Too insecure to approach Capricorn Lady

This is about me being an insecure Taurus.

Over the past few months I have been patiently waiting for Capricorn Lady to move back figuring everything will just fall into place. But that is just wishful thinking I'm sure. Reality is that You Capricorn Ladies scare me. I find You so attractive but then know I just don't measure up. Both figuratively and literally. The last time we saw each other at a function neither of us approached yet neither of us was social to others either. Recently she called my office, said she was told I knew about another office. I said no but then just before hanging up told her who to contact. So I did know her answer just I talk faster than I think and then look dumb.

Part of me just wants to tell her I had a crush forever and get it over and never speak again. Part of me wants to just "Let It Be" and if we see each other be cordial and maybe friends.

As I said You Capricorn Ladies scare me. I then worry if I tried to be friendly it would lead to sex. But I read about Capricorn libido and stamina and some can be demaning, I mean demanding or plain put off if things don't go their way. That is not a criticism. A woman should have what she wants. I just don't want to be the disappointer.

I have always been so awkward that she really has no idea who I am. I would like her to know me. As time/age/health take effect on me I am less able to have the relationship that I had always thought her and I could have if I could just approach her and be myself.

This isn't the woman for you.

You will constantly feel insecure and quite possibly act out through her. Thus damaging her for the next guy.

you over think everything - just tell her for some reason you get tongue tied around her and stop the worrying and the pussy crap because it ain't all that - you could handle things just fine if you stop all that noise

@LethalFantasia, Yours was a fun and thoughtful response. Thank you, I like it but.

@DMV, You are most likely right I feel.

@tctaap, Yes, I know.

I need to relax and stop wondering if we should be/like each other more and see what happens.

You sound like that guy from 40 year old virgin, except you're 57? I can understand you are worried about sex, but just take some Viagra and hope for the best. How old is this Capricorn? What exactly are you waiting for, I don't understand, you waiting for your 58th birthday? (sorry if this is sounding rude, I don't mean it to)

At that age I wouldn't give a fuck about the outcome its the living with regret of not doing it that would kill me.

It's *very* important for YOU to work on your insecurities BEFORE attempting to become involved in a relationship. Figure out WHERE these insecurities STEM from and tackle them. Wishing you the best!

Take a deep breathe.

I feel like one of the worst things we can feel in life is regret. You should at least try to muster the courage to speak to her even on friend basis first.

And then take things from there. It’ll be alright, regardless

Posted by gemNi

Your adorabs for a 57 year old Taurus.

Caps (f) and Taurus (m) are a damn good look, match and set up for longevity.

Earth signs fare well, in thriving for the long haul, too.

I sorta feel Caps are better for Taurus than Virgo. Go for it.

Hmm weirdly enough I agree w you on the last statement

Posted by DMV

This isn't the woman for you.

You will constantly feel insecure and quite possibly act out through her. Thus damaging her for the next guy.

Gotta rant here

Thats a great way to help somebody who is already in a bad place even though you are right. He is just scared of approaching the girl and he lets stuf he read on the internet,

and caps stuck up "I am a lone warrior in the jungle" mess with his head. So dont kick when he is down. You are better than that.

OP she is human like the rest of us. Nobody builds wall between them and people.Thats not a sign of strength. Its a defense mechanism. What do you know about her weaknesses? You need to view her as a flawed woman.

I have 2 questions:

Is she a coworker?

Can you do something cool with her? Even not shy taurus are not talky do you know her interests? I asked my scorpio gf to finish my

my chairs with me. So we had something to do.

Posted by Parkourler

Posted by DMV

This isn't the woman for you.

You will constantly feel insecure and quite possibly act out through her. Thus damaging her for the next guy.

Gotta rant here

Thats a great way to help somebody who is already in a bad place even though you are right. He is just scared of approaching the girl and he lets stuf he read on the internet,

and caps stuck up "I am a lone warrior in the jungle" mess with his head. So dont kick when he is down. You are better than that.

OP she is human like the rest of us. Nobody builds wall between them and people.Thats not a sign of strength. Its a defense mechanism. What do you know about her weaknesses? You need to view her as a flawed woman.

I have 2 questions:

Is she a coworker?

Can you do something cool with her? Even not shy taurus are not talky do you know her interests? I asked my scorpio gf to finish my

my chairs with me. So we had something to do.

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Not kicking anyone down.

I'm just cutting to the chase.

He is 57 years. It may seem adorable that he is insecure. But it wont be adorable to her when he has a low point and she is the one posting on dxpnet trying to figure out if it's her or not and why he doesnt call, text, etc.

Like sweatpea suggested, work on yourself and not through other people.

I love all the discussion.

As @gemNi said "21 years being married to the wrong sign".

I knew the Capricorn Lady long before I was married but could never really talk with her. Here is the funny part too me. When my ex divorced me I was thinking how it will be easy for me to interact with women now, no problem I've been married 21 years. I expected to hit the ground running and carry on. But like hitting a wall I realized I had not really changed when it came to social interacting. I am more able to be social but apparently not with someone that I find attractive or that catch my attention.

this is so adorable. I really mean that.

adorable how? a man putting his pride to the side and admitting his feelings of insecurity. he's talking about his feelings, which is rare in men. faults and all, this is a breath of fresh air. I wish more men spoke the truth about their feelings.

caps. they are good for their masks of toughness and solidarity. they know they are sensitive. they just front so they don't get their feelings hurt. but yes they are easily hurt. no matter how hard the front

No effort yet on my part.

I decided I'm not going to dump this "have had a crush on you forever" stuff on her. I don't talk so when I do talk I talk too much. Next time I see her I need to just talk to see if we can be friendly and have something in common.

Posted by Shy_Taurus

This is about me being an insecure Taurus.

Over the past few months I have been patiently waiting for Capricorn Lady to move back figuring everything will just fall into place. But that is just wishful thinking I'm sure. Reality is that You Capricorn Ladies scare me. I find You so attractive but then know I just don't measure up. Both figuratively and literally. The last time we saw each other at a function neither of us approached yet neither of us was social to others either. Recently she called my office, said she was told I knew about another office. I said no but then just before hanging up told her who to contact. So I did know her answer just I talk faster than I think and then look dumb.

Part of me just wants to tell her I had a crush forever and get it over and never speak again. Part of me wants to just "Let It Be" and if we see each other be cordial and maybe friends.

As I said You Capricorn Ladies scare me. I then worry if I tried to be friendly it would lead to sex. But I read about Capricorn libido and stamina and some can be demaning, I mean demanding or plain put off if things don't go their way. That is not a criticism. A woman should have what she wants. I just don't want to be the disappointer.

I have always been so awkward that she really has no idea who I am. I would like her to know me. As time/age/health take effect on me I am less able to have the relationship that I had always thought her and I could have if I could just approach her and be myself.

I say go for it. When I was in high school, a taurus was looking at me for about a year before anything happened. He finally got the nerve and we've been friends every since. I'm 45 now so that is a pretty long time.

I remember our 1st night together pretty vividly. He came before I even got undressed. I was young so I didn't catch on to what happened.

He freaked out with embarrassment but I thought it was cute. And I thought "Damn! I must be too hot to trot!"

I think you are over thinking it. Keep some of the excitement to yourself though. At least in the beginning. It may be too much too soon for her. Remember, we are very slow and don't make decisions hastily.

If you can make her laugh, you'll win her over.

We don't like nervous nellies in the sack. So, make sure to get it all out ahead of time!

Maybe that's normal dating advice.

And.. I have to say that I'm a dominant person by nature. But, that doesn't mean I dominate every time.

You'll never know if you don't try. Capricorns have lots of followers but only a few have the nerve. We are actually just wanting love like everybody else.

Take the leap! Don't over think it.

@Dreamy88, That is perfect.

I will print it and read this over and over to be in the right frame of mind.