hear my out and please don't judge

Ok, here it goes, i've been married for almost 17 yrs. however, he and I live very separate lives, we mainly live together for our son and finances and we both see other people, we agreed to keep it away from home, out of respect believe it or not this is sort of the new way of family, that's the beginning, here's the ending, I met a taurus and we dated dor 13 months, he knew my situation, but he left me without ONE word & strted dating someone else. He simply ignored my calls and texts. I found out bc I called his sister. Can any taurus man tell me if he'll ever call me again. I'm so hurt and angry, after 13 months he coulda TOLD me, while as the same time want him to make contact 2 reasons ONE he's calling 2. I want to completely ignore to show him how it feels to make a person feel so devalued.

All ima saying is the SOB coulda told it was cowardly of him and it was also dirty too. I'm wondering, if he'll EVER make contact again?

Not petty or playing games, after 13 months I deserve a this ain't working for me talk and I'm not that type of woman, sleeping around a relationship is something special, to me.

Errrr you're married to somebody else regardless of your arrangement. He's single and free to do as he pleases.

What exactly did you think you could offer him?

Nothing with any longevity.

Your ego is bruised. It happens to us all at some point. Revenge and petty games are pointless and serve no purpose.

You failed to see the situation for exactly what it was. He didn't.

You sound like a Venus in Scorp...

Posted by Kodak375
So you want to be petty and play games to hurt his feelings? Why don't you find another guy to mess with?

+1

Idk my venus, doesn't matter, 13 months deserves an official breakup. I feel played on, hurt, lied to and used.

And I may be married, but I was committed to him.

No, he will not.

Actually I'm shocked at how he handled the situation and how coldly he did it. I wondering if he'll ever call bc yes, I want to return the very LOUD silence, show him I value ME, even tho YOU didn't.

911, you may be correct in serving no purpose, but it certainly didn't stop him from being playing games.

You did deserve a proper break up. Especially if you were committed to him and he knew the circumstances of your relationship. He sounds like a piece of shit user and a coward. It doesnt matter that you are married, Becuse you disclosed that to him and he agreed. If he was a real man, and there was an issue or he felt like he wanted to see someone else, he should have come to you like any responsible, respectful REAL MAN would have done and allowed to have closure and a proper ending to the commitment. Taurus boy magic. The origibal fuck boys the zodiac. Right next to Capricorn.

How long has it been since this happened?

I'm not here to convince anyone of anything ppl are going to think what they want. In the end, he hurt me and I was vulnerable to him and he played me oh so awful.

I think you're seriously delusional love.

Married yet 'committed' to someone else... Somewhat contradictory... Oh the irony...

A 13 month affair in this situation doesn't warrant an official break up.

You might have liked one but it didn't happen.

He might have liked you to divorce but that didn't happen either.

I'm sure you both filled the gap in each of your lives for 13 months.

3 weeks @ blue

13 months is a long ass time. For him to have done that means he's a punk ass bitch with little to no communication skills or he was afraid of your reaction. Either way thats no excuse to mistreat someone.

911 do you know how many ppl are STILL married, live apart and have yet to divorce. You may be correct in I filled his gap.

THANK YOU, magenta. It is it is and we talked about if he couldn't handle the situation he would tell me, I'm just hurt.

Magenta, I want to believe he was afraid of my reaction. I love him, but I love him enough to let it go and not torture myself in addition his communication skills were always lacking. Ugh

No.

Do you know how many people are STILL married, live apart and have yet to divorce?

That's not you though, is it.

It sounds like he had his own agenda.

MANY ppl are STILL married and committed to someone else.

911, I agree, he apparently did and how hurtful is that. Use someone who you know love and cares for you.

Yes, I'm still married I'm not denying that.

Really sorry he did that to you. Chris brown is an excellent template for Taurean male behavior. I hope you have a long conversation with your spirit and give yourself the closure you need. Take what ever lesson you can from this and apply it to your life.

Aries, yes and no. He made me feel devalued and like I was absolutely NOTHING to him or us so a part of me wants to show him, he didn't break me. Don't we all as women want to feel empowered that just bc you love a man doesn't mean you'll just be therr waiting.

Magenta, thank you, that is great advice. I most certainly am. Aries, you are prolly correct, yet he COULDA told me. I know I know coulda shoulda woulda.

Magenta, I miss your previous post, but that's exactly how I feel. I didn't lie to him, didn't hide US, yes, and the sad part I really thought he was a true ALPHA MALE, to tell be and ie have to accept it. End of story.

Heartbreak can be very hurtful, especially when we dont feel it is deserved or dont understand why are going through it. I think its good you didnt let his disgusting behavior break you. Keep your head high and remember you will get through this.

Magenta, for a 24 year old, you're a wise one. Thank you. I most certainly am. Funny thing is I'm not as devastated, as i polly would have been had he handled it like a real man, but I AM hurt, it's bc of how he done it. There's another part of me that knows I'll never take him back that's including a booty calls bc I want to keep our memories the good ones & being his booty call would devalue MY memories of us.

Alpha male... Pull the other one, it's got bells on it...!!

The guy is a bit of knob head, fair and square.

However, it is more of a shame you find yourself in an unhappy arrangement with no immediate solution.

I've been in a similar situation to this guy and sometimes the easiest thing is to cut off what you don't want or no longer need.

911, I'm not unhappy, we're just not in love anymore and for stability and finances our son is 12, we both came to this agreement.

I've cut it. I WILL NOT devalue myself, so you've been I this situation. ..did he ever call you back?

Sounds great. Almost ideal. I'll try very hard to ensure I don't end up in a situation like that.

Well, to each is own. It doesn't have to work for anyone except the person living it, but no need to pass judgment, you nvr know where or how you'll end up in life, yet & still I'm not unhappy.

I meant I was in a similar situation as your Taurus was in. I got involved with someone who wasn't entirely free. The difference was they were working on a plan to be free but it didn't materialise. Like you, I felt lead on, angry etc so I decided to cut him off and remove myself from the situation. Just like that. We never contacted each other again. It went on for about 18 months. I was 25 or so at the time. I'm 35 now.

My point is that he probably didn't want to deal with all the crap and turmoil or simply didn't give a shit. I'd hope after 13 months he did give a shit but people deal with things so differently and I often think the fairy tale way of being adult and having a civil discussion about things doesn't always happen especially when deeper emotions are involved. It's easier said than done.

That's twice you've said you're not unhappy but have not said you are actually happy.

Thing with us is I nvr lead him on, we nvr talked about me leaving/staying, it was a slow pace start and gradually increased I just told him MY situation and why, it was like thart before he was in the pic & what I mean is I'm not unhappy in my living situation and I am happy overall in the big pic, just like anyone else who's single but has children and works, bascially same ole same ole..blah blah blah.

I'm happy to say. I'm NOT, the side chic, but that is funny.

But from the start I was honest about MY life.

Apparently, they don't like to talk much at ALL, a real coward.

And for the record 911, I WAS & STILL AM entirely free. The only thing holding me is my 12 year old son.

I'm a MOM FIRST AND FOREMOST. everything else is 2nd besides my job which is my lively hood.

Yeah, you didn't read what I put and then misinterpreted it but never mind.

You're married. You're not entirely free at all. Except in your head. The comments above about forgetting him is best. It may take a while to let it go but how about finding another guy for a bit of rebound shagging! 😉

I have cut my losses, trust me and I'm not looking for revenge at all, I'm not like that, it's more to show HIM I'm still going to STAND strong even when you were dirty to me. 911, many ppl are married, but separeted, doesn't mean you're NOT free, just means you can marry another, but we weren't even close to that.

Overnite dick. I see why that's your pic. You're stupid, in a funny way.

I AM venting the shit comes in waves, but I'm still got my head up. He hurt me, but he can't break me.

Overnight dick, you made me lol. You just SHOW UP & add one liners, ahahahaha. That are stupid funny.

No fantasy revenge, I do feel betrayed, hurt & lied too. I'm not denying that, but doesn't change the hurt comes in waves. I really love him, & nvr 2 partners, only ONE, HIM. I was fully invested in him. But you are incorrect in, he did owe me a gracious breakup. He did after 13 months, his mother's death, our memories, he did owe me that.

And our relationship is not open, its convenience and co parenting, we haven't slept together in a few yrs. Before t man.