xomelindabelle
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Will ignoring a Scorpio who hurt you work?
i know some of you may think just telling him that I don't want to interact, but I've done that. It's never worked, it seemed to make him want more contact and to kiss my ass, it was strange.
Posted by ImpulsvThank you, I appreciate that. And you know the damaged history, I told you all of it lol
Do what's best for u. It is true that you said about the damaged past. It will take maturity to heal it n works towards that but it appears although u might be there he is not. So take care of u
I hope one day I won't have these resentments towards him and he'll have some epiphany.
But for now, how do you think freezing a Scorpio out will turn out? I've never done this.
Posted by ImpulsvFeminism level over 9000
It will turn out great for u
That's all that matter
As to his epiphany he may or may never have it in this lifetime. Don't hold ur breath of it occurs u will know n u can act accordingly then
Posted by scorpiothebadassNo, she's a strong Scorpio who is giving me input.Posted by ImpulsvFeminism level over 9000
It will turn out great for u
That's all that matter
As to his epiphany he may or may never have it in this lifetime. Don't hold ur breath of it occurs u will know n u can act accordingly thenclick to expand
What do you suggest, hmm? Do you male Scorpios take hints when ignored?
Posted by HuldraWell DUH. If I were indifferent, of course I wouldn't be posting this. We've been friends for six years. I was only seeking input due to concern that he'd be persistent if I ceased all communication.Posted by xomelindabelleThat. If he didn't have power over you, you wouldn't give a shit about posting a thread like this. Lol
It's that Scorp sun, Cap moon and Pisces rising friend of mine. I had to face reality that he really isn't my friend, he just contacts me when he's lonely. We've got a weird, complicated and damaged past. And I think he believes he has power over me, considering I always used to reply to him; I reply to everyone I consider my friend.
So will ignoring his persistent texts help?
I just think it will better serve us both in the long run if we don't talk.
That's so obvious, I don't even need to know the detailed story or his part of the tale.click to expand
It turns me on. Look we scorpios love to be wanted and we also want to be ignored sometimes it drives us crazy but not so much there is a fine line between that
Posted by scorpiothebadassWell he certainly has sent me texts asking why I'm being "a stranger", but it's just too difficult for me to say anything back right now.
It turns me on. Look we scorpios love to be wanted and we also want to be ignored sometimes it drives us crazy but not so much there is a fine line between that
Whats your sun sign?
I'm an Aries sun but it's not a strong placement; I'm more my Libra moon. And have a few houses in water domains so I have noticed that water signs tend to be what I date and the types that pursue me. Not always, but it happens frequently.
Just act cold but not so cold
Provoke him with sarcasm but know your limits make it fun
And than fuck him after you fuck him tell him to go becauseyou have things to do
Provoke him with sarcasm but know your limits make it fun
And than fuck him after you fuck him tell him to go becauseyou have things to do
Posted by scorpiothebadassLol we've had a vey intimate past, the sex was always great. But I had to distance myself when he started to become a swinger. Because I got feelings. And I just think I need to separate myself even more from him, despite him always trying to worm his way back. I'm not going to be one of many.
Just act cold but not so cold
Provoke him with sarcasm but know your limits make it fun
And than fuck him after you fuck him tell him to go becauseyou have things to do
Posted by flowingwaterIndeed, I've seen a lot of Scorps go mad for Aquas because of this lol
no,
being an aqua, aloof is my first and last name.
I don't have to try to act detached; I just am.
I was me, easily got irritated with severe possessiveness.
the more I ran, the more he chased. 7 years friendship 7 years cat/mouse game.
only since your an aries the power struggle does not exist.
as for me, making the wind his is all he wanted.
trust me the pain and agony is not worth it. just be honest with him.
And he does send more texts to get my attention but he's gotta get the point eventually. He's got plenty of other girls to bug, don't come after me pretending we're friends trying to keep you're pinchers in me, you know? Lol
My Aries sun isn't super dominant, I behave more like my Libra moon. So I understand your need to do your own thing and have your alone time as an Aqua; it's the airy way 😛
The times I did allow myself to be vulnerable to him, he slowly but surely would retreat. So it's like seriously? Not into it the mind games; no thanks.
I've been honest with him and said we shouldn't keep in contact because i didn't find the connection conducive to either of us. He'd comply then come back again. So that doesn't work.
A swinger... he's married?
*confused* 😕
*confused* 😕
Posted by xomelindabelleYes, it will work. I had a Scorpio friend that secretly hate me. She would constantly copy the things I do. Make jokes that were actually insults, about me. Then act as if nothing happened. I really started spazzing out when she started following me everywhere. When I would talk to certain people, she would. She started talking to my friends. Just being creepy. So, ignore her. I don't hang around her and I never call her. When I see her at work, I don't even acknowledge that she's there. she just use to do a lot of under handed, backstabbing shit. For example, she would say we should have a meeting at work and talk bs. Then when we have the meeting she wouldn't say anything. Then laugh and say that we all sound like a bunch of kids... It's much more, but it's too much to say. Yes, ignore. It always work. It'll drive him crazy.
It's that Scorp sun, Cap moon and Pisces rising friend of mine. I had to face reality that he really isn't my friend, he just contacts me when he's lonely. We've got a weird, complicated and damaged past. And I think he believes he has power over me, considering I always used to reply to him; I reply to everyone I consider my friend.
So will ignoring his persistent texts help?
I just think it will better serve us both in the long run if we don't talk.
If he doesn't get the hint, then tell him to leave you alone. You're done.
Posted by xomelindabelleWell if you backed up your words all the way through he'd be gone.
i know some of you may think just telling him that I don't want to interact, but I've done that. It's never worked, it seemed to make him want more contact and to kiss my ass, it was strange.
Block, ignore and walk away without any reaction is what will do it.
However, I see right through this b.s.
You are enjoying the "strange" and coming here to tell us about it.
Posted by xomelindabelle But for now, how do you think freezing a Scorpio out will turn out?I've never done this.
Posted by xomelindabelle
i know some of you may think just telling him that I don't want to interact, but I've done that.click to expand
Posted by Montgomerylol No, I apologize for the improperly used phrased; he's not bound to anyone, legally or emotionally. He simply indulges in relations with countless women, and that's fine. I just don't wish to be a part of that.
A swinger... he's married?
*confused* 😕
Posted by TaniwhaHow about before demonizing someone's actions, try peeling back the layers and seeing what's underneath first? Perhaps I may be partial to his attention and it may validate me emotionally. And that's a serious thing to admit, especially to yourself.
If you don't want anything to do with him then TELL HIM you don't want anything to do with him.
I bet you won't cut it off though, you will play childish games like' ignoring' him to see if he takes the bait because you secretly love the tension. The emotional validation that you get from his Scorpy intensity being focused on you is like heroin, it doesn't matter if its good or bad. You just love the attention.
But did you ever consider why? I'm torn between very confusing feelings for this person. One minute I'm feeling righteous and prepared to sever all ties, and the next I notice myself becoming enveloped in anticipation of his contact. In reality, I miss this person a lot. I can admit that openly and wholeheartedly. And I don't approach this in a healthy manner, obviously. I don't want to hurt him or manipulate him in anyway, shape or form. I just want my confused to mind to make a solid decision about something that no longer serves me or this person.
I don't know if this is my indecisive, overly-romantic Libra moon, or my addict brain -- yes, I'm an addict. I didn't know whether or not I should divulge something like that on a public forum but I felt like I needed to in this situation. I may be free from dangerous active addiction, however I'm beginning to notice that I'm not free from my compulsive, character defects.
It may appear weak for me to post something like this, but I really do just want to find a solution to this. Now it's to the point of a desperate plea, because I don't want to hurt or lose him, and yet I also don't want to be played a fool and be caught in a game between two confused people.
Posted by LetltBYou made these particular sentences bold, and yet you didn't notice that I'm saying two different things; I said I'd never blocked this person out of my life for good, but I have communicated with him in the past and said that I didn't want to continue our friendship or whatever our connection was. It worked briefly, and then he came back.Posted by xomelindabelle But for now, how do you think freezing a Scorpio out will turn out?I've never done this.Posted by xomelindabelle
i know some of you may think just telling him that I don't want to interact, but I've done that.click to expand
Posted by LetltBYou see right through this 'bs', ok fantastic. But how about you consider that I may actually want to end things with this person? The feeling I get from this confusion and toxicity reminds me of Fiona Apple's song, Shadowboxer. That is the only way I can explain it.Posted by xomelindabelleWell if you backed up your words all the way through he'd be gone.
i know some of you may think just telling him that I don't want to interact, but I've done that. It's never worked, it seemed to make him want more contact and to kiss my ass, it was strange.
Block, ignore and walk away without any reaction is what will do it.
However, I see right through this b.s.
You are enjoying the "strange" and coming here to tell us about it.click to expand
Posted by IrresistableScorpNo offense taken, I can deal with the reality.
Why don't you just come out and ask him wtf he wants? Just come out and call him on his BS as you see it. Don't listen to his BS when he gets offended. Keep your convictions that he's engaging in BS. Lay the law down and then let it go. Blocked.
Not to offend, but you are acting weak. Act strong.
I do need to make a solid decision about this; a friend of mine just shared with me recently that freezing her Scorpio ex out worked eventually, so I simply wanted insight with that. I clearly just need to be stronger in my convictions, as you said.
That came out harsher than intended, but whatever. Take it for what it's worth. Or not.
I messed up the quote:
*sigh* what part of the first response from Impulsv did you miss? This is exactly why he can play these "games" with you. Focus on yourself and what works best for to you. ..."He keep coming back, he keeps texting me..." And? Ah yes, I didn't realize you have absolutely no control over your fingers texting him back and responding to him. That's right, you have absolutely way of blocking him and ignoring him. Hmph.
You don't come off as weak for making this thread because many people need feedback to sort stuff out. No one is born "knowing". It's your p*ssyfooting around and lack I personal accountability that is irksome and comes off as less then serious about this "game" that "he's playing".
Posted by xomelindabelle
How about before demonizing someone's actions, try peeling back the layers and seeing what's underneath first? Perhaps I may be partial to his attention and it may validate me emotionally. And that's a serious thing to admit, especially to yourself.
But did you ever consider why? I'm torn between very confusing feelings for this person. One minute I'm feeling righteous and prepared to sever all ties, and the next I notice myself becoming enveloped in anticipation of his contact. In reality, I miss this person a lot. I can admit that openly and wholeheartedly. And I don't approach this in a healthy manner, obviously. I don't want to hurt him or manipulate him in anyway, shape or form. I just want my confused to mind to make a solid decision about something that no longer serves me or this person.
I don't know if this is my indecisive, overly-romantic Libra moon, or my addict brain -- yes, I'm an addict. I didn't know whether or not I should divulge something like that on a public forum but I felt like I needed to in this situation. I may be free from dangerous active addiction, however I'm beginning to notice that I'm not free from my compulsive, character defects.
It may appear weak for me to post something like this, but I really do just want to find a solution to this. Now it's to the point of a desperate plea, because I don't want to hurt or lose him, and yet I also don't want to be played a fool and be caught in a game between two confused people.
*sigh* what part of the first response from Impulsv did you miss? This is exactly why he can play these "games" with you. Focus on yourself and what works best for to you. ..."He keep coming back, he keeps texting me..." And? Ah yes, I didn't realize you have absolutely no control over your fingers texting him back and responding to him. That's right, you have absolutely way of blocking him and ignoring him. Hmph.
You don't come off as weak for making this thread because many people need feedback to sort stuff out. No one is born "knowing". It's your p*ssyfooting around and lack I personal accountability that is irksome and comes off as less then serious about this "game" that "he's playing".
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by xomelindabellePosted by Taniwha*sigh* what part of the first response from Impulsv did you miss? This is exactly why he can play these "games" with you. Focus on yourself and what works best for to you. ..."He keep coming back, he keeps texting me..." And? Ah yes, I didn't realize you have absolutely no control over your fingers texting him back and responding to him. That's right, you have absolutely way of blocking him and ignoring him. Hmph.
How about before demonizing someone's actions, try peeling back the layers and seeing what's underneath first? Perhaps I may be partial to his attention and it may validate me emotionally. And that's a serious thing to admit, especially to yourself.
But did you ever consider why? I'm torn between very confusing feelings for this person. One minute I'm feeling righteous and prepared to sever all ties, and the next I notice myself becoming enveloped in anticipation of his contact. In reality, I miss this person a lot. I can admit that openly and wholeheartedly. And I don't approach this in a healthy manner, obviously. I don't want to hurt him or manipulate him in anyway, shape or form. I just want my confused to mind to make a solid decision about something that no longer serves me or this person.
I don't know if this is my indecisive, overly-romantic Libra moon, or my addict brain -- yes, I'm an addict. I didn't know whether or not I should divulge something like that on a public forum but I felt like I needed to in this situation. I may be free from dangerous active addiction, however I'm beginning to notice that I'm not free from my compulsive, character defects.
It may appear weak for me to post something like this, but I really do just want to find a solution to this. Now it's to the point of a desperate plea, because I don't want to hurt or lose him, and yet I also don't want to be played a fool and be caught in a game between two confused people.click to expand
You don't come off as weak for making this thread because many people need feedback to sort stuff out. No one is born "knowing". It's your p*ssyfooting around and lack I personal accountability that is irksome and comes off as less
^^ I don't have a lack of personal accountability, I know my part; everyone has a part. I allow myself to get caught up in the confusion, when I know the truth is right in front of my face. And I romanticize and make excuses for things when I shouldn't be. I know how that may appear, and it's completely indulgent; keeps me in my 'dreamland' perspective. I have not responded to him and I didn't plan to for awhile, however it seems to be a unanimous thought that he just needs a straight answer.
Posted by FrostAndBite😆! Busted. I have difficulty with Leeb placements. That's my issue and not the OPs though.Posted by PhoenixRisingThis response really tickled me for some reason. Maybe cause I see you saying it while rolling your eyes from behind a tea cup.
That came out harsher than intended, but whatever. Take it for what it's worth. Or not.click to expand
Posted by xomelindabelleActually, let's say that I did originally have a lack of 'personal accountability', because I didn't want to admit that I too am playing a game. Hoping that one day these games will get his attention and get him to bend to what I desire. Truth is, they won't. Ever. And this is all just entirely unhealthy. I don't really think that he and I can come back from this, no matter how much he pretends that we're cool and still friends, I know he's got his guard up around me a lot for a reason, and vice-versa. And I just don't see time healing it at this point.
^^ I don't have a lack of personal accountability, I know my part; everyone has a part. I allow myself to get caught up in the confusion, when I know the truth is right in front of my face. And I romanticize and make excuses for things when I shouldn't be. I know how that may appear, and it's completely indulgent; keeps me in my 'dreamland' perspective. I have not responded to him and I didn't plan to for awhile, however it seems to be a unanimous thought that he just needs a straight answer.
Posted by PhoenixRisingI did not take offense, it's all good. I know how frustrating Leeb placements can be. Trust me, I live with the mind of Leeb moon! lol It feels insane sometimes, and I wish I could be as solid as Scorpio placements are. And I often times wish my Aries sun was stronger, decisions would be more clear and speedy in that case.Posted by FrostAndBite😆! Busted. I have difficulty with Leeb placements. That's my issue and not the OPs though.Posted by PhoenixRisingThis response really tickled me for some reason. Maybe cause I see you saying it while rolling your eyes from behind a tea cup.
That came out harsher than intended, but whatever. Take it for what it's worth. Or not.click to expand
Posted by xomelindabelleThat was my point. However, your posts read as though this is still an issue, which is why I referred to the present. The part I highlighted, you weren't speaking is the past tense after all.Posted by xomelindabelleActually, let's say that I did originally have a lack of 'personal accountability', because I didn't want to admit that I too am playing a game. Hoping that one day these games will get his attention and get him to bend to what I desire. Truth is, they won't. Ever. And this is all just entirely unhealthy.
^^ I don't have a lack of personal accountability, I know my part; everyone has a part. I allow myself to get caught up in the confusion, when I know the truth is right in front of my face. And I romanticize and make excuses for things when I shouldn't be. I know how that may appear, and it's completely indulgent; keeps me in my 'dreamland' perspective. I have not responded to him and I didn't plan to for awhile, however it seems to be a unanimous thought that he just needs a straight answer.click to expand
If you say that it's (e.g. the mental back and forth) no longer an issue then prove it. Do something with this new assessment of yourself and try to stick with it. Don't beat yourself up for doing what is best for you if distance is what you truly want. Your other post in this thread suggest something else, but we won't go there.
I agree, you need to let him know where you stand though about wanting no contact and then move on from there. Scorps understand silence and as long as you don't have a psycho on your hands, it will be respected---but It may be tested because your behaviour in the past demonstrated you couldn't stick to your word.
n I was referring to lack of personal accountability I meant this:
Posted by xomelindabelle
... I think he believes he has power over me, considering I always used to reply to him...Posted by xomelindabelleDistance doesn't sound like cut off/stopped talking to me. You state he "always trying to worm his way back" well the mere fact that you created this thread and another one about him suggest that he was successful---because you gave in. No one forced you to reply. You tried to paint it as though he is the only one at fault here for your dynamic.
Lol we've had a vey intimate past, the sex was always great. But I had to distance myself when he started to become a swinger. Because I got feelings. And I just think I need to separate myself even more from him, despite him always trying to worm his way back. I'm not going to be one of many.click to expand
We can't control what another person will do, but you can try your hardest to make sure the door is shut if that is what you want. If you didn't, don't make it all about the other person.
I know you addressed this above, but I just wanted to make that clear. Scorp men get quite the bashing on this board. Not saying there aren't a few psychos that happen to be born to the sign, but be balanced in your presentation of the situation. Leeb Moon right?
Forgive the typos. I just can't with this phone....
The friggin sex. It's always the sexual connection that ties these things up in frustration. smh Let it go and move on. Don't look back and don't continue to become entangled with him. Ignore means ignore, set the calls to go straight to voicemail, you can block texts...they make apps for that. I'm a Pisces woman and can tell you how to disappear...easily.
Posted by PhoenixRisingIt is indeed a present issue, but I'm aware of what I need to do to find peace within the situation. And it just sucks, to be honest. I think I care way more about this than he. And it's just painful and draining at this point. I think he really isn't fussed either way. Granted, he does text me for a period of time, but he has no problem disappearing on me for months. Which is why I don't want to tell myself that someone cares just because they appear sPosted by xomelindabelleThat was my point. However, your posts read as though this is still an issue, which is why I referred to the present. The part I highlighted, you weren't speaking is the past tense after all.Posted by xomelindabelleActually, let's say that I did originally have a lack of 'personal accountability', because I didn't want to admit that I too am playing a game. Hoping that one day these games will get his attention and get him to bend to what I desire. Truth is, they won't. Ever. And this is all just entirely unhealthy.
^^ I don't have a lack of personal accountability, I know my part; everyone has a part. I allow myself to get caught up in the confusion, when I know the truth is right in front of my face. And I romanticize and make excuses for things when I shouldn't be. I know how that may appear, and it's completely indulgent; keeps me in my 'dreamland' perspective. I have not responded to him and I didn't plan to for awhile, however it seems to be a unanimous thought that he just needs a straight answer.
If you say that it's (e.g. the mental back and forth) no longer an issue then prove it. Do something with this new assessment of yourself and try to stick with it. Don't beat yourself up for doing what is best for you if distance is what you truly want. Your other post in this thread suggest something else, but we won't go there.
I agree, you need to let him know where you stand though about wanting no contact and then move on from there. Scorps understand silence and as long as you don't have a psycho on your hands, it will be respected---but It may be tested because your behaviour in the past demonstrated you couldn't stick to your word.click to expand
sporadically and ferociously when they want to. It's very difficult for me to let go and I wish it wasn't.
Yes, I want him, I think that's painfully obvious from posts. But, it's just not going to happen. This is why I think the distance is necessary, as well as being honest with how it is affecting me. And why I don't want to be involved in this anymore. No matter how I may feel about him, I actually don't want to anymore. I need to breakaway.
Yes, I want him, I think that's painfully obvious from posts. But, it's just not going to happen. This is why I think the distance is necessary, as well as being honest with how it is affecting me. And why I don't want to be involved in this anymore. No matter how I may feel about him, I actually don't want to anymore. I need to breakaway.
Posted by PhoenixRisingObviously, I did give in. I was very passive and succumbed to him quite easily. My intrigued with this person became all too consuming. So I did address this, I have a huge part in this. He's not the only one.
As well, when I was referring to lack of personal accountability I meant this:
Posted by xomelindabelle
... I think he believes he has power over me, considering I always used to reply to him...Posted by xomelindabelleDistance doesn't sound like cut off/stopped talking to me. You state he "always trying to worm his way back" well the mere fact that you created this thread and another one about him suggest that he was successful---because you gave in. No one forced you to reply. You tried to paint it as though he is the only one at fault here for your dynamic.
Lol we've had a vey intimate past, the sex was always great. But I had to distance myself when he started to become a swinger. Because I got feelings. And I just think I need to separate myself even more from him, despite him always trying to worm his way back. I'm not going to be one of many.
We can't control what another person will do, but you can try your hardest to make sure the door is shut if that is what you want. If you didn't, don't make it all about the other person.
I know you addressed this above, but I just wanted to make that clear. Scorp men get quite the bashing on this board. Not saying there aren't a few psychos that happen to be born to the sign, but be balanced in your presentation of the situation. Leeb Moon right?click to expand
This problem will continue to resurface if I don't allow myself some closure. I feel the refusal to let go in my mind and heart, and it's just so extremely silly. I don't understand why I can't be stronger and stand firm in my initial desire to end it all. I'm having a very emotional reaction to this right now, clearly lol but it's good. I really needed this input. The door needs to be closed.
I actually really like Scorpio men, I just dealt with this whole situation incorrectly. I can see all perspectives thanks to my Libra moon. I',m angry and righteous one minute, and t
hen feeling tremendous compassion for the other person; I never feel good about the aftershock of my erratic behavior and what I've said to or about other people involved in these sorts of situations.
Posted by FrostAndBiteIt bothers me. My anger jump from 1 to 20 in seconds with Leebs/Leeb placements. I have to catch myself being short or impatient with them because I know it's not intentional on their part. With the few I have in my life I've learned to simply repeat what they say back to them and let it marinate for a few to get my point across:Posted by PhoenixRisingLols. I grew up with a libra mom and seem to attract libra moons and Suns like flies to honey. I getcha. though since I grew up with her, it's like an endearing albeit annoying familiarity. Lol.Posted by FrostAndBite😆! Busted. I have difficulty with Leeb placements. That's my issue and not the OPs though.Posted by PhoenixRisingThis response really tickled me for some reason. Maybe cause I see you saying it while rolling your eyes from behind a tea cup.
That came out harsher than intended, but whatever. Take it for what it's worth. Or not.
I have said on occasion that libra moons make me want to throat punch them. My nasty little cancer moon temper. :Oclick to expand
"Ahhhh, you just heard the wishy-washy bullsh*t you just spit at me too huh? Good. Now let's try this again."
Perhaps I could work on how I deliver that too 😛
Posted by PhoenixRisingJust try to imagine having that sort of thinking embedded into you. That wishy-washy, looks like you don't have a backbone and want to please everybody brain. It's no picnic lolPosted by FrostAndBiteIt bothers me. My anger jump from 1 to 20 in seconds with Leebs/Leeb placements. I have to catch myself being short or impatient with them because I know it's not intentional on their part. With the few I have in my life I've learned to simply repeat what they say back to them and let it marinate for a few to get my point across:Posted by PhoenixRisingLols. I grew up with a libra mom and seem to attract libra moons and Suns like flies to honey. I getcha. though since I grew up with her, it's like an endearing albeit annoying familiarity. Lol.Posted by FrostAndBite😆! Busted. I have difficulty with Leeb placements. That's my issue and not the OPs though.Posted by PhoenixRisingThis response really tickled me for some reason. Maybe cause I see you saying it while rolling your eyes from behind a tea cup.
That came out harsher than intended, but whatever. Take it for what it's worth. Or not.
I have said on occasion that libra moons make me want to throat punch them. My nasty little cancer moon temper. :O
"Ahhhh, you just heard the wishy-washy bullsh*t you just spit at me too huh? Good. Now let's try this again."
Perhaps I could work on how I deliver that too 😛click to expand
Posted by xomelindabelleHmph. I'm reading this in very different way now. So, this thread is really about "If I ice him out and just disappear will he feel as sh*tty as I've felt. More importantly, will it make him aware of how much he's hurt me and f*cked up"? Those balanced scales goes both way. The desire for fairness even if it's about delivering pain.
It is indeed a present issue, but I'm aware of what I need to do to find peace within the situation. And it just sucks, to be honest. I think I care way more about this than he. And it's just painful and draining at this point. I think he really isn't fussed either way. Granted, he does text me for a period of time, but he has no problem disappearing on me for months.
It makes sense why you're so worried about him and how it will affect him vs just doing what you need to find peace and move on. Was this what you meant about not wanting to manipulate him?
I'm okay with being wrong about this^^^but it screams like something else than what you presented in the OP.
Posted by xomelindabelleDon't make the mistake of assuming what a Scorp is feeling. Most Scorps are very skilled at guarding their feelings and controlling their emotions.
I think I care way more about this than he. And it's just painful...I think he really isn't fussed either way.click to expand
It may also be true that he couldn't give two f*cks, but never assume. Especially since that seems to be what has you in an emotional tizzy.
You may not share, but I'll ask anyway. What did he do to set this all in motion? You seem to be...quite smitten (—) when you last posted about him.
I know, aren't a delightful ball of fucking confusion? lol I confuse myself sometimes, honestly. Being so utterly torn between my feelings.
That is absolutely what's real the core of my original post; I just hate admitting to myself that I have deep feelings involved. Well, I don't know if they're extremely deep but I do know that my feelings can be easily manipulated by him. I never want him to know that.
Yes, that is precisely what I meant. The last thing that I wish to do is hurt another person, but I'm sure I have. A lot of the time, I'm oblivious to it, my mind is in a thousand different places at once sometimes, lost in the abyss of wanting to keep everyone happy. And that includes myself, obviously. I really do feel like my mind never stops sometimes. It's difficult to ground myself and make the solid decisions I continuously desire. I flip-flop back and forth, unsure of what to do with unhealthy situations that include people I've had a connection with. This tendency drives me crazy, I'm sure just reading about it is a headache! lol
That's true, I don't really know what he's feeling. He never tells me lol on the other thread about him, I mentioned how he'll tell me he misses me, wants to hear from me more, then vanishes. I've always been intrigued by the more confusing, emotionally unavailable types. Perhaps it's because that's all I knew when it came to males in my life? I don't really know. But I can easily get wrapped in mystery, which is really just him guarding himself. He leaves me enamored and bewildered. I suppose that's a big reason there's still a pull towards him for me.
Well, we met six years ago, and we connected instantly as friends. Similar interests in music, movies, art, we're both very expressive people emotionally. But in very different ways. Perhaps the differences drew us to each other?
Anyway, the point is it was always easy to talk to and connect with him. And when he would contact me, he had a way of making it feel like he felt connected to me too. But it could just be convenience, I don't know. In all the years I've known him, I've never seen him get deeply vulnerable. Except during a few private moments where we talked in the dark, was interesting lol but I enjoyed it. And it was after we were intimate.
But among everyone else and me publically, he's always goofy, friendly and nonchalant.
I suppose what left me so hurt when was when he chose to bed other women; it felt like he detached from me.
That is absolutely what's real the core of my original post; I just hate admitting to myself that I have deep feelings involved. Well, I don't know if they're extremely deep but I do know that my feelings can be easily manipulated by him. I never want him to know that.
Yes, that is precisely what I meant. The last thing that I wish to do is hurt another person, but I'm sure I have. A lot of the time, I'm oblivious to it, my mind is in a thousand different places at once sometimes, lost in the abyss of wanting to keep everyone happy. And that includes myself, obviously. I really do feel like my mind never stops sometimes. It's difficult to ground myself and make the solid decisions I continuously desire. I flip-flop back and forth, unsure of what to do with unhealthy situations that include people I've had a connection with. This tendency drives me crazy, I'm sure just reading about it is a headache! lol
That's true, I don't really know what he's feeling. He never tells me lol on the other thread about him, I mentioned how he'll tell me he misses me, wants to hear from me more, then vanishes. I've always been intrigued by the more confusing, emotionally unavailable types. Perhaps it's because that's all I knew when it came to males in my life? I don't really know. But I can easily get wrapped in mystery, which is really just him guarding himself. He leaves me enamored and bewildered. I suppose that's a big reason there's still a pull towards him for me.
Well, we met six years ago, and we connected instantly as friends. Similar interests in music, movies, art, we're both very expressive people emotionally. But in very different ways. Perhaps the differences drew us to each other?
Anyway, the point is it was always easy to talk to and connect with him. And when he would contact me, he had a way of making it feel like he felt connected to me too. But it could just be convenience, I don't know. In all the years I've known him, I've never seen him get deeply vulnerable. Except during a few private moments where we talked in the dark, was interesting lol but I enjoyed it. And it was after we were intimate.
But among everyone else and me publically, he's always goofy, friendly and nonchalant.
I suppose what left me so hurt when was when he chose to bed other women; it felt like he detached from me.
He continues to keep an upbeat, unaffected front with me everytime we chat as if we were never intimate. That's bugs me. And isn't that out of character for a Scorp? I want him to let go a little, but I think he doesn't feel like he can. Which I don't fully understand, because I'd have to hurt him to make him feel so guarded. And he does not vocalize any feelings about me anymore. Just the 'I miss you'. And 'let's hang out!'. As I said, very light, nonchalant comments.
God, my thoughts are SO scattered. I need an anchor!! lol
Posted by FrostAndBiteI could see that. It just throws me off when he does that, then feels the need to keep up contact if I don't matter that much. But as Phoenix said, I shouldn't assume.Posted by xomelindabelleActually I've done this a ton in the past. One guy I went from staring at with 'do me' eyes every day for months and then switched to looking straight through him just about overnight. Mainly because I still felt something for a few months afterward and consciously treating him as if he was any other acquaintance helped me fake it till I made it and really did feel nothing.
He continues to keep an upbeat, unaffected front with me everytime we chat as if we were never intimate. That's bugs me. And isn't that out of character for a Scorp?
Either way, analyzing him does you absolutely no good. How is thinking about his feelings going to help clarify yours ay this juncture in the relationship? Move regardless of his direction.click to expand
I'm just going to do what I need to.
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