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Taurus are you afraid of Scorpios?
well he thought I was being unthoughtful according to how much affection he shows,it 's almost as he denies me to be afraid of anything since he clearly likes me and shows it every chance he gets.Of course i see that,i m not blind,just careful and taking it slow ..I remember he also said "Do you imply i m lying all this time?do I play games,is that what you imply?
I said GOD,no ,its just the more i m falling the more i m afraid , its like when sth is too good to be true ,Scorpios anyway have the curse to be super analytical super sceptical,especially when something seems so pure and good,its like a curse cause often we keep searching for a hidden motive,a hidden enemy who will turn against us at some point,the curse of not fully enjoying what we have out of fear that someday we will lose it anyway..at least that's me..😢
mostly he is hurt because he senses i doubt him at times,he hates to come off as a liar -to my knowledge,at least-and i guess since he feels kinda in love ,it s normal up to a point to feel hurt when the other party isnt all over him,full enthusiastic from day 1..
Sometimes i feel i have to keep my mouth shut irregardless to which zodiac sign i talk to..😢
Posted by scorpx3Scorpx3 ,i guess you are right,thank you. It makes me sad though for me to be able to confess in him my fears and everything, as soon as they hit my brain and him needing time alone to deal with his own.Plus I could really help him,talking about all these and stuff, now it seems that i am the incapable of taking his fears his doubts away from him,i guess thats why i m a bit sad,i did wanted just to be listened to,not causing him to run hiding..
Maybe he needs to reevaluate some things you said, and really take it in...which requires time? So if he specifically asked for time, just give it to him. it's not like he's going anywhere, and besides if he's thinking about it then at least you know he's thinking deeply about the matter and meanwhile he IS taking your feelings into account. Don't worry, he's not going anywhere. He simply needs to process what you guys talked about.
@OP- What type of lessons have you learned about Taurus and Scorpio?
Posted by scorpx3It's caution as far as my actions are concerned either in my lovelife or professional life,i dont jump into relationships,i dont change workplaces,i weigh every little thing for my own good ..Then there's also blunt honesty when i have something in my mind,a fear,an anxiety,i always speak my mind, it helps me and helps the other party i guess,everybody knows where i stand ,everybody knows i m cautious , people trust me more as time goes by,because when they get to know me they will see that for the sake of honesty i wont hesitate to speak the truth no matter how painful it may beno matter the consequences..Posted by rizzYou seem like a cautious person, yet you seem to say things as soon as they hit your brain, as you phrased it. That's not being careful... I think, being someone who's cautious, maybe be a little more mindful before expressing something that may cause him a sense of insecurity...? I mean, by all means, I'm one who's all for expressing herself entirely as she is, but if you saw he was putting in the effort that required you two to make things work, why would you question the efforts and bring in a problem that didn't exist?Posted by scorpx3Scorpx3 ,i guess you are right,thank you. It makes me sad though for me to be able to confess in him my fears and everything, as soon as they hit my brain and him needing time alone to deal with his own.Plus I could really help him,talking about all these and stuff, now it seems that i am the incapable of taking his fears his doubts away from him,i guess thats why i m a bit sad,i did wanted just to be listened to,not causing him to run hiding..
Maybe he needs to reevaluate some things you said, and really take it in...which requires time? So if he specifically asked for time, just give it to him. it's not like he's going anywhere, and besides if he's thinking about it then at least you know he's thinking deeply about the matter and meanwhile he IS taking your feelings into account. Don't worry, he's not going anywhere. He simply needs to process what you guys talked about.
Was the conversation intense? If it was intense, and you were claiming you were afraid of losing him, maybe he feels you yourself are not secure with yourself and you're afraid everyone will leave you. It's one thing to share vulnerabilities...it's another to share insecurities... Don't be afraid of things like that. I know it's natural for us to be that way, as women, but be more confident in your future outlook with him. You're a Scorpio! Strong and independent and very loving! Let that side of you be known.click to expand
Back to the subject, the whole conversation with the Taurus began when he asked me ho
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428lesson no 1. You have to give him time and space when you are asked to do so
@OP- What type of lessons have you learned about Taurus and Scorpio?
lesson no 2. Taurus are slow movers in general,actions etc, but i find them really quick in mind,also clever
lesson no3. Taurus can feel very easily that someone pressures him/her ,so at times can be confusing for the ones that love them.After all,what is pressure for Taurus may be proof of love for another sign so i guess it s a matter of perspective here
lesson no 4. People say Taureans are stubborn,but i believe this fact is half true,cause i have watched my Taurean bestie and the current Taurean i m dating at some point of their lives when they gave it all their hearts their soul they failed and there came a day they wanted out when nothing could change their freakin minds ,and they did left,wisely got out ,so the mythical stubbornness of Taurus maybe half myth half true.If you are good to them,appeal to their logic,the are some of the best conversationalists.
Posted by scorpx3Scorpx3,You nailed it about insecurities though 😢 Couple of previous relationships that ruined me and stuff.I am really working on it..every day,I really do..Posted by rizzYou seem like a cautious person, yet you seem to say things as soon as they hit your brain, as you phrased it. That's not being careful... I think, being someone who's cautious, maybe be a little more mindful before expressing something that may cause him a sense of insecurity...? I mean, by all means, I'm one who's all for expressing herself entirely as she is, but if you saw he was putting in the effort that required you two to make things work, why would you question the efforts and bring in a problem that didn't exist?Posted by scorpx3Scorpx3 ,i guess you are right,thank you. It makes me sad though for me to be able to confess in him my fears and everything, as soon as they hit my brain and him needing time alone to deal with his own.Plus I could really help him,talking about all these and stuff, now it seems that i am the incapable of taking his fears his doubts away from him,i guess thats why i m a bit sad,i did wanted just to be listened to,not causing him to run hiding..
Maybe he needs to reevaluate some things you said, and really take it in...which requires time? So if he specifically asked for time, just give it to him. it's not like he's going anywhere, and besides if he's thinking about it then at least you know he's thinking deeply about the matter and meanwhile he IS taking your feelings into account. Don't worry, he's not going anywhere. He simply needs to process what you guys talked about.
Was the conversation intense? If it was intense, and you were claiming you were afraid of losing him, maybe he feels you yourself are not secure with yourself and you're afraid everyone will leave you. It's one thing to share vulnerabilities...it's another to share insecurities... Don't be afraid of things like that. I know it's natural for us to be that way, as women, but be more confident in your future outlook with him. You're a Scorpio! Strong and independent and very loving! Let that side of you be known.click to expand
@OP- Interestingly enough yeah that sounds like you know how to handle a Taurus without trying too much about anything. Simply suggest, communicate, be open minded that someone isn't argeeing then you have a debate. Lol.
Debate the reason why I should change and I'll make a compromise but it may take me awhile to do that. In the process I listen to you, and sorta just want to think about things, and when I have something I will sit down and chat and come up with solutions to problems. We are very understanding and supportive, and patient. Lol so we need that too without too much pestering, or nagging, or more controlling, even more ultimatum..
Debate the reason why I should change and I'll make a compromise but it may take me awhile to do that. In the process I listen to you, and sorta just want to think about things, and when I have something I will sit down and chat and come up with solutions to problems. We are very understanding and supportive, and patient. Lol so we need that too without too much pestering, or nagging, or more controlling, even more ultimatum..
Posted by busyeyes88Hi Busy,well i know him almost 5 years,we are fans of rock and metal music and we had mutual friends so once a couple of months we shared a beer altogether ,talked about life,friendships,relationships,stuff,we are both chemists too,so we had a lot in common but only in december did he ask me to go for a walk,and since then we are almost everyday together.Last week he asked me whether i see us as a couple in near future,thats when all these fears came to me..and..i managed to scare him away i think..No never ,i dont like to talk to him like that,treetrunking and stuff because he is really kind and calm and i would not dare offend him,i really like him
Have you known him longer than one month? Are you dating? Did you use the word "fucking" at him?
@OP- So did he actually ask you out? Or not and you realized you like him, so why not tell him your fears now. But now he's thinking more about stability, security, and any type of commitment that he wants in his life.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Thank you,it s a relief for me to know that i can be understanding to a Taurus, it s crucial that people let you be,give you the time you want ,i guess we are just afraid of the possibility of a negative announcement when you come back to us,that you have decided we are not so good for you after all,..etc..Please do not retreat so much, please 🙂
@OP- Interestingly enough yeah that sounds like you know how to handle a Taurus without trying too much about anything. Simply suggest, communicate, be open minded that someone isn't argeeing then you have a debate. Lol.
Debate the reason why I should change and I'll make a compromise but it may take me awhile to do that. In the process I listen to you, and sorta just want to think about things, and when I have something I will sit down and chat and come up with solutions to problems. We are very understanding and supportive, and patient. Lol so we need that too without too much pestering, or nagging, or more controlling, even more ultimatum..
why did you snap on him when he asked to think things through?
that wasn't smart or rational.
any guy is going to take even triple time after someone snapping over something so simple. it's been one month and you're already going off.
that would make any man proceed with caution. or insincerely proceed, automatically ruling you out for a long-lasting relationship.
the guy I'm on and off talking to now is a hothead and I'm always the calm one (ironic). it's been going on for surprisingly since last....may?? I always try to diffuse his anger. it's probably why he likes being around me. he had a lot of emotional issues tho, and no he's not a Taurus. regardless if I snapped on him he'd hide away for weeks. happened recently actually, but I didn't yell at him in such a defensive way.
the last TAURUS I was seeing tho. our short little interest was mainly destroyed also because of me...it was a battle of ego. he wasn't texting me and I didn't want to annoy him and waited for HIS text...well 20 days go by and I thought he wasn't into me so I just deleted his number and cried (lmfao), and he texts me saying "I can tell you really miss me, lol". bam. I knew it was done at that point. I was really sad. I tried to futilely make up for it, but it was already game over. from that point on he acted cruel towards me with occasional bouts of kindness. he'd make sure to say "we're never going to date" etc. he was like ice.
to this day I wish I would've texted him, but pride along with fear of seeming too interested and scaring him off were at play. I sabotaged it myself by not at least saying hi. because prior to that, he was very interested. we had three hour phone convos and would just talk about anything until 3-4 am. our dreams, goals, current situation. he had a Venus in Gemini so he was a talker LOL. I love talking too tho (in case you can't tell). our Venus were actually trine because mine was at 0 degrees of scorp and his is somewhere in the late 20 of Gem. odd how that works. I still chat with him sometimes. my heart dwells on what I did wrong and what could have been. I really connected with him spiritually, politically, musically. we had so many interests that were the same it was almost a bit creepy. even some life goals. we'd accidentally finish each other's sentences also. i appreciate that I got to meet him overall.
you are in a similar boat to me only instead of being prideful as I was through silence, you showed irrationality and anger issues. who wants to deal with someone who's going to snap off? he's probably thinking to himself "if she's acting this way now, what will she be like in the future?"
think about it. what if you were on the receiving end? you have to use your head, not your heart. there have been plenty of times where I want to pop off on someone, but you have to use your brain and think about the consequences of your actions. you have to act proper and calm, not like a ticking time bomb. no one wants to d
that wasn't smart or rational.
any guy is going to take even triple time after someone snapping over something so simple. it's been one month and you're already going off.
that would make any man proceed with caution. or insincerely proceed, automatically ruling you out for a long-lasting relationship.
the guy I'm on and off talking to now is a hothead and I'm always the calm one (ironic). it's been going on for surprisingly since last....may?? I always try to diffuse his anger. it's probably why he likes being around me. he had a lot of emotional issues tho, and no he's not a Taurus. regardless if I snapped on him he'd hide away for weeks. happened recently actually, but I didn't yell at him in such a defensive way.
the last TAURUS I was seeing tho. our short little interest was mainly destroyed also because of me...it was a battle of ego. he wasn't texting me and I didn't want to annoy him and waited for HIS text...well 20 days go by and I thought he wasn't into me so I just deleted his number and cried (lmfao), and he texts me saying "I can tell you really miss me, lol". bam. I knew it was done at that point. I was really sad. I tried to futilely make up for it, but it was already game over. from that point on he acted cruel towards me with occasional bouts of kindness. he'd make sure to say "we're never going to date" etc. he was like ice.
to this day I wish I would've texted him, but pride along with fear of seeming too interested and scaring him off were at play. I sabotaged it myself by not at least saying hi. because prior to that, he was very interested. we had three hour phone convos and would just talk about anything until 3-4 am. our dreams, goals, current situation. he had a Venus in Gemini so he was a talker LOL. I love talking too tho (in case you can't tell). our Venus were actually trine because mine was at 0 degrees of scorp and his is somewhere in the late 20 of Gem. odd how that works. I still chat with him sometimes. my heart dwells on what I did wrong and what could have been. I really connected with him spiritually, politically, musically. we had so many interests that were the same it was almost a bit creepy. even some life goals. we'd accidentally finish each other's sentences also. i appreciate that I got to meet him overall.
you are in a similar boat to me only instead of being prideful as I was through silence, you showed irrationality and anger issues. who wants to deal with someone who's going to snap off? he's probably thinking to himself "if she's acting this way now, what will she be like in the future?"
think about it. what if you were on the receiving end? you have to use your head, not your heart. there have been plenty of times where I want to pop off on someone, but you have to use your brain and think about the consequences of your actions. you have to act proper and calm, not like a ticking time bomb. no one wants to d
Taurus, like Scorpio, has "the point of no return".
once that line is crossed, there is no redemption. you'd do well to remember that next time you want to become defensive like you did.
a Taurus is much more receptive and you can cross that "point of no return" a lot faster than on our end. they watch context clues, behaviors, patterns, similar to a scorp, but unlike a scorp they don't hold on to what they know isn't good for them. they drop it and move forward without looking back.
keep creeping up on that line and he'll disappear completely. use rationality. be calm.
once that line is crossed, there is no redemption. you'd do well to remember that next time you want to become defensive like you did.
a Taurus is much more receptive and you can cross that "point of no return" a lot faster than on our end. they watch context clues, behaviors, patterns, similar to a scorp, but unlike a scorp they don't hold on to what they know isn't good for them. they drop it and move forward without looking back.
keep creeping up on that line and he'll disappear completely. use rationality. be calm.
No.
@OP- So looks like I have my own adjustments to work on myself. One is not to retreat sooo much and two I need to be less bitter. I hope I didn't come off as bitter in my reply. Good luck.
i doubt he's afraid of you, most likely he's afraid you are immature, insecure, selfish and unstable. Afraid that he told you what he needed and you refused him, making him feel like you think he's wrong for feeling or needing the way he does. He probably fears that if there is a problem or you don't get what you want that you will over react, and he won't be able to count on you.
Devils are better. Hell yes!
Posted by degenerate_ingenue@degenerate_ingenue: you showed irrationality and anger issues. who wants to deal with someone who's going to snap off? he's probably thinking to himself "if she's acting this way now, what will she be like in the future?"think about it. what if you were on the receiving end?
Taurus, like Scorpio, has "the point of no return".
once that line is crossed, there is no redemption. you'd do well to remember that next time you want to become defensive like you did.
a Taurus is much more receptive and you can cross that "point of no return" a lot faster than on our end. they watch context clues, behaviors, patterns, similar to a scorp, but unlike a scorp they don't hold on to what they know isn't good for them. they drop it and move forward without looking back.
keep creeping up on that line and he'll disappear completely. use rationality. be calm.
Thanks scorp,i actually did that snap,did not offend him or yell but snapped and he said exactly what you wrote,"if you take these things so heavily at the start,what about later?i need logic and calm all the time"his actual words.I dont know what happened to me,i m also thinking these things through my self these days
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Nope you did not at all.All of you are really kind.Thanks so much for the time you took to reply to me
@OP- So looks like I have my own adjustments to work on myself. One is not to retreat sooo much and two I need to be less bitter. I hope I didn't come off as bitter in my reply. Good luck.
Posted by AstrobynI can see that,thank you for the info.As you and @degenerate_ingenue said ,his fear seems to be as you put it ,fear for the instability he saw in me in such a short term relationship.This overreaction i know can be intimidating,in my defense i thought that since i opened up to him he would kind of appreciate it,i mean the honesty that i am not taking so well the retreat,but i understand what he felt now.Fear for my future reactions in simple things.
i doubt he's afraid of you, most likely he's afraid you are immature, insecure, selfish and unstable. Afraid that he told you what he needed and you refused him, making him feel like you think he's wrong for feeling or needing the way he does. He probably fears that if there is a problem or you don't get what you want that you will over react, and he won't be able to count on you.
Lol! I think Scorpios n Tauruses scare each other off
Posted by busyeyes88That's right! I've seen that too.I mean the pair not working.Lemme add, not all the Scorpios are controlling n emotional eitherl.I do get along with Taurus.My mom is a taurus.. N we're like bffs.N we had this discussion before..we've few success stories too if you remember 🙂 I feel,sometimes, the overwhelming feeling of vulnerability n emotions each feel in eachother's presence drive them away.Posted by TeenaPersonally I don't think T & S work well at all... The scorps are too controlling and emotional... Not all Taurus like to talk about emotions... I'm one of them..
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Posted by xXxAliciaXxXPosted by VivaciousScorpio
Women are fucking nuts.
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Posted by busyeyes88That made a lot of sense.You seem deep actually. But none of the Taurus people I came across are "deep" you know.It might be because of your scorpio n eighth house placements that you feel so deeply.Posted by TeenaI understand.. I have sensitive water placements like VIP and Saturn in pisces and Neptune in scorp and Merc, Venus and Saturn in the eighth house and there is a scorp aqauaintance and he told me a tragedy and the split second he told me it felt as if I were in his shoes as if I could feel his pain and it brought tears to my eyes... It made me in touch with feelings I'd rather not be in touch with if that makes sense.Posted by busyeyes88That's right! I've seen that too.I mean the pair not working.Lemme add, not all the Scorpios are controlling n emotional eitherl.I do get along with Taurus.My mom is a taurus.. N we're like bffs.N we had this discussion before..we've few success stories too if you remember 🙂 I feel,sometimes, the overwhelming feeling of vulnerability n emotions each feel in eachother's presence drive them away.Posted by TeenaPersonally I don't think T & S work well at all... The scorps are too controlling and emotional... Not all Taurus like to talk about emotions... I'm one of them..
Lol! I think Scorpios n Tauruses scare each other off
So I have avoided him and any Scorp energy. But I was not also physically attracted to him..
My taurus can read Me and even thinking about him and his care for me can make tears come to my eyes but it's a different kind of feeling...
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The thing you felt with scorpio though..see? It's kinda like that.It drove you away.It sorta happened to me too.This Taurus guy made me feel vulnerable more than anything.It made me feel just like you did.I just ran.I'd rather not be in touch with those feelings.
Posted by VivaciousScorpioRofl! The last one though!!
Besides I can post relevant pics too.
Posted by busyeyes88Haha! I see why.Is he deep btw? Your Taurus guy?Posted by TeenaI write to my taurus text messages in the same Way and he will say "Ohhh girl that's deep.but pretty."!!!!Posted by busyeyes88That made a lot of sense.You seem deep actually. But none of the Taurus people I came across are "deep" you know.It might be because of your scorpio n eighth house placements that you feel so deeply.Posted by TeenaI understand.. there is a scorp aqauaintance and he told me a tragedy and the split second he told me it felt as if I were in his shoes as if I could feel his pain and it brought tears to my eyes... It made me in touch with feelings I'd rather not be in touch with if that makes sense.Posted by busyeyes88That's right! I've seen that too.I mean the pair not working.Lemme add, not all the Scorpios are controlling n emotional eitherl.I do get along with Taurus.My mom is a taurus.. N we're like bffs.N we had this discussion before..we've few success stories too if you remember 🙂 I feel,sometimes, the overwhelming feeling of vulnerability n emotions each feel in eachother's presence drive them away.Posted by TeenaPersonally I don't think T & S work well at all... The scorps are too controlling and emotional... Not all Taurus like to talk about emotions... I'm one of them..
Lol! I think Scorpios n Tauruses scare each other off
So I have avoided him and any Scorp energy. But I was not also physically attracted to him..
My taurus can read Me and even thinking about him and his care for me can make tears come to my eyes but it's a different kind of feeling...
I hope the above makes sense...
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Well guys are fucking assholes so now what?
You use your stinger to sting well I will crush you and spit you into mulch.
You use your stinger to sting well I will crush you and spit you into mulch.
No. Just can't stand them
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Since he asked me to have a walk with him by the sea ,we were almost inseparable, 5 weeks that is, we haven't talked in 2 days since the conversation we had about my fears and him wanting to think a couple of days alone,but yesterday he send me this text :
@OP- So did he actually ask you out? Or not and you realized you like him, so why not tell him your fears now. But now he's thinking more about stability, security, and any type of commitment that he wants in his life.
"Truth is i miss you.Your hug and hanging out and everything.Thing is,it was too early for you to get so mad over nothing,and i have to protect both of us for the future. It s a mistake i have left things at this point but what if we became worse?which is more wrong?I really have to think
😢 I haven't answered yet,I don't know what to say..I think i am losing him..
@Op- Yeah can't be all like that with a Taurus male.
Oh yeah sorry to hear that, just be patience next time and we all have fears it is how you interact, speak, think, feel, and communicate, you typically scared him away..
Oh yeah sorry to hear that, just be patience next time and we all have fears it is how you interact, speak, think, feel, and communicate, you typically scared him away..
Posted by busyeyes88Busy,i am sorry ,it s just when i was describing the conversation, these words treetrunking etc came to me,as i was upset,one of the main reasons i came for some help here in your forum,i really really havent yelled or offended him,but when i am upset,i feel like my "kind words" could cut someone just like a knife would.I am aware of that.I made him sad,he texted me ,he is not feeling well..I m not either..😢 Wish i was cooler in our last conversation,i am afraid i scared him away with my reaction..
w the hell can i open up to you about my fears and everything ,will you take time to think things through for every fear that i have every fucking time?"
The paragraph above, are those the exact words you used to speak to him? You have used the F word in that paragraph..
Taurus generally are gentleman and don't like women swearing, emotional or bad tempered... They will run from conflict unless they have a lot of fire in their chart...
Posted by KoniuchaHi fellowscorp, fact is I didn;t take well him wanting to be left alone for a couple of days to think,I kept telling him,if that is necessary and you cant talk to me,i don't want you like that etc..i was ,i dont know,,mean immature...i dont know,,believe me I will reply ,it;s just..i showed him my self in an ugly way,normally i am so cool and give so much space, but..when fear hits me, i lose myself, i cannot react straight,all this is my fault ,and these 2 days i put things in the right perspective,u guys really helped me see,i mean it,i just hope it;s fixable.cause i know i disappointed him
Did you get mad over something? I would answer though if you want to continue with him. At least say something like, ok, I understand or something.
Posted by busyeyes88Busy,i don't know if it helps, his/my chart is
w the hell can i open up to you about my fears and everything ,will you take time to think things through for every fear that i have every fucking time?"
The paragraph above, are those the exact words you used to speak to him? You have used the F word in that paragraph..
Taurus generally are gentleman and don't like women swearing, emotional or bad tempered... They will run from conflict unless they have a lot of fire in their chart...
Him sun taurus, venus aries, moon aqua, mercury taurus
Me sun scorpio, venus libra,moon Taurus, mercury scorpio
venuses are quite compatible i think although we can both get really stubborn if i am reading astrology right..
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I typically scared him away,exactly my friend 😢
@Op- Yeah can't be all like that with a Taurus male.
Oh yeah sorry to hear that, just be patience next time and we all have fears it is how you interact, speak, think, feel, and communicate, you typically scared him away..
Posted by KoniuchaI totally agree with you,he seemed to really like me a lot,very protective,very sweet all these 5 weeks,if all these meant sth,he will see that,i havent apologised yet,i will do that when i reply,i m thinking not sth heavy,sth to show him i really understood where i went wrong,sth to make him see i will really try not to let fear,past mess with me and him.In fact,all I want to do is that.He trully deserves it,he is such a good guy,i mean a tender heart,has lost his father,adores animals,he s a rock for his best friends..hope all goes well.
Well, all you can do is apologize and give it time. We are only human and that is a hard thing to be. IMO, if he truly cares, he will be back. If not, then he doesn't care enough and who needs that.
Also,thank you for the time you took to respond me.
@OP- That is your problem right there, your moon signs, it will always be like this and always have to compromise and really talk calm and in a nice manner no matter what.
@OP- Mercury in Taurus don't handle rude tones on how to handle certain things, and the longer he takes to make a decision, the right decision about someone, then we will have a conversation about whatever problems in a calm fashionable manner, when everything is calm.....It can actually push someone away especially an air moon. I have those placements so I know.
Damn talk about fixed, fixed, fixed, fixed, and two cardinal placements whoa....... lol..
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428so true,he keeps saying that he needs calm and logic more than anything..and i noticed that we are double opposites ,suns tauro-scorpio , venuses aries- libra , battles are inevitable i think, i go through sites right now as we speak , to get some extra info 🙂
@OP- Mercury in Taurus don't handle rude tones on how to handle certain things, and the longer he takes to make a decision, the right decision about someone, then we will have a conversation about whatever problems in a calm fashionable manner, when everything is calm.....It can actually push someone away especially an air moon. I have those placements so I know.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428omg my friend, no hope lol , just heads hitting on the walls 🙂)))
Damn talk about fixed, fixed, fixed, fixed, and two cardinal placements whoa....... lol..
Posted by rizzi'm going to say something unpopular. i'm sorry. i think he might be right though. maybe long term you aren't compatible. it sounds like you have big differences to overcome regarding how you both operate in a relationship.Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Since he asked me to have a walk with him by the sea ,we were almost inseparable, 5 weeks that is, we haven't talked in 2 days since the conversation we had about my fears and him wanting to think a couple of days alone,but yesterday he send me this text :
@OP- So did he actually ask you out? Or not and you realized you like him, so why not tell him your fears now. But now he's thinking more about stability, security, and any type of commitment that he wants in his life.
"Truth is i miss you.Your hug and hanging out and everything.Thing is,it was too early for you to get so mad over nothing,and i have to protect both of us for the future. It s a mistake i have left things at this point but what if we became worse?which is more wrong?I really have to think
😢 I haven't answered yet,I don't know what to say..I think i am losing him..click to expand
he can't handle when you flip out and you can't handle when he retreats. these are core behaviours. i can't see you not struggling. it will eventually wear him down and lead you to further frustration. i think you should be honest with yourself and really ask yourself, can you be the person he wants? is he the kind of person you want to be with? it is fresh and new a this point. what about 6 months down the road? a year? two?
Posted by busyeyes88Aww..yes Taurus are understanding like that.N yeah I've also seen how good they're at opening people up.Lucky you! 🙂Posted by TeenaYes, he is deep enough to understand the inner workings of a woman who would protect her core with a tough shell to prevent anyone harming her. He sees right through me and knows how to get me to open up. Through the essence of time and not through force... His Mars is in pisces and conjuncts my venus and Saturn. And his venus and Saturn are in the twelfth house...Posted by busyeyes88Haha! I see why.Is he deep btw? Your Taurus guy?Posted by TeenaI write to my taurus text messages in the same Way and he will say "Ohhh girl that's deep.but pretty."!!!!Posted by busyeyes88That made a lot of sense.You seem deep actually. But none of the Taurus people I came across are "deep" you know.It might be because of your scorpio n eighth house placements that you feel so deeply.Posted by TeenaPosted by busyeyes88That's right! I've seen that too.I mean the pair not working.Lemme add, not all the Scorpios are controlling n emotional eitherl.I do get along with Taurus.My mom is a taurus.. N we're like bffs.N we had this discussion before..we've few success stories too if you remember 🙂 I feel,sometimes, the overwhelming feeling of vulnerability n emotions each feel in eachother's presence drive them away.Posted by TeenaPersonally I don't think T & S work well at all... The scorps are too controlling and emotional... Not all Taurus like to talk about emotions... I'm one of them..
Lol! I think Scorpios n Tauruses scare each other off
So I have avoided him and any Scorp energy. But I was not also physically attracted to him..
My taurus can read Me and even thinking about him and his care for me can make tears come to my eyes but it's a different kind of feeling...
I hope the above makes sense...
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Hi again Busy,nope thats not a problem,actually i wanna thank everybody for the responses and the time you all took to answer me..As casual friends ,we shared mutual friends so for the previous 5 years we hanged out in a rock bar,because we all like this kind of music so,it was 5 years of chatting and sharing beers,we are both chemists so we talked about our jobs and stuff,i was in a 2-year relationship until October,so..friends.One day in December,he took me for a walk,stayed together for 5 hours,kissed..and Boom.Everyday we were together for just 5 weeks,until i snapped with this -need to think a couple of days- thing,huge mistake i never shouldn't..This happened on Sunday
Today,after our last conversation he texted me this
"Truth is i miss you.Your hug and hanging out and everything.Thing is,it was too early for you to get so mad over nothing,and i have to protect both of us for the future. It s a mistake i have left things at this point but what if we became worse?which is more wrong?I really have to think"
I apologized,not sth heavy i sent him that i did not have the right to snap like that,that i see where he is coming from,and i am right here thinking about my mistakes,i told him i miss him too..that s about it..Now i am waiting,hoping for the best ..🙂
Today,after our last conversation he texted me this
"Truth is i miss you.Your hug and hanging out and everything.Thing is,it was too early for you to get so mad over nothing,and i have to protect both of us for the future. It s a mistake i have left things at this point but what if we became worse?which is more wrong?I really have to think"
I apologized,not sth heavy i sent him that i did not have the right to snap like that,that i see where he is coming from,and i am right here thinking about my mistakes,i told him i miss him too..that s about it..Now i am waiting,hoping for the best ..🙂
HI Jeane thanks for the input..you got to the core of the matter as i see things with him now, i couldnt agree more with you that he is right to think/worry about future reactions of mine,how i will handle more serious stuff in the relationship,i ve been tested, not by him of course,and i kind of failed..For me,to calm down and learn to handle things better,in a cooler way,especially my fears-cause when i am afraid i might attack in order to defense,a strange thing- is sth i 've been struggling all my life not to do..i have controlled it at a point,i am not there yet,I know...After 5 weeks with him,i feel that he deserves a better me,and he has such balance,a soothing logic,a sweetness,,i don't know, i have this instinct that he won't let me "fall",nor will he give me reasons to snap,I don't know...he already made me think about my mistakes,my ugly approach,he kind of changed me already for the better.Maybe i am being too romantic,5 weeks is almost nothing,but there is this huge connection and maybe he came to my life to help me achieve a better me.Believe me i tried a lot over the years,many insecurities in me cause of previous stuff,I would hate allowing all these to mess with this Taurean right now,he doesn't deserve it, i feel he deserves my best and I ll try my best ,if he decides we re back on track,i promise you i ll try my best.After all balance is something i have been searching all of my life for..I crave for balance and calmness..Sometimes i manage,,but other times I fail..[sigh..]
You need to learn from this... Let go of control... He's the MAN... Let him lead... Taurus is good at leading. Agree to disagree.. Give space. Don't see each other every day. Taurus are independent. Deal with your own private feelings... If taurus is not interested, you will know!! We don't all like to talk about feelings.. So try and learn self Control!!!! Good luck
Thank you Busy 🙂 "Let go of control"..That's the hard one..My bestie is Taurus and keeps saying that to me..Actually my bestie has seen me in my worst emotional outbursts with guys,she has been more than helpful,always makes me calm.I cant understand why people are afraid or do not like Taureans. personally I believe you can do good to people,you help them grow in a sense,i ve seen that with many Taureans.You have this weird eye for capabilities in people,strengths,things that we cannot even see ourselves.
Can i ask you something?With your Taurean,are there moments,in conversations with him and stuff that you feel you lose your calm?And if so,do you speak up?Or let things cool and then talk later?I understand you too have a good,healthy communication and relationship.
Posted by TeenaTeena thanx for your reply🙂) I looked up synastry on the net, and half sites talk about huge magnetism in the positive way and half sites talk about heads hitting on walls lol,so confusing 😄Posted by busyeyes88That's right! I've seen that too.I mean the pair not working.Lemme add, not all the Scorpios are controlling n emotional eitherl.I do get along with Taurus.My mom is a taurus.. N we're like bffs.N we had this discussion before..we've few success stories too if you remember 🙂 I feel,sometimes, the overwhelming feeling of vulnerability n emotions each feel in eachother's presence drive them away.Posted by TeenaPersonally I don't think T & S work well at all... The scorps are too controlling and emotional... Not all Taurus like to talk about emotions... I'm one of them..
Lol! I think Scorpios n Tauruses scare each other offclick to expand
Posted by rizzNp 🙂 There's an undeniable attraction between Scorpios n Tauruses.. Opposite signs afterall.. But it's also the weirdest opposites duo I've read about. Magnetism is there sure.. But that somehow is a repelling magnetism.. Or so it eventually turns out.Posted by TeenaTeena thanx for your reply🙂) I looked up synastry on the net, and half sites talk about huge magnetism in the positive way and half sites talk about heads hitting on walls lol,so confusing 😄Posted by busyeyes88That's right! I've seen that too.I mean the pair not working.Lemme add, not all the Scorpios are controlling n emotional eitherl.I do get along with Taurus.My mom is a taurus.. N we're like bffs.N we had this discussion before..we've few success stories too if you remember 🙂 I feel,sometimes, the overwhelming feeling of vulnerability n emotions each feel in eachother's presence drive them away.Posted by TeenaPersonally I don't think T & S work well at all... The scorps are too controlling and emotional... Not all Taurus like to talk about emotions... I'm one of them..
Lol! I think Scorpios n Tauruses scare each other offclick to expand
Posted by rizzbutting in here but i never lose my shit with my taurus. maybe it is because libras are slow burners anyway and hate confrontation and drama. if there is an issue we talk about it calmly and logically. we reason it out and come up with a resolution.
Can i ask you something?With your Taurean,are there moments,in conversations with him and stuff that you feel you lose your calm?And if so,do you speak up?Or let things cool and then talk later?I understand you too have a good,healthy communication and relationship.
neither of us shout at the other or call each other names. there is no hitting below the belt. unlike busy's bull, i know mine would run a mile at a hotheaded, overly drama woman. it would be far more than it was worth to him.
Posted by busyeyes88oh loads of laughs with my bull! he does have his merc in gemini and moon in sag.
But your bull reminds me of my taurus friend of 27 years who made a pass at me the other day, he also has a Leo rising but has earth placements and I couldnt see him putting up with drama... He's very very serious indeed and never smiles!! He is also English. My bull is a Mediterranean so the temperment is different anyway!!! Lol
but no, neither of us like an argument. i think we both revel in a peaceful environment.
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