Do i stay on my ground..

Hello everyone. Im back on here to get that strenght from you guys to prevent me from falling back into this.

For those of you who may not have an idea about the story, its been complicated at first. Then i came to a point where i thought "okay, this seems to be a no feelings, just fun" sort of thing with this bull. (No, not me. To tell u the truth, i have never felt anything like this towards any male in my whole life, yes i admit ive been crazy over this guy, i ve been feeling him in every bone in my body and hes been stuck in my brain day and night.. =truly obsessed).

I had a hard time to believe or to figure out if he is/isnt really feeling anything towards me after some great times spent. Appearing and dissapearings. All the push and pulls. Confused the hell out of me. i believe many sane woman would think/feel the same way as me so I came to a conclusion that i didnt matter to him and i have to swallow that truth regardless of all my thoughts about him. At the time, 3 weeks flew by after he has disappeared on me and he reappers kind of telling me how things been butter and he feels weird just giving me an idea of whats been going on with him. So me being me, i listened to this guy, gave him a piece of advice and tried my best to cheer him up with jokes, just being charming. Goes on for 6 days in a raw untill he wanted us to meet up so i went with it.

Before you all wonder, we have had intimacy several times before and also on this occasion. Want to Ask me why i agreed to meet up with someone who hasnt been keeping a decent contact with me or clearly may not be into me ?? and i'll ask you.. Have you ever really felt such strong connection that is beyond any words can ever describe? Your Answer.. i did cuz it could be that i missed him soo much, maybe i thought he has answers for me, maybe hes changing. All assumptions but yes i live alot more happily with my 'go take the risks than what if's'.. so i took the risk and what i expected happened..Puff, he disappeared. At this point had to come straight so 3 days later i texted him asked if he would like to meet up (just wanted a face to face chat) he was busy hanging with family so said it was unlikely. I said cool but please he shouldnt expect from me to see him anymore either and all this appearing, disappearing is exhausting. He says hes afraid of getting attached and leaves it at that so i do too. 3 weeks no contact and he messages me this morning on FB when he saw me online at 6am which

Is very unusual for me so the same second i logged in he asks"no sleep?". I havent responded to that and its best if i dont. Its very tempting with all that i feel has been left incomplete but ive tried that once and Ive lost so much sleep over this guy.I need to be gone for my own good. He has to know that im gone. And im hoping someday i truly will let him go from my mind and soul.

Help me stand on my ground guys tell me all the things you believe i should and shouldnt hear. Am i doing the right thing here?

Awww man... I'm feeling ta pain Seezy. Just when you thought it was all dead and buried the dude dips his finger back in the damn pond!

I guess it depends what you want. Then look to see what he wants.

I doubt much has changed in his life to suddenly feel he wants much more or wants what you want etc so it's still not a match, so to speak.

This is a tough one.

Personally, I'd probably respond but i'd leave responding for a day or two. Just to let the dust settle and see how you feel then rather than jumping all over his message. This sounds like 'game playing' but it's not, I just mean it buys you time to reflect and consider things. His message isn't going anywhere. You might feel you don't want to respond. Perhaps he's just being polite etc.

The toughest thing is not to over analyse it and see something that isn't there or assume stuff.

I have sometimes delayed responding to all sorts of things just so I can see it in a different light. I think I did this a few times with the bull I knew and when I did reply he jumped on my messages pretty quick, not that it makes any difference to anything.

I think you'd like to keep contact with him and I don't think there's anything wrong with responding. Perhaps you don't want to get caught up in his daft shit.

I can't remember but when you said you were maybe looking for more or whatever, what was his response?

Agent- This shit is real my girl. The whole experience has just been consuming me. I am in a constant battle with myself. Do i respond? is he worth it? what if Hes got something to say? This has been so tough from the get go. I feel i would respond too, but not in the next 2 3 days. And i have this feeling, when i do he may mirror me and take his sweet time to respond which is only going to leave me thinking more..

I really need to get it together. my thoughts are all over the place. Like you said i have to let it cool and try look at things from a different point.

All i said to him was if this is how he wants to carry on he should just tell me straight, he knows id take whatever as an adult only want to know whats in his head. He told me hes mind is occupied with all the stuff he has mentioned to me previously (personal stuff/some serious issues) and if i asked him now, it would be hard for him to answer. So i digged a lil deeper in a kind way and said he knows he could tell me anything im not the type to judge.

His response to that was i know him more or less, hes scared of getting attached, what more can he say..

I thought to myself Cool, i got my answer, he knows where i stand and i *kind of* know where he stands so let it be. And 3 weeks later again he contact me with what kind of intensions? Is he kidding me.. testing the waters. just being polite.. common why not just stay away since you are so afraid and do Me a favour..

Can I ask, how long have you two been seeing one another?

Ultimately the best course of action I've found with Taurus is to be their friend first. I know that goes against everything people say, but for some reason it rings true with the bulls. They need to know you are trustworthy and worth it before they jump in. If he knows how you feel about him, and he's still trying to talk to you, then he probably still has feelings for you. The bull will never be the type to spill their heart out I find, and you'll always be left wondering what they are feeling. But I've also heard and found that their loyalty and direction is second to none, and if he's with you then he's with you even if you doubt it. As Agent said, try not to over analyse things, because he's probably spending a good majority of time in his own head, and honestly doesn't realize what he is or isn't doing to you. You've done a great thing by telling him how you feel, and I feel like he would have flat out told you that it wouldn't work if he was thinking that. So stand strong, try and occupy your time elsewhere, make him secondary to a lot of things, and just wait for him to come around or start seeing others, your call. You've done your part, and if you truly want him in your life, you'll find a way to make that happen. I wish you the best 🙂.

In my experience with two Taurus women (I know, not men, haha), time is the most important factor. I inquired about a relationship with one of them after six months, and didn't get an answer one way or another, so I left it alone. Come to find out months later that she thought we were really good together and wanted to give it a shot (we hadn't talked months at this point).

My current Taurus is a different story, as I've pushed too fast too early, but she's not told me to go away (we've been together a little over three months). She has said it takes her a very long time to get to know people.

(all of this said, I don't listen to my own damn advice, haha)

@adwand2k thank you for joining in.

we have been on and off.. off and off and on since Sep 2014.

I agree with most of what you have said above. I have always told him im here as a friend before all and that may be the reason why he feels comfortable to write to me or still try and talk to me as he knows i won't question where hes been. He surely has an idea about how i feel about him disappearing and reappearing and i guess even though i may not have come accross too straight forward myself , i have asked him in an unpressuring way if this is how its going to carry on, meaning im wondering where we stand which is a huge signal that i like him.Never had a straight answer to that.

l believe if there was nothing there(some kind of connection that he feels, be as friends or romantic wise)l would probably not hear from him again after all i have brought to the table as these would most likely make him run for the hills.

He isnt pushing me away and hes not pulling me in, it all hangs up in the air and it may be due to him not knowing what he exactly wants or those other issues may play a huge factor.

It has brought nothing more than being on an emotional rollercoaster to me so far. I am scared of taking another risk and be the one to get hurt all over again because his intensions at this point are not very clear to me at all.

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I have sometimes delayed responding to all sorts of things just so I can see it in a different light. I think I did this a few times with the bull I knew and when I did reply he jumped on my messages pretty quick, not that it makes any difference to anything.

Lol! This particular thing happened with me too...many times! I mean this guy,at times,takes ages to reply(Though he's free) n When i delay responding,he jumps on real quick!Is that a bull thing o something?!Not that i care anyway!

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This same thing happened to me as well with him. Last time he initiated, i was again not sure of what to do so i didn't respond till next day and before i did he was on facebook liking my posts. When i evetually replied hes response came in a speed of a light. Seems to be a bull thing. No? Lol

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Posted by AgentP911


I have sometimes delayed responding to all sorts of things just so I can see it in a different light. I think I did this a few times with the bull I knew and when I did reply he jumped on my messages pretty quick, not that it makes any difference to anything.

Lol! This particular thing happened with me too...many times! I mean this guy,at times,takes ages to reply(Though he's free) n When i delay responding,he jumps on real quick!Is that a bull thing o something?!Not that i care anyway!

This same thing happened to me as well with him. Last time he initiated, i was again not sure of what to do so i didn't respond till next day and before i did he was on facebook liking my posts. When i evetually replied hes response came in a speed of a light. Seems to be a bull thing. No? Lol

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Lol!The same again! If i delay responding he keeps commenting on my pics n stuff!Must surely be a bull thing! Afterall they don't wear their hearts on their sleeves 😉

Posted by busyeyes88
I am a bull myself(female) and I find it hard to let go of past hurts and can also get obessessed about someone where it is playing out in my head!! The best thing for a relationship with a bull is to take your time and befriend them as friends first. I hate being rushed and if I find myself being rushed if I like the person and want to get to know them I will tell them and help them slow things down. If I'm not that interested I tell the person and then I will just disappear.. There is also a lot of pull and push. I also like to space out seeing them too often so as to avoid getting too attached to quickly.

Believe me when i tell you, i have never forced him into anything, even when i so desperately wanted to have a chat and clear things out, trust me i couldnt have done it in a more friendly way. i always gave him the space he needed as i have good knowledge to bulls nature in that sense. if he didnt respond i wouldnt insist for an answer i just let him come around when ready.

All this disappearing is familiar to me now.

When i asked him to meet up it has only been 3 days since i last saw him so i wasnt upset when he said it was unlikely perhaps you get more attached the more time you spend with someone and he has openly told me he is scared of getting attached And spaced out untill this morning. Damn you bulls those horns are so hard to grab. Lol

i wonder about that 'i don't want to get attached' line. what does that mean? either he is already attached in which case saying you don't want to be is pointless - that horse has bolted. or he is not attached but finds you convenient to spill his woes to and sleep with you when the mood strikes.

the whole disappear/reappear issue tells me that you shouldn't be sleeping with him. yes, you may want to but it doesn't seem that he values or holds dear that expression yet. and it appears that like many scorps, intimacy for you is intertwined with deep emotion. my advice would be to stay friends, be a good friend, but until he can show some consistency in how he respects and responds to you, values the friendship and your feelings then he is not worthy to share that part of you.

Posted by Scruffles
Let's see..

Do i respond?
No.

is he worth it?
You already know he's not.

what if Hes got something to say?
Who cares? It won't be anything along the lines of "I love you and I want you to be my girlfriend." and you know it.

I think the pull/connection you feel for him is one sided and all in your head. It's not reciprocated. When he disappears on you, I'm sure you hurt badly. Love isn't supposed to hurt.

"I love a neglectful man who always hurts me!!" Said no one ever.

Thank you Scruffles.
This also helps.

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Posted by Scruffles
Let's see..

Do i respond?
No.

is he worth it?
You already know he's not.

what if Hes got something to say?
Who cares? It won't be anything along the lines of "I love you and I want you to be my girlfriend." and you know it.

I think the pull/connection you feel for him is one sided and all in your head. It's not reciprocated. When he disappears on you, I'm sure you hurt badly. Love isn't supposed to hurt.

"I love a neglectful man who always hurts me!!" Said no one ever.

Thank you Scruffles.
This also helps.

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Yup, direct and to the point.

I wonder if he just fancies a shag!

I don't think you can be friends with this fella. I think it would be too hard. You want more, he clearly doesn't for whatever reasons. You'd end up being his shoulder to cry on, you'd shag, he'd bugger off, then tumble weed... Repeat...

If you can keep it as friends then just reply and be friendly/casual with no expectations. If you can't do that then you might need to ignore him altogether. You've already stated your case to him. Terms have been issued!

Posted by AgentP911
I wonder if he just fancies a shag!

I don't think you can be friends with this fella. I think it would be too hard. You want more, he clearly doesn't for whatever reasons. You'd end up being his shoulder to cry on, you'd shag, he'd bugger off, then tumble weed... Repeat...

If you can keep it as friends then just reply and be friendly/casual with no expectations. If you can't do that then you might need to ignore him altogether. You've already stated your case to him. Terms have been issued!

very true.

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Posted by seezythescorpion

Posted by Scruffles
Let's see..

Do i respond?
No.

is he worth it?
You already know he's not.

what if Hes got something to say?
Who cares? It won't be anything along the lines of "I love you and I want you to be my girlfriend." and you know it.

I think the pull/connection you feel for him is one sided and all in your head. It's not reciprocated. When he disappears on you, I'm sure you hurt badly. Love isn't supposed to hurt.

"I love a neglectful man who always hurts me!!" Said no one ever.

Thank you Scruffles.
This also helps.

Yup, direct and to the point.

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yeah. Agree 110% Scruffles. well said. Seezy kept on asking this before. We already gave her a tough advice.
now here we go again...

seezy, I can't give you anymore advice.. woman you have 2 option. face the problem and rise or just avoid the problem and run. Stay calm seezy. focused to your goal. don't take a route to follow him. it will settle you for less...believe me. You cannot fix a man's mind.

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Posted by seezythescorpion

Posted by Scruffles
Let's see..

Do i respond?
No.

is he worth it?
You already know he's not.

what if Hes got something to say?
Who cares? It won't be anything along the lines of "I love you and I want you to be my girlfriend." and you know it.

I think the pull/connection you feel for him is one sided and all in your head. It's not reciprocated. When he disappears on you, I'm sure you hurt badly. Love isn't supposed to hurt.

"I love a neglectful man who always hurts me!!" Said no one ever.

Thank you Scruffles.
This also helps.

Yup, direct and to the point.

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yeah. Agree 110% Scruffles. well said. Seezy kept on asking this before. We already gave her a tough advice.
now here we go again...

seezy, I can't give you anymore advice.. woman you have 2 option. face the problem and rise or just avoid the problem and run. Stay calm seezy. focused to your goal. don't take a route to follow him. it will settle you for less...believe me. You cannot fix a man's mind.

what's wrong with dxp. double post. lol

I had a similar situation with taurus male. I couldnt finish typing without him calling. Anyway, he will go so far as to tell me he need me and love me but his actions are not there. So i've let him go. There's only so much a person can take. You'll find your breaking point. When your feelings arent reciprocated you should end it.

Posted by AgentP911
I wonder if he just fancies a shag!

I don't think you can be friends with this fella. I think it would be too hard. You want more, he clearly doesn't for whatever reasons. You'd end up being his shoulder to cry on, you'd shag, he'd bugger off, then tumble weed... Repeat...

If you can keep it as friends then just reply and be friendly/casual with no expectations. If you can't do that then you might need to ignore him altogether. You've already stated your case to him. Terms have been issued!

i bet he does! But not getting it from me. He knows where i stand. This whole thing has been a total mess. Affected me to the max. Cant go back there.. friends? i could try.. since its all causal ill take my time on getting back if i ever do. I have a dozen of doubts.

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Posted by Scruffles
Let's see..

Do i respond?
No.

is he worth it?
You already know he's not.

what if Hes got something to say?
Who cares? It won't be anything along the lines of "I love you and I want you to be my girlfriend." and you know it.

I think the pull/connection you feel for him is one sided and all in your head. It's not reciprocated. When he disappears on you, I'm sure you hurt badly. Love isn't supposed to hurt.

"I love a neglectful man who always hurts me!!" Said no one ever.

Thank you Scruffles.
This also helps.

Yup, direct and to the point.

yeah. Agree 110% Scruffles. well said. Seezy kept on asking this before. We already gave her a tough advice.
now here we go again...

seezy, I can't give you anymore advice.. woman you have 2 option. face the problem and rise or just avoid the problem and run. Stay calm seezy. focused to your goal. don't take a route to follow him. it will settle you for less...believe me. You cannot fix a man's mind.

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@M- i know you have tried M. You have seen more than i have.Its just been a hard time letting it go. And when i finally pull back and say thats it now, he comes back and confuses me. im positive on that " cant change a mans mind" statement. Is that not the reason why im here asking you lot to help keep me grounded. I know nothings changing i just needed that strength to not fall back into it again. Enough damage has been done..

Update,

So its no surprise, here you have me again ladies and gentleman. I couldnt do it. i mean i did try but i still cant seem to be able to run away.

I finally deleted this bull off my fb a couple days ago to stop myself from seeing what he gets up to and just let all go, but i kind of overreacted with it. I mean, we had a nice chat, nothing wrong. Met twice during the week. Then i cut him off all of a sudden because i was at an emotional state(due to period hormones i guess) and took something very simple he said to heart at that point. when i came back to my senses, i realised what i did wasnt cool, so just sent an "my apologies" text. He responded nice and sweet, we talked like nothing happaned and it was so weird he never reacted to it.. 2days later he msgs me all normal again we had very brief conversation. untill yesterday (took him 6 damn days) he msgs me asking why i deleted him. All this end up with him inviting me to go see him and spend the night with him if i wanted to..? I woke up to all the sweet morning kisses this morning. The plan was to keep away, but all this seems like bringing us closer. I see changes in him.. Good changes.

Just wanted to share. Please dont hate me for still hanging in. My Intstincts keep telling me its not the time to let go. just that feeling of good things developing. My instincts never failed me so maybe im trying to beat myself at my own game and be defeated by my instints for the first time? Who knows. Never knew how patient i could be. I guess sometimes u just need to forget questioning it all and enjoy the moment.

Posted by busyeyes88
@seezy. If it's all good. Why are you here?!

Just sharing busyeyes.. i had loads of threads on this topic asking for advice. Now i feel im doing quite ok by following my intuition. feels amazing to be on here sharing a good vibe for once rather than venting or asking for help 🙂

You gonna stay the night?

Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

I second this.

Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

Scorch why do you say so?

Do you really need to ask Seezy...

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Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

I second this.

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Agent you too! Are we not suppose to live in the moment. Im not seeing anyone else so if i see some good progress in him now isnt it worth the risk after having already invested enough.

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Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

I second this.

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I third this.

Posted by busyeyes88
Seezy. You will be back again shortly with the same problems you had in your original thread....

i feel things are changing. Hes being more consistent with mesaging me, wanting to spend time more often. A lot more attentive. And Im magically getting used to the idea of "take it as it comes and dont freak out". I think ive got more to learn from this situation. Something just says were not done yet.

Seezy I read through this whole thread and at the part where you said you see good changes... I honestly burst out laughing. You have blinders on. This isn't the way to get him. You're being to inconsistent. You need to stick to your guns. If it's hurting you to be FWB you need to straight up tell him, and don't accept invites to spend the night with him. How do you expect him to take you seriously when you're jumping back and forth?

I say all of this as a Scorpio who was in FWB with a Taurus man. We are in a relationship now and it's smooth sailing, so please think about what message you are giving off. I'm not trying to be mean.

Posted by Eris

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

I second this.

I third this.

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Eris you too.. you all dont believe when i say theres some good progress.

I don't see where you are finding these "good changes" and "good progress"

If your feelings can handle it you should tone it down and don't ask him again about where things are going.

If your feelings are too strong you should cut him off (and actually mean it).

He said he is afraid of getting attached and I don't know what part of it you aren't understanding, but I def. wouldn't keep bugging for an answer( as it's probably scaring him).

That being said, he may have feelings for you and not know what to do with them at this time. Pressure and sex aren't going to help.

Posted by Eris
If your feelings can handle it you should tone it down and don't ask him again about where things are going.

If your feelings are too strong you should cut him off (and actually mean it).

He said he is afraid of getting attached and I don't know what part of it you aren't understanding, but I def. wouldn't keep bugging for an answer( as it's probably scaring him).

That being said, he may have feelings for you and not know what to do with them at this time. Pressure and sex aren't going to help.

I second this too.

Eris i understand u are not trying to be mean but i am sure i dont have blinders on. I look at things from all possible ways. Positive and negative. I know how things were before and how they are now, so that ive seen.

You had ur moment where u stood your ground and fortunately switched from fwb to having a good relationship with ur bull. Can you please tell me how long after being fwb the relationship was established? I would like to know in case it may help.

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Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

I second this.

I third this.

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me too.

Perhaps it might be more pertinent to suggest you go out to see each other.

It would be easier to part ways at the end.

The point of this is that you would avoid the temptation of sleeping with him which has its most obvious plus points.

From his point of view, all he has to do is... Stay at home while you pitch up at his. It's all rather convenient for him.

'Oh look, it's late, why not stay the night *kiss, kiss* whoops my cock just fell into your pussy...'

If he has no 'ulterior motive' and would like to see you then he'd have no excuse to not want to go out.

If he objects then that tells you something.

That is... If he...

A) actually pitches up
b) doesn't cancel

Yes, I'm negative but realistic. The consistent thing is important and holding your ground. You are the only one who knows exactly how things are but it can be easy to misjudge intuition and see something that might not be there.

Play it safe, play it clever.

I don't really want to tell you how long it took... And leave you waiting for an invisible deadline that may not come.

I will say that when I started to develop strong feelings for him and contemplated ending it (never told him) he brought up me being his girlfriend. But even from the start there was never disappearing on his end. We were together every day.

What are the good changes?

Posted by AgentP911
Perhaps it might be more pertinent to suggest you go out to see each other.

It would be easier to part ways at the end.

The point of this is that you would avoid the temptation of sleeping with him which has its most obvious plus points.

From his point of view, all he has to do is... Stay at home while you pitch up at his. It's all rather convenient for him.

'Oh look, it's late, why not stay the night *kiss, kiss* whoops my cock just fell into your pussy...'

If he has no 'ulterior motive' and would like to see you then he'd have no excuse to not want to go out.

If he objects then that tells you something.

That is... If he...

A) actually pitches up
b) doesn't cancel

Yes, I'm negative but realistic. The consistent thing is important and holding your ground. You are the only one who knows exactly how things are but it can be easy to misjudge intuition and see something that might not be there.

Play it safe, play it clever.

I like this...

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Posted by Eris
If your feelings can handle it you should tone it down and don't ask him again about where things are going.

If your feelings are too strong you should cut him off (and actually mean it).

He said he is afraid of getting attached and I don't know what part of it you aren't understanding, but I def. wouldn't keep bugging for an answer( as it's probably scaring him).

That being said, he may have feelings for you and not know what to do with them at this time. Pressure and sex aren't going to help.

I second this too.

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from what he has told me, the last relationship he came out of was a bad one, and hurt his feeling at that point, thats why he is scared of going thru something similar again. He says he doesnt trust easily, and seeing how bad relationships actually are nowadays(hearing stories from people around him on how alot of people are cheating behind eachothers backs) he says he is loosing the belief in beautiful committed relationships.

I guess being able to talk to him about all this, and him being more open is helping to tone down my feelings at this point and take things as they came without queationing him or myself much.

I think the main reason for me to feel that strong at the beginning was because i couldnt read him at all and the mystery drew me in. Now that we can talk openly, i am actually alot more relaxed. No pressure, just take it as it comes and enjoy is company is what im thinking.

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Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

I second this.

I third this.

me too.

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I was expecting this.I was actually going to post exactly this "wont be long before Jeane comes and 4ths this". lol

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Posted by Eris

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by scorchedearth
i'm just going on record saying this is a terrible idea. 😐

I second this.

I third this.

me too.

I was expecting this.I was actually going to post exactly this "wont be long before Jeane comes and 4ths this". lol

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ah nuts! i've become predictable. 😄

Posted by Eris
What are the good changes?

at first, we would see eachother, get intimate etc he would drop me home, and there would be times i wouldnt hear from him for 2+ weeks. If i went to see him, if wouldnt care to ask if i returned home safe. he wouldnt hold a long conversation when we msgd eachother.

Now he is not disappearing, he msgs me every 2-3 days, he holds up a conversation, wants to know what im up to.. i deleted him off fb and it bothered him why i di so. When i go to see him, asks me to let him know when im home and that i arrived safely. Lately hes not gone more than 4 days without wanting to see me. And when he asked me to spend the night he wanted us to meet in the evening, thats how we usually do anyway so he could just leave it at that and i could return back home after 2 3 hours as i usually do, he said it would be sweet to sleep together..

And all the things he never talked about before..personal stuff, friendships,relationships, family matters etc he is talking to me about those now which he says is huge to him cuz he usually doesnt talk much on this stuff. He is openning up and He really is not a verbal type of person.

AgentP911 raises an eyebrow to 'it would be sweet to sleep together...'

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AgentP911 raises an eyebrow to 'it would be sweet to sleep together...'

why does she.. hmmm.. like cuddles? No

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AgentP911 raises an eyebrow to 'it would be sweet to sleep together...'

To be veryy honest, he probably would know that once we agreed to meet up the "sleeping together" would be hard to resist on both ends anyway. With This "would be nice to sleep together" statement he actually meant..stay with me tonight, lets not sleep alone.

She raises an eyebrow because...

He's being so sweet and attentive and remaining in contact and everything is so perfect because...

He would like to put his dick in you...

Then there's the chance, based on previous episodes, that he'll bugger off... Until next time...

This is what he's not sure of:

He's not sure of what he wants.
He's not sure of having a relationship with you.
He's not sure of building a relationship with you.

This is what he is sure of:

He doesn't want to get attached.
He wants to fuck you.



All I'm saying is don't put yourself in a vulnerable situation.

Posted by seezythescorpion

Posted by AgentP911
AgentP911 raises an eyebrow to 'it would be sweet to sleep together...'

To be veryy honest, he probably would know that once we agreed to meet up the "sleeping together" would be hard to resist on both ends anyway. With This "would be nice to sleep together" statement he actually meant..stay with me tonight, lets not sleep alone.

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Don't be so fucking naive.

Of course he means stay the night and sleep together which inevitably will result in sex. Which means you'll be back to square one.

This guy is not stupid.

Just because he's sugar coating the fact he wants a fuck doesn't make his intentions towards you any more palatable.

If I could lock your vagina in a chastity belt then I would. By all means go see him, spend time with him, learn more about him, quality time, but leave off the intimate stuff.

I would say take AgentP's advice, but I am also a Scorpio with a Pisces moon, so that might be a factor in why her advice speaks to me lol