Posted by palehoovesWe were extremely happy when we were together, we always laughed and talked for hours, caressed eo for hours as well and we were both falling for each other. We only have one bad memory. He said I was perfect for him and he showed me he meant that. I wasnt ready for it to end. He did say we were really starting to fall for eo but there shouldn't be this issue or these many emotions.
"in love" is one of the sketchiest states someone can be in. you're being irrational and ruled by your hormones. a lot of people chase this high and once it's done they leave you and go searching for someone new who will give them similar feelings that you had when you met.
as busy says respect is much more valuable. and love, real love. is a choice. you decide to love someone and stick by them and give them your all. it isn't at all chemical.
you just need to decide if he's the one you want to give that to.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100It does make sense. I know he is going through one of the hardest times in his life right now so he is shutting me out now. It just so happens that this happened right when we started to rekindle us. He always says when it comes to stress or emotions, I may not say much but I will never tell a lie. Which is true... I can see the enticing honesty in his eyes, but I can also see so much pain from his past too. He had a really hard child hood. Now this going on now, I dont know if he will ever come out of this or I think it will take a very long time.Posted by ALGLAM1026This is good. He respects you which is better than love...Posted by palehoovesI told him we would not have sex unless we were back together and he would have to wait for me again. He said he does love that about me as no other woman has ever made him wait.
lol. i've been reading this thread and you're telling her the same kind of shit that i would've told her. i was being serious. you're doing a good job explaining taurus to her in this thread.
the only other thing i'd personally add is to not have sex with him unless there's going to be commitment. don't give a man everything he wants out of a relationship and not have the relationship. that's just setting yourself up for heartbreak. women and men are different in how we respond to intimacy. it'll make her closer to him but he won't necessarily feel any closer to her.
I have always said i would prefer a man to respect me more than to love me for respect is practically the same thing when you look closely at it whereas the "four letter word" people abuse every minute of the day..
He seems like an open honest good guy and he has been open and honest to you re his situation and has given you the choice... To stick or move on... Taurus does not want anything to be forced so if the other person cannot with the same timing as the bull, the bull will set him free instead of being trapped himself.. If the person decides to stick with the bull or returns then the bull can rest assured that this person will be with them through thick and thin and that is what the bull ultimately wants and needs in a relationship which equals security in a relationship....
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Posted by ALGLAM1026I sit quietly and contemplate my best move.Posted by SweetestFataleHow do you deal with stress and life changing situations?
That whole "Taurus with fire will chase" it's both true and false. I will chase every object and person of my desire....I wasn't chasing commitment tho...click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Yes, just about week before he did is when we were laying in bed for 3 hours caressing eo and talking and he made a comment that we got caught up and fell in love referencing a song that was on. Anyway, one summer night we went out, I met all of his other friends that I didnt already know and co workers. We both drank and I probably had too much. I dont usually drink liquor and I did. Well, I was trying to break the ice with these new friends I was meeting. I called them stunads which is an italian word for stupid but I laughed and said I was joking. I think one of his friends was offended. Anyway, when he ended it, he said I shouldnt be talking that way to ppl I barely know.Posted by ALGLAM1026Was it this bad memory that split you both up? Did he end it?Posted by palehoovesWe were extremely happy when we were together, we always laughed and talked for hours, caressed eo for hours as well and we were both falling for each other. We only have one bad memory. He said I was perfect for him and he showed me he meant that. I wasnt ready for it to end. He did say we were really starting to fall for eo but there shouldn't be this issue or these many emotions.
"in love" is one of the sketchiest states someone can be in. you're being irrational and ruled by your hormones. a lot of people chase this high and once it's done they leave you and go searching for someone new who will give them similar feelings that you had when you met.
as busy says respect is much more valuable. and love, real love. is a choice. you decide to love someone and stick by them and give them your all. it isn't at all chemical.
you just need to decide if he's the one you want to give that to.
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Posted by ALGLAM1026Ohh, he also did say even in the break up text that we were falling for eo.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Yes, just about week before he did is when we were laying in bed for 3 hours caressing eo and talking and he made a comment that we got caught up and fell in love referencing a song that was on. Anyway, one summer night we went out, I met all of his other friends that I didnt already know and co workers. We both drank and I probably had too much. I dont usually drink liquor and I did. Well, I was trying to break the ice with these new friends I was meeting. I called them stunads which is an italian word for stupid but I laughed and said I was joking. I think one of his friends was offended. Anyway, when he ended it, he said I shouldnt be talking that way to ppl I barely know.Posted by ALGLAM1026Was it this bad memory that split you both up? Did he end it?Posted by palehoovesWe were extremely happy when we were together, we always laughed and talked for hours, caressed eo for hours as well and we were both falling for each other. We only have one bad memory. He said I was perfect for him and he showed me he meant that. I wasnt ready for it to end. He did say we were really starting to fall for eo but there shouldn't be this issue or these many emotions.
"in love" is one of the sketchiest states someone can be in. you're being irrational and ruled by your hormones. a lot of people chase this high and once it's done they leave you and go searching for someone new who will give them similar feelings that you had when you met.
as busy says respect is much more valuable. and love, real love. is a choice. you decide to love someone and stick by them and give them your all. it isn't at all chemical.
you just need to decide if he's the one you want to give that to.
So, when he started to rekindle with me, this is what he said about us ending: Yes, there was a bond, you're not stupid. Idk idk idk idk if I got scared that it was moving too fast or if I just used the first thing that bothered me to run away. Idk I still just dont know". Then we started talking normal again for weeks texting
He went out of his way to see me. His phone died one night. He asked his friend to use his phone to call me to meet with them. He told my best friend that if anyone is good for him, it is me. We hung out for an hour with our friends. He told me about his kids mother and he knew that the next week she wasnt going to be taking his son anymore. He said no one knows this yet so dont say anything please.
Then following week is when it all happened and the kids mom vanished. He backed off. He texted, I am not right, I am not ready, I cant do anything right now. You deserve better than me. Thats when his other friend and co worker told me he thinks he has commitment phobia. He said idk why else he would do this to you bc he just told me three days ago that he will never find a better woman than you.
Sorry, that was long lol
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Posted by ALGLAM1026did he file for child support from the other parent - and/or full custody due to abandonment ? - I mean truly, with work and child care - no one is going to have much time all for a new relationshipPosted by ALGLAM1026Posted by sagsagsagPosted by JohnTheBaptist100
Strong feelings and chemistry is not enough....
A strong foundation of friendship and emotional attachment has to be developed with a Taurus man before you can develop a relationship.
Those women who come on here and talk about the "hot and cold" of a Taurus and they do not know why has not spent enough time emotionally getting to know their Taurus. A Taurus man will tell you why he is not around before he "disappears" and you will know why as you would be emotionally close enough to feel it and to know. A Taurus will only "disappear" if they have problems they have to deal with and they will tell you why...
A Taurus who is really attached to you will chase you down for however long it takes (especially if he has fire placements) and from there a deep friendship and an emotional bond will grow as well as a physical attraction to each other.
You will be able to tell your Taurus anything and everything and there will be openness and honestly and mutual respect between you. If this is not what is happening then you need to keep him as a friend and build a platonic friendship with him until you are able to speak to him openly.
If a Taurus is not chasing you with vigor then he is just not that into you.
If a Taurus man is into you, you will know. You will not be here asking....
Actually...
If a man of any sign is into you, you wont be here asking...
Well, a lot of people stress or depression can take over one's life as I know it does for me if I am stressed or depressed. So, in that case, even when I am "into" someone I will push them away. So again, I don't actually think that is totally accurate that if someone is into you then you wouldn't need to question what's going on. Everyone deals with stress and depression differently. Right now I am not seeking advice on every other sign. Clearly, my question asks how to deal with a taurus who has commitment phobias as I know that is an issue for him and has been for years. THANKS though.
Also, I would push everyone away if my kid's other parent just abandon my kid and I am now struggling to pay all of the bills myself regardless if I have commitment fear or not.
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100hahaha I see....Posted by ALGLAM1026Time difference! I live in the UK... Lol
Where did you all go— LOL no insight on this? :-/click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He texted a lot of stuff this past weekend and now I am even more confused!!!! :-/Posted by ALGLAM1026Time difference! I live in the UK... Lol
Where did you all go— LOL no insight on this? :-/click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He said that:Posted by ALGLAM1026Er ok! Brief synopsis?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He texted a lot of stuff this past weekend and now I am even more confused!!!! :-/Posted by ALGLAM1026Time difference! I live in the UK... Lol
Where did you all go— LOL no insight on this? :-/click to expand
Posted by ALGLAM1026What's eo?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He said that:Posted by ALGLAM1026Er ok! Brief synopsis?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He texted a lot of stuff this past weekend and now I am even more confused!!!! :-/Posted by ALGLAM1026Time difference! I live in the UK... Lol
Where did you all go— LOL no insight on this? :-/
1. he is working on straightening everything out.
2. We both know eventually we are going to work on us in the future.
3. We would never be able to be just sex bc we are much more than that.
4. He needs time to get it all worked out and he said he wishes it wasnt so complicated
5. His stress has killed his sex drive, but everytime he talks to me, it always comes back
6. He said that I am the only one he wants to eventually have sex w again and the only one that does it for him.
7. I asked if we should avoid seeing eo until hes ready and he said no we def should see eo.
Thats where it left off on Friday night :-/click to expand
Posted by jeaneSorry, it's each other.Posted by ALGLAM1026What's eo?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He said that:Posted by ALGLAM1026Er ok! Brief synopsis?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He texted a lot of stuff this past weekend and now I am even more confused!!!! :-/Posted by ALGLAM1026Time difference! I live in the UK... Lol
Where did you all go— LOL no insight on this? :-/
1. he is working on straightening everything out.
2. We both know eventually we are going to work on us in the future.
3. We would never be able to be just sex bc we are much more than that.
4. He needs time to get it all worked out and he said he wishes it wasnt so complicated
5. His stress has killed his sex drive, but everytime he talks to me, it always comes back
6. He said that I am the only one he wants to eventually have sex w again and the only one that does it for him.
7. I asked if we should avoid seeing eo until hes ready and he said no we def should see eo.
Thats where it left off on Friday night :-/click to expand
Posted by ALGLAM1026He's having a hard time. Why don't you work it out with him? I don't think you'd ever consider leaving him right, or else you won't be here asking. Since he's already fixed on you, it's a matter of time. If he gets passed those issues, then you should get there.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He said that:Posted by ALGLAM1026Er ok! Brief synopsis?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He texted a lot of stuff this past weekend and now I am even more confused!!!! :-/Posted by ALGLAM1026Time difference! I live in the UK... Lol
Where did you all go— LOL no insight on this? :-/
1. he is working on straightening everything out.
2. We both know eventually we are going to work on us in the future.
3. We would never be able to be just sex bc we are much more than that.
4. He needs time to get it all worked out and he said he wishes it wasnt so complicated
5. His stress has killed his sex drive, but everytime he talks to me, it always comes back
6. He said that I am the only one he wants to eventually have sex w again and the only one that does it for him.
7. I asked if we should avoid seeing eo until hes ready and he said no we def should see eo.
Thats where it left off on Friday night :-/click to expand
Posted by NefertariPosted by ALGLAM1026He's having a hard time. Why don't you work it out with him? I don't think you'd ever consider leaving him right, or else you won't be here asking. Since he's already fixed on you, it's a matter of time. If he gets passed those issues, then you should get there.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He said that:Posted by ALGLAM1026Er ok! Brief synopsis?Posted by JohnTheBaptist100He texted a lot of stuff this past weekend and now I am even more confused!!!! :-/Posted by ALGLAM1026Time difference! I live in the UK... Lol
Where did you all go— LOL no insight on this? :-/
1. he is working on straightening everything out.
2. We both know eventually we are going to work on us in the future.
3. We would never be able to be just sex bc we are much more than that.
4. He needs time to get it all worked out and he said he wishes it wasnt so complicated
5. His stress has killed his sex drive, but everytime he talks to me, it always comes back
6. He said that I am the only one he wants to eventually have sex w again and the only one that does it for him.
7. I asked if we should avoid seeing eo until hes ready and he said no we def should see eo.
Thats where it left off on Friday night :-/
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