I scared this Taurus guy and now he is ignoring me?

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anashin
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My emotions went haywire last week and I did the most stupid thing, that is to send him message 1-3x everyday even when he wasn't replying. It was like I was talking to myself.

It creeped him out. He was my ex-date. I still like him until now tbh.

I felt really bad for my actions so I asked him to just block me (messenger and from calling or so).... he didnt do it at first but I told him why he should and he did. It's been 6 days now.

I tried to call him the other day and it rang. He cancelled the call twice (i called twice) I then sent him a message, I told him he should not be mistaken as I just want to apologize again. He's a good person and I respect his feelings. Before the blocking he told me "just move on already"

So im guessing its totally over. I just dont want him to think of me as a psycho.. How can I know if he's angry by this silence? or he doesn't care anymore?
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Even if you didn't mean it and you told him that you come off as wishy washy, which bulls don't like.

This is confusing to me. You were ultra clingy, needy and it freaked him out and how did you fix it? Go insanely creepy.

Yeah, dude is thanking his lucky stars that he walked away. I'm a Taurus moon and I had a guy text me one to 3 times a day even after I said it wasn't going to work. At first, I was upset he didn't listen then it got scary that he kept going.

You are most certain in that creepy, scary stage.

Like he said, "move on already"
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Wait... you told him to block you, he didn't you explained why and he did.

What's the problem?
I asked him to block me so that I would not be able to send him crazy messages.. Im afraid one day, my feelings will be out of control again and that will cause drama again.

I told him I still like him and that I can't see him as a friend (cause i still desire him) If he change his mind and willing to try it again he can contact me. 3 days post that, i didnt hear anything from him so I sent him message again.. until I got angry cause he's been ignoring me. that continued for 3 days. it's not like I bombarded him with messages. they are just one liner or so.
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Wait... you told him to block you, he didn't you explained why and he did.

What's the problem?
I asked him to block me so that I would not be able to send him crazy messages.. Im afraid one day, my feelings will be out of control again and that will cause drama again.

I told him I still like him and that I can't see him as a friend (cause i still desire him) If he change his mind and willing to try it again he can contact me. 3 days post that, i didnt hear anything from him so I sent him message again.. until I got angry cause he's been ignoring me. that continued for 3 days. it's not like I bombarded him with messages. they are just one liner or so.
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Not being able to control you emotions is not cool, well for me as a Taurus moon and venus. Don't get me wrong, people can lose it, but it better be for a damn good reason.

Taurus just leaves at times and for you to get pissy about it would lead them and me to believe you can't handle their need for freedom.

Remember this in case you meet another bull. THEY HATE DRAMA!!

You told him that if he wants more to contact you and he didn't and you started blowing up his line. He is a bull, you can't force him or push up his timeline. He may have very well been debating his next move and when you did that, it was a wrap. 3 days isn't shite in a bulls world, that is like 3 minutes.

You're thinking that the one liner here nor there wasn't a big deal, BUT it was big enough for him to pretty much tell you to piss off and move on and cut off communications with you. Not only ignoring your call, but picking up the phone and cutting off the ring. Damn.

Girl, you MUST move on.

Please don't take what I'm saying as harsh, but you're coming off all types of wrong.
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Do you have lots of water in your chart? Or air? Or Virgo?
How can i know this? natal chart?
Go to www.cafeastrology.com

Pull up your natal chart that gives you the basics and you don't need to know your time of birth. I'm wondering if there is a scorp venus or something.
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Here's my natal chart

Sun in Capricon

Moon in Scorpi

Mercury in Capricorn

Venus in Sagg

Mars in Aquarius

Jupiter in Aries

Saturn in Taurus

Uranus in Aquarius

Neptune in Aquarius
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Posted by anashin
My emotions went haywire last week and I did the most stupid thing, that is to send him message 1-3x everyday even when he wasn't replying. It was like I was talking to myself.

It creeped him out. He was my ex-date. I still like him until now tbh.

I felt really bad for my actions so I asked him to just block me (messenger and from calling or so).... he didnt do it at first but I told him why he should and he did. It's been 6 days now.

I tried to call him the other day and it rang. He cancelled the call twice (i called twice) I then sent him a message, I told him he should not be mistaken as I just want to apologize again. He's a good person and I respect his feelings. Before the blocking he told me "just move on already"

So im guessing its totally over. I just dont want him to think of me as a psycho.. How can I know if he's angry by this silence? or he doesn't care anymore?
WTF?

Why would you treat someone this way?
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I'll be ignoring you too when you're really to fickle and unstable.
I know. Who really wants that. I admit it thats why I was sorry..
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I understand why you want to apologize, but to keep chasing him to apologize would just make matters worse. It's okay, say you're sorry to the "universe" just to put it out there if that will make you feel better.

It is okay, the dawn will come another day, it isn't the end of the world. Just take it as a lesson and ask yourself why it went to that level.
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My emotions went haywire last week and I did the most stupid thing, that is to send him message 1-3x everyday even when he wasn't replying. It was like I was talking to myself.

It creeped him out. He was my ex-date. I still like him until now tbh.

I felt really bad for my actions so I asked him to just block me (messenger and from calling or so).... he didnt do it at first but I told him why he should and he did. It's been 6 days now.

I tried to call him the other day and it rang. He cancelled the call twice (i called twice) I then sent him a message, I told him he should not be mistaken as I just want to apologize again. He's a good person and I respect his feelings. Before the blocking he told me "just move on already"

So im guessing its totally over. I just dont want him to think of me as a psycho.. How can I know if he's angry by this silence? or he doesn't care anymore?
WTF?

Why would you treat someone this way?

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Yeah. No one deserves to be treated that way. I know I react too fast. I improved actually but last week just really hit on me. I dont like it when planets go retrograde... 😢
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I'll be ignoring you too when you're really to fickle and unstable.
I know. Who really wants that. I admit it thats why I was sorry..
I understand why you want to apologize, but to keep chasing him to apologize would just make matters worse. It's okay, say you're sorry to the "universe" just to put it out there if that will make you feel better.

It is okay, the dawn will come another day, it isn't the end of the world. Just take it as a lesson and ask yourself why it went to that level.
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Thank you. I dont even know if he received my sms..
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He'll probably come around again, well...depending on how long you've known him, but I would move on if I were you just because he now knows how to make you lose control and would, despite being "drama free", pull your strings when he wanted.

You probably went haywire because you were trying to control the situation and you can't do that with silence, so you started panicking. Just a guess.

There's some people, or some chemistry mixes, that can bring out the crazy. Just really calm down and focus your attention elsewhere.
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He'll probably come around again, well...depending on how long you've known him, but I would move on if I were you just because he now knows how to make you lose control and would, despite being "drama free", pull your strings when he wanted.

You probably went haywire because you were trying to control the situation and you can't do that with silence, so you started panicking. Just a guess.

There's some people, or some chemistry mixes, that can bring out the crazy. Just really calm down and focus your attention elsewhere.
You know that have this feeling that he will come around but not really expecting anything. Just a hunch. We've met on January and we were constantly in touch even when we ended things. We're pretty cool as friends.

And yes.. of all the things, I don't want to get ignored and he bring out the neediness from myself which I never knew. I've calmed down already.
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That needyness will show it's face again. Trust me, I know lol.

He'll probably come around but have no expectations at all. Part of being a good friend, or whatever, is sitting back and really learning the person...not trying to control them or getting mad at who they are or how they do things. Let him be who he is as an individual. If you can't deal just back away but don't throw a fit or demand anything from him. Just try to keep that in mind I guess.

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Posted by lnana04
He'll probably come around again, well...depending on how long you've known him, but I would move on if I were you just because he now knows how to make you lose control and would, despite being "drama free", pull your strings when he wanted.

You probably went haywire because you were trying to control the situation and you can't do that with silence, so you started panicking. Just a guess.

There's some people, or some chemistry mixes, that can bring out the crazy. Just really calm down and focus your attention elsewhere.
You know that have this feeling that he will come around but not really expecting anything. Just a hunch. We've met on January and we were constantly in touch even when we ended things. We're pretty cool as friends.

And yes.. of all the things, I don't want to get ignored and he bring out the neediness from myself which I never knew. I've calmed down already.
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May I ask why things never progressed into anything more and it landed in the friend zone?
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You need to sit down for a minute and breathe.......... And yes this bull is gone, I iced someone out for 16 years once, I finally decided to read a message he sent me thru Facebook, keep in mind we weren't "friends" and that's it, read it, still didn't respond - did appreciate the apology but still didn't respond. Seriously, you show me you're crazy and I'm gone, FOREVER!!

Poor impulse control, I don't like it and don't have time for that.
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I tried to call him the other day and it rang. He cancelled the call twice (i called twice) I then sent him a message, I told him he should not be mistaken as I just want to apologize again. He's a good person and I respect his feelings. Before the blocking he told me "just move on already"

So im guessing its totally over. I just dont want him to think of me as a psycho.. How can I know if he's angry by this silence? or he doesn't care anymore?



Jesus, girl, the deed has been done (by you). How many times do you feel you need to apologize to him? He gets it...do you? I'm Piscean and I don't stay where I'm NOT wanted. He asked you to move on. If I give you a quote from Judge Judy will you TRY to adhere to it?

"PUT A PERIOD ON IT AND MOVE ON!!!" 🤗 cyber hug!

Love,

Eva

PS: Whatever you did to the guy (or said)...it's a lesson learned! Don't do it again!

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All bull will do EXACTLY as you want as we don't EVER want to feel "unwanted" by someone.... "your wish" was "his command"... U fucked up and you are going to have to live with it.

In future "be careful of what you ask for"....

Move on and learn your lesson for future to get your feelings /emotions intact and stable...

We all have lessons in life to learn.. Good luck

PS. Although Taurus is forgiving peeps, sorry to say this Taurus will NOT be coming back... Respect his feelings and move on..
Can I give an update:

We got to talk again (my initiation) I asked him to help me on something and he helped me. I said thanks and he was like where is his reward. I asked what he wants and again he is still asking for my nude pics. This is not the first time he asked it. He said im attractive.



WHAT?? *insert Jackie Chan's meme*
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All bull will do EXACTLY as you want as we don't EVER want to feel "unwanted" by someone.... "your wish" was "his command"... U fucked up and you are going to have to live with it.

In future "be careful of what you ask for"....

Move on and learn your lesson for future to get your feelings /emotions intact and stable...

We all have lessons in life to learn.. Good luck

PS. Although Taurus is forgiving peeps, sorry to say this Taurus will NOT be coming back... Respect his feelings and move on..
Can I give an update:

We got to talk again (my initiation) I asked him to help me on something and he helped me. I said thanks and he was like where is his reward. I asked what he wants and again he is still asking for my nude pics. This is not the first time he asked it. He said im attractive.



WHAT?? *insert Jackie Chan's meme*
STOP chasing him... Unless you want to send him nude pics for the rest of your life... This bull does not seem to view you as anything serious it nude pics... MOVE ON GIRL!!!

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We're you mad when he did that. You guys aren't in the same direction, the nerve of that dude. Yeah if he is your husband sure but fwb yikes. Haha
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Don't make the mistake of sending him a nude or even an over the top sexy pic. Best, don't send him anything. A one on one is the best way get to know each other.

Let him work hard to get you.

Sexting/whatever they call it before intimacy kills intimacy.

Intimacy before getting to know each other leads to fwbs.

Fwbs to committed relationship is bloody hard work. May never lead to commitment.

Hardwork now makes it all easier, than starting from the finish line.

You didn't read my story, but like you, I also freaked.out and called my bull too many times

I was seventeen then and I called him to say I like him. But he didn't pick up my calls. I went crazy 😢







Dont worry. I didnt send him. Thank you for your advice. I guess i wasnt clear how was our relationship before. We dated - kind of didnt work out - became friends - missed each other so fwb - then friends again. So it became irregular. I guess we just enjoyed each other's company. I kinda moved on now tbh.
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Posted by busyeyes88
All bull will do EXACTLY as you want as we don't EVER want to feel "unwanted" by someone.... "your wish" was "his command"... U fucked up and you are going to have to live with it.

In future "be careful of what you ask for"....

Move on and learn your lesson for future to get your feelings /emotions intact and stable...

We all have lessons in life to learn.. Good luck

PS. Although Taurus is forgiving peeps, sorry to say this Taurus will NOT be coming back... Respect his feelings and move on..
Can I give an update:

We got to talk again (my initiation) I asked him to help me on something and he helped me. I said thanks and he was like where is his reward. I asked what he wants and again he is still asking for my nude pics. This is not the first time he asked it. He said im attractive.



WHAT?? *insert Jackie Chan's meme*
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Now he is clearly using you and being disrespectful. Wake up! Where's your head at?!!

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It can be hard to come back from things like this. I truly empathize because I've had my fair share of blow ups before (aries moon AND aries mars!). I would suggest move on, leave it alone and IF and only IF you've made significant emotional progress and gained at least 75% emotional control then you can reach out to him maybe after 6 months to a year and see how he's doing. Taurus males in my experience are especially difficult to "get back" so if it doesn't work out then you know it's a never sort of thing. I do think that when you're emotional you should tell someone hey, i need some time to cool off- mind if we talk later or something of the like. Try not to act when you're emotional. I know it's hard- something I'm working on even at this moment.



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My emotions went haywire last week and I did the most stupid thing, that is to send him message 1-3x everyday even when he wasn't replying. It was like I was talking to myself.

It creeped him out. He was my ex-date. I still like him until now tbh.

I felt really bad for my actions so I asked him to just block me (messenger and from calling or so).... he didnt do it at first but I told him why he should and he did. It's been 6 days now.

I tried to call him the other day and it rang. He cancelled the call twice (i called twice) I then sent him a message, I told him he should not be mistaken as I just want to apologize again. He's a good person and I respect his feelings. Before the blocking he told me "just move on already"

So im guessing its totally over. I just dont want him to think of me as a psycho.. How can I know if he's angry by this silence? or he doesn't care anymore?