Taurus man not texting- WHY?

I seriously need someone's advice on this because it's doing my head in. Met a Taurus man at a bar, he actively pursued me all night and we ended up going home together (he has venus in pisces). I am aquarius capricorn cusp with venus in sag. Definitely had an intense physical and sexual attraction. He texted me the following day (within 24 hours) saying sorry he hadn't texted earlier and he hoped I had gotten home ok. So I replied with an open ended question and ??_. NOTHING? My phone can be troublesome with receiving messages so I thought maybe that had been the case. I waited until that evening and sent another explaining my phone plays up with messages sometimes assuming he would have responded to my text back and i just hadn't received it and asked another open ended question. No response.
I don't understand WHY HE EVEN BOTHERED TO TEXT ME in the first place and apologise for not texting me sooner if he wasn't interested?
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.

So I just received my reply- hours later. Can someone explain this behaviour? Is he just not that into me or trying to 'play it cool'?

I'm kinda going through a similar situation too. I will randomly get a sweet/flirty message from the Taurus I'm getting to know.. I will reply but he doesn't.. or a conversation is flowing and he randomly cuts the conversation by not replying. Its annoying I know, But I??ve learnt not to get too deep into it.. eventually the next day or a week later he will message me. I know he's into me now because of the messages he sends now. We send each other good morning and good night messages and its cute.. its a minor small thing but I think he's starting to open up slowly.

The following reasons could be
- He's busy
- He's not that into you
- He's got strong feelings for you and doesn't know how to handle it so he's playing it cold.
- He's just being a guy and acting all cool about it.

Do you still respond even if he's not going to engage you back? It's so annoying.

Taurus men can get hot and cold. Just be patient I'm sure he will respond back.

Posted by cultstatus
Do you still respond even if he's not going to engage you back? It's so annoying.

Sometimes I do.. at first i didn't want to constantly message as if i was bothering or pestering him. but I've noticed a slight change since last week. He's messaging me a little more and responding back.

I agree.. its the most frustrating thing you can go through.. what helped me understand more about a Taurus male is mainly from this forum or just search info and get a better understanding. This will help. Trust.

Have you seen him after?

It's the first Taurus male I've ever really been attracted to so it's new to me, especially coming from a relationship with a Cancerian man who would always bombard me with novel-like messages in the early stages haha. That's exactly how i feel, I don't want to be annoying I want him to chase me sort of thing.
No I haven't seen him since but it's only been a few days.

Posted by cultstatus
It's the first Taurus male I've ever really been attracted to so it's new to me, especially coming from a relationship with a Cancerian man who would always bombard me with novel-like messages in the early stages haha. That's exactly how i feel, I don't want to be annoying I want him to chase me sort of thing.
No I haven't seen him since but it's only been a few days.

Whats your sign?

Oh its only been a few days.. dont worry to much into it. If you really like this guy, it is a good idea to read up basic Taurus traits and you'll be able to get a good understanding if you do see a future with him.

you went home with him meaning you slept with him?

seems like he's just not that into you. After a man has sex with you his testetsrone levels are low making him feel vulnerable. After sex he needs time to build that back up so he backs off for a few days until he gets his emotions back in control.

So he could be talking to other women sending them good morning messages baiting the next woman in. While he feels like he can text you back whenever he wants because he already conquered you.

Meaning got what he wanted so now you are one his women he can play with when he feels like it.

I would suggest you not worry about him contact you. Be not so avaliable and ignore some of his text and reply hours later. That should keep him on his toes if you want him.

Or you can just move on and yield your gifts for the next man so he won't do what this guy just did to you.

It's because you went home with him the first night you met him. He doesn't think of you as girlfriend material. Taurus men like classy women.

True, it is a general man thing. Most men want a respectable girlfriend.

One night stand-#venusinsagproblems

I don't understand WHY HE EVEN BOTHERED TO TEXT ME in the first place and apologise for not texting me sooner if he wasn't interested?

>>>Simple courtesy. Not sure why this is hard to understand....Taurus men often want to appear to be somewhat of a gentleman, to themselves and to others.

I've heard the same as what Tiz is saying from a couple of guys too. It's hard to judge what you should and shouldn't do or 'give away'.

A friend of mine (40 at the time) met a lady from internet dating, got on well, she was pretty hot according to him, he's not a Casanova! He ended up at her's and when he woke up next morning he was well over the moon, had a great night etc. Then she started with the embarrassed 'oh I shouldn't have done that' etc and my mate just felt awful, the great night had now turned into a bad one. My mate didn't care she had sex on first date. He didn't see it as a bad thing. Although agreed, it is a tricky one and doesn't always have a happy ever after.

Thanks for the replies. Obviously it wasn't ideal but it happened. I don't do that if I can help it. I wouldn't necessarily say I want a relationship with this man now, but I do want to get to know him further. I think other aspects of the situation would still mean there were possibilities, I'm educated, dress extremely well and feminine in designer clothing and without sounding egotistical I think I am pretty attractive to the opposite sex. Plus we had a super intense connection.

What would be my best move from here? To ignore a few of his texts? Do Taurus men respond to that crap?

I've just had a similar situation as you with a Taurus guy. Met a guy, great connection, went to bed on first night, kept in contact the last six months. We were both 34. I let him lead for the last six months for communication. I initiated little texts to keep communication but it was him suggesting the main things to meet up and coming forward with plans etc. I've recently flown out to see him (he was due to come to me but it just happened this way). He had said he was ready to settle down and to possibly see if we might work etc. All sounded reasonable, good opportunity to get to know each other more etc. As it turns out, none of the last six months mattered as when I got here he was a complete tosser. Not going into details but if someone flies 5000 miles at their own cost, as a man you step up and get the basics right, even if it turned out we were not compatible you'd deal with it as adults. Never happened.

All I'd say is don't fret or be insecure that you went to bed on the first night. It happens. You're an attractive lady, take it as a compliment.

If you've expressed clear interest in wanting to get to know him then let him come to you.

Please seek the advice of a guy or a Taurean (male or female) regarding how to make it clear as us women think we are being clear but we are not always.

There's pursuing, keeping communication open, and flogging a dead horse.

I wouldn't go in for the texting games. If he texts and it warrants a reply then reply. If you are busy or want to wait a few hours or half a day etc then do so. Not being constantly or immediately available is cool.

I think this is early days so keep it light and friendly.

Ok so he is texting me a lot but nothing overly flirty or whatnot, which drives me crazy. Like what is the point of all of these random questions but not asking to catch up? Would you say he is still evaluating me?

Posted by cultstatus
Ok so he is texting me a lot but nothing overly flirty or whatnot, which drives me crazy. Like what is the point of all of these random questions but not asking to catch up? Would you say he is still evaluating me?

Certainly sounds like it.

I think maybe it's my Mars in Aries or Venus in Sag that makes me react negatively to these situations. Want answers immediately even if I'm not necessarily even wanting the person. I don't know enough about astrology to tell though...

Posted by tiziani
There's no pleasing women 😄


He doesn't reply


"why isn't he sending me any messages?"


He replies


"why the hell is he talking to me?"


Anyway I agree with AgentP911, texting is just texting to me.

It may be a taurus thing though. My taurus spent considerable time 'assessing' me.

Posted by cultstatus
Ok so he is texting me a lot but nothing overly flirty or whatnot, which drives me crazy. Like what is the point of all of these random questions but not asking to catch up? Would you say he is still evaluating me?

hes trying to see if there's more to you than sex.

Just go with it... Until he asks you out then it means nothing... It's just texting... He might be bored or genuinely interested. Who knows!

Let's think of the positives and negatives here. One, you went home with him way too soon, yet it's not necessarily true that it can't turn into something more if you're patient. However, he's a Taurus and he's an earth sign. You gotta make him work for it, anything too easy they won't respect it or appreciate it.

My Taurus boyfriend said he waited over 3 years for me to be his girlfriend. It wasn't until last month I finally stopped and saw that he was putting in a lot of effort throughout the years by just being a supportive friend, so I gave us a real chance at something more than just friendship. And he was very patient, he was never overly aggressive nor was he too passive. He kept his cool the entire time and never pressured me, just pursued me patiently as a genuine friend. Maybe that's a Taurus' style if he really likes you? Not sure, but I do know that he told me that if someone was too easy that he would get bored with them and walk all over them.

Anyways, it makes more sense to just wait it out patiently and not expect anything, and don't go over his house anymore until you find out what he really wants. Just sayin'...

Hope this helps 🙂

Posted by cultstatus
So I just received my reply- hours later. Can someone explain this behaviour? Is he just not that into me or trying to 'play it cool'?

from what I've learned they need time to think over their response and their feelings. theyre big on being desired so they dont want to say anything that is going to turn you off. they're just slow to move. mine was like that in the beginning. he'd say "hey are you ok?" and when i'de respond yes and if he was...no response...he'd just ask the same thing next week. i dunno. taurus's are weird

Posted by cultstatus
I think maybe it's my Mars in Aries or Venus in Sag that makes me react negatively to these situations. Want answers immediately even if I'm not necessarily even wanting the person. I don't know enough about astrology to tell though...

My mars is in Aries too so I understand. He's just being a Taurus, thats how they are. They're just slow

I wanted to add that this particular Taurus has a Cancer moon, and Mars and Venus in Pisces.

What would your thoughts be on this combination in terms of how they chase (or not) women?

Let's get real here... have none of us ever done the same thing as Taurus guy did, ever?? Come on now!

P.S. REAL LOVE IS NEVER A GAME!