@MsKrabz
9 Years
Judge me, because I'm not sure.
Is it okay to retaliate against someone who hurt you
Retaliating or seeking revenge can prolong emotional pain and hinder healing. Focusing on self-care and moving forward is healthier than seeking retribution. Reflecting on your feelings and setting boundaries helps regain control and emotional strength after a toxic relationship.
What in Sam Billy hell.. lol
Posted by MsKrabz
Three years ago I met a "Typical Taurus" man on a chat site. Charming, persistent, generous, distant, and had a harem.Death, and bad financial decisions turned him into this cold blooded being. Most tauro people take the space, and time needed.
Not he.
So your caring NAIVE cancer girl (me) stick around to..care.
During that time he poured his bitter heart into me. He degraded, and disrespected me. Essentially our "situationship" ended with me blocking him.
Recently he finds me on IG. Not sure how. My IG is not even my name. Haven't spoken to him in three years to let him know I have an IG.
He liked four of my pictures. Commented on one saying," You look beautiful."
I deleted all of his comments. Kinda bummed that I can't delete his likes
I really regret how naive I was. Why did I allowed him to be degrading, and disrespectful. Every so often I immaturely go to his IG page, and reflect back on how stupid I was.
Sometimes I want to say something under one of his pictures. Something mean, and possibly uncalled for
Y'know what I'm almost 30. I should really pull my big girl panties up.
But I don't want to. I want to a be a huge bitch to him, I want to catfish him and be an even bigger bitch.. and what does that get me...nothing..
So give me -- a grown person the okay to catfish this guy.. I need somebody to blame it on. Lol
I'm only joking, but man I was a dumbass.
I understand how u feel..maybe u could forgive urself.dont be so hard on urself..u were youn u didnt expect things will happen the way it did and now that u're older.u're no longer that silly person.someone who'll never be involve with him ever again.
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You honestly do give part of yourself to someone when you involve yourself with them. I can't believe I still struggle to allow myself to have the piece.
I will forgive myself.
Actual depiction of what I want to do. Needs to be a bigger thing to throw though.
Cancer girls :/
Always fall for someone who need help, and need someone to fix him.
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Just ignore him, and u will be fine
Yes. True to our sign that's is what we do.
But
I wasn't trying to "fix him" I was trying to be there for him, but he saw me as a target. Also No-one can fix him..not even himself.
And I've been ignoring him, but the urge to be a bitch is quite strong, but I am a do-"gooder"
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Just do it and blame it on him turning you into a cold blooded being.
I wouldn't even know what I'd do.
I KEEP EVERYTHING. I am VERY sentimental. Other things I hold onto because it shows growth.
After some thinking..this is what I'd do.
****DARK CANCER THOUGHTS AFTER DARK*****
I want to become his facebook friend. I KNOW he will except . From there I will lurk his page for about a week to find the HEART of his harem.
I will then tag him, and post every bit that I have of him to show how degrading, disrespectful, and inhumane he is.
I want to destroy his flock. I want to shut him down.
But as I've said I am not bitter toward him particularly. I was a fucking idiot, and I'm willing to except that -- though I have so many things I want to say.
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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Just do it and blame it on him turning you into a cold blooded being.I wouldn't even know what I'd do.
It's probably just as well, you wouldn't wanna do anything stupid.
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Damn. I meant to quote you with my response.
you need closure? why dont you send him a message on this site?
Revenge will only make you more angry/resentful if there's any resistance and if it's not over quickly, imo. I don't think a battle like that is worth it, nor do I think the odds are in your favor. I understand being bitter and wanting revenge, but imo there's better choices you can make to resolve your feelings. I don't have any useful tips to help you explore those other choices, but good luck
So you are bitter because your not the main one so revenge is the next step. So you mirroring him is more like it. He did so you do too. Hmm
We've all been there. Dont do anything as he will see it as sign that you want him back in his life as he will bite. Just let it pass.
you need closure? why dont you send him a message on this site?
Closure? No, I just want to make him feel shitty. He is not on DXP.
Posted by TauroMale22
what did he do exactly?
One thing he did out of many was exploiting my body publicly.
Posted by MsKrabz
Three years ago I met a "Typical Taurus" man on a chat site. Charming, persistent, generous, distant, and had a harem.Death, and bad financial decisions turned him into this cold blooded being. Most tauro people take the space, and time needed.
Not he.
So your caring NAIVE cancer girl (me) stick around to..care.
During that time he poured his bitter heart into me. He degraded, and disrespected me. Essentially our "situationship" ended with me blocking him.
Recently he finds me on IG. Not sure how. My IG is not even my name. Haven't spoken to him in three years to let him know I have an IG.
He liked four of my pictures. Commented on one saying," You look beautiful."
I deleted all of his comments. Kinda bummed that I can't delete his likes
I really regret how naive I was. Why did I allowed him to be degrading, and disrespectful. Every so often I immaturely go to his IG page, and reflect back on how stupid I was.
Sometimes I want to say something under one of his pictures. Something mean, and possibly uncalled for
Y'know what I'm almost 30. I should really pull my big girl panties up.
But I don't want to. I want to a be a huge bitch to him, I want to catfish him and be an even bigger bitch.. and what does that get me...nothing..
So give me -- a grown person the okay to catfish this guy.. I need somebody to blame it on. Lol
I'm only joking, but man I was a dumbass.
Yeah, Taurus have a knack of finding someone who doesn't want them anymore. I changed my number 3 times and he still got mine now, I decided to just let him. It's fun anyway lol
Anw, you don't need to hate yourself or hate him. Things happen for a reason, and he was there in your life to teach you a lesson. Have you ever heard of karmic relationship? A relationship that is so toxic and you could never get yourself out from, but once you do, your heart is ready to call in your soulmate? Maybe he is one of your karmic relationship to prepare you for your soulmate ?
Cry tonight, feel everything and then sleep. Allow yourself to cry, it's a process of healing. If it still hurts cry some more until you feel better.
You need to forgive him for playing you
You need to forgive yourself for letting him play you
And you need to forgive the situation. If you keep blaming the situation it means you're blaming God, Love.
Just forgive ?
Have faith, stay strong and take care! ?
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You have spoke beautifully to my spirit. Thank you for that, and yes, I have heard of that, but I've already found my soulmate, and he'd like to throw a rock at him too ? he's a sweet man just as well though.
Posted by Scenic
Revenge will only make you more angry/resentful if there's any resistance and if it's not over quickly, imo. I don't think a battle like that is worth it, nor do I think the odds are in your favor. I understand being bitter and wanting revenge, but imo there's better choices you can make to resolve your feelings. I don't have any useful tips to help you explore those other choices, but good luck
Thank you for the luck.
Posted by Sagsagsags
I kinda have a feeling that we know the same man lol. the story is pretty similar to what I heard from other girl when we were together for 4 years. But dunno :sHis name, does it start with an A? hahahaha ?
Nope. His name begins with a J and ends with an N.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So you are bitter because your not the main one so revenge is the next step. So you mirroring him is more like it. He did so you do too. Hmm
Oh hell to the no .. be his main one? Ma'am he degraded and disrespected me. Why in Sam Billy hell would I take part in his harem?
In so many ways, and words he is still the same, and sees no wrong in himself.
Wisdom tells me to apply my big girl panties because in all honesty I am only embarrassing myself in the end, but the irrational part of me wants to get my little piece of revenge.
If I sound bitter I need to redo my vibe. I'm happy with my life. I'm actually just venting. It's a surprise me to have people respond and say that they understand.
Posted by TauroMale22
what did he do exactly?One thing he did out of many was exploiting my body publicly.
sue him, take his money, he will cry.
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He's got no money to take so I'd be crying because I took his literal last $ 2.00 ??
Cancer girls :/
Always fall for someone who need help, and need someone to fix him.
.
Just ignore him, and u will be fine
Yes. True to our sign that's is what we do.
But
I wasn't trying to "fix him" I was trying to be there for him, but he saw me as a target. Also No-one can fix him..not even himself.
And I've been ignoring him, but the urge to be a bitch is quite strong, but I am a do-"gooder"
U were young. I got burned by an aqua in my 20s. But by the time I hit my big 30, NEVER again. When you are in your 20s, allow yourself some room for error.
No one is perfect and some of us always want to see the good in others... Especially those with a "dark side".. We hang around to see if we can locate their "good side"... All the partners I attract have a dark side and over the years nothing is different. I firmly believe that they are a reflection of myself when I look introspectively!! ? ?
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This make me reflect over myself. I definitely do go back, and "check" on former friends. I don't say anything, I silently watch. One of which seems to have tapped into that genuine part of their heart.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So you are bitter because your not the main one so revenge is the next step. So you mirroring him is more like it. He did so you do too. HmmOh hell to the no .. be his main one? Ma'am he degraded and disrespected me. Why in Sam Billy hell would I take part in his harem?
In so many ways, and words he is still the same, and sees no wrong in himself.
Wisdom tells me to apply my big girl panties because in all honesty I am only embarrassing myself in the end, but the irrational part of me wants to get my little piece of revenge.
If I sound bitter I need to redo my vibe. I'm happy with my life. I'm actually just venting. It's a surprise me to have people respond and say that they understand.
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Yeah it does suck. Sorry I do hope you find closure and find someone else who deserve you for who you are as a good person and all. People take advantage of people all the time. It's rude and can't change people who are like this guy. It's all around...
The actions do play a big difference from ones who treat you right from ones that treat you like they have no moral, values or a more better upbringing. And because you've been through this you'll be able to spot it in others once you start dating a new body. Sorta helps you in away for life lessons and experiences.
Posted by TauroMale22
what did he do exactly?One thing he did out of many was exploiting my body publicly.
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How did he do that?
Posted by irreconcilabledifferences
why catfish though?we love getting catfished.
No reason. Just a thought.
Why do you all like getting catfished?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Posted by TauroMale22
what did he do exactly?One thing he did out of many was exploiting my body publicly.
How did he do that?
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There is a picture of my nude body floating around internet that he took, and no I did not give permission for him to take.
Damn yeah hit him in the jugular once be done with it.
Oh my that's why people have to be careful this reason you just never know how much of a douche someone can be like. even if you all been together years or one month, or few months. Nevertheless people like to be spontaneous and do this for people they supposedly liked. Man smdh.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Posted by TauroMale22
what did he do exactly?One thing he did out of many was exploiting my body publicly.
How did he do that?
There is a picture of my nude body floating around internet that he took, and no I did not give permission for him to take.
With your face as well?
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Yes.
Posted by Sagsagsags
I kinda have a feeling that we know the same man lol. the story is pretty similar to what I heard from other girl when we were together for 4 years. But dunno :sHis name, does it start with an A? hahahaha ?
Hmmm I know a Taurus that sounds like this whose name starts with A. Lol are you from the states? And if so what state? —
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Uh oh lol
you need closure? why dont you send him a message on this site?
Closure? No, I just want to make him feel shitty. He is not on DXP.
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Dont do that. You wont be any better than him, dont et yourself down on his low level.Just move on.
I havent read the 4 pages. I sense you are still angry, because you want revenge. You could write him a message, where you tell him everything you feel without insulting him. "I felt hurt and angry, I dont deserve to betreated like, I dont respect you because of your weak behaviour etc you get the picture.
B< the way is that you on that picture. How the hell can a guy be that stupid and run off an endearing woman like you who sticks to him in hard times. That was the ultimate loyalty proof. I bet a woman like you can have everybody.Most woman wouldve left. I mean it im not sucking up.
I havent read the 4 pages. I sense you are still angry, because you want revenge. You could write him a message, where you tell him everything you feel without insulting him. "I felt hurt and angry, I dont deserve to betreated like, I dont respect you because of your weak behaviour etc you get the picture.
I'm not even angry at him. I am more annoyed with myself for reflecting back.
Okay. Why in the hell do you all enjoy being catfished
... nor do I think the odds are in your favor.
They certainly aren't.
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Three years ago I met a "Typical Taurus" man on a chat site. Charming, persistent, generous, distant, and had a harem.
Death, and bad financial decisions turned him into this cold blooded being. Most tauro people take the space, and time needed.
Not he.
So your caring NAIVE cancer girl (me) stick around to..care.
During that time he poured his bitter heart into me. He degraded, and disrespected me. Essentially our "situationship" ended with me blocking him.
Recently he finds me on IG. Not sure how. My IG is not even my name. Haven't spoken to him in three years to let him know I have an IG.
He liked four of my pictures. Commented on one saying," You look beautiful."
I deleted all of his comments. Kinda bummed that I can't delete his likes
I really regret how naive I was. Why did I allowed him to be degrading, and disrespectful. Every so often I immaturely go to his IG page, and reflect back on how stupid I was.
Sometimes I want to say something under one of his pictures. Something mean, and possibly uncalled for
Y'know what I'm almost 30. I should really pull my big girl panties up.
But I don't want to. I want to a be a huge bitch to him, I want to catfish him and be an even bigger bitch.. and what does that get me...nothing..
So give me -- a grown person the okay to catfish this guy.. I need somebody to blame it on. Lol
I'm only joking, but man I was a dumbass.