Help me with my Taurus man! (Page 2)

Posted by Shey8888

Thank you! Ya I know I let my emotions get the best of me! I’m an Aries woman 😂

However I did finally message him and told him the truth of what I did and apologized for attacking him!! He responded so wonderfully and told me he was the one that has to do the apologizing and said he also couldn’t imagine how it looked and didn’t realize it. And said he wished he had been more upfront with me. Then just carried on and asked me how I was doing and said that he was so happy to finally hear from me. We told eachother we missed eachother. In my head I thought we were back on.



Later I texted him saying “i want to see you” he replied “well f**** I cant tonight. Are you being serious?!?? I thought you didn’t?!?!”



I replied with “ of course I still want to see you the only reason why I didn’t is because I thought you were involved with someone else.” Of course I said a few other things but it’s not important



So I’m now waiting for a reply. I truly miss him he really made me feel somethings. And then I keep seeing Aries and Taurus don’t work out lol should I just give up now? My mind has really gotten the best of me this last week to where it’s made me sick to my stomach. I feel ashamed of how I went about things. In my defense a year ago I ended with my bf of 6 years and 2 kids. It was a very abusive relationship and he couldn’t be trusted so Unfortunatley sometimes I feel like everyone is being shady and no one can be trusted. I think I’m better off being single!!! Lol



Anyways any advice on this Taurus guy? I already wrote out something for if he says he doesn’t want to see me anymore. Only because I’m irrational sometimes so I had to write something simple and nice to send him so I don’t regret it later

Sounds like @jeane has it right. If you ended a 6 yr relationship with the father of your children a year ago, chances are your insecurities from the old relationship haven't quite healed. That anxiety will continue to happen until you do some work on that and give yourself time to collect yourself. If this guy is worthwhile he will respect that you want to be healthy emotionally before entering into a new relationship. Taurus generally doesn't like to rush so I could see a talk going well about this. Express your feelings and I'm sure he will be receptive. If he's not, he wasn't worth the time and energy anyways.

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by Shey8888

Posted by AgentP911

You only spent a couple of weeks with this guy. It is not enough to really know him. It sounds like you placed much on the 'chemistry' you experienced, which is subjective, rather than not diving in and slowly getting to know him.

Instinct and intuition is not a good indicator for things, especially when you don't know the guy and have not established a 'base line' of his behaviour pattern etc. How often have you thought you 'just know' someone or something only to discover that you didn't really 'just know' at all?

Maybe this guy is already coupled up. Maybe he lied. Maybe he didn't. Maybe he is single. Maybe he has a few ladies he is dating or involved with. Who knows!

I'd agree with Earlorg with the approach for a Taurus man. No drama, be direct, know what you want. My personal experience with my Taurus fella is that he often takes time to think and decide on things. He also keeps concerns to himself when it would be better for him to bring them up but he doesn't always want to know the answer. Luckily, as a Scorpio, I weed it all out of him eventually!

You've stated your interest in meeting up with him again. The ball is in his court. It may have been 12 hours since his last text but he is working to his timescale. Not yours. Now you have levied a 24 hour timer on him, of which 12 hours have already passed, without him knowing. This is unfair and not helpful to you. It seems that you have not adhered to any advice on here.

How would you feel if you were him and suddenly recieved another 'flip out' message 24 hours after being asked out?

He might be giving you a wide birth or just be busy. You need to chill. Date others. Keep your options open.

Thank you so much for your feed back. I appreciate it very much. I don’t plan on flipping out on him I haven’t done that since I saw that picture and I was being irrational. I’m seeing it more clear now. And then all is in his court so I’m just going to let it be and not worry about it too much. It’ll only make me feel worse. I wish I wasn’t so impatient and that’s something I need to work on. I feel so stupid about this because it was only two weeks, and he spent his every moment either with me texting me or calling me so I figured he wasn’t seeing anyone else that’s why I was so taken back. And I’m a huge person into honesty and respect. So when I feel disrespected I get upset.

No need to feel stupid at all. You don't know if he is single yet or what his situation is. You may well be correct with your initial feeling. The main two points I'd take would be to have paced yourself a bit more and to have questioned him more astutely about his weekend. Dating someone can be a little like piecing a jigsaw puzzle together. Sometimes you'll have all the pieces and it fits. Other times you'll only get some of the way through before moving onto the next one.

Just busy yourself with other things or other men! If he texts then he texts. If not, well you have your answer but then at least you'll know and you wouldn't have wasted more time on this puzzle. There's always more puzzles on the planet!

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Well I got my answer! And I’m honestly not all that mad it’s more of a relief now that I know!! He just texted me and said “ I’m so sorry it took so long to reply. This is really hard to tell you, but my friend and I decided to try to date again. I sent you that text Saturday that nothing was going on and that was absolutely true. But when I got back earlier this week and we talked, she convinced me to try and give things another shot. I wasn’t kidding about missing you and I obviously think the world of you. I’m really sorry. I hope we can be cool”.

And honestly her friends a couple weeks ago saw him and I together so I’m sure they told her and now she wants him back. I honestly think it’s a load of crap and almost feel used to make her jeleous bc he did take me around her friends.



I haven’t responded to his text yet and not sure if I’m going to. If I do it’ll be short and sweet. I’m not sure if I should say something or not but I’m not going into it with him.

Posted by Shey8888

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by Shey8888

Posted by AgentP911

You only spent a couple of weeks with this guy. It is not enough to really know him. It sounds like you placed much on the 'chemistry' you experienced, which is subjective, rather than not diving in and slowly getting to know him.

Instinct and intuition is not a good indicator for things, especially when you don't know the guy and have not established a 'base line' of his behaviour pattern etc. How often have you thought you 'just know' someone or something only to discover that you didn't really 'just know' at all?

Maybe this guy is already coupled up. Maybe he lied. Maybe he didn't. Maybe he is single. Maybe he has a few ladies he is dating or involved with. Who knows!

I'd agree with Earlorg with the approach for a Taurus man. No drama, be direct, know what you want. My personal experience with my Taurus fella is that he often takes time to think and decide on things. He also keeps concerns to himself when it would be better for him to bring them up but he doesn't always want to know the answer. Luckily, as a Scorpio, I weed it all out of him eventually!

You've stated your interest in meeting up with him again. The ball is in his court. It may have been 12 hours since his last text but he is working to his timescale. Not yours. Now you have levied a 24 hour timer on him, of which 12 hours have already passed, without him knowing. This is unfair and not helpful to you. It seems that you have not adhered to any advice on here.

How would you feel if you were him and suddenly recieved another 'flip out' message 24 hours after being asked out?

He might be giving you a wide birth or just be busy. You need to chill. Date others. Keep your options open.

Thank you so much for your feed back. I appreciate it very much. I don’t plan on flipping out on him I haven’t done that since I saw that picture and I was being irrational. I’m seeing it more clear now. And then all is in his court so I’m just going to let it be and not worry about it too much. It’ll only make me feel worse. I wish I wasn’t so impatient and that’s something I need to work on. I feel so stupid about this because it was only two weeks, and he spent his every moment either with me texting me or calling me so I figured he wasn’t seeing anyone else that’s why I was so taken back. And I’m a huge person into honesty and respect. So when I feel disrespected I get upset.

No need to feel stupid at all. You don't know if he is single yet or what his situation is. You may well be correct with your initial feeling. The main two points I'd take would be to have paced yourself a bit more and to have questioned him more astutely about his weekend. Dating someone can be a little like piecing a jigsaw puzzle together. Sometimes you'll have all the pieces and it fits. Other times you'll only get some of the way through before moving onto the next one.

Just busy yourself with other things or other men! If he texts then he texts. If not, well you have your answer but then at least you'll know and you wouldn't have wasted more time on this puzzle. There's always more puzzles on the planet!

Well I got my answer! And I’m honestly not all that mad it’s more of a relief now that I know!! He just texted me and said “ I’m so sorry it took so long to reply. This is really hard to tell you, but my friend and I decided to try to date again. I sent you that text Saturday that nothing was going on and that was absolutely true. But when I got back earlier this week and we talked, she convinced me to try and give things another shot. I wasn’t kidding about missing you and I obviously think the world of you. I’m really sorry. I hope we can be cool”.

And honestly her friends a couple weeks ago saw him and I together so I’m sure they told her and now she wants him back. I honestly think it’s a load of crap and almost feel used to make her jeleous bc he did take me around her friends.



I haven’t responded to his text yet and not sure if I’m going to. If I do it’ll be short and sweet. I’m not sure if I should say something or not but I’m not going into it with him.

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Well, now you know!

So next time you meet someone you can pace yourself so you don't get do involved so quickly. That will give you time to get yo know him more, see when his last partner was, if any exes hanging around, check compatability and be clear with what you want and see if he matches with you.

You had a nice couple of weeks with a guy and you can acknowledge the positives from it such as feeling good again with someone. Fortunately for you, there are eight billion people on this planet do you shouldn't have any trouble finding a new man at some point.

If there's unfinished business with his ex or his ex came running back and he wants to give it another go then it is his choice. He's going to have a stronger connection there. Doesn't mean a better one and clearly there were some issues there. Don't take it personally. Shit happens. Just as well you weren't six months in with him and the ex came rolling back. Messy!

Personally, I'd not bother responding back to him. It's like having the last word but without having to actually say any words! But that's just me. Frankly, what is there to say? Delete and keep it moving.

Posted by Ariqua

Well shut our fucking mouths! We were all wrong.

An Aries was intuitive.

Sorry to hear he was a cheater Shey...but you’re gorg and I’m sure you have plenty of other prospects,

We’re very intuitive. I knew from the first post. OP kudos for trusting your gut.