Posted by capricorngirl25Posted by Capri__unicornOh yes! He has told me that many many times as well...not directed towards me but he said If you ever feel you aren't happy with me just tell me and we will move on. He has said that many many times before to me about his past relationships as well. They will give you what you want. Unfortunately I was super upset..(also getting my period PMS i know its not an excuse but) emotions were flying high that night + alcohol..I just wasn't in my right frame of mind. He told me he never really gets mad, which is true I've never seen him mad at me or anyone else for that matter, but i pushed him that night with constantly wanting to talk...especially because i knew we had a 6 hour drive ahead the next day and i didn't want things to be painfully awkward in the car. I like the ground rules thing that you brought up though. So i guess now my biggest question is...With your experience in Taurus males...At this point would he come back around? or do u think he's had enough and i pushed him too far?Posted by capricorngirl25Ha! Yup I used to try to talk immediately! Resolve on the spot. One thing my Taurus would say also is "if you decide to leave me I'll just say ok...I won't be happy but I'll give you what you ask for because it's what you want." They don't do hints...don't try to test his loyalty by telling him to leave...he will. That was true of 2 Taurus men I've been with. Both adored me...cried about how much they loved me, but I just kept trying to test it.Leave well enough alone. Let's not forget him also tho. They are pettttttttyyyy when they're mad. Those stubborn fits are the worst. Sometimes I have to let him be before I say something mean, but I let him know even if we get mad at each other there are basic rules of respect. Maybe some ground rules made when you're happy? Like mine knows he better not ever ignore me. He has to at least say "I received your message and I'm using time to think" and then I don't care how long we don't talk.Posted by Capri__unicornYes def the talk it out and him wanting space, we definitely love to talk it out haha we want to fix conflict right there and then and be happy and not want things to be awkward, they love to go off for hours or days to think and come back. I don't even know if he's still with me? I told him to just break up with me and leave and he said fine, i know it was heated argument but I'm not sure if we are still together or not? I'm guessing not?.. Yes taurus and virgo are our top guys. My ex was a virgo but he was too overly top attentive to me, and my taurus guy knows just the right amount, thats why i prefer them...but I'm not sure if i can handle taurus guys :/Posted by capricorngirl25Of course it's not intentional and I think we don't realize it until someone else points it out. I can only speak for the Taurus I've dealt with. After fights they act like everything is fine publically. Mine would go out w/the boys...act completely unbothered but his family would tell me about him being extremely sad about it. He wouldn't sulk but he would feel bad. I still struggle with how different he is from me with conflict. I wanna talk it out and he just wants his space to think. If he's your boyfriend he's chosen to be with you...you have to be confident in that and stop worrying about his silence being an indication of disinterest. The cap Taurus dynamic is a powerful connection but your wires will get crossed if you don't learn to understand each otherPosted by Capri__unicornHaha! Wow! hit the nail on the head here, and yes you are correct about the fights thing...I don't think i do it intentionally but yes you are right. Can you give me some insight about Taurus men work in fights? This is kind of our first actual fight and I'm not sure what to expect here...hes posting snap chats like nothing happened and he seems fine, but I'm feeling sad and depressed and confused whats going on between us? if he's going to text or I should 😢 thanks for ur response btwPosted by earlorg16Agree here...I'm a cap w/ a Taurus and it gets real sometimes but this sounded so unnecessarily dramatic. Had me thinking about times I dragged out something and how annoying it must have been. He offered to wait for you, you basically told him no...so he leaves...and now you're mad because he did. What did you want him to do— Stop being a cap lol say what u mean and mean what u say. What u thought he would do is wait around and beg u...whether you'll admit it or not if you're anything like me you're looking for reassurance through fights...if he takes it and sticks around it means he loves u....that's not how these men work. You have to relax.
He did over react a bit, but you also didn't help the cause here.
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Posted by Capri__unicornhehe I like the whole bathroom scenerio..Ok i;ll do that. Do you think theres any way possible if I draw up this msg, I mean i already started to last night I had so many things on my mind..but when I finish it..Can i send it to you to read before I send to him? It sounds like you have a really good idea of how I work and how he works and I would just be so grateful if you would be able to help me with that.Posted by capricorngirl25Posted by Capri__unicornOh yes! He has told me that many many times as well...not directed towards me but he said If you ever feel you aren't happy with me just tell me and we will move on. He has said that many many times before to me about his past relationships as well. They will give you what you want. Unfortunately I was super upset..(also getting my period PMS i know its not an excuse but) emotions were flying high that night + alcohol..I just wasn't in my right frame of mind. He told me he never really gets mad, which is true I've never seen him mad at me or anyone else for that matter, but i pushed him that night with constantly wanting to talk...especially because i knew we had a 6 hour drive ahead the next day and i didn't want things to be painfully awkward in the car. I like the ground rules thing that you brought up though. So i guess now my biggest question is...With your experience in Taurus males...At this point would he come back around? or do u think he's had enough and i pushed him too far?Posted by capricorngirl25Ha! Yup I used to try to talk immediately! Resolve on the spot. One thing my Taurus would say also is "if you decide to leave me I'll just say ok...I won't be happy but I'll give you what you ask for because it's what you want." They don't do hints...don't try to test his loyalty by telling him to leave...he will. That was true of 2 Taurus men I've been with. Both adored me...cried about how much they loved me, but I just kept trying to test it.Leave well enough alone. Let's not forget him also tho. They are pettttttttyyyy when they're mad. Those stubborn fits are the worst. Sometimes I have to let him be before I say something mean, but I let him know even if we get mad at each other there are basic rules of respect. Maybe some ground rules made when you're happy? Like mine knows he better not ever ignore me. He has to at least say "I received your message and I'm using time to think" and then I don't care how long we don't talk.Posted by Capri__unicornYes def the talk it out and him wanting space, we definitely love to talk it out haha we want to fix conflict right there and then and be happy and not want things to be awkward, they love to go off for hours or days to think and come back. I don't even know if he's still with me? I told him to just break up with me and leave and he said fine, i know it was heated argument but I'm not sure if we are still together or not? I'm guessing not?.. Yes taurus and virgo are our top guys. My ex was a virgo but he was too overly top attentive to me, and my taurus guy knows just the right amount, thats why i prefer them...but I'm not sure if i can handle taurus guys :/Posted by capricorngirl25Of course it's not intentional and I think we don't realize it until someone else points it out. I can only speak for the Taurus I've dealt with. After fights they act like everything is fine publically. Mine would go out w/the boys...act completely unbothered but his family would tell me about him being extremely sad about it. He wouldn't sulk but he would feel bad. I still struggle with how different he is from me with conflict. I wanna talk it out and he just wants his space to think. If he's your boyfriend he's chosen to be with you...you have to be confident in that and stop worrying about his silence being an indication of disinterest. The cap Taurus dynamic is a powerful connection but your wires will get crossed if you don't learn to understand each otherPosted by Capri__unicornHaha! Wow! hit the nail on the head here, and yes you are correct about the fights thing...I don't think i do it intentionally but yes you are right. Can you give me some insight about Taurus men work in fights? This is kind of our first actual fight and I'm not sure what to expect here...hes posting snap chats like nothing happened and he seems fine, but I'm feeling sad and depressed and confused whats going on between us? if he's going to text or I should 😢 thanks for ur response btwPosted by earlorg16Agree here...I'm a cap w/ a Taurus and it gets real sometimes but this sounded so unnecessarily dramatic. Had me thinking about times I dragged out something and how annoying it must have been. He offered to wait for you, you basically told him no...so he leaves...and now you're mad because he did. What did you want him to do— Stop being a cap lol say what u mean and mean what u say. What u thought he would do is wait around and beg u...whether you'll admit it or not if you're anything like me you're looking for reassurance through fights...if he takes it and sticks around it means he loves u....that's not how these men work. You have to relax.
He did over react a bit, but you also didn't help the cause here.
I've never met a Taurus male that didn't come back around with me. Just our friendships prior to dating were so strong that the loyalty was there no matter. Shortest no contact time was a day, longest was 4 months. I'd always give it a day to a week of no contact to let our emotions settle..I'd think about my part and his. Have the whole convo play in my head or practice in the bathroom lol....then send him a very calm message explaining how I was feeling...I'd let him say his piece too. Let him know somethings I didn't like or found distasteful about his behavior and acknowledge things that I did that might have felt the same to him. Then it's the waiting game. During that time I'd go out with friends brush myself with my personal goals and family time. They'd come back around slowly but surely until the comfort of being ourselves as a unit worked again
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Posted by GC01It was 3am and they had both been drinking.. Yeah that's real smart..
How can you even say he abandoned you?
He said he wanted to leave again and again and you chose to stay behind on multiple occasions.
If I didn't want to get left behind I would say okay babe you want to leave lets go because I'm not staying here alone. Then I would deal with the problems once I'm home safe. Don't be dumb.
Posted by Capri__unicornThank u!! 🙂Posted by capricorngirl25Sure thing ma'amPosted by Capri__unicornhehe I like the whole bathroom scenerio..Ok i;ll do that. Do you think theres any way possible if I draw up this msg, I mean i already started to last night I had so many things on my mind..but when I finish it..Can i send it to you to read before I send to him? It sounds like you have a really good idea of how I work and how he works and I would just be so grateful if you would be able to help me with that.Posted by capricorngirl25Posted by Capri__unicornOh yes! He has told me that many many times as well...not directed towards me but he said If you ever feel you aren't happy with me just tell me and we will move on. He has said that many many times before to me about his past relationships as well. They will give you what you want. Unfortunately I was super upset..(also getting my period PMS i know its not an excuse but) emotions were flying high that night + alcohol..I just wasn't in my right frame of mind. He told me he never really gets mad, which is true I've never seen him mad at me or anyone else for that matter, but i pushed him that night with constantly wanting to talk...especially because i knew we had a 6 hour drive ahead the next day and i didn't want things to be painfully awkward in the car. I like the ground rules thing that you brought up though. So i guess now my biggest question is...With your experience in Taurus males...At this point would he come back around? or do u think he's had enough and i pushed him too far?Posted by capricorngirl25Ha! Yup I used to try to talk immediately! Resolve on the spot. One thing my Taurus would say also is "if you decide to leave me I'll just say ok...I won't be happy but I'll give you what you ask for because it's what you want." They don't do hints...don't try to test his loyalty by telling him to leave...he will. That was true of 2 Taurus men I've been with. Both adored me...cried about how much they loved me, but I just kept trying to test it.Leave well enough alone. Let's not forget him also tho. They are pettttttttyyyy when they're mad. Those stubborn fits are the worst. Sometimes I have to let him be before I say something mean, but I let him know even if we get mad at each other there are basic rules of respect. Maybe some ground rules made when you're happy? Like mine knows he better not ever ignore me. He has to at least say "I received your message and I'm using time to think" and then I don't care how long we don't talk.Posted by Capri__unicornYes def the talk it out and him wanting space, we definitely love to talk it out haha we want to fix conflict right there and then and be happy and not want things to be awkward, they love to go off for hours or days to think and come back. I don't even know if he's still with me? I told him to just break up with me and leave and he said fine, i know it was heated argument but I'm not sure if we are still together or not? I'm guessing not?.. Yes taurus and virgo are our top guys. My ex was a virgo but he was too overly top attentive to me, and my taurus guy knows just the right amount, thats why i prefer them...but I'm not sure if i can handle taurus guys :/Posted by capricorngirl25Of course it's not intentional and I think we don't realize it until someone else points it out. I can only speak for the Taurus I've dealt with. After fights they act like everything is fine publically. Mine would go out w/the boys...act completely unbothered but his family would tell me about him being extremely sad about it. He wouldn't sulk but he would feel bad. I still struggle with how different he is from me with conflict. I wanna talk it out and he just wants his space to think. If he's your boyfriend he's chosen to be with you...you have to be confident in that and stop worrying about his silence being an indication of disinterest. The cap Taurus dynamic is a powerful connection but your wires will get crossed if you don't learn to understand each otherPosted by Capri__unicornHaha! Wow! hit the nail on the head here, and yes you are correct about the fights thing...I don't think i do it intentionally but yes you are right. Can you give me some insight about Taurus men work in fights? This is kind of our first actual fight and I'm not sure what to expect here...hes posting snap chats like nothing happened and he seems fine, but I'm feeling sad and depressed and confused whats going on between us? if he's going to text or I should 😢 thanks for ur response btwPosted by earlorg16Agree here...I'm a cap w/ a Taurus and it gets real sometimes but this sounded so unnecessarily dramatic. Had me thinking about times I dragged out something and how annoying it must have been. He offered to wait for you, you basically told him no...so he leaves...and now you're mad because he did. What did you want him to do— Stop being a cap lol say what u mean and mean what u say. What u thought he would do is wait around and beg u...whether you'll admit it or not if you're anything like me you're looking for reassurance through fights...if he takes it and sticks around it means he loves u....that's not how these men work. You have to relax.
He did over react a bit, but you also didn't help the cause here.
I've never met a Taurus male that didn't come back around with me. Just our friendships prior to dating were so strong that the loyalty was there no matter. Shortest no contact time was a day, longest was 4 months. I'd always give it a day to a week of no contact to let our emotions settle..I'd think about my part and his. Have the whole convo play in my head or practice in the bathroom lol....then send him a very calm message explaining how I was feeling...I'd let him say his piece too. Let him know somethings I didn't like or found distasteful about his behavior and acknowledge things that I did that might have felt the same to him. Then it's the waiting game. During that time I'd go out with friends brush myself with my personal goals and family time. They'd come back around slowly but surely until the comfort of being ourselves as a unit worked again
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Posted by DivaCanLeoMy Taurus neighbor kicked her ex Cancer husband in the face when he kept yelling at her and calling her names. He tried to get her to come out of the car as she wanted to leave and bam right in the face.. Busted his lip and everything.. Don't push those buttons too much...Posted by PVandJellyLol I mean when they're angry do they throw stuff around that would be funnyPosted by DivaCanLeoI can be too, aquarius mercury. Fortunately they accept my poor behavior as temporary insanity on my part and don't judge me harshly for it.
I've never seen an angry bull I usually treat them like sheet... So.
I've never really witnessed their anger cause Im highly insensitive anyways.
Like they're not going to convince me of anything so
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Posted by DivaCanLeoYeah she divorced him and we haven't seen him in a very long time...Posted by jane84Lol but cancers like abuse.Posted by DivaCanLeoMy Taurus neighbor kicked her ex Cancer husband in the face when he kept yelling at her and calling her names. He tried to get her to come out of the car as she wanted to leave and bam right in the face.. Busted his lip and everything.. Don't push those buttons too much...Posted by PVandJellyLol I mean when they're angry do they throw stuff around that would be funnyPosted by DivaCanLeoI can be too, aquarius mercury. Fortunately they accept my poor behavior as temporary insanity on my part and don't judge me harshly for it.
I've never seen an angry bull I usually treat them like sheet... So.
I've never really witnessed their anger cause Im highly insensitive anyways.
Like they're not going to convince me of anything so
I think I'd like to see that kind of anger just to laugh and point fingers
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Posted by Capri__unicornPosted by capricorngirl25If it's Chris brown...run girl...Posted by PVandJellyHe is, he's in the entertainment industry and is a pretty big name there. I think I want to get back together, I have never clicked with anyone or met anyone that knows me so well as he does, and something keeps drawing me back into him. in an ideal world i would like to talk to him face to face and hear what he has to say and say my part and figure out a way for us to communicate better so a fight like this doesn't happen again and escalate as bad as this did, and yes get back together if it seems right.
He seems kind of petty and self entitled. After he left you at the hotel, kind of seems like the romance is over. What do you want? Do you want to get back together?
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Posted by capricorngirl25You got it! Best of luck to you.Posted by earlorg16thank youPosted by capricorngirl25Just text him or call like I said. Talk things out. Transparency is key. Don't go around trying to break into his phone either. Learn to trust him. Learn to communicate. If we're physically there with you, we are making an effort to be with you. If you question us, when we're showing you we want you, that's a slap to the face, especially if it's during sex. Don't be afraid to talk it out.Posted by Capri__unicornHaha! Wow! hit the nail on the head here, and yes you are correct about the fights thing...I don't think i do it intentionally but yes you are right. Can you give me some insight about Taurus men work in fights? This is kind of our first actual fight and I'm not sure what to expect here...hes posting snap chats like nothing happened and he seems fine, but I'm feeling sad and depressed and confused whats going on between us? if he's going to text or I should 😢 thanks for ur response btwPosted by earlorg16Agree here...I'm a cap w/ a Taurus and it gets real sometimes but this sounded so unnecessarily dramatic. Had me thinking about times I dragged out something and how annoying it must have been. He offered to wait for you, you basically told him no...so he leaves...and now you're mad because he did. What did you want him to do— Stop being a cap lol say what u mean and mean what u say. What u thought he would do is wait around and beg u...whether you'll admit it or not if you're anything like me you're looking for reassurance through fights...if he takes it and sticks around it means he loves u....that's not how these men work. You have to relax.
He did over react a bit, but you also didn't help the cause here.
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Hi John 🙂 I know I was and I am also at fault here and I see that. When we used to have sex and he would cum inside he would always tell me he's going to..and we had a talk about him holding off for awhile the night before on friday. That's why i was just unsure what he was going to do, and i just slowed down/stopped him for a second just to ask what he was going to do, I know that sounds stupid now but the conversation was fresh in my head..and I was sensitive that night. The thing with the phone and girl I only know about he doesn't..we never brought that up. I think no contact is the way to go right now. Are you a taurus? Can you maybe explain what his thoughts are and the likelihood of us making up?Posted by capricorngirl25Because you pushed his buttons and you wouldn't stop.....Posted by DivaCanLeoI tried to turn the situation around many times that night. Sometimes I feel like when people are that angry and they feel you ... like you hug them or grab their arm gently and let them know its fine and to calm down thats all they need to calm down the situation. I tried doing that 2 times and he was just ANGRY like the BULL that he is...he wasn't having it.Posted by GC01Why would he leave in the middle of the night.
How can you even say he abandoned you?
He said he wanted to leave again and again and you chose to stay behind on multiple occasions.
If I didn't want to get left behind I would say okay babe you want to leave lets go because I'm not staying here alone. Then I would deal with the problems once I'm home safe. Don't be dumb.
I would not have gone.
That's irrational
I'm not going to fuk up my sleep cycle for a man child.
I'd ask him to stay and just chill and try to calm him down
Maybe give him a massage turn on a cartoon
But I woould not leave
He can go fuk himself at that point
My Gem ex used to push all my buttons until one day when he said during an argument "that's it I'm leaving" to his surprise I replied "great idea. You have 4 weeks to pack your bags. I want you gone"... He never saw that coming.... And I NEVER changed my mind..
Your bull came back to you a few times...
You are just as childish and just as much to blame. what wait till your guy is inside you then you decide to stop him mind way then you bring up the girl which means you were sneaking through his phone.. I would have been as mad as hell too.
Mess with a bull, you will face the horns...
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Also John what is the explanation for the taurus male to not even check in with me, to ask if i got home ok? isn't that just common curtesy?Posted by capricorngirl25Because you pushed his buttons and you wouldn't stop.....Posted by DivaCanLeoI tried to turn the situation around many times that night. Sometimes I feel like when people are that angry and they feel you ... like you hug them or grab their arm gently and let them know its fine and to calm down thats all they need to calm down the situation. I tried doing that 2 times and he was just ANGRY like the BULL that he is...he wasn't having it.Posted by GC01Why would he leave in the middle of the night.
How can you even say he abandoned you?
He said he wanted to leave again and again and you chose to stay behind on multiple occasions.
If I didn't want to get left behind I would say okay babe you want to leave lets go because I'm not staying here alone. Then I would deal with the problems once I'm home safe. Don't be dumb.
I would not have gone.
That's irrational
I'm not going to fuk up my sleep cycle for a man child.
I'd ask him to stay and just chill and try to calm him down
Maybe give him a massage turn on a cartoon
But I woould not leave
He can go fuk himself at that point
My Gem ex used to push all my buttons until one day when he said during an argument "that's it I'm leaving" to his surprise I replied "great idea. You have 4 weeks to pack your bags. I want you gone"... He never saw that coming.... And I NEVER changed my mind..
Your bull came back to you a few times...
You are just as childish and just as much to blame. what wait till your guy is inside you then you decide to stop him mind way then you bring up the girl which means you were sneaking through his phone.. I would have been as mad as hell too.
Mess with a bull, you will face the horns...
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Posted by DivaCanLeoPosted by jane84Lol was he cheating?Posted by DivaCanLeoYeah she divorced him and we haven't seen him in a very long time...Posted by jane84Lol but cancers like abuse.Posted by DivaCanLeoMy Taurus neighbor kicked her ex Cancer husband in the face when he kept yelling at her and calling her names. He tried to get her to come out of the car as she wanted to leave and bam right in the face.. Busted his lip and everything.. Don't push those buttons too much...Posted by PVandJellyLol I mean when they're angry do they throw stuff around that would be funnyPosted by DivaCanLeoI can be too, aquarius mercury. Fortunately they accept my poor behavior as temporary insanity on my part and don't judge me harshly for it.
I've never seen an angry bull I usually treat them like sheet... So.
I've never really witnessed their anger cause Im highly insensitive anyways.
Like they're not going to convince me of anything so
I think I'd like to see that kind of anger just to laugh and point fingers
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by jane84I have "right hooked" a neighbour in the face ; I have made another neighbour cry in front of her boyfriend and her own party...Posted by DivaCanLeoMy Taurus neighbor kicked her ex Cancer husband in the face when he kept yelling at her and calling her names. He tried to get her to come out of the car as she wanted to leave and bam right in the face.. Busted his lip and everything.. Don't push those buttons too much...Posted by PVandJellyLol I mean when they're angry do they throw stuff around that would be funnyPosted by DivaCanLeoI can be too, aquarius mercury. Fortunately they accept my poor behavior as temporary insanity on my part and don't judge me harshly for it.
I've never seen an angry bull I usually treat them like sheet... So.
I've never really witnessed their anger cause Im highly insensitive anyways.
Like they're not going to convince me of anything so
I think I'd like to see that kind of anger just to laugh and point fingers
I am calm until someone pushes too far and waves a red flag in my face...
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Posted by GC01Lol yeah they could have!!!Posted by jane84Posted by GC01It was 3am and they had both been drinking.. Yeah that's real smart..
How can you even say he abandoned you?
He said he wanted to leave again and again and you chose to stay behind on multiple occasions.
If I didn't want to get left behind I would say okay babe you want to leave lets go because I'm not staying here alone. Then I would deal with the problems once I'm home safe. Don't be dumb.
Then your family gets a call at 7am that both of you have been in a car accident or killed someone.. Sounds like a great idea..
Lmao jk you are right drinking and driving is never okay. I'd put my safety above everything.
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We have known each other for 7 months been dating since November. He asked me to be his girlfriend officially last week. The same day we run into my ex and some drama happened but we talked about it and both agreed to brush it off. We decided to take a trip to SF this weekend because we needed some alone time, some positive time away from what just happened with my ex. Every thing was going great the car ride up (6hours) was fantastic.
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We get food and come back to hotel and he wasn't making any moves on me so I started to..and then he said lets talk. So he opened up and said that interaction with my ex really kind of set him back he said it's fine and we are fine but he just needs time to get over that. He said also I was his first girlfriend to ever ejaculate inside. And he was just starts to get worried about it. So he wanted to postpone for awhile until he can figure out what he wants to do. We talked it out and both agreed no sex until he decides. Saturday everything was fantastic! Saturday night we went out dancing and we both drank not a lot but enough to be tipsy kind of starting to get drunk. We come back to hotel start fooling around he starts having Sex with me but I stop him after awhile and he gets mad and turns over. I explained to him I stopped because I wasn't sure what he wanted to do in regards to this..and we just talked about something Friday night and I didn't know if he already decided or what? So he tells me he decided because he proceeded to have sex with me so that means he decided. So I just simply told him I didn't know that's what it meant he didn't make it clear. So I tried to brush it off and start up again kissing him. He said he's not in the mood and turns over... I'm a Capricorn and we like to solve problems and we don't like when things feel awkward.
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So I tried to talk to him but he just kept getting more and more mad. Eventually we went to sleepFor some reason I decided to take his phone I don't know why but I wanted to see if he was talking to other girls. I waited until he started falling asleep and took it, I looked at It but I only saw he was talking to one friend who was a girl maybe flirting with her little bit. So I said whatever. Then he turned over and tried to play nice with me( at this point I think he noticed his phone was gone) he said let me hold your hand and I dropped his phone out of my hand on the bed but I think he knew i had it. He started being nice all of a sudden I was pissed cuz I knew he was doing that prob cuz I saw that convo with his friend who's a girl, so I said "oh now u wanna be all nice" he immediately shot up out of bed and was angry and yelling about all kinds of stuff how I wont let him sleep blah blah all I wanna do is argue.
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He starts packing his clothes andEverything telling me he's going back to los angeles(we drove together from la to SF) he said are you coming with me or staying here? I told him I wasn't going anywhere at this time..it was now about 3am. We kept fighting back n forth he left the room a couple times and came back. During one of our fights he said this is ridiculous we shouldn't be fighting like this early on in the relationship and I kept telling him to break up with me then obviously I was intoxicated and that's not what I wanted and I was angry and had built up anger from Friday. So he did, he said it was too much and we are over and left.
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Then he sent me a text at 4am saying it doesn't matter if we are broken up or not he will wait for me until morning then leave together with me. I fell asleep at this point. Then at 5am he texted me "Ok then if u not talking to me there no point in me waiting I'm going to go on I didn't want to leave you I came back to the room 3 times and asked u to please come with me , in sorry it had to end like this" he hasn't texted me or called me since.
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I AM SO HURT and I feel like he doesn't give a crap about me. Not even to say he's back home or ask me how I got home or if I got home. No concern at all. Maybe it's guilt for leaving me? Maybe he's just done? I have no idea what's going on in his head. I still have stuff of his and he has stuff of mine so he's going to have to see me eventually. Maybe? I don't know what's going on, we get along so amazing 99.9% of the time and we are a great match otherwise. We both just didn't know how to handle each other that mad communicate and I pushed him over the edge , and we were drinking..he never drinks too so he's a light weight. I don't know if the relationship is repairable? I really need advice..I'm pissed he left me but should I just not try to get him back because of that? Do I try? I really cared about him but he left me...Who's at fault here? Will he ever text??
Posted by Capri__unicorn
Call or text him and be logical. Admit your part in it but don't be overly apologetic. He has to take some of it too. You guys will be fine
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by capricorngirl25I suggest you use NO CONTACT (NC) to put your emotions in check and give him time also to cool down... With a Taurus man if they feel that they can't make you happy and you wish to leave, they will give you what you wish for... You wanted him to finish with you and that is exactly what he did...Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Hi John 🙂 I know I was and I am also at fault here and I see that. When we used to have sex and he would cum inside he would always tell me he's going to..and we had a talk about him holding off for awhile the night before on friday. That's why i was just unsure what he was going to do, and i just slowed down/stopped him for a second just to ask what he was going to do, I know that sounds stupid now but the conversation was fresh in my head..and I was sensitive that night. The thing with the phone and girl I only know about he doesn't..we never brought that up. I think no contact is the way to go right now. Are you a taurus? Can you maybe explain what his thoughts are and the likelihood of us making up?Posted by capricorngirl25Because you pushed his buttons and you wouldn't stop.....Posted by DivaCanLeoI tried to turn the situation around many times that night. Sometimes I feel like when people are that angry and they feel you ... like you hug them or grab their arm gently and let them know its fine and to calm down thats all they need to calm down the situation. I tried doing that 2 times and he was just ANGRY like the BULL that he is...he wasn't having it.Posted by GC01Why would he leave in the middle of the night.
How can you even say he abandoned you?
He said he wanted to leave again and again and you chose to stay behind on multiple occasions.
If I didn't want to get left behind I would say okay babe you want to leave lets go because I'm not staying here alone. Then I would deal with the problems once I'm home safe. Don't be dumb.
I would not have gone.
That's irrational
I'm not going to fuk up my sleep cycle for a man child.
I'd ask him to stay and just chill and try to calm him down
Maybe give him a massage turn on a cartoon
But I woould not leave
He can go fuk himself at that point
My Gem ex used to push all my buttons until one day when he said during an argument "that's it I'm leaving" to his surprise I replied "great idea. You have 4 weeks to pack your bags. I want you gone"... He never saw that coming.... And I NEVER changed my mind..
Your bull came back to you a few times...
You are just as childish and just as much to blame. what wait till your guy is inside you then you decide to stop him mind way then you bring up the girl which means you were sneaking through his phone.. I would have been as mad as hell too.
Mess with a bull, you will face the horns...
I suggest you try NC for a while and allow things to calm down from both ends..
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Posted by capricorngirl25One thing I hate to admit is our ego can take a huge impact on the way we communicate. I have air moon though so I do it often go with feelings and what's right than logical. It's what I desire from someone cause I get closed off with humanity even if I think I care.Posted by capricorngirl25
We have known each other for 7 months been dating since November. He asked me to be his girlfriend officially last week. The same day we run into my ex and some drama happened but we talked about it and both agreed to brush it off. We decided to take a trip to SF this weekend because we needed some alone time, some positive time away from what just happened with my ex. Every thing was going great the car ride up (6hours) was fantastic.
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We get food and come back to hotel and he wasn't making any moves on me so I started to..and then he said lets talk. So he opened up and said that interaction with my ex really kind of set him back he said it's fine and we are fine but he just needs time to get over that. He said also I was his first girlfriend to ever ejaculate inside. And he was just starts to get worried about it. So he wanted to postpone for awhile until he can figure out what he wants to do. We talked it out and both agreed no sex until he decides. Saturday everything was fantastic! Saturday night we went out dancing and we both drank not a lot but enough to be tipsy kind of starting to get drunk. We come back to hotel start fooling around he starts having Sex with me but I stop him after awhile and he gets mad and turns over. I explained to him I stopped because I wasn't sure what he wanted to do in regards to this..and we just talked about something Friday night and I didn't know if he already decided or what? So he tells me he decided because he proceeded to have sex with me so that means he decided. So I just simply told him I didn't know that's what it meant he didn't make it clear. So I tried to brush it off and start up again kissing him. He said he's not in the mood and turns over... I'm a Capricorn and we like to solve problems and we don't like when things feel awkward.
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So I tried to talk to him but he just kept getting more and more mad. Eventually we went to sleepFor some reason I decided to take his phone I don't know why but I wanted to see if he was talking to other girls. I waited until he started falling asleep and took it, I looked at It but I only saw he was talking to one friend who was a girl maybe flirting with her little bit. So I said whatever. Then he turned over and tried to play nice with me( at this point I think he noticed his phone was gone) he said let me hold your hand and I dropped his phone out of my hand on the bed but I think he knew i had it. He started being nice all of a sudden I was pissed cuz I knew he was doing that prob cuz I saw that convo with his friend who's a girl, so I said "oh now u wanna be all nice" he immediately shot up out of bed and was angry and yelling about all kinds of stuff how I wont let him sleep blah blah all I wanna do is argue.
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He starts packing his clothes andEverything telling me he's going back to los angeles(we drove together from la to SF) he said are you coming with me or staying here? I told him I wasn't going anywhere at this time..it was now about 3am. We kept fighting back n forth he left the room a couple times and came back. During one of our fights he said this is ridiculous we shouldn't be fighting like this early on in the relationship and I kept telling him to break up with me then obviously I was intoxicated and that's not what I wanted and I was angry and had built up anger from Friday. So he did, he said it was too much and we are over and left.
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Then he sent me a text at 4am saying it doesn't matter if we are broken up or not he will wait for me until morning then leave together with me. I fell asleep at this point. Then at 5am he texted me "Ok then if u not talking to me there no point in me waiting I'm going to go on I didn't want to leave you I came back to the room 3 times and asked u to please come with me , in sorry it had to end like this" he hasn't texted me or called me since.
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I AM SO HURT and I feel like he doesn't give a crap about me. Not even to say he's back home or ask me how I got home or if I got home. No concern at all. Maybe it's guilt for leaving me? Maybe he's just done? I have no idea what's going on in his head. I still have stuff of his and he has stuff of mine so he's going to have to see me eventually. Maybe? I don't know what's going on, we get along so amazing 99.9% of the time and we are a great match otherwise. We both just didn't know how to handle each other that mad communicate and I pushed him over the edge , and we were drinking..he never drinks too so he's a light weight. I don't know if the relationship is repairable? I really need advice..I'm pissed he left me but should I just not try to get him back because of that? Do I try? I really cared about him but he left me...Who's at fault here? Will he ever text??
Hey everyone just wanted to send an update. So I decided to text him today just asking him to call me whenever he is ready to talk. He called me almost immediately after he got my text. He let me talk first and I basically apologized for my side of what happened and told him the situation just got out of hand, and when two people enter a relationship together they are still learning about each other and what makes one another tick, and where each others boundaries are etc.. When i let him speak he basically didn't sound apologetic at all...nor did he accept really any responsibility for what happened or leaving me. I told him I still of course had feelings for him and cared for him and everything that night was done out of anger and I wanted to work on our communication with one another. He sounded very cold..just very like he didn't have any feelings left for me..and very blunt, and he told me basically he didn't want a relationship. He said he was hesitant about even entering a relationship but he said he had talked himself out of it and said this could really be something between us and he had to give it a go, but he said when we had that fight he realized he wasn't ready for one, and all he said about leaving me was "I mean I left you 6 hours away in a hotel room, thats not something that should of happened but it did and it just goes to show you I'm not ready" and he said relationships take time and effort and he didn't want to try. And I asked him well didn't you think about that before asking me to be your girlfriend,... and he said yea but i just wasn't sure and i didn't want to miss out on being with you.. I don't know basically it sounds like he just wanted everything to stay peachy and nice and everything to go his way...and just because we had a fight he bailed...and he got scared and retreated back to his shell where it is comfortable and nice and he doesn't have to be scared of the unknown now. I'm super hurt right now because I just don't understand how he can go from...showing me off to his entire family..all his family added me on social media...we have spent a lot of time together making memories and doing things..and having inside jokes and nicknames for each other...and we used to text multiple times a day and every night and every morning...to now nothing. He told me he wishes me well and hopes i have a good life...wow that really hurt when he said that..basically leaving no line of communication open at all. I asked him what I should do with all his stuff. He said he's in no hurry to get it back and just whenever works for both of us we can meet at a place close to both of us and drop it off. I'm crushed. I didn't think i would never see him again...or hug him again or hear him ever call me babe ever again. I'm so hurt. I asked one of my guy friends for his opinion and he said his pride is getting in the way of telling or showing how he really feels and he is in fact thinking of me and missing me too it's just he doesn't know what he wants right now. What do you guys think of this Taurus behavior? What is on his mind? What is he thinking? I thought Tarus's don't just throw things and people away when they have invested a lot of time with them? We were absolutely perfect for each other always happy we only had one fight i don't get it.click to expand
Posted by jeaneAgreed 100%
i'm not surprised by his reaction.
i think unless you had a strong friendship before its more than likely you are done. he wasn't sure about you in the first place. he convinced himself otherwise and now after this event he thinks he should have listened to his gut in the first place. now he is looking at his own behaviour and seeing that he wouldn't behave that way unless there was a reason. they are intuitive creatures and if something doesn't seem right, they are unlikely to put themselves on the line.
of the times when my partner and i were having problems and "broken up", he never let a day go by without contacting me to try to put things right and if it wasn't him, it was me trying to reassure him that we could still be good together.
it doesn't sound like that kind of situation for you. he is not ready for a relationship.
if he comes back it will be because of how strong his feelings are for you but only you can really know to what extent he cares for you.
Posted by TaurusBull1977I think there were a couple of things that lead up to this though.
Sadly, it took him 7 months to realize this...and unfortunately, for the OP.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
@Jeane,
I think he envisioned a stable life with the OP. She was a safe choice, a practical choice, but not a decision stemmed from an emotional-based connection.
When the 'perfect' idea of his stable choice crumbled (ex, meeting of the ex, and the argument), he decided to pull out gradually, escalating an argument that should have never been 'amped up' to begin with.
Taurus men are a bit more passive, diffusers. The anger is nothing to mess with, so that alternative is always given before an argument commences.
The OP tried to diffuse...the Taurus man escalated. The 3am outburst should have never happened. A Taurus man in love would have just slept it off. It's not worth the energy.
I don't blame the Cappie, I wouldn't have left either.
He didn't call her. This speaks magnitudes. If the emotional connection was there, and he no longer saw stability, he would have taken a step back, required some time alone to think, but never an immediate "we should break up"...not after 7 months invested.
The Cappie could have sneezed the wrong way, and he would have looked at that as an excuse to break up with her.
For a Taurus invested, a blowup is not a deal breaker.
Unless we wanted out for quite some time, or we weren't really that emotionally invested.
Posted by candycloudss
Maybe there was something else on his phone that you didn't see.
Like he could have been talking to a bunch of girls on a dating website or had pics of other girls on his phone somewhere. Even if he didn't leave it open, maybe he feared he had, and then thought to himself that if I enjoy talking to other girls too, then I no longer should keep dating this girl.
And he just wanted to end things quickly without much discussion because he was ashamed of himself and also to him it was obvious he preferred staying single.
If I were you I'd forget him. He likes keeping it easy, talking to /dating a bunch of girls.. And unfortunately he could be sweet like that to other girls, nicknaming them too.. But it's better this way because you'll forget about him soon and meet someone who actually cares about you.
Posted by Capri__unicornI agree...I mean he only just turned 26...my dad tells me what can you expect out of a young guy like that..he won't come around until he's in his 30's, its just very hurtful to mePosted by lnana04I'm starting to think this is a matter of maturity too more than anything, because an evolved Taurus would come around
Eww girl, why do you want to figure out what's going on in this guys head? What you tell your daughter, mother, sister in this situation?
He is being unessesarily rude and enjoying it. To pick up his phone almost immediately let's you know he was ready to deliver the blow. Reminds me of the lady who posted not long ago about her Taurus asking if she loved him only to tell her she was too young. The immature breed. He wanted to hear what you had to say to make it even more enjoyable on his end.
If you signal to him that you like that type of abuse/torture, he will deliver. Do yourself a favor and move on.
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Posted by Capri__unicornI think he's Taurus/Gemini from what my sister told me. Is that right? His birthday is May 19, 1990
Can't say it'll work for sure but I'd go no contact for awhile. So he can see what his decision means. Otherwise he'll still get to interact with you, laugh with you, and enjoy the best parts of you without the relationship. After some time has passed I'd be extremely platonic if he doesn't want to move back into a relationship. Not out of spite but to stick to your standards. They like stability and women that don't change up and get fickle according to how they're feeling in the moment. Do you have any other info like his birth chart or full birthday? That could help you understand him more too
Posted by jeane
i'm not surprised by his reaction.
i think unless you had a strong friendship before its more than likely you are done. he wasn't sure about you in the first place. he convinced himself otherwise and now after this event he thinks he should have listened to his gut in the first place. now he is looking at his own behaviour and seeing that he wouldn't behave that way unless there was a reason. they are intuitive creatures and if something doesn't seem right, they are unlikely to put themselves on the line.
of the times when my partner and i were having problems and "broken up", he never let a day go by without contacting me to try to put things right and if it wasn't him, it was me trying to reassure him that we could still be good together.
it doesn't sound like that kind of situation for you. he is not ready for a relationship.
if he comes back it will be because of how strong his feelings are for you but only you can really know to what extent he cares for you.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Thank you so much for taking the time to listen and reply. I agree with you 100% I think a HUGE part is pride and ego and power...I mean he even admitted he likes having control...and now he does when I communicated saying I was sorry for my part...now he feels the ball is in his court again to decide if he wants to get back together or not...maybe he wants to fuck around for a little bit againPosted by capricorngirl25One thing I hate to admit is our ego can take a huge impact on the way we communicate. I have air moon though so I do it often go with feelings and what's right than logical. It's what I desire from someone cause I get closed off with humanity even if I think I care.Posted by capricorngirl25
We have known each other for 7 months been dating since November. He asked me to be his girlfriend officially last week. The same day we run into my ex and some drama happened but we talked about it and both agreed to brush it off. We decided to take a trip to SF this weekend because we needed some alone time, some positive time away from what just happened with my ex. Every thing was going great the car ride up (6hours) was fantastic.
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We get food and come back to hotel and he wasn't making any moves on me so I started to..and then he said lets talk. So he opened up and said that interaction with my ex really kind of set him back he said it's fine and we are fine but he just needs time to get over that. He said also I was his first girlfriend to ever ejaculate inside. And he was just starts to get worried about it. So he wanted to postpone for awhile until he can figure out what he wants to do. We talked it out and both agreed no sex until he decides. Saturday everything was fantastic! Saturday night we went out dancing and we both drank not a lot but enough to be tipsy kind of starting to get drunk. We come back to hotel start fooling around he starts having Sex with me but I stop him after awhile and he gets mad and turns over. I explained to him I stopped because I wasn't sure what he wanted to do in regards to this..and we just talked about something Friday night and I didn't know if he already decided or what? So he tells me he decided because he proceeded to have sex with me so that means he decided. So I just simply told him I didn't know that's what it meant he didn't make it clear. So I tried to brush it off and start up again kissing him. He said he's not in the mood and turns over... I'm a Capricorn and we like to solve problems and we don't like when things feel awkward.
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So I tried to talk to him but he just kept getting more and more mad. Eventually we went to sleepFor some reason I decided to take his phone I don't know why but I wanted to see if he was talking to other girls. I waited until he started falling asleep and took it, I looked at It but I only saw he was talking to one friend who was a girl maybe flirting with her little bit. So I said whatever. Then he turned over and tried to play nice with me( at this point I think he noticed his phone was gone) he said let me hold your hand and I dropped his phone out of my hand on the bed but I think he knew i had it. He started being nice all of a sudden I was pissed cuz I knew he was doing that prob cuz I saw that convo with his friend who's a girl, so I said "oh now u wanna be all nice" he immediately shot up out of bed and was angry and yelling about all kinds of stuff how I wont let him sleep blah blah all I wanna do is argue.
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He starts packing his clothes andEverything telling me he's going back to los angeles(we drove together from la to SF) he said are you coming with me or staying here? I told him I wasn't going anywhere at this time..it was now about 3am. We kept fighting back n forth he left the room a couple times and came back. During one of our fights he said this is ridiculous we shouldn't be fighting like this early on in the relationship and I kept telling him to break up with me then obviously I was intoxicated and that's not what I wanted and I was angry and had built up anger from Friday. So he did, he said it was too much and we are over and left.
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Then he sent me a text at 4am saying it doesn't matter if we are broken up or not he will wait for me until morning then leave together with me. I fell asleep at this point. Then at 5am he texted me "Ok then if u not talking to me there no point in me waiting I'm going to go on I didn't want to leave you I came back to the room 3 times and asked u to please come with me , in sorry it had to end like this" he hasn't texted me or called me since.
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I AM SO HURT and I feel like he doesn't give a crap about me. Not even to say he's back home or ask me how I got home or if I got home. No concern at all. Maybe it's guilt for leaving me? Maybe he's just done? I have no idea what's going on in his head. I still have stuff of his and he has stuff of mine so he's going to have to see me eventually. Maybe? I don't know what's going on, we get along so amazing 99.9% of the time and we are a great match otherwise. We both just didn't know how to handle each other that mad communicate and I pushed him over the edge , and we were drinking..he never drinks too so he's a light weight. I don't know if the relationship is repairable? I really need advice..I'm pissed he left me but should I just not try to get him back because of that? Do I try? I really cared about him but he left me...Who's at fault here? Will he ever text??
Hey everyone just wanted to send an update. So I decided to text him today just asking him to call me whenever he is ready to talk. He called me almost immediately after he got my text. He let me talk first and I basically apologized for my side of what happened and told him the situation just got out of hand, and when two people enter a relationship together they are still learning about each other and what makes one another tick, and where each others boundaries are etc.. When i let him speak he basically didn't sound apologetic at all...nor did he accept really any responsibility for what happened or leaving me. I told him I still of course had feelings for him and cared for him and everything that night was done out of anger and I wanted to work on our communication with one another. He sounded very cold..just very like he didn't have any feelings left for me..and very blunt, and he told me basically he didn't want a relationship. He said he was hesitant about even entering a relationship but he said he had talked himself out of it and said this could really be something between us and he had to give it a go, but he said when we had that fight he realized he wasn't ready for one, and all he said about leaving me was "I mean I left you 6 hours away in a hotel room, thats not something that should of happened but it did and it just goes to show you I'm not ready" and he said relationships take time and effort and he didn't want to try. And I asked him well didn't you think about that before asking me to be your girlfriend,... and he said yea but i just wasn't sure and i didn't want to miss out on being with you.. I don't know basically it sounds like he just wanted everything to stay peachy and nice and everything to go his way...and just because we had a fight he bailed...and he got scared and retreated back to his shell where it is comfortable and nice and he doesn't have to be scared of the unknown now. I'm super hurt right now because I just don't understand how he can go from...showing me off to his entire family..all his family added me on social media...we have spent a lot of time together making memories and doing things..and having inside jokes and nicknames for each other...and we used to text multiple times a day and every night and every morning...to now nothing. He told me he wishes me well and hopes i have a good life...wow that really hurt when he said that..basically leaving no line of communication open at all. I asked him what I should do with all his stuff. He said he's in no hurry to get it back and just whenever works for both of us we can meet at a place close to both of us and drop it off. I'm crushed. I didn't think i would never see him again...or hug him again or hear him ever call me babe ever again. I'm so hurt. I asked one of my guy friends for his opinion and he said his pride is getting in the way of telling or showing how he really feels and he is in fact thinking of me and missing me too it's just he doesn't know what he wants right now. What do you guys think of this Taurus behavior? What is on his mind? What is he thinking? I thought Tarus's don't just throw things and people away when they have invested a lot of time with them? We were absolutely perfect for each other always happy we only had one fight i don't get it.
Sometimes though it has to be something that has happened for me to detach cause I would accept challenges, be friends, and take my time.
I do have relationship planets that make me want to build a foundation for along time. Back when I was 21 I jumped the gun and paid for the consequences inwhich it was good things but nope. Couldn't trust or open a line of communication cause once I get to thinking about my needs instead of caring for someone who has or had major red flags. I still did it. I'm stubborn. Lol.
So it's probably pride, ego, and power. So I would say show by actions but he's being stubborn. It's hard except for food I'll accept. So maybe when you go to this meeting up with each other's things then say can I buy you a drink or something and open a line of communication.
But if he's not ready then it will be a fwb type of thing.click to expand
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