Scorpio Man Whews An Aquarius Woman. Helppppppp!

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AngieTheAquarius
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I am 21 year old Aquarius and the Father of my child is a 28 yr old Scorpion. I've been debating about making this post and I have taken refuge in previous ones posted about this topic but I need specific help on my situation.
We started as FWB in March of 2013 & I became pregnant in the latter part of June 2013. He had 3 other children when I met him 2 mothers. We hit some turmoil when I broke the new to his second child's mother because he was dragging it out. Shit hit the fan he told me F you and sided with her but after he thanked me later that I helped him get away from her craziness. (She really is y'all and a full time criminal).
After we reconciled and lived together in November 2013 til I had the baby in March 2014. Things were changing a while before that. Now fast forward to 2015'
He refuses to put I title on things or even verify that he wants me in his future... he is very withdrawn and doesn't communicate well but that's truly just him so I tells him check on me sometimes so I don't fill like I'm smothering you he told me don't check on him and let him miss me he's so wishy washy. & I looked threw his fb and he's looking like the thirsty one hell I'd feel better if he was being chased. He claims its for fun he doesn't know why he does it.
So I decided yesterday to finally move on and let him be free like I have other times. But every time he acts like he's so hurt his last message read and I quote "I'm losing my lady and my only friend it's like a car crash in slow motion".
So my general question is does he do this because he knows I'm a hopeless romantic and in love with him and he wants to keep me from moving on and still doesn't commit to me on does he really plan to have me in his life. If I stick to my words (i have trouble doing this only when it comes to him) and ice him will it help or will he just really move on. HELP ALL ADVICE Is welcome!!
It's hard because I know I have to deal with him for our son and he is always there if I call him and he's a great dad and person but as soon as it comes to relationships he brings his armor.
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world-ly men prey on weak women. You already know this guy is a loser and a screw up he doesn't even know what he wants. You know words are just words he is obviously manipulating you he just doesn't want to be alone so he jump from woman to woman. He avoids commitment talks because he never wanted to commit to you in the first place men already know if they want you in their future or not. You should think your lucky stars he is not meant for you he doesn't even care about himself he had a gf and cheated with you unprotected he doesn't value your health or his.

But you don't need anyone to tell you what you already know what to do you're going to go in circles a few more times till reality smack you in the face.
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AngieTheAquarius
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Also, jfc you get pregnant while in an FWB and you are complaining the guy doesn't want to commit? Srsly. He wasn't committed when you got knocked up and he ain't going to be now. Move on. Next time try not to get pregnant by some fuck buddy and expect to end up married to him.
Well I didn't expect to fall in love don't be an complete ass. But thank you very much all I wanted to know is what do to and your answer was move on. Got it.
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AngieTheAquarius
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Posted by Octoberbaby91
fyi this thread has nothing to do with zodiac signs at this point this is another story of how men with issues treat with women with low self esteem they prey on you and end up bonded to them for the rest of your life. Your lesson is to stop attracting shitty men an choose wisely.
I just thought maybe he did really love me at some point that's all thank you.
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AngieTheAquarius
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Posted by FrostAndBite
I mean this sincerely, not sarcastically, but is he really a good father? Four children by three different mothers, resists informing one of the other mothers when his fourth child is on the way and withdraws, refuses to carry a meaningful relationship with any of the mothers and chases attention from wherever he can get it. Sound more self absorbed than fatherly.

Not that it's relevant to what you're asking because it's not, I'm just curious. But the evidence is still applicable to his character. And it's clear that it's not the type of character worth building a life with if you're hoping for an optimistic future full of potential.
Thank you yes he fathers all his children shows up to every event he keeps my son and his third son Monday threw Friday he keeps my son because my work schedule is hectic and I'm a full time student and he keeps his third son because he doesn't like the mother's living situation. I never worry about him putting my child in danger if I ask for something he never hesitates he also works he's great just not when it comes to relationships.
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Posted by AngieTheAquarius
I am 21 year old Aquarius and the Father of my child is a 28 yr old Scorpion. I've been debating about making this post and I have taken refuge in previous ones posted about this topic but I need specific help on my situation.
We started as FWB in March of 2013 & I became pregnant in the latter part of June 2013. He had 3 other children when I met him 2 mothers. We hit some turmoil when I broke the new to his second child's mother because he was dragging it out. Shit hit the fan he told me F you and sided with her but after he thanked me later that I helped him get away from her craziness. (She really is y'all and a full time criminal).
After we reconciled and lived together in November 2013 til I had the baby in March 2014. Things were changing a while before that. Now fast forward to 2015'
He refuses to put I title on things or even verify that he wants me in his future... he is very withdrawn and doesn't communicate well but that's truly just him so I tells him check on me sometimes so I don't fill like I'm smothering you he told me don't check on him and let him miss me he's so wishy washy. & I looked threw his fb and he's looking like the thirsty one hell I'd feel better if he was being chased. He claims its for fun he doesn't know why he does it.
So I decided yesterday to finally move on and let him be free like I have other times. But every time he acts like he's so hurt his last message read and I quote "I'm losing my lady and my only friend it's like a car crash in slow motion".
So my general question is does he do this because he knows I'm a hopeless romantic and in love with him and he wants to keep me from moving on and still doesn't commit to me on does he really plan to have me in his life. If I stick to my words (i have trouble doing this only when it comes to him) and ice him will it help or will he just really move on. HELP ALL ADVICE Is welcome!!
It's hard because I know I have to deal with him for our son and he is always there if I call him and he's a great dad and person but as soon as it comes to relationships he brings his armor.
You have a title baby mamma #.......
If I know one and only one thing about Scorpio men, don't have sex before the title. Or you won't like the title you get stuck with. They are emotional and expressive but they are also fixed in their thinking and no
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Posted by Octoberbaby91
fyi this thread has nothing to do with zodiac signs at this point this is another story of how men with issues treat with women with low self esteem they prey on you and end up bonded to them for the rest of your life. Your lesson is to stop attracting shitty men an choose wisely.
I agree till the last part. Stop accepting shitty men. You cant always control who u attract.

But the rest. Yes
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Jesus Christ...she's 21. Beautiful young Lady, you have shown more class to these perfect strangers in light of their rude remarks towards you. I think you'll look back on all of this and realize that it was a youthful mistake and you'll be a better person for it.

You're already on your way to being a wonderful woman. I wish you and your baby nothing but the best and I truly admire how you are determined to allow your son's father to stay in his life. You're on the right path. Bless you.
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Also, jfc you get pregnant while in an FWB and you are complaining the guy doesn't want to commit? Srsly. He wasn't committed when you got knocked up and he ain't going to be now. Move on. Next time try not to get pregnant by some fuck buddy and expect to end up married to him.
Well I didn't expect to fall in love don't be an complete ass. But thank you very much all I wanted to know is what do to and your answer was move on. Got it.
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Pardon me, but 21 year old, IrresistableScorp was giving you sound advice.
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AngieTheAquarius
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Posted by AngieTheAquarius
I just thought maybe he did really love me at some point that's all thank you.
From experience, men of this character doesn't know what love is and lost in life. Just a wandering soul until they find themselves if ever. Count your blessings that u see him for how he really is. Cut ur lose and move forward.

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Thank you
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AngieTheAquarius
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Posted by MsTeeq1974
Jesus Christ...she's 21. Beautiful young Lady, you have shown more class to these perfect strangers in light of their rude remarks towards you. I think you'll look back on all of this and realize that it was a youthful mistake and you'll be a better person for it.

You're already on your way to being a wonderful woman. I wish you and your baby nothing but the best and I truly admire how you are determined to allow your son's father to stay in his life. You're on the right path. Bless you.
Thank you very much for your niceness due to the fact this world is cruel with cruel ppl I didn't expect any nice responses but thank you very much
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This is an all the way around sad situation. This guy almost 30 created a few broken homes. Will these kids know their siblings? will more children come into the situation? Does he have the resources and attention span to parent these kids fully?
This 21 year old is a mother? She's shaping the mind and self esteem of a child and look who her partner is. That kid was born with a job; to keep this dude and it didn't work when the first 2 women did it. This idiot and his aggressive sperm have the ability to continue fertilizing for the next 30 years. OMG!!!
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AngieTheAquarius
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Posted by livictori
This is an all the way around sad situation. This guy almost 30 created a few broken homes. Will these kids know their siblings? will more children come into the situation? Does he have the resources and attention span to parent these kids fully?
This 21 year old is a mother? She's shaping the mind and self esteem of a child and look who her partner is. That kid was born with a job; to keep this dude and it didn't work when the first 2 women did it. This idiot and his aggressive sperm have the ability to continue fertilizing for the next 30 years. OMG!!!
All the children know each other he keeps his youngest two all weeks. Like I said in previous replies and he sees his oldest two everyday he attends their football practice he is no dead beat by no means ppl.
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Posted by AngieTheAquarius
Posted by livictori
This is an all the way around sad situation. This guy almost 30 created a few broken homes. Will these kids know their siblings? will more children come into the situation? Does he have the resources and attention span to parent these kids fully?
This 21 year old is a mother? She's shaping the mind and self esteem of a child and look who her partner is. That kid was born with a job; to keep this dude and it didn't work when the first 2 women did it. This idiot and his aggressive sperm have the ability to continue fertilizing for the next 30 years. OMG!!!
All the children know each other he keeps his youngest two all weeks. Like I said in previous replies and he sees his oldest two everyday he attends their football practice he is no dead beat by no means ppl.
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But your still it's mother and you both did this.
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Basically what happened is that, like so many women, you went in for the title "FWB" but secretly harbored feelings for the guy and probably hoped something would come of it. And something did==3 months into an FWB situation you got pregnant. So you loved the baby inside you and started projecting those feelings of attachment onto the guy who was only fucking you (let's be real) and being that you wanted to protect your baby you hoped this guy would commit and help you take care of the child. It didn't work out that way. BTW, it was never going to work out that way. Ever. You cannot flip the script mid-story and expect one of the characters to change his character just because it would be convenient for you. So now you are with a child and floundering on your own.

First of all, instead of accepting that this guy is just an asshole, look inward. You are 100% responsible for the situation you find yourself in. You could have prevented conception. You could have not accepted being this guy's sperm receptacle. You could have set boundaries to what type of behavior you would have accepted. You didn't and now you, and you alone, are here in this position. Owning that will set you on the path of maturity. Blaming and projecting will only delude yourself into thinking you are a victim. You are not a victim. You are the main character in your own story. Stop giving other people the power over your OWN decisions.
this is what alot of women do, they probably feel, "well if i can't have him, i might as well get what i can. and maybe he will fall in love with me."

you can't force love.
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
So you need to open your eyes and change your mind. Change that FIXED mindset. I know Aqua. I know. Fixed intellect is one hard motherfucker to change. But you can do it. He is FIXED emotions. And that's one hard motherfucker to change as well: that's why he is saying he won't let go. He won't let go EMOTIONALLY--not in a practical sense at all. He's already let go on a practical level.

Open your mind Aqua and try to flow yourself into a new, different and brighter mental reality. The reality that includes you and your baby only. Good luck.
this fixed intellect, is more fixed moon. lol
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Wow, no offense to the Scorpio men as I do believe there are some good apples out there, but I’m starting to wonder if this is their thing?

Three Scorpio men I knew (not the one I was dating previously) impregnate women as a way to always have a revolving door to that woman’s life. They are not creating babies out of love but out of control over the woman, until the woman says “ENOUGH”.
My best friend’s baby’s father is a Scorpio and he used to say those heartfelt things to her too, problem is he said it to his other two bm’s too. If he knows sweet words, and determination from a man is your weak spot he will use it to control you, as in wheel you back in whenever he needs to. So far it’s worked, somewhere in your mind you believe that he must mean it if you had his baby and he says he “refuses to let you go” trust me, he means it but not in the way that you think. He’ll never let you go because he wants to stay in control of you. A man that loves you will not try to control you, he will guide you and support your feelings and views on life and love itself. He will respect you enough not to manipulate you and use your feelings for him against you.

My best friend’s bd takes good care of his other two kids by two other women, but with hers he knows him not stepping up to the plate for their son hurts her greatly and it’s the only way to get a reaction out of her. Stalking her, sweet words, dates and all of that no longer moves her, so he uses her love for their son against her. That’s the ONLY time he gets a rise out of her. Pathetic right? Right. Get out now.
Also, you’ll do best to cry and pour your heart out to your friends (preferably none that know him) and family. Don’t let this man in your head, at least not all the way. In front of him if I were you I’d stay neutral. No anger, no sadness, no nothing. I wouldn’t reveal any emotion in front of him. I know that’s hard but you can’t win for losing with them when they are on a hunt to control. The slightest hint as to what is going on and they use it to their advantage. Do NOT cry in front of him or show him your weakness. He knows you care for him you do not need to say it. Be polite, strong, and live your life. Don’t ignore or anger him or he might become revengeful. Don’t feed into his games because you will lose anyway! Just take care of your son, and let him be a father, try your hardest to put the “idea” of you and him out of your mind, because
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Posted by AngieTheAquarius
Posted by FrostAndBite
I mean this sincerely, not sarcastically, but is he really a good father? Four children by three different mothers, resists informing one of the other mothers when his fourth child is on the way and withdraws, refuses to carry a meaningful relationship with any of the mothers and chases attention from wherever he can get it. Sound more self absorbed than fatherly.

Not that it's relevant to what you're asking because it's not, I'm just curious. But the evidence is still applicable to his character. And it's clear that it's not the type of character worth building a life with if you're hoping for an optimistic future full of potential.
Thank you yes he fathers all his children shows up to every event he keeps my son and his third son Monday threw Friday he keeps my son because my work schedule is hectic and I'm a full time student and he keeps his third son because he doesn't like the mother's living situation. I never worry about him putting my child in danger if I ask for something he never hesitates he also works he's great just not when it comes to relationships.
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oh dear, this poor fellow sounds like me...I know ima great dad, but relationships?? I dont even know what that means...God I love this thread lol im not alone...