Should I confess my feelings?

Okay so.. I’ve been seeing this Scorpio man for about 1.5 months. I’m aware that’s not a long time. We have spent nearly every weekend together and have a BLAST. The sex is off the charts. It’s pretty obvious we want to be near each other. One of the problems is that he’s the worst at texting. One word answers, etc. but the. We talk on the phone and everything seems great. Also, we live 4 hours apart 😢 on weekends a lot of the time, I’m able to go to a town near him. He has coke to my town before once to spend the weekend with me. Anyway, this last weekend we went fishing and paddle boarding. That afternoon, he seemed to be a little preoccupied by his phone. He was texting someone else late at night as well. I don’t know if it was someone else be is interested in. Are scorpios usually loyal? I don’t know if he’s losing interest or ..? We do not have plans to hang out again as we will both be busy this weekend. Should I make the plans? Should I make the moves? Is he waiting for me or should I wait for him? Tbh I really want a relationship with him. TIA!!

What does this mean?

Thanks for the answers! Yes, lots of changes in 2 weeks. Things are going a lot better. We talk every night on the phone. He is a firefighter and only has 1 day off a week at the moment, so I went to see him. When he has more days off and can stay the night somewhere, he will come to me. We had a bit of a disagreement before I went to see him, and i told him I felt like I was putting in more effort and wasn’t going to go if he didn’t care if I went. He called me and stressed that he was very excited to see me and had been telling all his friends about it. He said he felt so horrible that he made me feel that way and I am high on his priority list. I did go to see him and he planned out the most wonderful day 🙂🙂 it was very sad to only see him for one day. That night he did tell me it was difficult for him to talk about his feelings. Again, we have talked every night on the phone. I sent him a picture last night where I had a clay mask on my face.. he said he liked it because it meant I was getting more comfortable in front of him. Anyway.. I do feel things are going really well. However, ANY help/tips/comments/suggestions are appreciated 🙂🙂

Seems pretty favorable

Woo hooo!! 🙂🙂

Pass his silly relationship tests and don't get too upset when he tries to get you mad on purpose 🥴

If it’s meant to be it will be!

You can’t mess something up that’s meant for you.

If someone' texting late at night and it bothers you, ask them who they are texting. You look and act concerned as you are and ask, "hey, is something wrong?" Don't let a moment like that pass you by (to put out some feelers).

You don't know if there's someone else (or dating others) unless you ask.

If you have issues with people being pre-occupied by their phone while out on a date with you, say so. Most people used to find it rude. I don't know what the etiquette is anymore, but I would still find it minimally rude. I could actually see it ruining a date if it throws the vibe off.

I personally let things play out as long as I'm having a good time. Nothings' been established. Something starts becoming "established," my mind will do a automatic playback of suss behavior.

You go to a guy's house and it leads to the bedroom. You see a broken polished nail. What do you do? Wait, watch, and see cause you only been seeing him for 1 month? Take into consideration that he has roommates - 4 guys to a two bedroom with they nasty asses? Or, you ask outright?

Where does it get you? You still got to watch, wait, and see. Asking outright may help or it may tip them off. I prefer to watch the beast in his natural habit. I let him do what he do. Don't disturb the specimen.

Posted by Michelle89
Okay so.. I’ve been seeing this Scorpio man for about 1.5 months. I’m aware that’s not a long time. We have spent nearly every weekend together and have a BLAST. The sex is off the charts. It’s pretty obvious we want to be near each other. One of the problems is that he’s the worst at texting. One word answers, etc. but the. We talk on the phone and everything seems great. Also, we live 4 hours apart on weekends a lot of the time, I’m able to go to a town near him. He has coke to my town before once to spend the weekend with me. Anyway, this last weekend we went fishing and paddle boarding. That afternoon, he seemed to be a little preoccupied by his phone. He was texting someone else late at night as well. I don’t know if it was someone else be is interested in. Are scorpios usually loyal? I don’t know if he’s losing interest or ..? We do not have plans to hang out again as we will both be busy this weekend. Should I make the plans? Should I make the moves? Is he waiting for me or should I wait for him? Tbh I really want a relationship with him. TIA!!

" I've been seeing" that's not dating or exclusive. Seeing is casual.

If you want to go to the next level with him, tell him you are interested in doing that with him. Maybe he had thought of it too or needs to process how he feels about that himself.

Throw the ball in his court.

I am a Taurus. I think he has sun in Scorpio, Mercury in Sagittarius, and Venus is Scorpio. Does that help?

Posted by Michelle89
I am a Taurus. I think he has sun in Scorpio, Mercury in Sagittarius, and Venus is Scorpio. Does that help?

I’ve Sun and Venus in Scorp….not always the easiest for a smooth running relationship

Venus in Scorpio keywords:

Intense

Passionate

Mysterious

Guarded

Possessive

Obsessive

Deep

Skeptical

Loyal

What exactly do you mean “not always the easiest”? Honestly, I like that “loyal” is in there. That’s all I’m looking for 😢

Posted by Findingbalance

Posted by MyStarsShine
Venus in Scorpio keywords:

Intense

Passionate

Mysterious

Guarded

Possessive

Obsessive

Deep

Skeptical

Loyal

Ngl that's pretty on point.

We can grow and shed some of the more negative aspects of that list.

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It’s a very uncomfortable position for Scorpio to be in ~ in detriment ~ 😬

He does seem (IMO) to be a Scorpio who has grown a lot and definitely been through some shit. I know he has been betrayed in relationships. I know he moves slowly. He told his friend that he was “slowly opening up” to me. And that he promised he was trying. I am starting to trust him (I have my own trust issues.. eye roll). It seems to be moving along the right path, I’m just not sure how slow/fast it should be going. Of course I want things to unfold naturally and as they should. But I also don’t want to be naive and just wait forever when it should be moving along……….

Two fixed signs have argued about “speed” of the relationship since the beginning of time.

Who will get their way?

The Taurus or the Scorpio?

Haha, I love that! Also, I’m completely okay with the speed, even if it’s really slow. I want it to be real. I just want to make sure that he’s not stringing me along and I’m super into it but he’s just keeping it going because I’m a willing participant…

Posted by Michelle89
Haha, I love that! Also, I’m completely okay with the speed, even if it’s really slow. I want it to be real. I just want to make sure that he’s not stringing me along and I’m super into it but he’s just keeping it going because I’m a willing participant…

Yeah Earth signs need solid ground. Stability

Alas, that’s the risk you in relationships, you could be all in and you won’t they aren’t until they aren’t.

Haha, shoot. Guess I’ll just see how it plays out then. Maybe I’ll make a limit - like 4 months.. if he hasn’t asked by then I’ll say something. I’m sure he’ll tell me straight if it’s a “no”.

Posted by dontgiveup

Posted by Michelle89
I am a Taurus. I think he has sun in Scorpio, Mercury in Sagittarius, and Venus is Scorpio. Does that help?

Do you know his moon?

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Yes we need to know his moon 😀

Well I guess it’s either Virgo or libra. It changed signs on the date he was born, and I can’t ask him what time he was born or he’ll know I’m looking into him hahaha.

Posted by Michelle89
I am a Taurus. I think he has sun in Scorpio, Mercury in Sagittarius, and Venus is Scorpio. Does that help?

Taurus woman and Scorpio man is the best 🙂

My advice is be honest. Scorp men like honest communication. Be yourself.

Thank you!!!!

Where’s his Mars?

Mars is in Gemini

Do you mean “so nothing” as in wait and let him take the lead? Or like… not see him anymore?

Just be yourself, don’t hold back.

@poppyflower good point.. I’m new here lol

@frenchcapricorn it was a one night stand to begin with. The next time we met, he drove to me and told me he was the one chasing me. The other night he called me his “almost girlfriend”… we are having some communication issues right now because he’s a wild land firefighter and I never know when he’s available to talk. He assumed that because I hadn’t answered his last text that I was sleeping. We both wanted to talk to each other last night but neither one called the other. I’m hoping to hash that out tonight and tell him that I don’t want something good to be ruined because we can’t communicate with each other. And that I want this to be a relationship eventually and really hope we both will put in the effort to make that happen. I’m then going to say that he should let me know right now if he’s not on the same page. I think that will answer a lot of my questions.

@abbynormal I really love that advice!!! The ones who are meant to stay, will stay. Right?

@frenchcapricorn, I THINK you’re telling me that some people are too lazy to communicate, so it’s a good idea to communicate.. ?? 🙈 but yeah when we talk tonight, I’m going to find out some shit either way!! Damnit.

Okay ask him face to face. I like that idea. Thank you!

Posted by AbbyNormal
Just be yourself, don’t hold back.

Cause you woke up in the morning with initiative to move, so why make it harder?

@dontgiveup well… tbh… I’m very nervous to have this conversation 😬 so I haven’t had it yet. But last night, he was saying how he missed me, loved my laugh, loved hearing my voice, etc. after, I asked him what his plan was when he was done with the season (wildland firefighter) and he said he goes to Louisiana for 6 months. He has done this for 3 years. I asked him how we were going to see each other if during the fire season he only has one day off and we live 4.5 hours away, and when the season is done, he’s gone.. he said we could make a plan for him to come up during the winter. But still, do I want to date someone who I see once a month, and maybe not even that sometimes..? So.. I really do need to have that convo, obviously, bc I don’t want to keep developing feelings for someone who it would be impossible to have a relationship with. I’m also a little lost/curious about what he wants from me and expects from all this… like I will just wait here for him…?? Anyway.. I’ll ask him soon 🤷‍♀️ idc if it is “moving too fast” or “putting pressure on him”, I deserve to know if I’m putting effort into something that can’t go anywhere. I’m all for taking it slow, but certainly not here to waste time

Posted by Michelle89
@dontgiveup well… tbh… I’m very nervous to have this conversation 😬 so I haven’t had it yet. But last night, he was saying how he missed me, loved my laugh, loved hearing my voice, etc. after, I asked him what his plan was when he was done with the season (wildland firefighter) and he said he goes to Louisiana for 6 months. He has done this for 3 years. I asked him how we were going to see each other if during the fire season he only has one day off and we live 4.5 hours away, and when the season is done, he’s gone.. he said we could make a plan for him to come up during the winter. But still, do I want to date someone who I see once a month, and maybe not even that sometimes..? So.. I really do need to have that convo, obviously, bc I don’t want to keep developing feelings for someone who it would be impossible to have a relationship with. I’m also a little lost/curious about what he wants from me and expects from all this… like I will just wait here for him…?? Anyway.. I’ll ask him soon 🤷‍♀️ idc if it is “moving too fast” or “putting pressure on him”, I deserve to know if I’m putting effort into something that can’t go anywhere. I’m all for taking it slow, but certainly not here to waste time

Looks like you're making the right decision for yourself based on what you need. Read what you wrote. This guy has probably been through this before with a woman thinking just like you do.

Thanks everyone!!! Your input is truly valued!!