude? Or you didn't think about a relationship being an option while going to school? I'm not following, here.

And good lord, do not chase a dude if you don't know where you stand with him. Like I said above, go ahead and test it out to get a better idea of where he stands, but if you're still kinda confused about where he is in all of this, chances are it's not what you want it to be. Everything you've said here is really superficial so it's understandable if you're not sure now, so by all means, do whatever you're comfortable with in order to figure out what's going on. But from what you've shared, it sounds like you're just basking in the idea of a relationship, which you haven't had before. You really like the guy and want this to be what you'd hope it would be. ...which is fine, but simmer down yo.

Women chasing after men who they have NO idea what kind of standing with them is just a terrible idea. Too many guys take that and run with it, jerking her around. Combine that with manipulative Scorp traits and ew. Baby steps, OP.

wtg getmisted. You really gotta learn how to read people better...

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you're clinging on to this notion just because you two can talk so easily?

It's a start, but not worth having to do all the work. Not saying ditch it, but don't use that logic as a reason to cling on.

Clinging on to what?

They have good conversation..
She likes him..
It's obvious he likes her..
She knows he's not a socialite..

Seems like good enough logic to ask the man out.

It's the typical start to an introvert/extrovert relationship.

Except the part where he doesn't initiate when she isn't in his presence. Seems too much like "out of sight, out of mind."

Not disagreeing she shouldn't ask if she so pleases, but come on. She's a Leo. She's going to cling to this little snippet because it'll fester away in her head that this HAS to work because they have great convo!!!one

Go for it, have fun, but don't think this is destiny and freak out if it doesn't work out, forcing it to happen. Seen too many women do this crap.

Just her post alone kinda suggested she's digging for reasons to make this work. I'm just saying don't try so freaking hard. You force things to happen, you won't get what you want in the long run.

But by all means, test it out and see what happens. ...just don't get all fixed sign crazy about it.

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Lol, okay.
The reason I posted here was 1) I have never dealt with romantic feelings before. 2) I wanted a third person objective viewpoint on the situation.
Not to mention, I don't trust people easily, and since its been only three months, so I'm reluctant to do anything yet. Plus, its not just about communication and compatibility, I just didn't want to post everything here.
So, I guess I'm back to square one with two conflicting opinions. I think I'll just wait it out, maybe it will fade away with time.

Posted by GetMisted
If you are interested in something more than a casual acquaintance, I recommend asking him out.

Although I welcome a relationship/dating opportunity with open arms.. I'm not usually actively seeking it. I personally need a nudge sometimes to escape my work mode mentality.

+1

Seriously, throw the phone away.

Posted by d3mon92


Lol, okay.
The reason I posted here was 1) I have never dealt with romantic feelings before. 2) I wanted a third person objective viewpoint on the situation.
Not to mention, I don't trust people easily, and since its been only three months, so I'm reluctant to do anything yet. Plus, its not just about communication and compatibility, I just didn't want to post everything here.
So, I guess I'm back to square one with two conflicting opinions. I think I'll just wait it out, maybe it will fade away with time.

...or you could just bring up hanging out/going out/whatever you want to call it and see what he says/does. I'm just saying I'm noticing the usual female desperation of reading into everything as a way to figure out if a guy is into her. If you gotta do that, then something could be off.

However, you asked if you should bring up asking him out. The answer would be yes. It never hurts to ask. I'm just saying don't be all desperate about it as your post came off.

That said, you do have to feel comfortable doing so. If you feel it's too early to ask such things or want to wait to ask until further observation, then go ahead, wait.

But generally, should you ask? Sure, why not? Ask and see what he says/does. Like I said, baby steps.

...and if your asking "pushes" him away, well fuck that then.

What do your life goals have to do with meeting this guy? You're going to alter those plans because you met a dude? Or you didn't think about a relationship being an option while going to school? I'm not following, here.

And good lord, do not chase a dude if you don't know where you stand with him. Like I said above, go ahead and test it out to get a better idea of where he stands, but if you're still kinda confused about where he is in all of this, chances are it's not what you want it to be. Everything you've said here is really superficial so it's understandable if you're not sure now, so by all means, do whatever you're comfortable with in order to figure out what's going on. But from what you've shared, it sounds like you're just basking in the idea of a relationship, which you haven't had before. You really like the guy and want this to be what you'd hope it would be. ...which is fine, but simmer down yo.

Women chasing after men who they have NO idea what kind of standing with them is just a terrible idea. Too many guys take that and run with it, jerking her around. Combine that with manipulative Scorp traits and ew. Baby steps, OP.

wtg getmisted. You really gotta learn how to read people better...

Heck No!! 😄 Not changing my plans for anybody. Its the other one...never thought I would get into a relationship ever.

Btw, cool advice! will always keep that in mind. Thanks!

You most like set a pattern where you always hit him up so he's not required to text you first. You should've waited for him to contact you first a few times. If you want something with this scorpio patience and being genuine is key. Don't place expectations on him which you are doing for your own ego to be stroke which we all know leo's love to be admired and stroking egos.

Let him contact you FIRST it may take a week or two but since you got him talking he will reciprocate, you already made it past the small stage already now you just have to WAIT. Scorpio's who are serious about getting to know you will take their time rushing anything means they are not serious and only looking for a bang.

I was generalizing you are an exception but most men not even scorpio men will take their time when they are serious. In other cases they may just rush because they are struck by the girls beauty and personality. 🙂

I agree totally wit "get Misted" and "rabbit" 100% -Scorpio male

I don't date scorpio men anyway.

lol..@ the defensive Leo Sun...and then the Leo Moon in this thread! 🙂

I personally wouldn't chase down a guy to ask out who I've been talking to for three months. I'd know the first time alone together if he was interested or not, maybe the second time around. Most people would.

Most Scorpio men and women I know would definitely let you know if they are interested in more than just a chatty chat. 😉

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by LetltB
lol..@ the defensive Leo Sun...and then the Leo Moon in this thread! 🙂

I personally wouldn't chase down a guy to ask out who I've been talking to for three months. I'd know the first time alone together if he was interested or not, maybe the second time around. Most people would.

Most Scorpio men and women I know would definitely let you know if they are interested in more than just a chatty chat. 😉

Not defensive..

Just speaking from my own experience.

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Does it take you three months to ask a chick out that you have a hard on (not just sexually) for and really like? Cuz..I've seen posts from you that says different. 😉

Woah people! Just asked for advice, why you all started arguing? Things sure do escalate quickly here. 😛
And @GetMisted and @rockyroadicecream, will follow your advice and ask him out, soon hopefully. If he says yes, then cool, and if no, then well, at-least I got to know one more awesome human being.
@MrFireBird, @starlover, you got it!
And I'm not one to play games. I like simple, straightforward, bluntly honest people, probably 'cause I'm like that (and he is that way too, which is cool, obviously), so yeah, not gonna play any mind-games here, wait for him to text or blah blah. Just gonna ask him, if he doesn't like it, well then he isn't as cool as I thought he would be 😛
One more thing, I think I probably shouldn't have mentioned that I'm a Leo. Lol. My most dominant planet is Saturn annnnnd its in Opposition to my Sun. So yeah, I'm not at all like the typical Leos who love the glamour and attention and stuff. If anything I hate that, love to work from background (even my field of work is such that I wouldn't have to deal with people, much. ), live in my own bubble, suspicious of others etc etc etc.
(I know many other factors are involved too, its not just about a dominant planet, but I'm not gonna post whole chart here now, too lazy for that, so please don't start fighting over this. I know what/who I am, which is nothing Leo-like *sighs* Whatever!)
Peace out!

Posted by d3mon92
I have been friends with this scorpio guy for three months now. And I like him a lot. Normally, he doesn't talk or socialize much with others, would look like lives in his own world, but is actually very observant. But, when we are together, he wouldn't shut up, would keep on talking about everything from family to less trivial stuff also. Only when face-to-face though. Granted he replies everytime I text him and meets up whenever I ask to, but he never makes the first move himself i.e. would never text me or ask to hangout together.
Now, if I don't text him once in 3-4 days and leave it up to him, I think we would probably loose contact. But if I'm always being the one contacting him, I'd look really desperate and needy (which I don't want to, obviously). And oh! I'm a Leo. We are not supposed to be compatible but heck! communicating with him is so easy. I even talk with him about stuff I normally wouldn't with others and even he once said to me, 'i don't normally talk this much, but something happens to me when i'm with you'.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do here. Is he interested in me? Should I ask him out? Or would I push him away if I do that?

When I really like someone I find myself responding to them or communicating with them more than I do anyone. I hate texting and social media, but also I like it when I'm being chased....if I like the person. I just couldn't imagine if he was really handy into you how he would not talk to you for days at a time. I at least have to say goodnight or hello even if nothing else just to make sure you're thinking about me.