ConfusedAries2016
@ConfusedAries2016
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Is there anyway to fix this?
You need to give it time and do you're very best to earn his trust back again. If he asked things of you, unless they are incredibly unreasonable do your best to accommodate him. Remember, you're the one who messed up here. You have to be prepared to not have his full trust for a while yet. Not only do you have to understand it, you have to accept that he can't go back to the way it was overnight.
Why didn't you delete the person off Facebook?
Why didn't you delete the person off Facebook?
You may have messed up but he's milking it here. I'm sorry but I don't like anything that feels emotionally manipulative.
He says he wants to start things differently and give it time yet tells you cooking him dinner and being sweet to him will make him fall back in love with you.
What bullshit. He either loves you or he doesn't. Sure, Taurean's love food but this doesn't sound right to me. He's pushing his luck. He knows it too which is why he stops acting like a wounded child when you stand firm.
He says he wants to start things differently and give it time yet tells you cooking him dinner and being sweet to him will make him fall back in love with you.
What bullshit. He either loves you or he doesn't. Sure, Taurean's love food but this doesn't sound right to me. He's pushing his luck. He knows it too which is why he stops acting like a wounded child when you stand firm.
The reason I didn't delete the person was because they work with us and are really close to my bosses. If I was to delete her she would tell him and I would look childish. Should I just delete her anyway?
I know I messed up and I want to do whatever would help him be in again. He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and should just do those things?
He said when I keep bringing us up and how to fix it I'm being redundant. Should I move on or do you really think he would come back from this..?
I know I messed up and I want to do whatever would help him be in again. He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and should just do those things?
He said when I keep bringing us up and how to fix it I'm being redundant. Should I move on or do you really think he would come back from this..?
I also should add that for awhile my bosses didn't like him. We're on different teams at work so he has a different boss. I wasn't getting a long with a coworker and I kept telling him to leave it alone but one day he went up to him and said something to him and got super aggressive. After that my boss always hated him.
So I get it, that a lot of negative things happened in a short period of time. That's why I don't know if I should just be patient with him or what. I can't decide if I deserve for him to pull away like this or what.
So I get it, that a lot of negative things happened in a short period of time. That's why I don't know if I should just be patient with him or what. I can't decide if I deserve for him to pull away like this or what.
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The reason I didn't delete the person was because they work with us and are really close to my bosses. If I was to delete her she would tell him and I would look childish. Should I just delete her anyway?
I know I messed up and I want to do whatever would help him be in again. He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and should just do those things?
He said when I keep bringing us up and how to fix it I'm being redundant. Should I move on or do you really think he would come back from this..?
Are you being serious?
More to the point, is he being fucking serious?
He wants YOU to buy HIM shoes? How old is he? 8? Are you his mother? How, prey tell, does buying him a pair of shoes with your hard earned money 'make' him fall back in love with you?
I would question if he was ever 'in love' with you in the first place. His actions and childish demands do not come from a place of love. They come from a place that all selfish arseholes come from.
Tell him to fuck off.
It's your Facebook. You don't have to delete shit from anything if you don't want to. How dare he dictate what YOU do with YOUR social media account.
What the hell did he want you to do in his car on your break? Polish his fucking knob I should expect.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. He says he doesn't know if he can trust you but he has no fucking problem accepting cooked dinner, new shoes, and sexual favours from you while giving you NOTHING in return.
Sorry but I am failing to see what you are seeing in this guy. Open your eyes and call him out on his shit and walk, fast, away from him.
What the hell did he want you to do in his car on your break? Polish his fucking knob I should expect.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. He says he doesn't know if he can trust you but he has no fucking problem accepting cooked dinner, new shoes, and sexual favours from you while giving you NOTHING in return.
Sorry but I am failing to see what you are seeing in this guy. Open your eyes and call him out on his shit and walk, fast, away from him.
Posted by ConfusedAries2016Moving over to agentp's side, buy him shoes? Wtf? I can understand if he needed you to show you are trustworthy or perhaps put the bad times behind you both but buying him shoes is taking the piss.
The reason I didn't delete the person was because they work with us and are really close to my bosses. If I was to delete her she would tell him and I would look childish. Should I just delete her anyway?
I know I messed up and I want to do whatever would help him be in again. He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and should just do those things?
He said when I keep bringing us up and how to fix it I'm being redundant. Should I move on or do you really think he would come back from this..?
I should add, that in the first few months of my relationship I broke my bulls trust. I was stupid, he reacted a way I never expected and yeah, things were strained for a bit. I had to earn my way back into him feeling open and comfortable with me again.
He asked me to change my Internet behaviour which I did because it made no difference to me but showed I was willing to put his needs first in a matter he felt strongly about. I trusted him that he was not taking advantage and I really wanted to put the pieces back together.
However, he never asked things of me that were unreasonable. This guy though? Are you sure he is a good guy? The more you say the more I begin to wonder.
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He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things.
Just get rid of him. At this point, you are just buying his time like he's a damn prostitute or something. You can use all the money you save from ditching him on yourself and your search for a better man.
Posted by ConfusedAries2016Why are you punishing her for YOUR mistake.
The reason I didn't delete the person was because they work with us and are really close to my bosses. If I was to delete her she would tell him and I would look childish. Should I just delete her anyway?
You confided information that you shouldn't have. If you spread something you should've kept secret it seems hypocritical to cry foul when that person turns around and follows your example.
Posted by ConfusedAries2016The fact that you have hesitation just means he's not the one. With the right person you'll want to do those things. Ride or die.
I know I messed up and I want to do whatever would help him be in again. He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and should just do those things?
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100How does one relate to the other...Posted by LadyNeptuneU are talking shite. stop smoking weed.Posted by ConfusedAries2016The fact that you have hesitation just means he's not the one. With the right person you'll want to do those things. Ride or die.
I know I messed up and I want to do whatever would help him be in again. He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and should just do those things?click to expand
Posted by AgentP911This x100. Your BF sounds like a child OP. Totally manipulative and not understanding at all. I get you broke his trust, but c'mon dude, it's not like you f'd someone else or cheated on him. He's gotta get over it and move on.
You may have messed up but he's milking it here. I'm sorry but I don't like anything that feels emotionally manipulative.
He says he wants to start things differently and give it time yet tells you cooking him dinner and being sweet to him will make him fall back in love with you.
What bullshit. He either loves you or he doesn't. Sure, Taurean's love food but this doesn't sound right to me. He's pushing his luck. He knows it too which is why he stops acting like a wounded child when you stand firm.
Posted by LadyNeptuneLOL this dude really said to buy him shoes and fix his car? GTFO. This is the silliest crap I've read on this forum yet. Move on from this spoiled child. Seriously wow.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100How does one relate to the other...Posted by LadyNeptuneU are talking shite. stop smoking weed.Posted by ConfusedAries2016The fact that you have hesitation just means he's not the one. With the right person you'll want to do those things. Ride or die.
I know I messed up and I want to do whatever would help him be in again. He also said he wanted me to buy him shoes and do something in his car on break.. Some of things he's asking of me I feel like an idiot doing them because he's asking me to buy him things. Maybe I'm thinking too much into it and should just do those things?
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Dumb BOY.
Umm no, not worth your time. Stop feeling bad for making a little mistake and letting him rule you with guilt. He's playing the stupid victim card like you cheated on him.
Umm no, not worth your time. Stop feeling bad for making a little mistake and letting him rule you with guilt. He's playing the stupid victim card like you cheated on him.
You really haven't been dating that long and he seems like a jerk.
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I messed up and I'm regretting it really bad. I met a Taurus at work a few months ago. He was super obsessed with me to begin with. We got super close with in a short amount of time. After a few weeks he asked me to be his girlfriend. This was honestly the best relationship I felt myself ever being in.
Then I messed up and I feel horrible about it. He had told me something that for him is a big deal. I was venting to a "friend" I thought I could trust. I would never tell anybody anything major and personal he ever told me but I know perception is everything. When I was talking to my "friend" I was venting and I never thought they would go and tell somebody about it. It got back to him.
I never saw that side of him. He called me a whore, a bitch. Called me an idiot. Said that I wasn't loyal. Finally he agreed to come over and he slept with me and then just left and called me the next day saying he couldn't do this anymore. And that he didn't trust me anymore.
I understand where he's coming from. I am such a loyal person and I know that we're right for each other. I made a mistake venting to the wrong person and I wish more than anything that I could take it back.
I wrote him a long message telling him how I feel and he said it got to him. We started spending more time with one another but he said because of breaking his trust I had to make it up to him. He wanted me to delete somebody off my Facebook, when I wouldn't do that he asked for something else which I did.
When he came over the other night I felt us being closer and it was great but then the next day he was distant again. He said he loves me and I'm his girlfriend but he wants to start things differently and give it time.
When I hit him up a lot he seems to not be into me so much but when he does or says something mean or cruel and makes me mad and I act strong he seems to be all into me. He doesn't call me as much anymore. Even though he says he wants to be with me I don't know anymore.
He said by me making him dinner and being sweet that he would fall inlove with me again.
Things are so different now. I know I messed up. My intentions weren't malicious at all.
I read Taurus will keep you around when they know it's over until the next person better comes along. Do I have anyway to salvage this and make it be like it was?
Unless it's one of your best friends...you really shouldn't be discussing the intimate conversation someone trusted you with.
Doesn't matter if it was your boyfriend, sibling, relative, or associate.
I wouldn't trust you either but I wouldn't make you jump through hoops to get back in good graces either.
Just leave him alone for a while. If he comes back to you it was meant to be...if not hope you learned your lesson.
you should leave him. If he really loves you he will get back to u.
I am currently chatting a taurus guy and i really really liked him... he is very nice and all. My only problem with him is hes so cold and not chatty.. at first its really irritating since i told him communication is very important. He will change in a day then go back to his old self the next day. What i did is i suddenly stopped messaging him and guess what? he becomes so worried and he message me.. after that he was doing his best to do my wishes...
Dump him and see his reaction if he really wants u or not. Dont just do what he is telling u. u have feelings too. ?
I am currently chatting a taurus guy and i really really liked him... he is very nice and all. My only problem with him is hes so cold and not chatty.. at first its really irritating since i told him communication is very important. He will change in a day then go back to his old self the next day. What i did is i suddenly stopped messaging him and guess what? he becomes so worried and he message me.. after that he was doing his best to do my wishes...
Dump him and see his reaction if he really wants u or not. Dont just do what he is telling u. u have feelings too. ?
Thanks for the replies. A part of me feels like I should move on. And a lot of people in my life feel like he's not a bad person. I'm just beating myself up so bad over this because I messed up.
There's times he flipped out a lot before this. And I try and remember the doubts I had before. I always wanted somebody that was as protective as him. That's always the main thing I wanted and I had it in him.
I don't know why I can't see what other people see and let him go. There's a part of me that thinks he will get over this but then he treats me like complete crap/ or just a friend and at this point I feel like he's just using me for sex.
When I get pissed and want to end it he's telling me he loves me but he doesn't know what "inlove" feels like anymore apparently.
If I knew he would come back like he was before I would probably do those things but there's a good chance he's just treating me like an idiot right now.
There's times he flipped out a lot before this. And I try and remember the doubts I had before. I always wanted somebody that was as protective as him. That's always the main thing I wanted and I had it in him.
I don't know why I can't see what other people see and let him go. There's a part of me that thinks he will get over this but then he treats me like complete crap/ or just a friend and at this point I feel like he's just using me for sex.
When I get pissed and want to end it he's telling me he loves me but he doesn't know what "inlove" feels like anymore apparently.
If I knew he would come back like he was before I would probably do those things but there's a good chance he's just treating me like an idiot right now.
I know 😢 I messed up so bad
messed up so bad.Posted by happyface1Posted by ConfusedAries2016
I messed up and I'm regretting it really bad. I met a Taurus at work a few months ago. He was super obsessed with me to begin with. We got super close with in a short amount of time. After a few weeks he asked me to be his girlfriend. This was honestly the best relationship I felt myself ever being in.
Then I messed up and I feel horrible about it. He had told me something that for him is a big deal. I was venting to a "friend" I thought I could trust. I would never tell anybody anything major and personal he ever told me but I know perception is everything. When I was talking to my "friend" I was venting and I never thought they would go and tell somebody about it. It got back to him.
I never saw that side of him. He called me a whore, a bitch. Called me an idiot. Said that I wasn't loyal. Finally he agreed to come over and he slept with me and then just left and called me the next day saying he couldn't do this anymore. And that he didn't trust me anymore.
I understand where he's coming from. I am such a loyal person and I know that we're right for each other. I made a mistake venting to the wrong person and I wish more than anything that I could take it back.
I wrote him a long message telling him how I feel and he said it got to him. We started spending more time with one another but he said because of breaking his trust I had to make it up to him. He wanted me to delete somebody off my Facebook, when I wouldn't do that he asked for something else which I did.
When he came over the other night I felt us being closer and it was great but then the next day he was distant again. He said he loves me and I'm his girlfriend but he wants to start things differently and give it time.
When I hit him up a lot he seems to not be into me so much but when he does or says something mean or cruel and makes me mad and I act strong he seems to be all into me. He doesn't call me as much anymore. Even though he says he wants to be with me I don't know anymore.
He said by me making him dinner and being sweet that he would fall inlove with me again.
Things are so different now. I know I messed up. My intentions weren't malicious at all.
I read Taurus will keep you around when they know it's over until the next person better comes along. Do I have anyway to salvage this and make it be like it was?
Unless it's one of your best friends...you really shouldn't be discussing the intimate conversation someone trusted you with.
Doesn't matter if it was your boyfriend, sibling, relative, or associate.
I wouldn't trust you either but I wouldn't make you jump through hoops to get back in good graces either.
Just leave him alone for a while. If he comes back to you it was meant to be...if not hope you learned your lesson.
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I met to say a lot of people in my life thinks he is a bad person.
Somebody said its crazy that I don't see what they see. But I really don't. There's definitely some things that I think aren't okay but I truly feel like I messed up something that could have been amazing.
Somebody said its crazy that I don't see what they see. But I really don't. There's definitely some things that I think aren't okay but I truly feel like I messed up something that could have been amazing.
Posted by ConfusedAries2016You need to leave him.
I met to say a lot of people in my life thinks he is a bad person.
Somebody said its crazy that I don't see what they see. But I really don't. There's definitely some things that I think aren't okay but I truly feel like I messed up something that could have been amazing.
Yes, you made a mistake but it sounds like things were not that good before this incident. Flipping out on you a lot? Making you feel like crap? Telling you he doesn't know what being in love means? It's emotional abuse you don't see it because when youre being abused you don't.
Listen to your friends, family and coworkers. They can't all be wrong. he sounds like he has some serious issues. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel protected but there are guys out there that will make you feel protected without making you feel all the other ways he makes you feel. There is so much better. I hope you can believe that.
Do not stay. This will only get worse.
As above, not everyone with the same view can be wrong.
You don't see it because you choose not to see it. We have all been there at some point in our lives and not seen the obvious. You are not alone here. Take the advice from all around you and you will come to see it too.
Here's something I often do or use myself. Tell me ten things you like about this guy and ten things you don't like. I bet you that you can fill out the negatives with ease and can only think of a few things for the good, most of which will be superficial and not that important when in a relationship.
I think at least 80% minimum should be good times where you feel good, loved, appreciated, respected etc. There's always going to be done bad times but it's how you deal with those that counts. I can tell you now, this guy is not a good partner. He needs to grow up. I don't see a future with this guy. You can't base a relationship on his 'potential'. You need to base it on reality. Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel like shit?
Bin him. You'll actually feel much better when boot is on other foot and you put that boot up his arse and tell him where to go. Right now you feel like shit because he wants you to feel like shit. He wants to keep you down for his own benefit because he wants to use you for new shoes and sex etc. Frankly, the sex must be quite hollow if there's no genuine feelings involved so what's the point of hanging around to be treated like a doormat and prostitute. Is that what you had dreamed of? Is that how you pictured your relationships? No I didn't think so.
You don't see it because you choose not to see it. We have all been there at some point in our lives and not seen the obvious. You are not alone here. Take the advice from all around you and you will come to see it too.
Here's something I often do or use myself. Tell me ten things you like about this guy and ten things you don't like. I bet you that you can fill out the negatives with ease and can only think of a few things for the good, most of which will be superficial and not that important when in a relationship.
I think at least 80% minimum should be good times where you feel good, loved, appreciated, respected etc. There's always going to be done bad times but it's how you deal with those that counts. I can tell you now, this guy is not a good partner. He needs to grow up. I don't see a future with this guy. You can't base a relationship on his 'potential'. You need to base it on reality. Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel like shit?
Bin him. You'll actually feel much better when boot is on other foot and you put that boot up his arse and tell him where to go. Right now you feel like shit because he wants you to feel like shit. He wants to keep you down for his own benefit because he wants to use you for new shoes and sex etc. Frankly, the sex must be quite hollow if there's no genuine feelings involved so what's the point of hanging around to be treated like a doormat and prostitute. Is that what you had dreamed of? Is that how you pictured your relationships? No I didn't think so.
Why can't I stop thinking about him? I had to block him on Facebook. I want to call him and I'm about to block his number so I don't. This sucks.
ree. I also feel like I messed up though and betrayed his loyalty.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by ConfusedAries2016U are obviously addicted to shit and assholes. But it's never too late to make a change. Keep strong. You can do it.
Why can't I stop thinking about him? I had to block him on Facebook. I want to call him and I'm about to block his number so I don't. This sucks.click to expand
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I agree. I also feel like I messed up though and betrayed his loyalty.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by ConfusedAries2016U are obviously addicted to shit and assholes. But it's never too late to make a change. Keep strong. You can do it.
Why can't I stop thinking about him? I had to block him on Facebook. I want to call him and I'm about to block his number so I don't. This sucks.click to expand
Get a grip. While you are still in the fog of all of this, it's going to be hard.
You made a mistake but you know, he made a mistake by making you feel like an idiot. His mistake is worse. Never allow anyone to make you feel like that again. Above all be loyal to yourself. Everyone else can fuck off.
Posted by ConfusedAries2016What you did is not end of the world...you didn't cheat did you? You made a mistake, we allll make mistakes but you need to forgive yourself and move on.
I agree. I also feel like I messed up though and betrayed his loyalty.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by ConfusedAries2016U are obviously addicted to shit and assholes. But it's never too late to make a change. Keep strong. You can do it.
Why can't I stop thinking about him? I had to block him on Facebook. I want to call him and I'm about to block his number so I don't. This sucks.click to expand
Try saying out loud everything you are telling us about him and then you will see how messed up he is being toward you. Things happen for a reason and maybe you were meant to to betray him to see his true awful self ?
You want someone protective but sometimes that can be someone who is controlling and that is just misery. This guy is just one frog closer to your Prince Charming 😉
We talked a few times. He told me if I could handle just hanging out and being friends with benefits that eventually down the line we might be able to have more. That if I was okay with him not texting me, not hanging out on break and take it for what it is. That if we went a long time without fighting than things could change.
I don't understand how he could turn his feelings off so quick. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship right now. There's really no coming back from this. It's pretty fucked up that I'm considering being a booty call in hopes that in a month he would have a change of heart.
I don't understand how he could turn his feelings off so quick. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship right now. There's really no coming back from this. It's pretty fucked up that I'm considering being a booty call in hopes that in a month he would have a change of heart.
Posted by ConfusedAries2016No girl, here is your sign...he was never "the one" love is patient, love is kind, love is unconditional and all he gives you are conditions. He never loved you, in fact I'm not sure he is truly incapable of love he sounds damaged. Be glad you dodged a bullet with this one ?
We talked a few times. He told me if I could handle just hanging out and being friends with benefits that eventually down the line we might be able to have more. That if I was okay with him not texting me, not hanging out on break and take it for what it is. That if we went a long time without fighting than things could change.
I don't understand how he could turn his feelings off so quick. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship right now. There's really no coming back from this. It's pretty fucked up that I'm considering being a booty call in hopes that in a month he would have a change of heart.
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We talked a few times. He told me if I could handle just hanging out and being friends with benefits that eventually down the line we might be able to have more. That if I was okay with him not texting me, not hanging out on break and take it for what it is. That if we went a long time without fighting than things could change.
I don't understand how he could turn his feelings off so quick. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship right now. There's really no coming back from this. It's pretty fucked up that I'm considering being a booty call in hopes that in a month he would have a change of heart.
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I hope you choose not to be the the booty call OP. I'm sure you know you're worth more, deserve more than that. Say it! I am worth more! Lol
Booty call is fine but not for someone like this. You made a mistake. He called you a bitch (is this good communication skills?), tried to make you jump through hoops, asked you to buy him shoes and clean his car and now is saying you can be his FWB but that's it. Not a man of high caliber. Red flags, red flags, red flags
Today I saw him talking to some girl at work by his car and it looked like they were about to have lunch together. Then I found this picture he liked of hers on Facebook with her boobs hanging out. And when I ask him if he's talking to somebody he's super shady about it. That's all I needed I think.
It blows my mind how quick he turned his personality over a mistake I made. He swore he was so loyal and numerous times told me if we broke up don't be disrespectful and date somebody at work.
It blows my mind how quick he turned his personality over a mistake I made. He swore he was so loyal and numerous times told me if we broke up don't be disrespectful and date somebody at work.
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Today I saw him talking to some girl at work by his car and it looked like they were about to have lunch together. Then I found this picture he liked of hers on Facebook with her boobs hanging out. And when I ask him if he's talking to somebody he's super shady about it. That's all I needed I think.
It blows my mind how quick he turned his personality over a mistake I made. He swore he was so loyal and numerous times told me if we broke up don't be disrespectful and date somebody at work.
You've had a very fucking lucky escape. You should be thanking your lucky stars over this. He's now some other girls issue. Just as well you saw him move on so quickly. It means he wasn't really into you in the first place. Best to have the heart ache now and move on than staying with him and getting more involved only to find out what a knob he is later on. No need to waste time on this one.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
Posted by ConfusedAries2016You know it's a dumb question because you already know the answer. Sorry Infinite8, it's a fucking dumb question! OP, we have all been there with rose tinted glasses only seeing what we choose to see. Hoping it's all just a bad dream and he really is that 'great guy' you want him to be but let me send you another postcard from reality... He's a cunt.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
Do you REALLY think he ACTUALLY wants you?
Should it take him seeing you with another man to suddenly wake up his 'feelings' (that he doesn't have) and realise he wants you? And if so, under what terms? The SAME bullshit terms he's already offered you. It won't change.
I'm disappointed in you Miss Aries. Where's your God damn balls?
You should be milking this and making HIM feel like shit. In fact, if you were strong enough, which you're not, I'd say give him the same terms he offered you. Show him some shoes you want bought. Expensive but affordable ones. They don't have to be Jimmy Choo! Fuck it, yes they do! You want dinner cooked for you three times a week and lunch for two days days. Plus flowers everyday. Oh and at the weekend he can return the sexual favours. Obviously he's not allowed to cum until you say so which will obviously be never...I hope he's taking notes... What do you mean he doesn't like the terms—
No, I didn't think he would.
He's a silly cunt and so are you for pining over him. Have you got Pisces in your chart? Bloody victim syndrome!! Always wanting to see the good and fix people plus the queen of putting up with other people's shit!
Posted by ConfusedAries2016ultimately, it doesn't matter what he thinks or says. it's what you want.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
the reality is you still want this guy. you want the guy who calls you a bitch, a whore, an idiot. you want the guy who withdraws his love at the drop of the hat. you want the guy who in your gut you know doesn't treat you well.
now possibly this is playing out relationships you've had in the past where people who claimed to love you were inconsistent or made you feel unworthy or perhaps it is just brain chemicals keeping you attached however, you are at a crossroads. you have to decide if this is what you are willing to accept from a person who, 6 months ago, was a stranger. as you can see, none of us would accept this bullshit and we want you to see you don't have to either.
he has changed his behaviour again because that is what he does. he changes his personality to get him the things he wants. he'll change again when this tactic no longer suits him.
uly love this. I want to tell him exactly this and flip the script. My birthday is March 24. I think I'm on the cusp. I appreciate your honesty. Maybe I do have blinders on.
I feel like he was so mad for me breaking his loyalty that he reacted a certain way. He told me he didn't realize how much he cared until he saw me with somebody.
I am an Aries and usually I can drop guys and say fuck off. I don't know what it is about him.Posted by AgentP911Posted by ConfusedAries2016You know it's a dumb question because you already know the answer. Sorry Infinite8, it's a fucking dumb question! OP, we have all been there with rose tinted glasses only seeing what we choose to see. Hoping it's all just a bad dream and he really is that 'great guy' you want him to be but let me send you another postcard from reality... He's a cunt.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
Do you REALLY think he ACTUALLY wants you?
Should it take him seeing you with another man to suddenly wake up his 'feelings' (that he doesn't have) and realise he wants you? And if so, under what terms? The SAME bullshit terms he's already offered you. It won't change.
I'm disappointed in you Miss Aries. Where's your God damn balls?
You should be milking this and making HIM feel like shit. In fact, if you were strong enough, which you're not, I'd say give him the same terms he offered you. Show him some shoes you want bought. Expensive but affordable ones. They don't have to be Jimmy Choo! Fuck it, yes they do! You want dinner cooked for you three times a week and lunch for two days days. Plus flowers everyday. Oh and at the weekend he can return the sexual favours. Obviously he's not allowed to cum until you say so which will obviously be never...I hope he's taking notes... What do you mean he doesn't like the terms—
No, I didn't think he would.
He's a silly cunt and so are you for pining over him. Have you got Pisces in your chart? Bloody victim syndrome!! Always wanting to see the good and fix people plus the queen of putting up with other people's shit!
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hips have been shitty in the past.
I know I'm repeating myself but I truly feel like I broke his loyalty. He wasn't like this before that. I know that person he was and I saw and I think I'm holding on to that.
Okay I have issues. I know.
Posted by jeanePosted by ConfusedAries2016ultimately, it doesn't matter what he thinks or says. it's what you want.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
the reality is you still want this guy. you want the guy who calls you a bitch, a whore, an idiot. you want the guy who withdraws his love at the drop of the hat. you want the guy who in your gut you know doesn't treat you well.
now possibly this is playing out relationships you've had in the past where people who claimed to love you were inconsistent or made you feel unworthy or perhaps it is just brain chemicals keeping you attached however, you are at a crossroads. you have to decide if this is what you are willing to accept from a person who, 6 months ago, was a stranger. as you can see, none of us would accept this bullshit and we want you to see you don't have to either.
he has changed his behaviour again because that is what he does. he changes his personality to get him the things he wants. he'll change again when this tactic no longer suits him.
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Posted by Infinite8Ha ha! Luckily OP can take it! I think when something is that obvious I can't help to point it out. It just jumps off the page and I'm thinking WTF!Posted by AgentP911Posted by ConfusedAries2016You know it's a dumb question because you already know the answer. Sorry Infinite8, it's a fucking dumb question! OP, we have all been there with rose tinted glasses only seeing what we choose to see. Hoping it's all just a bad dream and he really is that 'great guy' you want him to be but let me send you another postcard from reality... He's a cunt.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
Do you REALLY think he ACTUALLY wants you?
Should it take him seeing you with another man to suddenly wake up his 'feelings' (that he doesn't have) and realise he wants you? And if so, under what terms? The SAME bullshit terms he's already offered you. It won't change.
I'm disappointed in you Miss Aries. Where's your God damn balls?
You should be milking this and making HIM feel like shit. In fact, if you were strong enough, which you're not, I'd say give him the same terms he offered you. Show him some shoes you want bought. Expensive but affordable ones. They don't have to be Jimmy Choo! Fuck it, yes they do! You want dinner cooked for you three times a week and lunch for two days days. Plus flowers everyday. Oh and at the weekend he can return the sexual favours. Obviously he's not allowed to cum until you say so which will obviously be never...I hope he's taking notes... What do you mean he doesn't like the terms—
No, I didn't think he would.
He's a silly cunt and so are you for pining over him. Have you got Pisces in your chart? Bloody victim syndrome!! Always wanting to see the good and fix people plus the queen of putting up with other people's shit!
Lmao!!! No worries, I love it when you get this passionate!! Hahahahaha...
I was actually proud of myself there for not being so judgemental and critical. Your version is much more humorous. Had I said it, she'd feel very insignificant?.
We're all working on something ?
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I'm trying to give OP the pearls of my wisdom and I think back a couple of years (yeah it's been that long) to when I was unexplainably focused on someone who wasn't worth my time and who didn't appreciate me. I can think of many over the years who have been in this category!
reciate my directness, and humour! It's a British thing.
Yes, I think you do have blinders on. It doesn't make logical sense in wanting this person who so clearly doesn't care for you and probably never did. Therefore, it's just the emotional process going on which at least shows you're human, and genuine too. You can't just switch off as its a person you liked although hopefully those feelings will start to fade and probably quickly as you were not together long plus he's a dick. You know he's a dick. You just need to go through the motions of letting go.
Sure, you broke his trust and you made steps to gain it back. You cared enough to want to make it right. Instead of him accepting that and rebuilding trust he chose to abuse it. Not just a little. A whole fucking lot! I'd let a little milking go if I saw he was making an effort too but that didn't happen here. He took the piss and ran with it, at your expense.
Regarding his 'I saw you with somebody else and it oh so suddenly dawned on me that I cared' is crap because it didn't dawn on him he cared when he asked you to buy shoes, make dinner, suck his knob etc.
As already stated, he sees you as a possession, not a person.
Anyone who truly cares for you be it a parent, relative, friend or partner, would not treat you this way.
Now go and be an Aries and get back out into life and no more tears.Posted by ConfusedAries2016
I truly love this. I want to tell him exactly this and flip the script. My birthday is March 24. I think I'm on the cusp. I appreciate your honesty. Maybe I do have blinders on.
I feel like he was so mad for me breaking his loyalty that he reacted a certain way. He told me he didn't realize how much he cared until he saw me with somebody.
I am an Aries and usually I can drop guys and say fuck off. I don't know what it is about him.Posted by AgentP911Posted by ConfusedAries2016You know it's a dumb question because you already know the answer. Sorry Infinite8, it's a fucking dumb question! OP, we have all been there with rose tinted glasses only seeing what we choose to see. Hoping it's all just a bad dream and he really is that 'great guy' you want him to be but let me send you another postcard from reality... He's a cunt.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
Do you REALLY think he ACTUALLY wants you?
Should it take him seeing you with another man to suddenly wake up his 'feelings' (that he doesn't have) and realise he wants you? And if so, under what terms? The SAME bullshit terms he's already offered you. It won't change.
I'm disappointed in you Miss Aries. Where's your God damn balls?
You should be milking this and making HIM feel like shit. In fact, if you were strong enough, which you're not, I'd say give him the same terms he offered you. Show him some shoes you want bought. Expensive but affordable ones. They don't have to be Jimmy Choo! Fuck it, yes they do! You want dinner cooked for you three times a week and lunch for two days days. Plus flowers everyday. Oh and at the weekend he can return the sexual favours. Obviously he's not allowed to cum until you say so which will obviously be never...I hope he's taking notes... What do you mean he doesn't like the terms—
No, I didn't think he would.
He's a silly cunt and so are you for pining over him. Have you got Pisces in your chart? Bloody victim syndrome!! Always wanting to see the good and fix people plus the queen of putting up with other people's shit!
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Posted by Infinite8I'm still an opinionated arsehole so it's ok —Posted by AgentP911Yeah, already a few years back!! You have had some really nice changes in your life. It's nice to see the progress and how it's affected you!Posted by Infinite8Ha ha! Luckily OP can take it! I think when something is that obvious I can't help to point it out. It just jumps off the page and I'm thinking WTF!Posted by AgentP911Posted by ConfusedAries2016You know it's a dumb question because you already know the answer. Sorry Infinite8, it's a fucking dumb question! OP, we have all been there with rose tinted glasses only seeing what we choose to see. Hoping it's all just a bad dream and he really is that 'great guy' you want him to be but let me send you another postcard from reality... He's a cunt.
Thank you for all of your replies. I was crying on break when I saw them together and I read these and they made me feel better.
After work he saw me walking with somebody to our cars and called and said his stomach was sick and he wants me back. He told he's going to "eye this dude" down. Then first lied about that girl and got then kept going back and forth. He said he's going to get me back. I'm trying to be strong right now. Just last night he was completely different.
Do you think seeing him seeing me with somebody else made him realize? I know this is a dumb question.
Do you REALLY think he ACTUALLY wants you?
Should it take him seeing you with another man to suddenly wake up his 'feelings' (that he doesn't have) and realise he wants you? And if so, under what terms? The SAME bullshit terms he's already offered you. It won't change.
I'm disappointed in you Miss Aries. Where's your God damn balls?
You should be milking this and making HIM feel like shit. In fact, if you were strong enough, which you're not, I'd say give him the same terms he offered you. Show him some shoes you want bought. Expensive but affordable ones. They don't have to be Jimmy Choo! Fuck it, yes they do! You want dinner cooked for you three times a week and lunch for two days days. Plus flowers everyday. Oh and at the weekend he can return the sexual favours. Obviously he's not allowed to cum until you say so which will obviously be never...I hope he's taking notes... What do you mean he doesn't like the terms—
No, I didn't think he would.
He's a silly cunt and so are you for pining over him. Have you got Pisces in your chart? Bloody victim syndrome!! Always wanting to see the good and fix people plus the queen of putting up with other people's shit!
Lmao!!! No worries, I love it when you get this passionate!! Hahahahaha...
I was actually proud of myself there for not being so judgemental and critical. Your version is much more humorous. Had I said it, she'd feel very insignificant?.
We're all working on something ?
I'm trying to give OP the pearls of my wisdom and I think back a couple of years (yeah it's been that long) to when I was unexplainably focused on someone who wasn't worth my time and who didn't appreciate me. I can think of many over the years who have been in this category!
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Posted by ConfusedAries2016It's not about having issues it's about learning from past experiences to create better ones in the future. If this is how you've been treated in the past then it may be worth recognising the pattern to not repeat it again.
My relationships have been shitty in the past.
I know I'm repeating myself but I truly feel like I broke his loyalty. He wasn't like this before that. I know that person he was and I saw and I think I'm holding on to that.
Okay I have issues. I know.
You say you had no problems before this but then why were you venting? There must have been some substance to what you were saying and feeling.
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