Text and misunderstanding

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by thousandmph on Friday, December 7, 2007 and has 21 replies.

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@thousandmph
18 YearsScorpio

I personally try my best to be understood when communicating in text. But we all read differently as well as write differently. I'm not saying some are bad, but it can be difficult sometimes to undersand what mood people are in when writing. And when people think you might be angry through what you write and address this, I personally get a little upset... mostly for being misunderstood, but also because such accusations can change your mood instantly...

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@thousandmph
18 YearsScorpio

Smilies are cool but do they always ft the occasion.
Say you are truly upset with someone... would you use an angry or sad smily then? or wood that be too corny?

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@thousandmph
18 YearsScorpio

See that (!) is an interesting point. Meeting someone in person after knowing them online for a while. However, this was in a professional context as I understand the situation, so maybe tha affected his written communication?
I always think it's odd reading emails from friends, and observing how they are in text after you've already met them in person. Some people come come straight through as them selves and some seem more shy in text when it usually works the other way.

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@thousandmph
18 YearsScorpio

There are certain people I connect with online and some that displayes too thick a false identity to even have a serious conversation with. And then there is that someone special that just gets inside right away... It's all very confusing.. chemistry online can actually happen. It's not alwayes the physical appearance and touch and such that set things off. Sometimes just a single message that makes you realize something subconsciencly, and the few following messages to confirm it. Before you know it you have a deeper connection. It doesn't happen often, but it happens. And that's the person I want to meet ... in person. Not the one that pretends to be someone else to hide from his or her reality.

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21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

"when people think you might be angry through what you write and address this, I personally get a little upset... mostly for being misunderstood, but also because such accusations can change your mood instantly..."

This is confusing to me .. are you saying this because you aren't understanding the other, or because they aren't understanding you?

If I interpret this .. it says to me, people might think you are angry by what you write because of them not being able to interpret your mood with texts .. so, this would suggest that it's the other persons mood that could be effected .. they might get the wrong impression.

Yet, it says that you are the one who gets upset .. your mood can be changed instantly.

So, who's not understanding .. them or you?

Hell, I'm not even understanding what is trying to be conveyed with a question about not properly understanding in text.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

I agree with you, Scorpius .. in person, a person gives all kinds of mixed signals compared to in here ESPECIALLY with tone and facial expressions.

In here, it's much easier to decipher what a person is trying to express. Our egos dictate, most of the time .. and if the ego senses that someone has taken a tone, then the wall of communication goes up. This wall is less likely to occur because a person can't 'hear' with their ears .. and has no choice except to use thier own reasoning skills to understand, minus anything used by the other senses.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

lol, I've no clue what the blind squirrel means, my husband told me to say that to you about agreeing with you.

Wait, I'll ask him ..... "what did the blind squir ....."

He said it means ... everybody gets lucky once in a while

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

You're far from dense, you comprehend things that most people can't even begin to grasp, for they have no clue that it even exists outside of their chains within their mind.

Einstein said: "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions."

And you are very capable .. this makes you smart as hell.