Can a taurus man dominate Fire women

Hey,

I am a taurus man with a knack for fire women. The Problem is, that they are naturally more way more

assertive and energetic than me, therefore they are more masculine than me. I am also pretty passive and mellow. After a while they start taking harge and they boss me around. I dont accept that, I totally freak out

and attack them pretty violently (metaphorically speaking). I can hold my own, I am witty I am just not

in beast mode. I enhoy being dominant and rapey in the bedroom though.



Do I have to outman fire women with energy, aggression etc? Do they secretly want to submit to a strong man? I cannot be that man, when I am passive and mellow right?

Or it me? Do I have to get in touch with my masculine side? Is passivity and laziness weaknesses I have to overcome? I feel zero aggression in me, yet gravitate towards metal, mma and people tell me that I have an axe murderer aura, that I seem to have supressed aggressions. I am numb and passive in general.I feel like Kevin Spacey in American Beauty. I also gravitate towards high energy fire women, even though that doesnt feel complimentary to my energies.

I also cant handle it, when they yell or boss me around. thats another sign for weak manhood.

What is my Problem?

American Beauty is a great movie... I don’t feel like my Taurus needs to outman me.. he’s assertive, I really like that .. I wouldn’t exactly call him aggressive cuz I have dealt with men that are very aggressive- he doesn’t come close to that.. I’ll submit to my man if he submits to me as well .. as an Aries woman, I can be bossy sometimes.. I don’t mean to be 🙈 lol nothing wrong with being mellow

Most of my experiences have been with fire women. It's not necessarily about being more masculine than them or being more aggressive, but more about staying firm about your needs and showing them you can't be pushed around when the time calls for it. Fire women are naturally more reactive, impulsive, and extroverted so they'll voice their opinions and actions way more than us Taurus folk, but as long you remain communicative with them and not be a push over, they'll respect that about you. You've got to earn your respect with them and not fold or show weakness, but rather show assertiveness and be the one to ground them. When they see that you're reliable and mentally strong, that tends to appeal to them. They like strong character.

Posted by Chang
Sags only

Yes and no



A sag woman will respect a Taurus man and his masculinity. Naturally submissive to a Taurus man.

Dominate ? Not quite sure bout that.

You ain't bout to beat her ass and have her stick around

I happen to adore admire and respect Taurus Men.

I enjoy them.

Also, think about what you are asking a woman to submit to?

Do you have your stuff together ?

Do you have a job?

Income?

Your own place?

What are you bringing to the table?

Or do you want her to submit just because you have a penis between your legs.

For any woman, she will submit to what she respects.

Fire women here (sag) with a Taurus man

when I first have sex with my Taurus it was my birthday, we had been talking and hanging out socially for 2 months. he took charge. he was aggressive but not in a grab your neck or slap you kind of way. but he had pinned me on my back and took control while I just got to enjoy.

that is all you need to do, fire signs are no calm they are a wild fire, they are rather restless people because of all the action they take for themselves so when they are FOCED to just sit back and enjoy that is really nice... although they will try and push back, its in our nature. don't let them (unless they say stop)

now fast forward 6 month into our relationship, and me still learning about him and his personality traits. he never really took advantage like that again, I started to get used to him always laying on his back, kiss forever, caress each other forever which feels amazing..... but he would not make the first move towards action. I don't have enough patients for that so I ways end up over him and having my way, which is nice because i get what i want.... but it became to routine for me and i thought to myself "don't you want to do anything for yourself?" .... it started to become really boring for me and as a fire sign i should never get bored. that's a bad thing because we are usually very easily entertained people..... it also started making me a little insecure, i wanted to feel wanted AF. i want to feel like you cant control your desire and you have to have me! i mean who doesn't.....so yes you need to be un-lazy. sex is a workout/Cardio.... so you need to put some work into it. ALWAYS.

But iv been with him for a year now, Bulls are amazing signs and i love who he is as a man. so opposite yet everything my moon and venus need. We are past this part, I have opened him up to new things they he would have never tried on his own and just by being honest and communicative with him he put effort into it.

my suggestion is that If your not into something your fire is suggesting you have to just say "im not into that kinda thing" - that what he did for me, yeah it was a bummer at first after I accepted and got over it. I don't want him to do something he isnt into. and if there is something that you can get into without being turned off DO IT. if you want to take more control for her all try the simple act of don't let her over you, above you, on top of you - Face to face is also really nice. (dog style is fun but whats the connection when i cant see your face?) for me eye contact is a thing. she ill push to be in control but honestly she wants you to stop her. that is all you need in my opinion..... you don't have to be a dominatrix.



just based off my and my Taurus he is very private about his feelings and so calm most of the time that is can only be assumed that at some point he will explode with anger or aggression. but I don't think that means sexually. i think that's an emotional thing, you are men of few words. its clearly hard for you to express yourself in words so sometimes it explodes out of you especially if you pushed at times.

i believe that me and my Taurus work so well because (A) we have read and observed personality traits to give ourselves a better understanding of who we are outspokenly. also i think he likes me because im very motivational, i take risks and don't live in my comfort zone, i think that can be inspiring sometimes for Taurus only because you guys can be very stuck in your confrot zone and safe place and we push you to be or do things and you would do otherwise. but you guys are also good for us because you keep up protected so you bring light to our risks when they are bad choices. at least for me.

i don't know. hope this helps. i relate you your post as the opposing end.

you can change a fire sign. they don't like that.

also you need to be more unlazy otherwise it will be too routine and boring. sex is suppose to be a workout, your suppose to put some work into it.



im a fire (sag) and I've been with my Taurus for a year now.

the first time we had sex it was my birthday and he pinned me on my back and had fun with me. that was pretty unforgettable and amazing for me. i considered that assertive and dominating enough for me.

fast forward into our relationship and he was hardly ever like that again unless we were on substances.

he would kiss and caress me forever and that would really get me going but he would never make the first move, and me, being a fire.i would get impatent and eventually just climb over him and have my way. it was nice for me because regardless i get what i want but i wanted him to be in control and not me. im already a restless person in my normal life, always doing things for myself and taking action, keeping busy and go go go. sometimes i want to be out of control. i want to be forced to relax and enjoy. but me i naturally don't know how to allow that so ill push back and i want someone to Force me to just relax and enjoy.

can you do that. because that should be enough and as far as aggressive ness, kinky, or contributing things. if your not into it then you need to just say im not into that. my Taurus told me and although its sometimes disappointing its whatever and i get over it. but if you can do something for her that she likes without getting turned off then you should once in a while. catch her off guard. smack her butt, squeeze her hip in your hand, hold her down by her arms or n

Its just that I am a pretty vanilla guy and so are my family and my friends. I have never ever been around hot headed people.



I dont know hot to behave when people yell. Should I take this serious? Is this unacceptable behavior?

Should I defuse it with humor? Or am I better of when I take it not serious?

One time an aries friend yelled and bossed me around, and I went into beastmode, I totally attacked nuk every button he has. At the end I was the bad guy in everbodys eyes.

Last week I tried a new approach, another aries friend got really loud and told me we will have a serious problem. I replied thats okay I like you anyway. He immediately calmed down and worked everything out.



I have to not take it personal and stay grounded. that and little bit wit might be enough to deal with that.

I never knew that you can be persistent and demanding (in a good way) during negotiations and discussions. I picture new york like this. Blunt hard chargers who rarely budge and fight hard for their clients. Any sensitive guy will be eaten by the sharks. Thats how I picture it.



So I get a bit self conscious when my aries dominates all of the sudden the discussion, because she just keeps charging. Gotta try that too. I had a discussion with her today, I said no that subject is of the table. She replied : "Thats why put it back on the table". WTF is that? I will try that too, I like that.



I feel challenged as a man, what do I bring to the table? Do I put up with shit? I cant tell yet, what is

acceptable what not, what should I laugh of, what not.

continued----



i don't know im just making suggestions.



i love my Taurus and i try really hard to understand him and his boundaries sexually and emotionally.

i do thing for someone who does not understand your personality traits that would seem like the aggressive tip in the bed. because you are calm, seem masculine. iv noticed that Taurus puff there chests out when they stand, they make eye contact, they don't say much and they are very protective and a bit controlling so yeah that would make a girl think you might be rough in the sack.

but i think your more prone to explode emotionally and not sexually. your not really good at putting thought into words. you don't do a good job communicating your feelings or needs. you seem to suppress that or try and ignore that but in a relationship in order for things to work information needs to be provided to one another and sometimes you explode that because you need it to be known. iv seen that with my Taurus and although i wish he could just say the things he wants i accept that its not easy for him to find his voice.

so.. i love my Taurus. i think he loves me because im a risk taker, because im confident in my choices, because i say what i want and because i am passionate about understanding all things. i think he can appreciate me that i try to motivate him and i try to provide him perspective. i can be controlling and i know that is a negative but luckily he is suborn and he doesn't do it if he is sure he doesn't want it. and i have to accept that. but if he listens and can appreciate my opinion i think he can find a at time that i have points to be made and can provide a better understanding at the risks worth making.

and he is so opposite. of me, he protects me from making be choices the same way i push him to take risks. he is calm with my wild fire heart and he is loving when im used to being an lone ranger. hes sincere like me, and genuine like me. he is hard working like me. a good person. and those are things i love the most about him and i.

so good luck.

hope it helps.

i just really connected with your post as the opposite .

^ cliffnotes

Posted by Parkourler
Its just that I am a pretty vanilla guy and so are my family and my friends. I have never ever been around hot headed people.



I dont know hot to behave when people yell. Should I take this serious? Is this unacceptable behavior?

Should I defuse it with humor? Or am I better of when I take it not serious?

One time an aries friend yelled and bossed me around, and I went into beastmode, I totally attacked nuk every button he has. At the end I was the bad guy in everbodys eyes.

Last week I tried a new approach, another aries friend got really loud and told me we will have a serious problem. I replied thats okay I like you anyway. He immediately calmed down and worked everything out.



I have to not take it personal and stay grounded. that and little bit wit might be enough to deal with that.

I never knew that you can be persistent and demanding (in a good way) during negotiations and discussions. I picture new york like this. Blunt hard chargers who rarely budge and fight hard for their clients. Any sensitive guy will be eaten by the sharks. Thats how I picture it.



So I get a bit self conscious when my aries dominates all of the sudden the discussion, because she just keeps charging. Gotta try that too. I had a discussion with her today, I said no that subject is of the table. She replied : "Thats why put it back on the table". WTF is that? I will try that too, I like that.



I feel challenged as a man, what do I bring to the table? Do I put up with shit? I cant tell yet, what is

acceptable what not, what should I laugh of, what not.

my question is why is yelling.

i mean yes yelling is not the best, but is she yelling because she wants you to understand something she needs or is she yelling because she is trying to make you do something you don't want to do?

i yell - sadly i realize this is a flaw - i think im too passionate about my feeling and i can just get loud to make sure im heard. but i can appreciate when someone calls me on my loudness.

but if it a nasty yelling, degrading or controlling thing then maybe she has a little backstory, damage. and it might be unhealthy just in general. lots of factors. and it requires more Q&A to understand.

my bull always says that he cant talk to me when im yelling, that's usually when i realize that im am yelling. lol - also he says things like "i don't want to argue with you" he tells me when im being condescending and i don't want to be that way so i try to correct it. but aries are different from me, a lot more selfish and hot headed. also subborn as well. so you might have your hand full with that for sure.

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"I never knew that you can be persistent and demanding" - my example. my bull expressed that he needs something repeated at different times. he talks about it like its stressing him out. but he procrastinates and he puts his need for this in the back of his head only for it to become more and more of a stress for him later. i see this and i don't like how stressed he is, i care about his happiness. So i can tell he's not sure what he should do therefor he doesn't do anything, this is when i think a bull will explode emotionally if he doesn't figure it out.... i however bring it up in small talk just to start the conversation, i also provide opinion and research and i push him by mentioning things and by trying to help him create a plan. i mean he doesn't want to do it, but i push him knowing its what he needs to do.. and he lets me knowing he wants a little help.... yeah people might say im being controlling or that i treat him like a child but sometimes we need that push, we need to have someone help us . ive done this with a few things for him in our year long relationship and although he pushed back he knows that i interfere because i care and he has never not been thankful for my support and help if he allows my help. that's the good kind of persistent and demanding.



aries are fire. they are passionate people. i mean you have to just tell them how you feel so they can work on there "Weaknesses" when it comes to the relationship and you need to be able to accept that they cant change who they are. which is passionate people, the things they have to say or do mean a lot and they do them with force and express them with force so sometimes they can overpower. and if your not like that you have to try and overpower or accept or leave (hate when people tell me that)

also tho, aries can be mean, and careless with there words. meaning them or not they will say what they have to to win. they are very competitive. im a sag, so just speaking from experience and observation of what i have seen and read from aries people and traits.



just focus on what makes you happy. if you aren't really happy with the way things are going then its not really good is it? follow you intuition, the first things you feel is always whats best for you. the other things that come after that is your head just trying to talk you out of it.

than you sagittariusxo. that is definetly a thing I need to be aware of.

Taurusses are prone to laziness. that can kill a relationship with a fire sign. On the contrary, I need

charge hard, which is a good thing,because that is the perfect antidote to complacency, the biggest

weakness of taurus.

Fire people are often extroverted and therefore have a strong need for communication.

We suck at talking about feelings, so we need to be pampered a lot.

Bluntness is often an expression for anger, because many of us are simply too lazy to get loud.

Guys please respond to my latest post. what do you think about dealing with aggressive tantrums and assertiveness?

Posted by earlorg16
Most of my experiences have been with fire women. It's not necessarily about being more masculine than them or being more aggressive, but more about staying firm about your needs and showing them you can't be pushed around when the time calls for it. Fire women are naturally more reactive, impulsive, and extroverted so they'll voice their opinions and actions way more than us Taurus folk, but as long you remain communicative with them and not be a push over, they'll respect that about you. You've got to earn your respect with them and not fold or show weakness, but rather show assertiveness and be the one to ground them. When they see that you're reliable and mentally strong, that tends to appeal to them. They like strong character.

this.

Okay, then its not that hard. I am stubborn and witty, so I can stand my ground. I just go blank, when fire people get loud, bossy and demanding. I ll try to respond to that with sarcasm. I really have a hard time

being loud and firm myself. I picture you guys like this:

Posted by RooSagicorn
Yikes if you want a volatile relationship. No thanks!

I dont get it, what do you mean? You a chill gal?

They might beat their wives.

they have better things to do