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Update - Infamous Scorpio - Not sure what to do...
Understanding Scorpio Relationships and Communication
Scorpios are known for their intensity and desire for trust. When trust is broken, they can become distant or dismissive. Clear communication and patience are essential. Respect their need for privacy and give them space to process emotions before reconnecting.
"So as you know I have had an on and off again relationship with a Scorpion for about two years. Im not sure if I told everyone the story but around the end of June a friend of mine who just happens to be a Scorpio also retaliated against my Scorpio and said some things that we talked about to him regarding him. Since then he hasn't spoken to me, until now. I received an email that just said "hi". I contacted him back and he's like yeah I wrote that a month ago. Um no I just got it. Wasn't going to argue. So he told me well you need to take full responsibility for your friends actions and what they said because you told them x, y, z. I didnt know his life was completely private and since he was involved with me friends talk, swap stories, etc. Needless to say that other Scorpio friend of mine is no longer one proving he isn't trustworthy."
Xin,
you said:
"So he told me well you need to take full responsibility for your friends actions and what they said because you told them x, y, z. "
I am going to tell you something straight up:
You talk about your beau behind his back to another and you're cruisin' for
a bruisin'. That's a BIG no-no with a Scorpio male.
Your Scorp feels disrespected and betrayed. You basically betrayed him.
Simple as that and it doesn't matter what you, your friends nor anyone else
thinks because HE is the one who feels this way. Nobody else.
He is right about you needing to take full responsibility.
That you are no longer friends with the second Scorp, tells me that you are NOT getting
the message. YOU are the one who talked about your Scorp. It is YOU who are untrustworthy.
I'm sorry if you got stung but it is what it is, you played the game and lost.
Learn your lesson, don't do it again.
Firebird -
I know, you're right. I shouldn't have talked about us or anything ever of that matter. But the other Scorpio is just a friend I guess that doesn't matter either. Alright. Ill put on my big girl panties and apologize even though I did. But I'll make it more clear. That Scorpio friend though was JUST a friend and I think they were both jealous of each other. My Scorpio because well it's another in his area and my friend because he was envious of how much I cared for him.
Alright off to write my apology letter. *sigh*
Posted by Xin
Firebird -I know, you're right. I shouldn't have talked about us or anything ever of that matter. But the other Scorpio is just a friend I guess that doesn't matter either. Alright. Ill put on my big girl panties and apologize even though I did. But I'll make it more clear. That Scorpio friend though was JUST a friend and I think they were both jealous of each other. My Scorpio because well it's another in his area and my friend because he was envious of how much I cared for him.
Alright off to write my apology letter. *sigh*
Xin,
You need to understand that apology isn't necessarily enough. YOU have to CHANGE the problem that led to the problem
you are now faced with - Respecting the privacy of others. EVEN when that privacy includes your own self.
Whatever was said/done between you and Scorpio in private, is something that should remain private.
Apologize, you may, but you probably need to do that face to face.
You wouldn't be related to GemFireGirl would you—
No but I am a Gemini with a shit ton of air placements. I guess I have a foot in mouth syndrome because to me well I love to talk and nothing is taboo or secret. Unless they TELL me it's a secret.
Posted by Xin
No but I am a Gemini with a shit ton of air placements. I guess I have a foot in mouth syndrome because to me well I love to talk and nothing is taboo or secret. Unless they TELL me it's a secret.
Ok, the lesson with scorp, any scorp, possibly anyone else is this: What's said and done in secret should remain is secret.
You need to learn when NOT to talk. Don't rely on the "Unless they TELL me it's a secret".
Get into the habit of keeping things to yourself. ESPECIALLY the things that are shared with you by friends, family and
of course, your beau. IF you find that people don't talk much about private matters, it's because you have betrayed them
also.... something to think about and apologize for also.
You NEED to make these changes and once you can do that, you will grow and become a better person.
Like everyone else, you too, have that potential: To be the best that you can be - reach for it.
You can do it.
Ok??
😉
Yeah it's not even that though. I just ramble and talk and things just come out. I felt it was no harm done. It wasn't super secretive to me, but I guess it was to him. We shall see how he reacts. If hes all about the punishment I'm definitely not sticking around for that shit. It will just make me resent him.
Its almost impossible for an air sign not to talk, lol. We are the communicators for that reason. Xin, what was it that you told to the other person? Personally i discuss everything about a relationship with my friends except sexual matters and i dont see anything wrong with it. What could be so private about a relationship that it should not be talked about with outsiders? Is he married, a priest or a secret agent? I dont get it.
Posted by Xin
Well I thought I would drop by and hang out a bit in the Scorpion den with a few of you who have given me sound advice before.
So as you know I have had an on and off again relationship with a Scorpion for about two years. Im not sure if I told everyone the story but around the end of June a friend of mine who just happens to be a Scorpio also retaliated against my Scorpio and said some things that we talked about to him regarding him. Since then he hasn't spoken to me, until now. I received an email that just said "hi". I contacted him back and he's like yeah I wrote that a month ago. Um no I just got it. Wasn't going to argue. So he told me well you need to take full responsibility for your friends actions and what they said because you told them x, y, z. I didnt know his life was completely private and since he was involved with me friends talk, swap stories, etc. Needless to say that other Scorpio friend of mine is no longer one proving he isn't trustworthy. My Scorpio goes on to tell me he doesn't want to speak with me even though he sent that email. Then I approach and try to state my case, he dismisses me. Then here we are 24 hours later another email. Asking the same thing again to take the blame and he doesn't have anything to say until then. I'm like wtf is going on? Anyone? I left him alone like he said to. I didnt call, write, zero. I walked when he said he wasn't interested. You guys know how I feel about this man. Unfortunately he's got me F'd up more than I should be. And I miss him. But anyways, thoughts?
...YIKES Chika... Whatever is SAID in the den..STAYS in the den... DON'T forget it. This is HOW you earn the Scorps trust and part of what makes them so EFFIN Sexy with all that Mystery swirling around them. IF you want them to open up..keepin ur lips sealed is the WAY! Sorry hun..You're probably iced out now. Trust has been shattered and it will be hard to regain. Don't grovel either...he won't respect you for it, and will just yank you by the chain like he is now, with the emails... Just apologize and be ready to move on.
R24, thats where we all differ. Us air signs like to talk about everything, that includes ourselves, our lovers, etc- we just love talking. Im beginning to think that water and air dont really go together, lol. Its unfair to tell air not to talk as it is to tell water not to feel. But again it depends on what was said, which we still dont know
Btw im not attacking, just trying to understand too as a fellow air sister cause i understand where Xin is coming from.
Posted by Xin
Yeah it's not even that though. I just ramble and talk and things just come out. I felt it was no harm done. It wasn't super secretive to me, but I guess it was to him. We shall see how he reacts. If hes all about the punishment I'm definitely not sticking around for that shit. It will just make me resent him.
It's NOT punishment. It's about simple common respect and consideration for others.
IF you don't want show others respect and consideration, I can assure you it can come back
to haunt you something REAL bad. You would be wise to heed my unbiased counsel on this particular
matter.
If you don't, I am afraid you might have more air than you realize. Too much air is not a good thing.
Watercup - Totally we do. And we don't mean it maliciously either. We just like to share especially when we are excited. Now i didn't have any idea my Scorpio friend would retaliate against him. If I would have known that I would have never said a word.
Well it was about our families mostly. I talked about mine, they talked about theirs, I talked about his, etc. Just a casual conversation. And the person I used to be friends with brought it up as a weapon and I'm like SHIT! Either way I already apologized we will see what happens. This happened almost four months ago so why now? I guess he's still mad at me. I thought he would have forgotten and just moved on, but I think I am wrong with the depth of feelings with Scorpio. It feels like almost as if they could care less about you, but then here they come. I read some people's posts about just having the attention and it doesn't matter from who (regarding Scorps). So why is he back? I left him alone like he asked. But he keeps writing me saying things, like he wants me to talk but he doesn't.
Posted by Xin
Watercup - Totally we do. And we don't mean it maliciously either. We just like to share especially when we are excited. Now i didn't have any idea my Scorpio friend would retaliate against him. If I would have known that I would have never said a word.
Well it was about our families mostly. I talked about mine, they talked about theirs, I talked about his, etc. Just a casual conversation. And the person I used to be friends with brought it up as a weapon and I'm like SHIT! Either way I already apologized we will see what happens. This happened almost four months ago so why now? I guess he's still mad at me. I thought he would have forgotten and just moved on, but I think I am wrong with the depth of feelings with Scorpio. It feels like almost as if they could care less about you, but then here they come. I read some people's posts about just having the attention and it doesn't matter from who (regarding Scorps). So why is he back? I left him alone like he asked. But he keeps writing me saying things, like he wants me to talk but he doesn't.
Xin, you came HERE wanting answers and you're not paying attention. Windy, yes, lacking sound judgement, yes. Lacking respect, yes.
Why are you here, again—
I want answers about a scorpio man but I want another airhead to tell it to me.
His family? Lol, thats a tough one. I have nothing more to say in that case, lol. Just dont put up with nonsense if he doesnt accept the apology. U tried to amend your wrong doing (with the letter) and thats about enough- u cant unsay what was said. The ball is in his court now
Firebird - No reason to get nasty.
Lmao @ airhead, like totally, dude. Xin can choose who she wants to respond to btw and since we are both *airheads* she related to what i was saying, thats all. Im sure she was not disregarding your wise advice, it was just a nod, only in words, lol. Chill, mrfire.
And yes I came HERE to ask Scorpio's THEIR answers. Geeze if you wanted the spotlight just ask. And yes I appreciated your retort.
Posted by WaterCup
Lmao @ airhead, like totally, dude. Xin can choose who she wants to respond to btw and since we are both *airheads* she related to what i was saying, thats all. Im sure she was not disregarding your wise advice, it was just a nod, only in words, lol. Chill, mrfire.
^That. Not sure what happened I replied to Fire, then I replied to you.
Yeah pretty much I was busy watching the videos like DERP!
He must be feeling possessive or something. Air btw talks and responds to everybody, not just u alone. I didnt mean to interfere, my apologies.
Posted by WaterCup
He must be feeling possessive or something. Air btw talks and responds to everybody, not just u alone. I didnt mean to interfere, my apologies.
Maybe he thinks I sexy? 🙂
Oh yeahhh!
Posted by Sunrays
As regards to your OPYou (air) loves to talk. Scorps need their privacy.
Change your ways and accomodate.It is not about "how silly" somones needs appears to you. It is quite black or white. When you are in a relationship then you need to take the other persons needs seriously.
You violated something and it made him upset. He could not let it go and so he is back with the questions.
You apologized, but i hope you did it because you actually UNDERSTAND why that made him upset and what you did wrong according to him.
If you apologized for the sake of it then it will get difficult.
I understand that but I am not just doing it for the sake of it. I do care. Air signs we aren't always that detached you know even though we have a bad rap for it. However, he and I weren't together at the time this happened.
Sunray, that was not in relation to xin's boyfriend, lol- it was directed at mrfire's outburst. Its a forum for god's sake, too many view points and all need a reply- its not a date (geez!). Im still trying to understand scorps myself b4 i throw in the towel
Posted by Sunrays
"He must be feeling possessive or something. Air btw talks and responds to everybody, not just u alone" - I hope that was not a serious observation on your part WaterCup. if so you still dont "understand" 😛Xin - it is not about caring. It is about the values.
+1
Posted by Sunrays
it is a problem of "understanding"
Xin - from your conversation on here it appears that you never paid any attention to the actual answer coming through, hence the frustrated response. FireBird was trying to help.Maybe the songs clue threw you off and yout stopped listening 🙂
+1
Thank you Sunrays.
They say that the Red Tailed Hawk can look directly into the sun.
Yeah, like stinging the keyboard, very scary thought, lol. Im cool with scorps, no problems here
Update: Scorpio is back out of his cave for now. I apologized, and he accepted. I am still wondering what his plan is and why he came back in the first place. He hasn't answered that when I asked him about it. I won't push him for the answer either. Shrouded in mystery? Ok fine. I have no idea what to do right now with him. He's watching me like a hawk though. Tip toeing around, keeping his eyes on me. Anyone have any experience going back to an ex (Scorpio's that means you) and why you would do that and for what reasons? I also am very cautious because I know when Scorpio's feel scorned they get super nasty. I think ill sit up here on my flower and watch him down below before anything else happens. Thoughts? Is he here to devour my soul or is he here because he actually still cares?
Posted by Xin
Update: Scorpio is back out of his cave for now. I apologized, and he accepted. I am still wondering what his plan is and why he came back in the first place. He hasn't answered that when I asked him about it. I won't push him for the answer either. Shrouded in mystery? Ok fine. I have no idea what to do right now with him. He's watching me like a hawk though. Tip toeing around, keeping his eyes on me. Anyone have any experience going back to an ex (Scorpio's that means you) and why you would do that and for what reasons? I also am very cautious because I know when Scorpio's feel scorned they get super nasty. I think ill sit up here on my flower and watch him down below before anything else happens. Thoughts? Is he here to devour my soul or is he here because he actually still cares?
That's it, cutie, he's here to devour your soul because he loves you.
Oh so you hide your first post. Why did you hide it? Got something to say but can't say it? And I'm not watching that! Sounds about right devour my soul because that's what Scorpio's do. I mean do you guys have any "nice" bone in your body? I mean this whole post you've been like a bit rude to a few of us. So you're just making it worse with the assumptions which are proving to be right. I want actual answers not you posting videos. But thank you anyways.
Lmao. Xin is craving for some verbal arse to arse. Mental stimulation munchies, i know the feeling. I doubt you'll get it thou, lol.
Posted by Xin
Oh so you hide your first post. Why did you hide it? Got something to say but can't say it? And I'm not watching that! Sounds about right devour my soul because that's what Scorpio's do. I mean do you guys have any "nice" bone in your body? I mean this whole post you've been like a bit rude to a few of us. So you're just making it worse with the assumptions which are proving to be right. I want actual answers not you posting videos. But thank you anyways.
Xin,
You wanted answers, I gave it to you. Now you are angry. You are angry because you
don't understand my language.
If you fill up your balloon with enough hot air, it will pop.
That's NOT being rude. It's wisdom.
What is rude is insulting wisdom when it is being generously provided, free of cost.
You can choose to sit on your flower if you want to.
Watch the video............. watch the video.... learn from the animals.
I've realized a pattern here- air signs dating scorps are the only ones who can and will stand up to scorps. All ive seen from the other elements is "lapdog syndrome" and a lot of arse kissing. So Xin, maybe he came back bcoz u can challenge him and are able to think (and decide) for yourself. They say scorps like ppl who call them out on their bs, so maybe thats what made him come back for more- the challenge. Just guessing here
I've realized a pattern here- air signs dating scorps are the only ones who can and will stand up to scorps. All ive seen from the other elements is "lapdog syndrome" and a lot of arse kissing. So Xin, maybe he came back bcoz u can challenge him and are able to think (and decide) for yourself. They say scorps like ppl who call them out on their bs, so maybe thats what made him come back for more- the challenge. Just guessing here
Posted by Xin
Oh so you hide your first post. Why did you hide it? Got something to say but can't say it? And I'm not watching that! Sounds about right devour my soul because that's what Scorpio's do. I mean do you guys have any "nice" bone in your body? I mean this whole post you've been like a bit rude to a few of us. So you're just making it worse with the assumptions which are proving to be right. I want actual answers not you posting videos. But thank you anyways.Xin,
You wanted answers, I gave it to you. Now you are angry. You are angry because you
don't understand my language.
If you fill up your balloon with enough hot air, it will pop.
That's NOT being rude. It's wisdom.
What is rude is insulting wisdom when it is being generously provided, free of cost.You can choose to sit on your flower if you want to.
Watch the video............. watch the video.... learn from the animals.
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in stiches..lol
*WAVES*..HI MRFirebird!!! Your wisdom is welcome ANYTIME.
Watercup - I like you *Hugs*
Other people not so much. I think I'm about to ignore a few people in here, just because I don't really have time for negative people. Normally I don't because I like some of the Scorps like R1g0r and Elle. Others won't make the cut.
To the Gem forums away!
And I don't feel like telling someone else in this forum the time. Sure the hell motherfuckin don't.
See my eyes? Roll em.
Posted by Xin
Oh so you hide your first post. Why did you hide it? Got something to say but can't say it? And I'm not watching that! Sounds about right devour my soul because that's what Scorpio's do. I mean do you guys have any "nice" bone in your body? I mean this whole post you've been like a bit rude to a few of us. So you're just making it worse with the assumptions which are proving to be right. I want actual answers not you posting videos. But thank you anyways.Xin,
You wanted answers, I gave it to you. Now you are angry. You are angry because you
don't understand my language.
If you fill up your balloon with enough hot air, it will pop.
That's NOT being rude. It's wisdom.
What is rude is insulting wisdom when it is being generously provided, free of cost.You can choose to sit on your flower if you want to.
Watch the video............. watch the video.... learn from the animals.
in stiches..lol
*WAVES*..HI MRFirebird!!! Your wisdom is welcome ANYTIME.
click to expand
*WAVES BACK*
Hiya Beautiful!,
Love that smile! And thank youuuuuu. 🙂
Just soarin' on the thermal winds. 😉
Posted by Xin
Oh so you hide your first post. Why did you hide it? Got something to say but can't say it? And I'm not watching that! Sounds about right devour my soul because that's what Scorpio's do. I mean do you guys have any "nice" bone in your body? I mean this whole post you've been like a bit rude to a few of us. So you're just making it worse with the assumptions which are proving to be right. I want actual answers not you posting videos. But thank you anyways.Xin,
You wanted answers, I gave it to you. Now you are angry. You are angry because you
don't understand my language.
If you fill up your balloon with enough hot air, it will pop.
That's NOT being rude. It's wisdom.
What is rude is insulting wisdom when it is being generously provided, free of cost.You can choose to sit on your flower if you want to.
Watch the video............. watch the video.... learn from the animals.
in stiches..lol
*WAVES*..HI MRFirebird!!! Your wisdom is welcome ANYTIME.
*WAVES BACK*
Hiya Beautiful!,
Love that smile! And thank youuuuuu. 🙂
Just soarin' on the thermal winds. 😉click to expand
Awww Thank you, and you're welcome!
It sure has been awfully windy lately...lol
Xin, i like u back, sweety.
Thanks for being nice in this post Watercup.
Im ALWAYS nice, lol. Just continue being yourself with whomever u choose to date. I'll hunt u down if u turn up to be an arse licker to the ppl of the sign ur banging, lol. Do u.
Oh hell no, I will never be like that. I just wanted a few opinions from people that lurk in the Scorpio forum that I like and respect. Ill NEVER change. Will always have a smart mouth, sassy ways, and a fiesty ass attitude. I think that is why he liked me in the first place. Ill tell him where to go.
To ask for an opinion or advice is not a bad thing. But to follow any advice that goes against your principles, judgement, etc just to be liked by the advisors or by the person in question is whats pathetic imh. U alone knows what works for u and what doesnt. If that guy doesnt like sassy, tell him to go date a church mouse bcoz sassy is what u r. Its good to know that u r staying true to yourself. I wish u the best in your relationship, i mean that.
Thanks!!! That means a lot. Just a little lost right now as far as how I go about this. He's just staring at me. Like waiting for me to do something! LOL! I have no idea what he wants. I guess in the end ill find out *shrugs*
I know what u mean, lol. I go throu the same thing myself with the scorp im seeing- 1 minute i wanna dump his arse coz he is proving himself to be a pain in mine and the next its a different thought, lol. Its a see-saw. Us air signs dont and cant tolerate anything that needs a lot of work (and causes a headache), we get bored easily and scorps seem to test that intolerance A LOT. Its fun while it lasts thou.
Its like "what, another one of your tests, scorp boy?"...YAWN. It gets old real fast tbh.
Posted by R24
I don't like my name brought up in conversations. Especially by my romantic interest. I can date a guy for months and no one that is close to me will know about it.I definitely wont tell if they are the type to talk on thephone all day and tell whatever they know (I do tell things to these types if I want things known but dont feel like informing errbody'n they mama's too) Why? IDK. I don't get it either. Privacy and secrecy is part of our nature
+20121109
To the Gem forums away!
Yet.....
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Well I thought I would drop by and hang out a bit in the Scorpion den with a few of you who have given me sound advice before.
So as you know I have had an on and off again relationship with a Scorpion for about two years. Im not sure if I told everyone the story but around the end of June a friend of mine who just happens to be a Scorpio also retaliated against my Scorpio and said some things that we talked about to him regarding him. Since then he hasn't spoken to me, until now. I received an email that just said "hi". I contacted him back and he's like yeah I wrote that a month ago. Um no I just got it. Wasn't going to argue. So he told me well you need to take full responsibility for your friends actions and what they said because you told them x, y, z. I didnt know his life was completely private and since he was involved with me friends talk, swap stories, etc. Needless to say that other Scorpio friend of mine is no longer one proving he isn't trustworthy. My Scorpio goes on to tell me he doesn't want to speak with me even though he sent that email. Then I approach and try to state my case, he dismisses me. Then here we are 24 hours later another email. Asking the same thing again to take the blame and he doesn't have anything to say until then. I'm like wtf is going on? Anyone? I left him alone like he said to. I didnt call, write, zero. I walked when he said he wasn't interested. You guys know how I feel about this man. Unfortunately he's got me F'd up more than I should be. And I miss him. But anyways, thoughts?