Send birthday wish or not?

Tomorrow is nude dude's birthday. After 10 days, he finally returned my call last Saturday. I have not returned the call, but I had previously sent an email saying the lack of polite reply was hurtful. No response to that from him.

So, do I wish him a happy birthday, via text? Phone call? Or not? I don't have any ill will, but I don't want him to think it's an invite to return to the friendship the way it was. It's not.

What say you folks?

"I don't have any ill will, but I don't want him to think it's an invite to return to the friendship the way it was. It's not."

This is exactly the part I struggled with. I didn't want him to get the wrong idea and see it as an invite for things to go back to the way they were. Ugh. It's a tough one. I personally can't say what you should/shouldn't do because I still don't know if I did the right/wrong thing. Wish you luck with your decision lol!

Thanks Inana...exactly the dilema. Id like to say it, probably cus Im so codependent...cannot ever let a b day wish go by without acknowledging it.

Sigh :/

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Tomorrow is nude dude's birthday. After 10 days, he finally returned my call last Saturday. I have not returned the call, but I had previously sent an email saying the lack of polite reply was hurtful. No response to that from him.

So, do I wish him a happy birthday, via text? Phone call? Or not? I don't have any ill will, but I don't want him to think it's an invite to return to the friendship the way it was. It's not.

What say you folks?

Don't

I agree. You are simply wishing the man 'good day' on the occasion of his birth. Not picking out a trousseau or urging him to select a tasteful stone set in platinum.

I'd send a light, friendly, well-wishing text.

Posted by venusianbull
I agree. You are simply wishing the man 'good day' on the occasion of his birth. Not picking out a trousseau or urging him to select a tasteful stone set in platinum.

Id settle for a shotgun wedding with a cigar band for a ring and a sweet pair of daisy dukes for my trousseau.

;p

I did send a funny text and wished him a wonderful day. That was an hour ago. No reply yet. But its ok, I just know I feel good by doing something nice 🙂

Good! 🙂

So he replies with this....

"Thanks a lot for the birthday greeting! It was thoughtful ... creative ... funny. Today is just another day - no celebrating - although some 19,000 days after the first. Happy Friday."

Sweet....

LoL, Glad to see it was positive. He appreciated that.

See? 😄

It was a nice exchange and I feel good about doing it but I guress im kinda bummed that I cant figure out why he wont meet me
Oh well....thats the way it is

Well i didn't respond to his call from a week ago. The b day text was my first contact since then. I don't plan on contacting him again because like you say...I am off having and living a fab life!!! Wheeeeee! 🙂

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Well i didn't respond to his call from a week ago. The b day text was my first contact since then. I don't plan on contacting him again because like you say...I am off having and living a fab life!!! Wheeeeee! 🙂

But didn't you write him an email about him iggin you and he still didn't respond and them you wish him happy Bday ?

He ignored me for 10 days. Then he called me and left a message but I never responded. Until 1 week later when I sent a happy birthday message. And he replied with a nice thank you that's it. I do not have any expectations that
at he is going to change I just want to be nice.

No. Don't send him shit. NEVER REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR

Posted by cancerlovestaurus
No. Don't send him shit. NEVER REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR

+1 like if you wanna be nice go hug an orphan not the guy who has toyed with you and your emotions.

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by cancerlovestaurus
No. Don't send him shit. NEVER REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR

+1 like if you wanna be nice go hug an orphan not the guy who has toyed with you and your emotions.

i love cardinal signs. the both of you are hilarious. lol

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LOL

He didnt toy with my emotions, he back tracked on wanting to meet me. For whatever reason. We didnt have any kind of emo relationship via the phone. My emotions were and are seperate from his choice. I didnt like it, but I stayed in communication with him too long by my own choice. Not a good choice, obv, as it didnt mature the way I thought it would. I am typically the last to see thw hand writing that so many others see before me. I lived, I learned.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
He didnt toy with my emotions, he back tracked on wanting to meet me. For whatever reason. We didnt have any kind of emo relationship via the phone. My emotions were and are seperate from his choice. I didnt like it, but I stayed in communication with him too long by my own choice. Not a good choice, obv, as it didnt mature the way I thought it would. I am typically the last to see thw hand writing that so many others see before me. I lived, I learned.

Emotions were definetly involved girl, you had expectations and with that comes emotions. Anyone's feelings i think would be a little hurt if someone said they wanted to meet and then backtracked, whether you want to admit it or not.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
It was a nice exchange and I feel good about doing it but I guress im kinda bummed that I cant figure out why he wont meet me
Oh well....thats the way it is

Extending a best wish to someone special, or other, is a great thing .... but no one should use it, to expect a reply or reciprocation. Some will reply, some won't. It is what it is.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
It was a nice exchange and I feel good about doing it but I guress im kinda bummed that I cant figure out why he wont meet me
Oh well....thats the way it is

Extending a best wish to someone special, or other, is a great thing .... but no one should use it, to expect a reply or reciprocation. Some will reply, some won't. It is what it is.

His birthday again in a couple weeks.

I say bake a cake, and eat it.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Not particularly, and you? What's the hot topic for 2013? 🙂 😄

somewonton say hot topic? 😛

oh woops ^ fone

I am a Scorpio and really like this Taurus girl who is at least 10 years younger than me. I am married and in the middle of a divorce negotiation.She knows it. She has had many bf's but never married. I look 5 years younger than her or at least her age. We met once at a conference, we really got along well and she came to spend a day with me on a 4 hour ride away from her home. We had a great time doing silly and fun stuff all over the city mostly catered to her liking. The day ended with me putting her back on her ride home and a short lip to lip kiss, happened naturally. She texed, "you took me off guard, did you see my face turned red, lol..". I texed, it happened and I will cherish and remember the moment forever. She never directly responds to statements of affection like that but continues the conversation in long gaps and just slight(my assumption) interest and affection. Next day she spoke to me for a long time, just silly fun stuff and texted me to send my address so she could send me something, when asked what she said a Thank you note.
NOW THE MOMENT OF TRUTH; Last night we sent pictures to each other of what we were cooking and laughed over it. Then she said she had a friend over who she had cooked for, they were hanging out and she can't talk on the phone. Being a true passionate Scorpio, I got suspicious but didn't think it was right to ask if it was a boy or a girl. I also got impatient and texted and called couple times, once she picked and I asked if she was still hanging out, she said yes, I said sorry and asked her to call when done. She texted late saying she had to clean up and then will hit the sack. I texted a sad face. No reply. So I felt I should just end this and walk away, so I texted, That's alright, I get it, GOOD BYE. She replied with Huh? I am confused. I thought over it and tried to calm the situation by writing, I meant, I get it that you are pissed about something, most likely my being a pest. Sorry again. I send her G.Morn, messages with a joke everyday and she reponds with a Morning, nothing today, yet. HAVE I LOST HER?

Posted by Wynter
His birthday again in a couple weeks.

I say bake a cake, and eat it.

lmao I remember this thread on the nudist bull wonder what came of him...is bgp even still around?

Is there a gif for that? 🙂

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by Wynter
His birthday again in a couple weeks.

I say bake a cake, and eat it.

lmao I remember this thread on the nudist bull wonder what came of him...is bgp even still around?

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Probably out hunting 😛