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This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Manana on Wednesday, March 8, 2017 and has 27 replies.

Should I Reach Out After a Conflict with a Taurus with Bipolar Disorder

Deciding to reconnect depends on your comfort level and understanding of his condition. Consider whether the conflict was a one-time issue or part of a pattern. Communication should be respectful and clear, especially given his bipolar disorder. Take time to reflect on your feelings before reaching out again to ensure mutual respect and safety.

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@Manana
10 Years

I connected with a Taurus online recently and we had made an arrangement to meet on Friday for food and drinks. We have talking day and night etc and today I mentioned that tonight I had some free time I was looking forward to. Anyway, he said "You should come through", he's an hour away and I just wasn't comfortable with going there in the dark to somewhere I'm not all that familiar with. And he went crazy, why was I scared of him, why were we even meeting at all, that i'm just like "all the rest", that im crazy and showing my true colours, and then he blocked me from everything. FYI, he has bi-polar disorder which I'm familiar with. Anyways, we connected so well..I wonder if its worth reaching out? This only happened today, we're both in our 30's.

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@ConfusedAboutTaurus
9 Years

I would say a hard no. If he's showing you signs of going off on you (over nothing), especially so early on, it's probably only going to get worse.

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@hardtolovelibra
9 Years

If they go off like that it means they're unevolved. I got physically harmed by a Taurus like that. Please be careful. He's too controlling too soon. And wants a booty call and disrespected you because you didn't want to. All bad signs.

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@Bricks195
9 Years

How do you know he's bi-polar?

But yeah. Stay away from him. Either he is bi-polar and he isn't on the right meds, or he isn't bi-polar and something else entirely is wrong with him that you don't want to play with.

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@Manana
10 Years

He was really open from the start about his mental health and how he manages it which I thanked him for sharing. Anyway, since he blocked me from everything, I sent a good old fashioned SMS to apologise if anything I had said had caused offence or upset. I'm sure he read it but he didn't respond. I was enchanted by him, but I have been reading here that this sudden disappearing is not unusual for Taurus men. How disappointing!

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@AgentP911
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Manana
He was really open from the start about his mental health and how he manages it which I thanked him for sharing. Anyway, since he blocked me from everything, I sent a good old fashioned SMS to apologise if anything I had said had caused offence or upset. I'm sure he read it but he didn't respond. I was enchanted by him, but I have been reading here that this sudden disappearing is not unusual for Taurus men. How disappointing!

I'll remember to add 'must have mental health issues' to my man check list...

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@Manana
10 Years

Haha, you can't even imagine how badly any negativity affects me. It consumes my head space and I can go in no direction until it gets released.So, I wrote the message to put it all to bed, because in spite of him, I have to respond in respect to myself, no hard feelings, I take ownership of how I come across. I can be hasty and don't sugar coat my words and now I feel calm and ready to go on my own path 🙂

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by Manana
He was really open from the start about his mental health and how he manages it which I thanked him for sharing. Anyway, since he blocked me from everything, I sent a good old fashioned SMS to apologise if anything I had said had caused offence or upset. I'm sure he read it but he didn't respond. I was enchanted by him, but I have been reading here that this sudden disappearing is not unusual for Taurus men. How disappointing!

I wouldn't use this one as the Taurus man poster child ... there is something wrong when someone isn't considerate and flies off the handle about something like that ... this man sounds the alarm to run ...

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@Manana
10 Years

I feel bad for him. Do you want to know what I really think..I think he spilled out everything about himself, then got scared and backed off, using any minor excuse to justify himself...blaming me to make it easier. He's just a lost soul, I was bewitched and I have no bad feelings.

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by Manana
Haha, you can't even imagine how badly any negativity affects me. It consumes my head space and I can go in no direction until it gets released.So, I wrote the message to put it all to bed, because in spite of him, I have to respond in respect to myself, no hard feelings, I take ownership of how I come across. I can be hasty and don't sugar coat my words and now I feel calm and ready to go on my own path 🙂

however you are is ok - that is you - I am like that as well and will step over any man in a heartbeat who is like what you just described - he is not "right"

I am so much more into someone who wants to and takes the time to get to know me and how I am and what I like or don't like and vice versa ... not a cry baby bed wetter who bawls at the first instance of "I am not getting my way" ...

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@Manana
10 Years

But do you know, usually I can turn off like a tap, walk away without a second thought. But this really got to me, it consumed me. I never get like this, so stupid over someone I never even met!!!

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by Manana
I feel bad for him. Do you want to know what I really think..I think he spilled out everything about himself, then got scared and backed off, using any minor excuse to justify himself...blaming me to make it easier. He's just a lost soul, I was bewitched and I have no bad feelings.

na - you don't need bad feelings then - just skip away ... far away ...

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@Mered1th
9 Years

Posted by Manana
I connected with a Taurus online recently and we had made an arrangement to meet on Friday for food and drinks. We have talking day and night etc and today I mentioned that tonight I had some free time I was looking forward to. Anyway, he said "You should come through", he's an hour away and I just wasn't comfortable with going there in the dark to somewhere I'm not all that familiar with. And he went crazy, why was I scared of him, why were we even meeting at all, that i'm just like "all the rest", that im crazy and showing my true colours, and then he blocked me from everything. FYI, he has bi-polar disorder which I'm familiar with. Anyways, we connected so well..I wonder if its worth reaching out? This only happened today, we're both in our 30's.

Oh god. Run!

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@Manana
10 Years

I'm libra/virgo cusp..I'm seeing so much of of the Libra and Taurus on here right now. I'm thinking it might relate to the Venus retrograde since it rules us both?

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@Manana
10 Years

After I sent the SMS, he wrote me back saying "you messaging confirms what I already know that when our 2 chemicals mix will create a poison , have a good day miss x".

Ummm, ok, this does not make sense!

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@Manana
10 Years

JohnTheBaptist100..I love your posts and I follow you on the forums.

But!!! There are times, when against sanity, common sense and logic, you feel compelled to be part of a situation. I'm a well educated, sane, experienced woman, and I'll be damned if I could ever explain the pull of this situation. Maybe I'm (partially) f*cked up, because it's like, I don't even care how he sees me..I just care that he recognises his part and the problems he presents to other people. We have experiences to learn, I learned them all x 100. I have good intentions, and besides there will nothing that comes to fruition..people just need to have their eyes opened.

**just for the record, I appreciate the feedback here, as always 🙂**

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@Manana
10 Years

Because when two people are in a situation, created by them and in reference to themselves, when one decides to leave, then the other needs to be given an opportunity to have their say or at least have some kind of warning. It's not that I'm excusing what he did or how he went about it, hell to the NO!

But, I wasn't ready to let it go, I have too much to say. My point is (I'll get there eventually)! if I'm good enough to be part of your day 24/7, you reveal certain things, words are powerful and bonds are created, then be decent enough NOT to pull the ghosting act. Because if you do, I won't even accept it, rightly or wrongly..it goes against my moral code.

And mostly/most importantly, because I'm hurt and hate to admit that I might be wrong 😢

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@TaurusBull1977
17 Years1,000+ Posts

@Manana

It sounds like this crazy Bull is off his meds.

Which means, unless he's back on his meds and takes full accountability for his insane statements and senseless actions, then there is pretty much nothing you can do at this point.

But to....

Pray for him?

How does the Venus Retrogade affect a Bull who is off his meds?

My advice sister....RUN!!!!!

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@Manana
10 Years

I know i doesn't, sadly. I am letting go, but I just needed one more chance to see if I could break through to him. He started to answer me and stopped blocking me. Go figure.

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@Manana
10 Years

Yeah, I would only see a beautiful soul through his eyes! Anyway, sorry for bringing my drama to the boards, I see the collective advice and intend to put it all down to experience (again)! Gracias!

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@AgentP911
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Manana
Yeah, I would only see a beautiful soul through his eyes! Anyway, sorry for bringing my drama to the boards, I see the collective advice and intend to put it all down to experience (again)! Gracias!

Stop being a fucking retard! You have never met this person, is that correct? You just have some fucked up ideal about some twat sat behind the keyboard of his phone. He has MENTAL ISSUES. Serious ones. What do you hope to achieve from this? There's about EIGHT BILLION people on this planet yet you think you want this one... we have all been drawn to not great situations so save yourself the time and hassle.