Stages of Dating (Page 3)

SouthernT: "From the way some of you have answered, you consider yourselves "dating" if you and the guy are having sex?"

I think it's called that to save face IMO. Same as me calling someone I've only had sex with an "ex" even though I know we never established a relationship of boyfriend/girlfriend.

It's the new twist on people who shack for years and fall into the title of husband and wife from each person's lips when discussing them to others. Saving face. 🙂

Well everybody, I just had two different guys ask me out on dates this week. So, this is my first step in pulling away from my Scorpio. Everyone should be proud....lol

or trying to put him out of my mind rather.

"Read "Mars and Venus On A Date". This book is specifically written about the stages of dating and how they are different for man/woman. Its a good read."

Cap Angel---

This book is helping me ALOT. I understand this whole process alot better now. I found it at a used bookstore the other day. I can see that I've been jumping way ahead of myself. Awesome book! (even though it was written 10 years ago, dating dynamics and the biological make up of man and woman have not changed.)

"Well everybody, I just had two different guys ask me out on dates this week. So, this is my first step in pulling away from my Scorpio. Everyone should be proud....lol"


Yay .. are you going on the dates?

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"If I were to give a few of those guys who sincerely wanted to get to know me the opportunity and try to be sincere back perhaps I would know the route of a healthy relationship.

But, that's just not my cup of tea."


I'm not sure I get where you were coming from on that, MsAristocracy. What it says to me is ..... you are't sincere, nor give guys, who might be potentially nice the opportunity 😢

Why is sincereity not your cup of tea? 😢

Did I read that wrong?

That's really great that you have suitors. 🙂 I feel you truly deserve happiness after such a long investment of your time. And, good for you to give yourself the chance to date the right way this time.

I'm very proud of you, but one thing to do is don't keep us posted. You know where that will lead. Just read the book, trust in yourself, and enjoy life.

P-Angel, I was meaning the guys that are sincere about liking me are not my cup of tea. It's so not easy to say yes to them (too much like right) because there's a fear that I will be bored or smothered. Guys that take me for a whirlwind and draw out all of this adrenaline are what I crave even though I know that the chances of success in relationship is slim. I can't even begin to tell you what's up with that except it's part of my dysfunction...

I won't say I'm not sincere, I usually don't get involved with anyone I don't have an interest in (read: obsession with) so I don't think my sincerity has a chance to be questioned because I've not moved forward in phone # exchange, visits, outtings, etc. anything that looks like progress I don't offer to anyone I am not interested in.

"P-Angel, I was meaning the guys that are sincere about liking me are not my cup of tea."

Oh, that makes sense .. I figured that I must have not read that right, lol.

"Guys that take me for a whirlwind and draw out all of this adrenaline are what I crave even though I know that the chances of success in relationship is slim. I can't even begin to tell you what's up with that except it's part of my dysfunction..."

😢😢 I know exactly what you mean by this, unfortunately. And the ones who would make for a good relationship don't spark this passion within you.

Just have to continue searching for the one who is a "Good Bad Boy", if he even exists.

P-Angel: "Just have to continue searching for the one who is a "Good Bad Boy", if he even exists."

You know if he does exist I am bound to find him. Though I don't want to go through them like a box of chocolates that I didn't like any of the candies I bit into and put back lol.

"Yay .. are you going on the dates?"

lol....yeah I'm going to go.

"just relax and have fun! Southern"

yeah it's easy with somebody you dont even like in that way. But when it's with somebody that your crazy over, it's like all common sense goes out the window.

ST, seriously I think there is a difference in dating and being in a committed relationship.

Dating is going out on dates with someone and spending more time with them than others, which could include sex etc.

Being in a committed relationship is committing yourself to one person, that person being your partner, being a team, intertwining your lives on some levels (not all). Loving and being in love with them, thoughts of future possibilities. etc.

ST, I think you should be yourself regardless. That way there are no surprises. I never put on a front. I am who I am take it or leave it. But then again, I am a scorp...

"Dating is going out on dates with someone and spending more time with them than others, which could include sex etc."

Yeah. I basically made up in my mind that I will go on dates with guys, but sex will not be apart of dating for me. Not until I decide to become exclusive with one of them. "If" that even happens.

SouthernT

"Read "Mars and Venus On A Date". This book is specifically written about the stages of dating and how they are different for man/woman. Its a good read."

I beg the diffre I read the frist couple of chapter 1 & 2 and thought "What The Hell" I don't believe that shit and stop reading it.....I don't think enought research was done and did the author talk to one race? because some of the shit the Dr. was saying/talking about was fucking ridiculous to me. Just my opinion.

QS- we could have been seperated at birth 🙂

All I know is that WHEN THE LORD MADE ME HE BROKE THE MOLD.....hahahah 🙂

"I beg the diffre I read the frist couple of chapter 1 & 2 and thought "What The Hell" I don't believe that butter and stop reading it.....I don't think enought research was done and did the author talk to one race? because some of the butter the Dr. was saying/talking about was ing ridiculous to me. Just my opinion."

It may not be the "ultimate" dating guide, but at least it's a starting place for people like me. I'm sure I'll make my own "tweeks" and "adjustments" as I go along. But I need to get the basics down before I can start doing that.