OpulenceIsTheEnd
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Taurus man is perplexing...
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We've dated once. he left.
We've hooked up, on and off, in between him seeing other people, and me still stuck on him.
When we've hooked up, he's been distant, and cold, and he has blocked me out of nowhere for other girls.
Now, months later, he tells me that he wants to pursue something serious with me, and that every girl that he's attempted something with in the past has dulled in comparison, sexually, mentally, and in terms of enjoyable moments.
He says that he misses me, and that he's always thought of me, when with other people.
I told him that if he wants to come back into my life, then I want actions- not more words.
Lately, he's extremely attentive (phone calls and lots of texts throughout the day) he flirts with and compliments me, and constantly begs for me to come see him, and be intimate with him.
I live a few hours away from him.
I've just recently accepted a very big job offer, I just got my license, and I just bought my first car, so, I feel that he is liking all of these improvements, because, I had none of this, when we met..
Only a few problems: 1) he has no job, and I don't want to pay for everything as I did before, but I also don't know how to bring it up before I see him. 2) we don't use protection, and I want to ask him to please get tested (I have slept with no one else) and I have no idea what the best approach is, to explaining that.
I don't want to give myself to him, only to end up being used.
I'm naturally generous, and him not having a job doesn't bother me, initially. but, the thought of him letting me to pay for everything, makes me feel uneasy.
He doesn't ever talk about taking me out, but at the same time, he has no job, so, I can't figure out if I should foul him, for that or not..
Should I express all of this to him?? And does anyone have any pointers for doing so, as to not scare him off??
Also, why is it that taurus men seem to have a backwards commitment style (they rush into sex, but are show to become official)??
Only helpful comments, please.
Disrespect or trolling will be blocked.
We've hooked up, on and off, in between him seeing other people, and me still stuck on him.
When we've hooked up, he's been distant, and cold, and he has blocked me out of nowhere for other girls.
Now, months later, he tells me that he wants to pursue something serious with me, and that every girl that he's attempted something with in the past has dulled in comparison, sexually, mentally, and in terms of enjoyable moments.
He says that he misses me, and that he's always thought of me, when with other people.
I told him that if he wants to come back into my life, then I want actions- not more words.
Lately, he's extremely attentive (phone calls and lots of texts throughout the day) he flirts with and compliments me, and constantly begs for me to come see him, and be intimate with him.
I live a few hours away from him.
I've just recently accepted a very big job offer, I just got my license, and I just bought my first car, so, I feel that he is liking all of these improvements, because, I had none of this, when we met..
Only a few problems: 1) he has no job, and I don't want to pay for everything as I did before, but I also don't know how to bring it up before I see him. 2) we don't use protection, and I want to ask him to please get tested (I have slept with no one else) and I have no idea what the best approach is, to explaining that.
I don't want to give myself to him, only to end up being used.
I'm naturally generous, and him not having a job doesn't bother me, initially. but, the thought of him letting me to pay for everything, makes me feel uneasy.
He doesn't ever talk about taking me out, but at the same time, he has no job, so, I can't figure out if I should foul him, for that or not..
Should I express all of this to him?? And does anyone have any pointers for doing so, as to not scare him off??
Also, why is it that taurus men seem to have a backwards commitment style (they rush into sex, but are show to become official)??
Only helpful comments, please.
Disrespect or trolling will be blocked.
You can do better than be stuck on a guy who you already doubt for not having clear or positive intentions.
Thats not what you want in a life partner, move on.
Thats not what you want in a life partner, move on.
He offers you nothing...?
Posted by wildflowerWell, he's growing a bunch of weed right now, and has talked about how excited he is to share it with me. But other than that, no.
He offers you nothing...?
He has mentioned that he wants me to spend as little as I possibly can on our dates, and the hotel room that we choose; he told me to save my money and not blow it....but, I'm honestly confused.
Posted by like-an-oceanI really appreciate your kind words. You're not wrong. Really wish I didn't love him.
You can do better than be stuck on a guy who you already doubt for not having clear or positive intentions.
Thats not what you want in a life partner, move on.
Honestly, Im going to lay it to you thick.
I feel you. I understand you
I was in a similar situation with my ex Taurus last year... may here can attest to that
And my conclusion was that no matter how much my heart feels for him, he was not fulfilling me entirely. Why?
Because he wasn't fulfilling himself.
He wasn't where he wants to be
as a Taurus man.. what I've gathered is they like to provide. Here you are paying and taking care of him. You are providing for him. If that works for YOU, cool. But is it working for him relationship-wise or is he just reaping the benefits?
Next, you are left wondering. You are in a roller coaster.
Is he truly fulfilling you emotionally/mentally? Doesn't sound like it.
Because when a dude is solid, he comes for you at 100.
Especially Taurus.
Now where your situation differs from mine is he stopped talking to you to talk to other women. thats a big HELL NO to me and my dealbreaker was the moment another woman stepped in, he is out. Even with my heart throbbing and all. Remember your worth. You are not second choice.
Thats just me talking.
Sounds like you are really into him, I know the feeling, my ex had wrapped in a trance. So I know you won't stop until you are fed up. I would say to be forward about what you want. Actions. Tell him that you want this to work and you care for him and if he's on the same page cool. But if he's not, shut that door.
There are more guys out there that will treat you like you deserve. I know, I know, it sucks being told that. I was fixated on my ex and cringed when people told me that (Im a scorpio, imagine that). But its true. With much resistance, I've now met someone so solid, I can't believe it. Im struggling to believe it after the rollercoaster I was on.
Hang in there.
Know what you want and what you deserve.
I feel you. I understand you
I was in a similar situation with my ex Taurus last year... may here can attest to that
And my conclusion was that no matter how much my heart feels for him, he was not fulfilling me entirely. Why?
Because he wasn't fulfilling himself.
He wasn't where he wants to be
as a Taurus man.. what I've gathered is they like to provide. Here you are paying and taking care of him. You are providing for him. If that works for YOU, cool. But is it working for him relationship-wise or is he just reaping the benefits?
Next, you are left wondering. You are in a roller coaster.
Is he truly fulfilling you emotionally/mentally? Doesn't sound like it.
Because when a dude is solid, he comes for you at 100.
Especially Taurus.
Now where your situation differs from mine is he stopped talking to you to talk to other women. thats a big HELL NO to me and my dealbreaker was the moment another woman stepped in, he is out. Even with my heart throbbing and all. Remember your worth. You are not second choice.
Thats just me talking.
Sounds like you are really into him, I know the feeling, my ex had wrapped in a trance. So I know you won't stop until you are fed up. I would say to be forward about what you want. Actions. Tell him that you want this to work and you care for him and if he's on the same page cool. But if he's not, shut that door.
There are more guys out there that will treat you like you deserve. I know, I know, it sucks being told that. I was fixated on my ex and cringed when people told me that (Im a scorpio, imagine that). But its true. With much resistance, I've now met someone so solid, I can't believe it. Im struggling to believe it after the rollercoaster I was on.
Hang in there.
Know what you want and what you deserve.
you love a guy who is distant, cold and has chosen other women over you.
you love a guy who has no job, whose biggest thing going for him right now is that he grows pot and who makes little to no effort to come and see you.
you love a guy who doesn't use protection and willing risks your sexual health
you love a guy who you don't trust has good intentions and you feel is possible to use you for both money and sex.
you love a guy who makes no effort to show his commitment to you.
is he good in bed at least?
you love a guy who has no job, whose biggest thing going for him right now is that he grows pot and who makes little to no effort to come and see you.
you love a guy who doesn't use protection and willing risks your sexual health
you love a guy who you don't trust has good intentions and you feel is possible to use you for both money and sex.
you love a guy who makes no effort to show his commitment to you.
is he good in bed at least?
If you gotta provide for a Taurus dude, that's the first red flag.
Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndlolPosted by wildflowerWell, he's growing a bunch of weed right now, and has talked about how excited he is to share it with me. But other than that, no.
He offers you nothing...?
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Posted by earlorg16this....really any man, but bulls especially...
If you gotta provide for a Taurus dude, that's the first red flag.
i think its important that you are direct with a Taurus.
I feel that you should say exactly how you feel about him, what you want with him and your fears.
Taurus DO NOT read people very well, if at all.
they also are in there head a lot so they can think they know how you feel and talk them selves into thinking something negative until they don't know what to think at all.
They need a lot of reassurance so that's important and if need to hear something from them you need to point blank ask them.
they are THEE BEST at hiding emotion. they are so straight faced about everything. I never even know if my Taurus is excited about anything fun we do until he actually says it "today is going to a great day" ....
ME: oh, well im happy you feel that way. that is seriously me all the time, I never know how he feels about anything. are you mad, annoyed, sad, excited..... I always have to ask.
lucky I don't think Taurus say things they don't mean. I think for the most part if they don't know how they feel they say nothing rather then what they think you wanna hear.
good luck
let us know how it all works out.
I feel that you should say exactly how you feel about him, what you want with him and your fears.
Taurus DO NOT read people very well, if at all.
they also are in there head a lot so they can think they know how you feel and talk them selves into thinking something negative until they don't know what to think at all.
They need a lot of reassurance so that's important and if need to hear something from them you need to point blank ask them.
they are THEE BEST at hiding emotion. they are so straight faced about everything. I never even know if my Taurus is excited about anything fun we do until he actually says it "today is going to a great day" ....
ME: oh, well im happy you feel that way. that is seriously me all the time, I never know how he feels about anything. are you mad, annoyed, sad, excited..... I always have to ask.
lucky I don't think Taurus say things they don't mean. I think for the most part if they don't know how they feel they say nothing rather then what they think you wanna hear.
good luck
let us know how it all works out.
Posted by sagittariusxothis is such great advice. You gave me great advice when I was dealing with my ex
i think its important that you are direct with a Taurus.
I feel that you should say exactly how you feel about him, what you want with him and your fears.
Taurus DO NOT read people very well, if at all.
they also are in there head a lot so they can think they know how you feel and talk them selves into thinking something negative until they don't know what to think at all.
They need a lot of reassurance so that's important and if need to hear something from them you need to point blank ask them.
they are THEE BEST at hiding emotion. they are so straight faced about everything. I never even know if my Taurus is excited about anything fun we do until he actually says it "today is going to a great day" ....
ME: oh, well im happy you feel that way. that is seriously me all the time, I never know how he feels about anything. are you mad, annoyed, sad, excited..... I always have to ask.
lucky I don't think Taurus say things they don't mean. I think for the most part if they don't know how they feel they say nothing rather then what they think you wanna hear.
good luck
let us know how it all works out.
Deep down I still wish it was us đ˘
iâve heard and watched the taurus board to learn that apparently taurus men have a bench that they call upon when needed but would never be in a relationship with said women. not sure how true that is, but I have a... slightly similar situation. yet again not really.
well, I screwed up 5 years ago because I was conditioned by other men growing up that being too communicative was âclingyâ or âannoying.â I went about 20 days without contacting my taurus. keep in mind i was miserable wondering why he wouldnât talk to me, and I had to tell myself he was never interested to begin with and I had to move forward. finally he contacted me saying he could tell I really missed him, sarcastically of course. I knew it was over at that point. I screwed up, but if it were any other guy they wouldnât give two shits if I ever talked to them again or not. was it pride or was it fear? i worked very hard to rebuild what I had broken. but it was too late. shortly after he told me he couldnât grow emotionally with me. I was broken. but he never cut the tie, which is what I wouldâve done had it been me. he went to cali- prior to his flight he got very close and lovey as he typically did. I had wished him a safe flight. he landed and said we were getting too close and he had to distance himself. again- I was torn.
however, we still talk, and this is 5 years later. iâm impressed. but I donât think we will ever cross the positive threshold even though itâs all I want in this world. I accept him being in my life as a close friend, because I value him highly.
now into your portion. your taurus has no job. I think thatâs why heâs not providing monetary dates for you. my taurus in 2015 had no job, and he had just moved to cali (living w a family member). I didnât know and was in his general vicinity. he found out and we spent a magical weekend together. explored san francisco which was about an hour from where we were at. we went to bars, ate, etc. he had no job so I paid for everything. I didnât really care, because thatâs just my nature same as you. he really did express gratitude in his own little ways. I knew he was grateful and felt bad. he had mentioned he was sorry he had no money since he was still job hunting. I also helped him make his resume.
well he now has a job and he bought me sushi about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt hungry but still took me out (and paid) because i was. he lives back in chicago. still about 45 mins from me, but I was pleased he wanted to even see me. prior to that we went to dinner and just talked. I think he wouldâve paid for my food then too, but I paid for my own because thatâs just who I am and I didnât want to put pressure on him. we spoke for hours after the restaurant closed. we can always talk endlessly. I enjoy it. I enjoy hearing his words. I could listen to him for hours on end. we used to have 3-4 hour phone conversations. I loved it.
we also do the deed unprotected. since he recently came back from cali, I just generally made an inquiry. itâs not as hard as you think if youâre just direct and to the point. but also being polite and unconcerned. iâd just mention it like youâre mentioning the weather. say that you donât want to pry and that youâre not accusing him by any means, but that OTHER people canât be trusted and that youâre wondering if heâs been tested lately. thatâs how I worded it to my taurus. he wasnât offended at all. I laid it on him thick w a whole paragraph lmao and he said âwell hello to you tooâ and then proceeded to answer. he wasnât upset though, so donât be afraid. just mention how others arenât to be trusted and many people donât even know they have something. get creative. but I never like to point blame, so I do everything very strategically and courteous to their feelings. iâd suggest only that for your approach.
also... make a time limit for yourself. meaning if heâs still only growing weed and jobless in X amount of time iâd say it might be beneficial for you to move on. only for your own well-being. you shouldnât have to provide for anyone except yourself. I believe in equal support. one must give as much as the other to keep the balance. watch him carefully. men of any sign can become moochers and definite users. iâve fallen for that before. itâs a mess. sometimes being too giving and caring can be a curse. take it from me.
I hope he is serious for your sake. I understand how it is to truly love someone and not know if their emotions toward you are just as genuine. I really hope it works out for youâşď¸ good luck and keep us posted!
well, I screwed up 5 years ago because I was conditioned by other men growing up that being too communicative was âclingyâ or âannoying.â I went about 20 days without contacting my taurus. keep in mind i was miserable wondering why he wouldnât talk to me, and I had to tell myself he was never interested to begin with and I had to move forward. finally he contacted me saying he could tell I really missed him, sarcastically of course. I knew it was over at that point. I screwed up, but if it were any other guy they wouldnât give two shits if I ever talked to them again or not. was it pride or was it fear? i worked very hard to rebuild what I had broken. but it was too late. shortly after he told me he couldnât grow emotionally with me. I was broken. but he never cut the tie, which is what I wouldâve done had it been me. he went to cali- prior to his flight he got very close and lovey as he typically did. I had wished him a safe flight. he landed and said we were getting too close and he had to distance himself. again- I was torn.
however, we still talk, and this is 5 years later. iâm impressed. but I donât think we will ever cross the positive threshold even though itâs all I want in this world. I accept him being in my life as a close friend, because I value him highly.
now into your portion. your taurus has no job. I think thatâs why heâs not providing monetary dates for you. my taurus in 2015 had no job, and he had just moved to cali (living w a family member). I didnât know and was in his general vicinity. he found out and we spent a magical weekend together. explored san francisco which was about an hour from where we were at. we went to bars, ate, etc. he had no job so I paid for everything. I didnât really care, because thatâs just my nature same as you. he really did express gratitude in his own little ways. I knew he was grateful and felt bad. he had mentioned he was sorry he had no money since he was still job hunting. I also helped him make his resume.
well he now has a job and he bought me sushi about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt hungry but still took me out (and paid) because i was. he lives back in chicago. still about 45 mins from me, but I was pleased he wanted to even see me. prior to that we went to dinner and just talked. I think he wouldâve paid for my food then too, but I paid for my own because thatâs just who I am and I didnât want to put pressure on him. we spoke for hours after the restaurant closed. we can always talk endlessly. I enjoy it. I enjoy hearing his words. I could listen to him for hours on end. we used to have 3-4 hour phone conversations. I loved it.
we also do the deed unprotected. since he recently came back from cali, I just generally made an inquiry. itâs not as hard as you think if youâre just direct and to the point. but also being polite and unconcerned. iâd just mention it like youâre mentioning the weather. say that you donât want to pry and that youâre not accusing him by any means, but that OTHER people canât be trusted and that youâre wondering if heâs been tested lately. thatâs how I worded it to my taurus. he wasnât offended at all. I laid it on him thick w a whole paragraph lmao and he said âwell hello to you tooâ and then proceeded to answer. he wasnât upset though, so donât be afraid. just mention how others arenât to be trusted and many people donât even know they have something. get creative. but I never like to point blame, so I do everything very strategically and courteous to their feelings. iâd suggest only that for your approach.
also... make a time limit for yourself. meaning if heâs still only growing weed and jobless in X amount of time iâd say it might be beneficial for you to move on. only for your own well-being. you shouldnât have to provide for anyone except yourself. I believe in equal support. one must give as much as the other to keep the balance. watch him carefully. men of any sign can become moochers and definite users. iâve fallen for that before. itâs a mess. sometimes being too giving and caring can be a curse. take it from me.
I hope he is serious for your sake. I understand how it is to truly love someone and not know if their emotions toward you are just as genuine. I really hope it works out for youâşď¸ good luck and keep us posted!
Whatever is going on with this dude aside, you donât fuck raw dick if you donât know where itâs been. Thatâs How to Remain STD free 101. Basic sheeeet
Get yourself together woman!
Get yourself together woman!
Posted by wildflowerWoah! Thank you so much, for putting so much though lt into your reply!!
Honestly, Im going to lay it to you thick.
I feel you. I understand you
I was in a similar situation with my ex Taurus last year... may here can attest to that
And my conclusion was that no matter how much my heart feels for him, he was not fulfilling me entirely. Why?
Because he wasn't fulfilling himself.
He wasn't where he wants to be
as a Taurus man.. what I've gathered is they like to provide. Here you are paying and taking care of him. You are providing for him. If that works for YOU, cool. But is it working for him relationship-wise or is he just reaping the benefits?
Next, you are left wondering. You are in a roller coaster.
Is he truly fulfilling you emotionally/mentally? Doesn't sound like it.
Because when a dude is solid, he comes for you at 100.
Especially Taurus.
Now where your situation differs from mine is he stopped talking to you to talk to other women. thats a big HELL NO to me and my dealbreaker was the moment another woman stepped in, he is out. Even with my heart throbbing and all. Remember your worth. You are not second choice.
Thats just me talking.
Sounds like you are really into him, I know the feeling, my ex had wrapped in a trance. So I know you won't stop until you are fed up. I would say to be forward about what you want. Actions. Tell him that you want this to work and you care for him and if he's on the same page cool. But if he's not, shut that door.
There are more guys out there that will treat you like you deserve. I know, I know, it sucks being told that. I was fixated on my ex and cringed when people told me that (Im a scorpio, imagine that). But its true. With much resistance, I've now met someone so solid, I can't believe it. Im struggling to believe it after the rollercoaster I was on.
Hang in there.
Know what you want and what you deserve.
It really is a killer situation; Everytime I make improvements in my life in his absence, I feel better about myself and feel my self worth improving, but then he comes around, and I'm willing to devalue myself for him. I'm simply crazy about him, and he always comes back. And then I tell him to beat feet, and that I'm independent and worth too much for him to afford. But, then I find myself still spilling my heart all over him, weeks later. I just don't get it!! I'm sorry that you went through all of that, as well, and that things had to end. It sucks to think about, but I'm really proud of you.
Posted by jeaneI'm floored....I really don't know what to say.... It sounds so soul-crushingly horrible, when It's laid out that way..
you love a guy who is distant, cold and has chosen other women over you.
you love a guy who has no job, whose biggest thing going for him right now is that he grows pot and who makes little to no effort to come and see you.
you love a guy who doesn't use protection and willing risks your sexual health
you love a guy who you don't trust has good intentions and you feel is possible to use you for both money and sex.
you love a guy who makes no effort to show his commitment to you.
is he good in bed at least?
The answer, is "yes", though. I do love him, and I wish that it was simpler. But, it isn't.
I'm also a pisces, so... That helps, not at all..
As far as his skills between the sheets are concerned, he's the best I've ever had.... Which also helps, but at all..
Posted by sierra_Why, "ewww"??/:
eww
Posted by LadyNeptuneLol. I knowwww. It's just what we've always done.
Whatever is going on with this dude aside, you donât fuck raw dick if you donât know where itâs been. Thatâs How to Remain STD free 101. Basic sheeeet
Get yourself together woman!
Posted by sierra_Damn it. I know/:Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndhe sounds like a jerkPosted by sierra_Why, "ewww"??/:
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Posted by sagittariusxo
i think its important that you are direct with a Taurus.
I feel that you should say exactly how you feel about him, what you want with him and your fears.
Taurus DO NOT read people very well, if at all.
they also are in there head a lot so they can think they know how you feel and talk them selves into thinking something negative until they don't know what to think at all.
They need a lot of reassurance so that's important and if need to hear something from them you need to point blank ask them.
they are THEE BEST at hiding emotion. they are so straight faced about everything. I never even know if my Taurus is excited about anything fun we do until he actually says it "today is going to a great day" ....
ME: oh, well im happy you feel that way. that is seriously me all the time, I never know how he feels about anything. are you mad, annoyed, sad, excited..... I always have to ask.
lucky I don't think Taurus say things they don't mean. I think for the most part if they don't know how they feel they say nothing rather then what they think you wanna hear.
good luck
let us know how it all works out.
Thank you, for your thoughtful reply! That gives me quite a decent amount of insight as to how to proceed. I will try this, and let you know what happens
Posted by wildflowerI really feel for you, wildflower/: it may end for the two of us, as well. I would be crushed.Posted by sagittariusxothis is such great advice. You gave me great advice when I was dealing with my ex
i think its important that you are direct with a Taurus.
I feel that you should say exactly how you feel about him, what you want with him and your fears.
Taurus DO NOT read people very well, if at all.
they also are in there head a lot so they can think they know how you feel and talk them selves into thinking something negative until they don't know what to think at all.
They need a lot of reassurance so that's important and if need to hear something from them you need to point blank ask them.
they are THEE BEST at hiding emotion. they are so straight faced about everything. I never even know if my Taurus is excited about anything fun we do until he actually says it "today is going to a great day" ....
ME: oh, well im happy you feel that way. that is seriously me all the time, I never know how he feels about anything. are you mad, annoyed, sad, excited..... I always have to ask.
lucky I don't think Taurus say things they don't mean. I think for the most part if they don't know how they feel they say nothing rather then what they think you wanna hear.
good luck
let us know how it all works out.
Deep down I still wish it was us đ˘click to expand
Posted by degenerate_ingenueI really appreciate your thoughts! I feel a little better. I will say, that I have been tempted on so many occasions, to just blatantly ignore him, for all of eternity; I just keep thinking that there's a chance I'll never hear from him, again. I'm really sad to know, that things happened that way/:
iâve heard and watched the taurus board to learn that apparently taurus men have a bench that they call upon when needed but would never be in a relationship with said women. not sure how true that is, but I have a... slightly similar situation. yet again not really.
well, I screwed up 5 years ago because I was conditioned by other men growing up that being too communicative was âclingyâ or âannoying.â I went about 20 days without contacting my taurus. keep in mind i was miserable wondering why he wouldnât talk to me, and I had to tell myself he was never interested to begin with and I had to move forward. finally he contacted me saying he could tell I really missed him, sarcastically of course. I knew it was over at that point. I screwed up, but if it were any other guy they wouldnât give two shits if I ever talked to them again or not. was it pride or was it fear? i worked very hard to rebuild what I had broken. but it was too late. shortly after he told me he couldnât grow emotionally with me. I was broken. but he never cut the tie, which is what I wouldâve done had it been me. he went to cali- prior to his flight he got very close and lovey as he typically did. I had wished him a safe flight. he landed and said we were getting too close and he had to distance himself. again- I was torn.
however, we still talk, and this is 5 years later. iâm impressed. but I donât think we will ever cross the positive threshold even though itâs all I want in this world. I accept him being in my life as a close friend, because I value him highly.
now into your portion. your taurus has no job. I think thatâs why heâs not providing monetary dates for you. my taurus in 2015 had no job, and he had just moved to cali (living w a family member). I didnât know and was in his general vicinity. he found out and we spent a magical weekend together. explored san francisco which was about an hour from where we were at. we went to bars, ate, etc. he had no job so I paid for everything. I didnât really care, because thatâs just my nature same as you. he really did express gratitude in his own little ways. I knew he was grateful and felt bad. he had mentioned he was sorry he had no money since he was still job hunting. I also helped him make his resume.
well he now has a job and he bought me sushi about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt hungry but still took me out (and paid) because i was. he lives back in chicago. still about 45 mins from me, but I was pleased he wanted to even see me. prior to that we went to dinner and just talked. I think he wouldâve paid for my food then too, but I paid for my own because thatâs just who I am and I didnât want to put pressure on him. we spoke for hours after the restaurant closed. we can always talk endlessly. I enjoy it. I enjoy hearing his words. I could listen to him for hours on end. we used to have 3-4 hour phone conversations. I loved it.
we also do the deed unprotected. since he recently came back from cali, I just generally made an inquiry. itâs not as hard as you think if youâre just direct and to the point. but also being polite and unconcerned. iâd just mention it like youâre mentioning the weather. say that you donât want to pry and that youâre not accusing him by any means, but that OTHER people canât be trusted and that youâre wondering if heâs been tested lately. thatâs how I worded it to my taurus. he wasnât offended at all. I laid it on him thick w a whole paragraph lmao and he said âwell hello to you tooâ and then proceeded to answer. he wasnât upset though, so donât be afraid. just mention how others arenât to be trusted and many people donât even know they have something. get creative. but I never like to point blame, so I do everything very strategically and courteous to their feelings. iâd suggest only that for your approach.
also... make a time limit for yourself. meaning if heâs still only growing weed and jobless in X amount of time iâd say it might be beneficial for you to move on. only for your own well-being. you shouldnât have to provide for anyone except yourself. I believe in equal support. one must give as much as the other to keep the balance. watch him carefully. men of any sign can become moochers and definite users. iâve fallen for that before. itâs a mess. sometimes being too giving and caring can be a curse. take it from me.
I hope he is serious for your sake. I understand how it is to truly love someone and not know if their emotions toward you are just as genuine. I really hope it works out for youâşď¸ good luck and keep us posted!
Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndBy the way... Society is cruel; many of us are told to be drones, or no man will want to put up with us. It's sad.Posted by degenerate_ingenueI really appreciate your thoughts! I feel a little better. I will say, that I have been tempted on so many occasions, to just blatantly ignore him, for all of eternity; I just keep thinking that there's a chance I'll never hear from him, again. I'm really sad to know, that things happened that way/:
iâve heard and watched the taurus board to learn that apparently taurus men have a bench that they call upon when needed but would never be in a relationship with said women. not sure how true that is, but I have a... slightly similar situation. yet again not really.
well, I screwed up 5 years ago because I was conditioned by other men growing up that being too communicative was âclingyâ or âannoying.â I went about 20 days without contacting my taurus. keep in mind i was miserable wondering why he wouldnât talk to me, and I had to tell myself he was never interested to begin with and I had to move forward. finally he contacted me saying he could tell I really missed him, sarcastically of course. I knew it was over at that point. I screwed up, but if it were any other guy they wouldnât give two shits if I ever talked to them again or not. was it pride or was it fear? i worked very hard to rebuild what I had broken. but it was too late. shortly after he told me he couldnât grow emotionally with me. I was broken. but he never cut the tie, which is what I wouldâve done had it been me. he went to cali- prior to his flight he got very close and lovey as he typically did. I had wished him a safe flight. he landed and said we were getting too close and he had to distance himself. again- I was torn.
however, we still talk, and this is 5 years later. iâm impressed. but I donât think we will ever cross the positive threshold even though itâs all I want in this world. I accept him being in my life as a close friend, because I value him highly.
now into your portion. your taurus has no job. I think thatâs why heâs not providing monetary dates for you. my taurus in 2015 had no job, and he had just moved to cali (living w a family member). I didnât know and was in his general vicinity. he found out and we spent a magical weekend together. explored san francisco which was about an hour from where we were at. we went to bars, ate, etc. he had no job so I paid for everything. I didnât really care, because thatâs just my nature same as you. he really did express gratitude in his own little ways. I knew he was grateful and felt bad. he had mentioned he was sorry he had no money since he was still job hunting. I also helped him make his resume.
well he now has a job and he bought me sushi about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt hungry but still took me out (and paid) because i was. he lives back in chicago. still about 45 mins from me, but I was pleased he wanted to even see me. prior to that we went to dinner and just talked. I think he wouldâve paid for my food then too, but I paid for my own because thatâs just who I am and I didnât want to put pressure on him. we spoke for hours after the restaurant closed. we can always talk endlessly. I enjoy it. I enjoy hearing his words. I could listen to him for hours on end. we used to have 3-4 hour phone conversations. I loved it.
we also do the deed unprotected. since he recently came back from cali, I just generally made an inquiry. itâs not as hard as you think if youâre just direct and to the point. but also being polite and unconcerned. iâd just mention it like youâre mentioning the weather. say that you donât want to pry and that youâre not accusing him by any means, but that OTHER people canât be trusted and that youâre wondering if heâs been tested lately. thatâs how I worded it to my taurus. he wasnât offended at all. I laid it on him thick w a whole paragraph lmao and he said âwell hello to you tooâ and then proceeded to answer. he wasnât upset though, so donât be afraid. just mention how others arenât to be trusted and many people donât even know they have something. get creative. but I never like to point blame, so I do everything very strategically and courteous to their feelings. iâd suggest only that for your approach.
also... make a time limit for yourself. meaning if heâs still only growing weed and jobless in X amount of time iâd say it might be beneficial for you to move on. only for your own well-being. you shouldnât have to provide for anyone except yourself. I believe in equal support. one must give as much as the other to keep the balance. watch him carefully. men of any sign can become moochers and definite users. iâve fallen for that before. itâs a mess. sometimes being too giving and caring can be a curse. take it from me.
I hope he is serious for your sake. I understand how it is to truly love someone and not know if their emotions toward you are just as genuine. I really hope it works out for youâşď¸ good luck and keep us posted!
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Sounds like a Taurus I know named Cory. No job also.
Sounds exactly like him. Good grief. We need to chat. I feel you girl!
I'm also in Illinois and it sounds like the same creep
Sounds like my ex Cory
Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndAww, I know, hon. It'll pass, just be happy you had the opportunity to feel such a beautiful emotion.. Even if it was for someone who doesnt always deserve it.Posted by like-an-oceanI really appreciate your kind words. You're not wrong. Really wish I didn't love him.
You can do better than be stuck on a guy who you already doubt for not having clear or positive intentions.
Thats not what you want in a life partner, move on.click to expand
Omg was it?!!
Posted by C69đ đ đ I'm so sorry, but that made me smile!
hell to the naw to the naw naww naw
Posted by lightupflipflops
Sounds like a Taurus I know named Cory. No job also.
Is he a user??
Posted by lightupflipflops
Sounds exactly like him. Good grief. We need to chat. I feel you girl!
đđ I don't mind talking! Message me!
Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndI think you can do better and that you deserve better - he just doesn't sound very trustworthy
We've dated once. he left.
We've hooked up, on and off, in between him seeing other people, and me still stuck on him.
When we've hooked up, he's been distant, and cold, and he has blocked me out of nowhere for other girls.
Now, months later, he tells me that he wants to pursue something serious with me, and that every girl that he's attempted something with in the past has dulled in comparison, sexually, mentally, and in terms of enjoyable moments.
He says that he misses me, and that he's always thought of me, when with other people.
I told him that if he wants to come back into my life, then I want actions- not more words.
Lately, he's extremely attentive (phone calls and lots of texts throughout the day) he flirts with and compliments me, and constantly begs for me to come see him, and be intimate with him.
I live a few hours away from him.
I've just recently accepted a very big job offer, I just got my license, and I just bought my first car, so, I feel that he is liking all of these improvements, because, I had none of this, when we met..
Only a few problems: 1) he has no job, and I don't want to pay for everything as I did before, but I also don't know how to bring it up before I see him. 2) we don't use protection, and I want to ask him to please get tested (I have slept with no one else) and I have no idea what the best approach is, to explaining that.
I don't want to give myself to him, only to end up being used.
I'm naturally generous, and him not having a job doesn't bother me, initially. but, the thought of him letting me to pay for everything, makes me feel uneasy.
He doesn't ever talk about taking me out, but at the same time, he has no job, so, I can't figure out if I should foul him, for that or not..
Should I express all of this to him?? And does anyone have any pointers for doing so, as to not scare him off??
Posted by tctaaPosted by OpulenceIsTheEnd
We've dated once. he left.
We've hooked up, on and off, in between him seeing other people, and me still stuck on him.
When we've hooked up, he's been distant, and cold, and he has blocked me out of nowhere for other girls.
Now, months later, he tells me that he wants to pursue something serious with me, and that every girl that he's attempted something with in the past has dulled in comparison, sexually, mentally, and in terms of enjoyable moments.
He says that he misses me, and that he's always thought of me, when with other people.
I told him that if he wants to come back into my life, then I want actions- not more words.
Lately, he's extremely attentive (phone calls and lots of texts throughout the day) he flirts with and compliments me, and constantly begs for me to come see him, and be intimate with him.
I live a few hours away from him.
I've just recently accepted a very big job offer, I just got my license, and I just bought my first car, so, I feel that he is liking all of these improvements, because, I had none of this, when we met..
Only a few problems: 1) he has no job, and I don't want to pay for everything as I did before, but I also don't know how to bring it up before I see him. 2) we don't use protection, and I want to ask him to please get tested (I have slept with no one else) and I have no idea what the best approach is, to explaining that.
I don't want to give myself to him, only to end up being used.
I'm naturally generous, and him not having a job doesn't bother me, initially. but, the thought of him letting me to pay for everything, makes me feel uneasy.
He doesn't ever talk about taking me out, but at the same time, he has no job, so, I can't figure out if I should foul him, for that or not..
Should I express all of this to him?? And does anyone have any pointers for doing so, as to not scare him off??
I think you can do better and that you deserve better - he just doesn't sound very trustworthy click to expandclick to expand
Thank you): he's been super attentive, but won't let me meet his family...thats bothering me.
lool. so i knew a taurus. i liked him for months, pursused him twice, but he said iâm a good friend, that he wants his female friends to stay that way. ok, so i gave in, respected his stance, and kept him as a friend while he went out with other girls lol. in fact, he went out with a girl he told me was a female friend. sooo that just told me he didnât like me like that lol. it was fine, i moved on.
like 2 years later he came back saying he wanted me all this time. bear in mind he already had a kid when i knew him (god knows why i liked a young jobless dad). this time round turns out he had another kid - a newborn - and he left the mother to be with me. bruh i blocked and ran. i didnât wanna blame a sun sign but this must be a taurus thing
like 2 years later he came back saying he wanted me all this time. bear in mind he already had a kid when i knew him (god knows why i liked a young jobless dad). this time round turns out he had another kid - a newborn - and he left the mother to be with me. bruh i blocked and ran. i didnât wanna blame a sun sign but this must be a taurus thing
oh and please wake up lolol he came back to you because everyone else left his ass and you must be the only one he knows thatâs hooked on him. donât be the last resort. respect yourself.
Posted by besarlalluvia
lool. so i knew a taurus. i liked him for months, pursused him twice, but he said iâm a good friend, that he wants his female friends to stay that way. ok, so i gave in, respected his stance, and kept him as a friend while he went out with other girls lol. in fact, he went out with a girl he told me was a female friend. sooo that just told me he didnât like me like that lol. it was fine, i moved on.
like 2 years later he came back saying he wanted me all this time. bear in mind he already had a kid when i knew him (god knows why i liked a young jobless dad). this time round turns out he had another kid - a newborn - and he left the mother to be with me. bruh i blocked and ran. i didnât wanna blame a sun sign but this must be a taurus thing
đđđ ohh, no!! Lol..well, idk, then/:
Posted by besarlalluviaOh):
oh and please wake up lolol he came back to you because everyone else left his ass and you must be the only one he knows thatâs hooked on him. donât be the last resort. respect yourself.
Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndgirl this guy has done nothing for you dont let him sweet talk you. are u pisces?Posted by besarlalluviađđđ ohh, no!! Lol..well, idk, then/: click to expand
lool. so i knew a taurus. i liked him for months, pursused him twice, but he said iâm a good friend, that he wants his female friends to stay that way. ok, so i gave in, respected his stance, and kept him as a friend while he went out with other girls lol. in fact, he went out with a girl he told me was a female friend. sooo that just told me he didnât like me like that lol. it was fine, i moved on.
like 2 years later he came back saying he wanted me all this time. bear in mind he already had a kid when i knew him (god knows why i liked a young jobless dad). this time round turns out he had another kid - a newborn - and he left the mother to be with me. bruh i blocked and ran. i didnât wanna blame a sun sign but this must be a taurus thingclick to expand
Posted by besarlalluviaI am a Pisces, damn it! How, did you know?! Am I THAT whiny and emotional?!Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndPosted by besarlalluvia
lool. so i knew a taurus. i liked him for months, pursused him twice, but he said iâm a good friend, that he wants his female friends to stay that way. ok, so i gave in, respected his stance, and kept him as a friend while he went out with other girls lol. in fact, he went out with a girl he told me was a female friend. sooo that just told me he didnât like me like that lol. it was fine, i moved on.
like 2 years later he came back saying he wanted me all this time. bear in mind he already had a kid when i knew him (god knows why i liked a young jobless dad). this time round turns out he had another kid - a newborn - and he left the mother to be with me. bruh i blocked and ran. i didnât wanna blame a sun sign but this must be a taurus thing
đđđ ohh, no!! Lol..well, idk, then/: click to expand
girl this guy has done nothing for you dont let him sweet talk you. are u pisces? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndlolol couldnât make this up really.Posted by besarlalluviaPosted by OpulenceIsTheEndPosted by besarlalluvia
lool. so i knew a taurus. i liked him for months, pursused him twice, but he said iâm a good friend, that he wants his female friends to stay that way. ok, so i gave in, respected his stance, and kept him as a friend while he went out with other girls lol. in fact, he went out with a girl he told me was a female friend. sooo that just told me he didnât like me like that lol. it was fine, i moved on.
like 2 years later he came back saying he wanted me all this time. bear in mind he already had a kid when i knew him (god knows why i liked a young jobless dad). this time round turns out he had another kid - a newborn - and he left the mother to be with me. bruh i blocked and ran. i didnât wanna blame a sun sign but this must be a taurus thing
đđđ ohh, no!! Lol..well, idk, then/: click to expand
girl this guy has done nothing for you dont let him sweet talk you. are u pisces? click to expand
I am a Pisces, damn it! How, did you know?! Am I THAT whiny and emotional?! click to expandclick to expand
not whiny and emotional. just naive. dw iâve been there. itâs ok to be mean. i told the taurus to fuck off. youâll become a shark one day
Posted by besarlalluviađđđ you're awesome!!Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndPosted by besarlalluviaPosted by OpulenceIsTheEndPosted by besarlalluvia
lool. so i knew a taurus. i liked him for months, pursused him twice, but he said iâm a good friend, that he wants his female friends to stay that way. ok, so i gave in, respected his stance, and kept him as a friend while he went out with other girls lol. in fact, he went out with a girl he told me was a female friend. sooo that just told me he didnât like me like that lol. it was fine, i moved on.
like 2 years later he came back saying he wanted me all this time. bear in mind he already had a kid when i knew him (god knows why i liked a young jobless dad). this time round turns out he had another kid - a newborn - and he left the mother to be with me. bruh i blocked and ran. i didnât wanna blame a sun sign but this must be a taurus thing
đđđ ohh, no!! Lol..well, idk, then/: click to expand
girl this guy has done nothing for you dont let him sweet talk you. are u pisces? click to expand
I am a Pisces, damn it! How, did you know?! Am I THAT whiny and emotional?! click to expand
lolol couldnât make this up really.
not whiny and emotional. just naive. dw iâve been there. itâs ok to be mean. i told the taurus to treetrunk off. youâll become a shark one day click to expandclick to expand
Please tell me you've cut this bull loose...
Heâs a user. I donât see whatâs appealing about this man. Heâs a bum. Being naturally generous can hurt you. Only give to those who are deserving. A grown man should never lean on a woman financially. He better call a friend or family member. Any dude serious about you wouldnât let you pay all the time either. And of course he likes that you upgraded your life, it can benefit him. You deserve better.
Posted by TaurusinTexas
Please tell me you've cut this bull loose...
I haven't/: we see each other every other weekend.
Posted by perperunaHe lives with his mom and she is very controlling...i don't think that she wants him to be independent and he's comfortable. He wakes up by 11, goes to the gym, then comes home, showers, eats, cleans and hangs out with his little brother's and other family members all day, and the occasional friend.Posted by OpulenceIsTheEndPosted by lightupflipflops
Sounds like a Taurus I know named Cory. No job also.
Is he a user?? click to expand
Yes! What happens if you get pregnant? How will he help you? This is crazy
Why doesnât he have a job? click to expandclick to expand
I have a feeling that his mother may be racist for reasons, but he's very much into colored girls, and refuses to let me meet them..im African american..he refuses to let us meet..i feel very left out..
Posted by bkbella86True..i guess that I keep wondering if things would be different if he HAD a job..and I keep hoping he gets one, so that I can't know for sure..it would be stupid of me to expect him to demonstrate a financial capacity in our relationship when he has no income/: if I wasn't with him, he still would never get a job...so..is it really using if it's just who he is?? It's me who's stupid, if I expect him to change when I walked into this knowing that he has no income...if I come into his life and demand that he get a source of income and pay, then I feel that that would be wrong.
Heâs a user. I donât see whatâs appealing about this man. Heâs a bum. Being naturally generous can hurt you. Only give to those who are deserving. A grown man should never lean on a woman financially. He better call a friend or family member. Any dude serious about you wouldnât let you pay all the time either. And of course he likes that you upgraded your life, it can benefit him. You deserve better.
Posted by bkbella86
Heâs a user. I donât see whatâs appealing about this man. Heâs a bum. Being naturally generous can hurt you. Only give to those who are deserving. A grown man should never lean on a woman financially. He better call a friend or family member. Any dude serious about you wouldnât let you pay all the time either. And of course he likes that you upgraded your life, it can benefit him. You deserve better.
I guess that I also have read that Taurus men value stability in their mates, so I thought that he could possibly just see me as stable, now that I have my life together, and that maybe that's why be was drawn back to me...i guess that I'm mistaken):
Posted by TaurusinTexas
Please tell me you've cut this bull loose...
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I'm naturally generous, and him not having a job doesn't bother me, initially. but, the thought of him letting me to pay for everything, makes me feel uneasy.
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Should I express all of this to him?? And does anyone have any pointers for doing so, as to not scare him off??