Scorpio - What the hell do I do now? (Page 2)

Hey everyone! Wow thank you for all the responses. Is it sad that I can't wait to get to work so I can lurk DXP? LOL!

@piranhaparadiise & Bluemoon - I know this is really strange about the Capricorn moon. Honestly I can tell he has one because he is really distant and very into his "work". I think he finds it fun. Any actual hobbies he considers work. And what I mean by that is this. Let's say he's playing his favorite video game (addiction) he will sit up all night playing it just wiping over and over for HOURS. He will raid with one group for four hours, do his homework for his double masters he is working on, then stay up until 5AM raiding with some other group.

I am like. Okay? Where is the sleep? He never wants to sleep and the shitty thing is that it does cause issues because he is so bitchy and rude when he doesn't get any sleep, takes it out on me. The longer he goes without sleep the more outlandish he becomes. Definitely a typical gamer too (nothing against those who game but it is the general rule) just doesn't take care of himself at all. Sleep or food wise.

@R1g0r - I noticed Scorpio's have secrets an about the most minor things too. Hiding your morning cheese snacks? LOL! It was just really funny when I read that.

@FUM - See I am pretty flexible when it comes to terms in a relationship. I do like to have control sometimes but I will also share. I am a very, very fair person. It comes out in my speech a lot too the whole "I want things fair", or when I am whining I use "That's not fair" and I really actually mean it. I have a Libra Rising and Moon so I really like things to be peaceful and it's just with him there is a lot of drama. I do believe (after thinking about this a bit last night) that he in the past has broken up with me to keep ME from dumping him. Boils down to psychology and the mommy complex. I definitely think that when things started going south he would end it first and be in control of him and his emotions instead of me doing it and he ends up devastated. It's rather selfish but that is what I came up with.

***Update***

Well tonight Scorpio is at it again. This time it was done entirely on his own. So we have been talking about reciprocating because he doesn't do that very much. In the last 2 years he's asked for random things (now that hes out in a different state for college) and last week he asked for more things such as pictures, letters, etc. I told him no because he hasn't sent me anything new since the last things I sent him. Well tonight he tells me he wants to get me something and "I should be happy because it's quite a bit of money. And that I better remember this because of x, y, z." It wasn't good enough that he said it more than once, but not twice, three times. Over and over. I got upset. I feel that he is using it like well if I do this for you then you need to do this for me because yeah. I do stuff for you! Almost as if he doesn't want to do it more over because hes pissed off I said he never reciprocates. We were having a great night until he started being pushy and rude to me about it. I said look I don't want it if you are going to be like this. I mean who likes being told "You better appreciate this, and you better this and that". Seriously? He just told me he needs a 15 minute break to cool down because I told him exactly how I felt about what he said. Really?! *Storms around* So friggin impossible!

*Still ranting*

I mean why is it every time we are having a good time talking over skype and whatnot and he comes along and fucks it all up. Every damn time. Has to be rude or mean, or bring something shitty up. I swear to god I don't know what to do with this guy. I really hope not all Scorpio's are bringers of bad news. He even told me he knows he does it to me a lot. And apologizes for making me have a bad day. Ill be chipper, happy go lucky and he always seems to succeed in bringing me down.

Thanks for this post ill go take a look at his planets. And yes I am fully aware. I just want to be fair and give him a decent chance. I know I am dealing with a very difficult person here and I am up to the challenge it's just sometimes I want to throw in the damn towel and walk away.

No it's ok. No offense taken.

Hey Nemesis is a Pisces should work for you! Look into that IE: Drama Queen seeing you are a Scorp you make up for the king part 😄

"Anyways for two years on and off I have had to deal with him being emotionally unavailable and a temper from hell."

Run for your motherfucking life...You are wasting your time.

Posted by Xin
Thanks for this post ill go take a look at his planets. And yes I am fully aware. I just want to be fair and give him a decent chance. I know I am dealing with a very difficult person here and I am up to the challenge it's just sometimes I want to throw in the damn towel and walk away.

Dump 8 to 10's, google dump and discard...He is a clear case for what the DMV calls a Narcissist...GET OUT NOW while you still have an identity. This man is beyond difficult he's toxic and you'll lose your soul if you don't save yourself. You CANNOT win.

@Zip

Thank you for the input. Honestly you hit it spot on. Thanks for not being a total bitch to me in my posts like some other people who will remain nameless (for reasons that shall be explained being that I am not here to start BS and have pissing fights with other people who obviously do NOT get along with some of us misunderstood Gemini's). I do care about him I am just trying to figure out what the fuck I am doing wrong or if there is a different way to speak to Scorpio's and to maybe understand their language too. Going out on a limb here because I do try to make things work as much as I can. Must be a Libra thing (Rising/Moon). I will try 100 different ways until those opportunities are exhausted. That is why I came here to learn how to understand the Scorpio emotions and their mind. I am starting to think it has nothing to do with cerebral qualities like it does with us Gem's but more over completely emotional, and that right there is something I do not understand. Gemini's are NOT known for being super emotional types so I am really trying to switch gears and connect on that emotional level. It seems to me I am failing.

@Dazed

You're absolutely right. I feel that if I just leave without exhausting all of these options that I turned my back on someone that deserved a chance.

@Deadringer

You know I have thought about that so much that it alarms me to no end. I think about it more than I should. Maybe he has a phone, maybe he is fucking someone else, maybe he is...constantly. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Just seems like a constant internal war for me because of these thoughts.

@Nemesis

Yep.

@Nemesis +1000

Xin is CHOOSING to stay with a man that is toxic, I've seen a lot of very valuable good insight and it appears she's STUCK in a loop that so many women go through when she's dealing with a toxic Narcissist, she KEEPS WORKING--ATTEMPTING TO FIX--ATTEMPTING TO FIGURE IT OUT---CONTINUOUSLY ADJUSTING HERSELF--CONTINUE DOING--CONTINUE GIVING her emotions, giving her time, giving her energy and then she turns around and complain and nag and moan about something she CANNOT CONTROL.

Xin if you're unwilling to help yourself then you really have no room to complain about YOUR CHOICES. If you don't like how someone is treating you then you have a CHOICE TO STAY OR LEAVE, if you won't leave, if you won't learn how to use defense techniques against the person that's doing harm to you emotionally psychologically then shut up about him dumping you because you are ENABLING AND ALLOWING him to be this way with you if you stay, the MOMENT you stay in a relationship that is filled with neglect is the moment you CHOOSE to save yourself--leave or stay in the thick of it and stick it out. You're an adult and if you DON'T KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF then you won't LEAVE, you'll stay and enable and encourage bad treatment.

So as nemesis said, own it...That is what being an adult is, it's the adult thing to do, you don't whine--groan--moan about YOUR CHOICE to stay in a situation that's toxic and bordering on abuse, you help yourself or you suffer...

You are not a child, you are an adult and if someone isn't treating you well you get out, you don't stay and then try to manage crazy, you can't manage crazy--you can't manage a crazy behaving man, you can't control any of it so you either stay and put up with it and suffer in silence or leave.

Nope an opinion is valid. So that's that.

@Tiki33 - You're right. Maybe I don't like that and maybe I have a control problem? Probably. Trying to rationalize the irrational seems to be a "thing" of mine. Shit or get off the pot. Well said.

Yeah I know. It's so much easier said than done. So much easier.