@Whorpio
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On-again-off-again bff wants me to come to bday
Should You Attend Your Taurus Friend's Birthday Party
Deciding to go depends on your feelings and boundaries. If you want to support her and can handle potential tension, attending might help rebuild your friendship. If you're still hurt or uncertain, consider whether your presence will be beneficial for both of you. Trust your intuition and prioritize your emotional well-being in this situation.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Jeez! U need a bunch of strangers to tell you how to live your life?!!!Blimey! When did things in the world get so bad! Smh!
I guess I'm just wondering if she'll be upset if I don't show up or if it will be understandable if I skip it. I just don't want to ruin someone's special day over my sensitivity.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
It's not about how she feels.. It's about how YOU feel..She has invited you...
So it's not about her it's about you!
One last thing: if I don't go do you think there will be a 0% chance our friendship will ever be rekindled?
If you want to continue the friendship with her then go, do not talk to her about any issues before and certainly not on her birthday. Attend the party and see how being in her presence makes you feel and then you will know whether or not you want to keep the friendship going.
If you decide during the party you do miss her and want to keep her as a friend, then the next day call and invite her to lunch/dinner (your treat) and express that you want to talk. If she agrees to meet up with you, then that shows she's serious about wanting to save the friendship.
Posted by Cancer Lady
If you want to continue the friendship with her then go, do not talk to her about any issues before and certainly not on her birthday. Attend the party and see how being in her presence makes you feel and then you will know whether or not you want to keep the friendship going.If you decide during the party you do miss her and want to keep her as a friend, then the next day call and invite her to lunch/dinner (your treat) and express that you want to talk. If she agrees to meet up with you, then that shows she's serious about wanting to save the friendship.
Excellent advice
What the hell is a "very intense friendship"?
Talk to her before you decide to go to the party. Thrash it out FIRST, get all the negative shit out of the way.
Then after you've had that make-or-break talk, reassess whether or not you want to go to her party.
Posted by LillyPetal
What the hell is a "very intense friendship"?
They are in love with each other but haven't had sex yet....and pretending that it's platonic.
I've had one of these before. The friendship lasted for 10 years. The intense feelings went away after the first couple of years gracias a dios.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
just be open and speak your mind... Taurus hate "Fake Flakes"...
Oh really, because she told me she lies to me all the time.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Better to sort out the incident before the birthday party or forget the whole thing all together!
Posted by Ram416
Talk to her before you decide to go to the party. Thrash it out FIRST, get all the negative shit out of the way.Then after you've had that make-or-break talk, reassess whether or not you want to go to her party.
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What if we just not talk about it at all and pretend nothing happened? That's seemed to work in the past.
Posted by LillyPetal
What the hell is a "very intense friendship"?They are in love with each other but haven't had sex yet....and pretending that it's platonic.
I've had one of these before. The friendship lasted for 10 years. The intense feelings went away after the first couple of years gracias a dios.
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She's the one talking about getting a strap on, not me!
Why did your friendship end after 10 years??
Posted by LillyPetal
What the hell is a "very intense friendship"?They are in love with each other but haven't had sex yet....and pretending that it's platonic.
I've had one of these before. The friendship lasted for 10 years. The intense feelings went away after the first couple of years gracias a dios.
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Subject to interpretation, depending on personal experiences. Not always the case but sometimes possible.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Better to sort out the incident before the birthday party or forget the whole thing all together!Posted by Ram416
Talk to her before you decide to go to the party. Thrash it out FIRST, get all the negative shit out of the way.Then after you've had that make-or-break talk, reassess whether or not you want to go to her party.
What if we just not talk about it at all and pretend nothing happened? That's seemed to work in the past.
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May not be a good idea. Eventually this could lead to a massive blowout and major hurt feels. Taurus (especially those with Libra bits) can really hold it in for years, decades. Same as Scorpio.
Just get it out of the way once and for all, then you can decide if the friendship is worth it.
Posted by LillyPetal
What the hell is a "very intense friendship"?
Damn..borderline lesbian?
Posted by Whorpio
What if we just not talk about it at all and pretend nothing happened? That's seemed to work in the past.May not be a good idea. Eventually this could lead to a massive blowout and major hurt feels. Taurus (especially those with Libra bits) can really hold it in for years, decades. Same as Scorpio.
Just get it out of the way once and for all, then you can decide if the friendship is worth it
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She's Aquarius dominant; aren't they dismissive anyways?
Posted by LillyPetal
What the hell is a "very intense friendship"?Damn..borderline lesbian
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She came onto me first and it's created some very confusing feelings now.
The first time we broke up is because I wouldn't sleep with her. Now I think I believe sleeping with her will be the only way to keep her in my life lol.
Posted by Whorpio
What if we just not talk about it at all and pretend nothing happened? That's seemed to work in the past.May not be a good idea. Eventually this could lead to a massive blowout and major hurt feels. Taurus (especially those with Libra bits) can really hold it in for years, decades. Same as Scorpio.
Just get it out of the way once and for all, then you can decide if the friendship is worth it
She's Aquarius dominant; aren't they dismissive anyways?
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Dismissive of the feelings of others, but not of their own (or what little they may have).
Aquas (and dominants/Uranus dominants) have feelings too.
Posted by LillyPetal
What the hell is a "very intense friendship"?Damn..borderline lesbian
She came onto me first and it's created some very confusing feelings now.
The first time we broke up is because I wouldn't sleep with her. Now I think I believe sleeping with her will be the only way to keep her in my life lol.
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You're entitled to say no, and refuse her. If she can't deal with that then she probably isn't worth all the hassle.
Ok fiiiiiiiiine I'll go to the party and then discuss the fight the next day.
For the party, should I bring flowers or balloons or cupcakes or something? It's only going to be us two...
Posted by Whorpio
Ok fiiiiiiiiine I'll go to the party and then discuss the fight the next day.For the party, should I bring flowers or balloons or cupcakes or something? It's only going to be us two...
Bring a couple of these, just in case....
Posted by Whorpio
Ok fiiiiiiiiine I'll go to the party and then discuss the fight the next day.For the party, should I bring flowers or balloons or cupcakes or something? It's only going to be us two...
Of course you bring something, it's tacky to attend any party and not bring a gift.
Posted by Whorpio
Ok fiiiiiiiiine I'll go to the party and then discuss the fight the next day.For the party, should I bring flowers or balloons or cupcakes or something? It's only going to be us two...
Of course you bring something, it's tacky to attend any party and not bring a gift.
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Well it's not a party party! She's picking me up and we're going bar hopping. I think I will pick us up some ice cream cupcakes though.
Posted by Ram416
You're entitled to say no, and refuse her. If she can't deal with that then she probably isn't worth all the hassle.
I feel like maybe there has been a strong sexual tension between her and I all along. Maybe deep down I do want a piece of that but don't want to jeopardize our friendship because I'm in love with her too.
Posted by Ram416
You're entitled to say no, and refuse her. If she can't deal with that then she probably isn't worth all the hassle.I feel like maybe there has been a strong sexual tension between her and I all along. Maybe deep down I do want a piece of that but don't want to jeopardize our friendship because I'm in love with her too.
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Lol that Taurus- Scorpio connection is so unreal sometimes.
As long as you have boundaries set up it should be all good - until the next time the tension resurfaces.
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My Taurus bff whom I have a very intense friendship with has invited me to her 21st birthday party next week. We got in a fight a few weeks ago because she was being insensitive and I haven't heard from her until now.
She just said she's going out with one of our mutual friends. I asked where and she said "im going to a club its like a mix of black and white on a saturday but just out to a bar and what not on thursday".
Should I go? She didn't apologize for the nasty things she said to me a few weeks ago, but I feel like I should be there as a good friend.