Scorpios - Are you quiet socially?

I have noticed about four scorpios that are very quiet in family and social situations. It's a comfortable, easy going quiet, they just don't seem to jump into conversations very readily. It's more like they sit and listen and observe. Then when they do speak up, everyone listens.

Now, I do two scorpios that are quite the gregarious story tellers, but I've known them all my life. So maybe in those cases, it's because they're comfortable.

So, scorpios, are you quiet or quite outspoken in social situations? Does it matter who the group is?

* I do know two*

Possibly. And the gregarious ones might have Mercury in an air planet.

The quietness has helped me identify the scorpios in the group, though. 🙂

Posted by FrostAndBite
It varies from situation to situation. Overall, I'm quieter and more reserved in new social situations, especially with groups, as I'm trying to read the tone of the group, looking for good entry points of conversation or what would help me get to know them better.

In very familiar territory I'm very bubbly, much more open and prone to jump in. Don't need the spotlight to tell a story but I wouldn't draw back. the smaller the group or one on one I'll be more likely to warmer and open quicker.

I kind of wondered if that were the case with some of them.

Posted by Vixen2
I know of one who just preferences to fly under the radar so to speak...keep to himself not socialize and sit off to himself in social situations/bars/gatherings. Even at family gatherings he was relatively quiet and never initiated conversation.

Then there are the other two I know...a female, and male, who are very outgoing, talkative, friendly, opinionated.

sounds like a guy who lacks or has no air in his planets.

It really depends for me... I've been a social person most my life, like going to bars and socializing. This reply, however is not solely based upon bar scenes.

But, depending on my mood, who I'm with, familiarity of people there.. I may socialize right away OR sit back either corner like or back towards wall, facing towards people or doors watching people come and go.... Also not too far from where all the people are mingling so I can hear / watch / observe.

Seems as if some places have my awareness on high alert and some don't, just depends on the vibes or energy fields.

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Posted by Vixen2
I know of one who just preferences to fly under the radar so to speak...keep to himself not socialize and sit off to himself in social situations/bars/gatherings. Even at family gatherings he was relatively quiet and never initiated conversation.

Then there are the other two I know...a female, and male, who are very outgoing, talkative, friendly, opinionated.

sounds like a guy who lacks or has no air in his planets.

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I know a scorpio stellium like that. He has an aquarius moon tbh.

If I'm in a large group I'm quiet not unsocial or timid just quiet I'm thinking these people are a bunch of cunts mostly LOL

But if I'm with a small group who I know inside and out I'm very social , chatting probably seem to overtake the whole thing


So depends I can't stand giggly stupid females essp if they are drunk aghhhh

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I guess everyone feels more comfortable in certain groups.

I have just noticed that some scorpios seem very quiet. Not in a standoffish sort of way, or in a rude sort of way, or an uncomfortable thing, just quiet. Was wondering how yall perceived yourselves.

Everything you're saying makes sense and kind of fits with what I was thinking.

And, gee, I hope they don't think I'm an idiot. lol! 😄

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Posted by truecap
I guess everyone feels more comfortable in certain groups.

I have just noticed that some scorpios seem very quiet. Not in a standoffish sort of way, or in a rude sort of way, or an uncomfortable thing, just quiet. Was wondering how yall perceived yourselves.

Everything you're saying makes sense and kind of fits with what I was thinking.

And, gee, I hope they don't think I'm an idiot. lol! 😄

I might question the idea that you asked our opinion though but if I know you are being sincere then I'd never think you were being an idiot....😉

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I hear ya. You guys have a pretty good judge of sincerity, though.

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Posted by Reincarnation
I perceive most conversation as useless small talk, and small talk is a waste of time. This is how my mind thinks.

My gf hates it. Always says I need to be more social when she is talking with other people.

I don't really care. She's mutable. I tell her "let's go" and she follows - lol.

I think that was one thing that me and my Scorp complimented each other. He was as you stated above and me , the epitome of a Pisces sun but add the Leo moon in ...I did the talking for both of us. People would always kinda look at him like "what's this dudes problem" because he wouldn't contribute to conversations. He just thought they were banal and chit chat like, of no substance. So I just would conversate for the both of us that seemed to pacify any comments I would get after the fact from people. Even with his own family with exception of his mother...who is a Cancer.

Lol - that's basically how it goes.

But my Fish tells me I should smile more around people. So instead I put on a polite smile when we are out socializing. She always thanks me when I do that.

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I have scorpio rising and I'm told I should smile more.

Posted by truecap
I have noticed about four scorpios that are very quiet in family and social situations. It's a comfortable, easy going quiet, they just don't seem to jump into conversations very readily. It's more like they sit and listen and observe. Then when they do speak up, everyone listens.

Now, I do two scorpios that are quite the gregarious story tellers, but I've known them all my life. So maybe in those cases, it's because they're comfortable.

So, scorpios, are you quiet or quite outspoken in social situations? Does it matter who the group is?

Yeah I'm quiet and prefer to observe in social situations. I'm just not much of a talker and don't like small talk. Actually scratch that. I hate small talk. If we have nothing interesting to talk about I'd rather sit in silence and people watch. You learn a lot more about people doing that then conversations where they are putting on a front to seem....well whatever they feel like being that day.

The group does matter. When I'm with my girls I will talk openly and feel fine doing so. They get my sarcasm and dry humor and also understand my mood shifts, which can occur quite suddenly (think light switch). This is nice because they won't pester me to talk when I am quietly listening and reflecting on what is being said.

In my experience Scorpios are not chatty they are not much different than Cancers in that respect I only talk a lot to people that I know if I don't know the person I don't talk to them.

My old Scorpio boss he could sit in a room in silence he wouldn't say a word as with other Scorpio's you start talking about something they have knowledge etc they will talk your ear off for example one of the Scorpio guys is into cars the other Scorpio guy is into trucks.

As a Cancer man I can sit there in silence especially if I'm riding in a vehicle and I'm not driving I can sit there for an hour and not say a word I usually have things rolling through my head or I just zone out. My Gemini dad gets mad he says I'm being un sociable no I'm not I just don't talk I can sit in silence just fine.

It has to do with water signs are strong introverts that's what makes us silent it is what I've observed that Scorpio Cancer and Pisces are fairly strongly introverted people you don't see a mix of introverts and extraverts, 99% of us are introverted. You can lump Taurus into the mostly introverted club I've never seen many extroverted Taurus, you get into Air signs Libra's are extroverts most Libras I know will talk your ear off, Gemini's are the same most of them I know are extroverts. The fire signs Sags are extroverts, Aries can be both, Leos are extroverts.

As said Water signs are quiet people can be we dubbed as antisocial? yes Do people think we can be rude? yes, its not our fault we are just the type of people that keep to ourselves if we don't know you we are not going to say anything.

I was once told By someone that I was the quietest shyest person they had ever met !!!

I felt really pleased about that although I'm not shy I felt it was a compliment

Lol

How would someone go about making you more comfortable if you're around new people?

This question isn't why I created the post, but some of the comments helped me realize I should probably ask.

My aqua's son has a new girlfriend (they are 17,18 yo) whom I discovered is a very quiet scorpio. (I guess her sign, then looked it up on facebook). Now, obviously, they do their own thing, but sometimes we all go to dinner together. I'd like her to feel welcome and comfortable around us and the rest of his family. I feel like asking a lot of questions would be very comfortable for her. I've been just talking and trying to include her, like making sure she knows who/what we're talking about if it's something/someone she may not know (like, for example if we are talking about a home project that I've got going on, I'll add a little bit of detail so she doesn't feel left out of the conversation - not a good example, but it's a sample what I've been trying to do).

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Posted by truecap
How would someone go about making you more comfortable if you're around new people?

This question isn't why I created the post, but some of the comments helped me realize I should probably ask.

My aqua's son has a new girlfriend (they are 17,18 yo) whom I discovered is a very quiet scorpio. (I guess her sign, then looked it up on facebook). Now, obviously, they do their own thing, but sometimes we all go to dinner together. I'd like her to feel welcome and comfortable around us and the rest of his family. I feel like asking a lot of questions would be very comfortable for her. I've been just talking and trying to include her, like making sure she knows who/what we're talking about if it's something/someone she may not know (like, for example if we are talking about a home project that I've got going on, I'll add a little bit of detail so she doesn't feel left out of the conversation - not a good example, but it's a sample what I've been trying to do).

Don't talk to her in front of everyone for her to answer in front of all. Have more one on ones and don't ask too many questions at first. Just be more instinctual, let your body tell her you approve of her and are understanding of her - show that with facial expressions and putting your hand on her shoulders or back. More eye contact too. When you talk to her at first stay close to her and talk to her quietly. You will see she will trust you and then open up.

You already have an intimidating position so... Just be sensitive to that. Let her know you are disarmed and she will put down her weapons too 😛

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Thanks. I'm just trying to be friendly and kind.

Posted by truecap
How would someone go about making you more comfortable if you're around new people?

This question isn't why I created the post, but some of the comments helped me realize I should probably ask.

You can't. In this case the saying "it's not you it me" applies. I will feel comfortable when I feel comfortable. It could be something very subtle that shifts in the enviorment or you.

Posted by truecap
My aqua's son has a new girlfriend (they are 17,18 yo) whom I discovered is a very quiet scorpio. (I guess her sign, then looked it up on facebook). Now, obviously, they do their own thing, but sometimes we all go to dinner together. I'd like her to feel welcome and comfortable around us and the rest of his family.

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This isn't something you can control. What I mean is there are too many personalities to figure out and there will be some people that she will warm to faster than others. Yes, you are a family, but you're not a package deal in a Scorps eyes when it comes to feeling comfortable.

You're all going to give her a different vibe that she will evaluate on an individual basis. That tends to be how most Scorps work. They sort people out. They sort you out to get a sense of who you all are. All you can do is be genuine and if she begins to feel comfortable with you that will happen. The rest of the family is another matter. Being comfortable with you and your son is a good start though.

Oh sure, I am aware. They're all friendly and everyone will definitely give her a different vibe. I'll just keep being nice and considerate to her.

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Posted by truecap
How would someone go about making you more comfortable if you're around new people?

This question isn't why I created the post, but some of the comments helped me realize I should probably ask.

My aqua's son has a new girlfriend (they are 17,18 yo) whom I discovered is a very quiet scorpio. (I guess her sign, then looked it up on facebook). Now, obviously, they do their own thing, but sometimes we all go to dinner together. I'd like her to feel welcome and comfortable around us and the rest of his family. I feel like asking a lot of questions would be very comfortable for her. I've been just talking and trying to include her, like making sure she knows who/what we're talking about if it's something/someone she may not know (like, for example if we are talking about a home project that I've got going on, I'll add a little bit of detail so she doesn't feel left out of the conversation - not a good example, but it's a sample what I've been trying to do).

Don't talk to her in front of everyone for her to answer in front of all. Have more one on ones and don't ask too many questions at first. Just be more instinctual, let your body tell her you approve of her and are understanding of her - show that with facial expressions and putting your hand on her shoulders or back. More eye contact too. When you talk to her at first stay close to her and talk to her quietly. You will see she will trust you and then open up.

You already have an intimidating position so... Just be sensitive to that. Let her know you are disarmed and she will put down her weapons too 😛

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Perhaps approach this lightly. While I agree with some of this feedback (e.g. instinctual, body language, don't ask too many questions at first), I personally would not respond well to a good deal of this (e.g. touching me, talking to me one on one, staying close) wtf, lol just reading that makes me feel weirded out. It's all interpretation I suppose. However that is me and reflects my preference.

Posted by FrostAndBite
Yeah families are tough. Almost five years and I'm still not comfortable with my scorpios extended family. I get on great with his parents. His sister I'm alright with. Everyone past that I'm still a little uncomfortable around. PR is right tho, I get on best with his mother because she is the most genuine and sincere of them all.

You seem to be doing well though. What helped me the most was all the one on one time with his mom. It wasn't planned or anything. Normally we'd be over at her house on some afternoon and scorp was napping or busy and me and her would chat over lunch, impromptu sort of thing.

Yeah, it has to be natural. Not forced one to one time. It may be a slower process, but it will happen.

Posted by Infinite8
Hahahahaha.... I felt the same when I wrote it. I guess you don't do this right away - and it is all about right timing and amount of connection!! Hahahahaha... Omg - yeah, if you feel any hesitation here, maybe not a good idea!! Lol - just reminded me of some situations where it was NOT welcomed!! Hahahahaha... We are so complicated!

😉

I think it's just about personal preference.

Posted by truecap
I have noticed about four scorpios that are very quiet in family and social situations. It's a comfortable, easy going quiet, they just don't seem to jump into conversations very readily. It's more like they sit and listen and observe. Then when they do speak up, everyone listens.

That's how every horoscope book ever written describe them. It also says to watch out for the sociable ones because it's a front; they still don't let people in while those sociable eyes are gazing.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by truecap
I have noticed about four scorpios that are very quiet in family and social situations. It's a comfortable, easy going quiet, they just don't seem to jump into conversations very readily. It's more like they sit and listen and observe. Then when they do speak up, everyone listens.

Now, I do two scorpios that are quite the gregarious story tellers, but I've known them all my life. So maybe in those cases, it's because they're comfortable.

So, scorpios, are you quiet or quite outspoken in social situations? Does it matter who the group is?

Yeah I'm quiet and prefer to observe in social situations. I'm just not much of a talker and don't like small talk. Actually scratch that. I hate small talk. If we have nothing interesting to talk about I'd rather sit in silence and people watch. You learn a lot more about people doing that then conversations where they are putting on a front to seem....well whatever they feel like being that day.

The group does matter. When I'm with my girls I will talk openly and feel fine doing so. They get my sarcasm and dry humor and also understand my mood shifts, which can occur quite suddenly (think light switch). This is nice because they won't pester me to talk when I am quietly listening and reflecting on what is being said.

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im a rather quiet scorpio.. and with aqua moon most dialogue occurs within my mind. a lot of the time im not even in the same realm and can be preoccupied with my own inner world or am processing what ive observed. but, other times i love interacting with other humans. i am most chatty when talking about things of substance; that stimulate my brain... not too keen at all on small talk or superficiality. mostly ill speak if i have something to say, otherwise theres no need.

phoenixrising said it perfectly ab the mood shifts n dry humor tooo *

Posted by FrostAndBite
It varies from situation to situation. Overall, I'm quieter and more reserved in new social situations, especially with groups, as I'm trying to read the tone of the group, looking for good entry points of conversation or what would help me get to know them better.

In very familiar territory I'm very bubbly, much more open and prone to jump in. Don't need the spotlight to tell a story but I wouldn't draw back. the smaller the group or one on one I'll be more likely to warmer and open quicker.

This. And I just enjoy listening tbh. And reading people.

I find it fascinating that so many of you saying similar things.