jebrooks1988
@jebrooks1988
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Think I pushed my Taurus away, need advice
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Are they that bad? Lol
Sorry, not sorry. This message is going to be harsh, but I'm just going to say it like it is.
I can't even fathom how you thought it was a good idea to ignore him and flirt with other guys while he was with you somewhere. You even said he mentioned he thought there could be a lot more between you, and you did this? Seriously, that's incredibly disloyal, and the main reason why this whole "exclusivity agreement" crap is bull. If you like someone enough to get hurt when they turn you down, then why would you do what you did? "We promised not to get jealous. We're not exclusive like you said." The logical leap to these comments is to go out there and play the field! Clearly, despite his obvious interest in me, I shouldn't treat him like he's special!
If a guy says he likes you, and can see a lot between you, especially if it's a Taurus, you've got absolutely no reason to flirt with other guys other than to inflate your ego. You brought this reaction on yourself. You deserve to lose this guy, and playing games with him like you did is pretty low. You can't honestly expect someone to give a shit about you if you treat them that way, especially when he did nothing wrong outside of being a little jealous. There's no fixing it the way you want, because he's just going to think you'd do it again, which you probably will because you seem to think it's okay.
Also, how you can't see why he sent that message to you is just crazy. You legit took advantage of this dude's heart and stomped on it. The main reason why Taurus take their time to get to know someone, so they don't let this sort of thing happen. Take FWB, go see other people, and try to be a bit more thoughtful of other people's feelings next time.
I can't even fathom how you thought it was a good idea to ignore him and flirt with other guys while he was with you somewhere. You even said he mentioned he thought there could be a lot more between you, and you did this? Seriously, that's incredibly disloyal, and the main reason why this whole "exclusivity agreement" crap is bull. If you like someone enough to get hurt when they turn you down, then why would you do what you did? "We promised not to get jealous. We're not exclusive like you said." The logical leap to these comments is to go out there and play the field! Clearly, despite his obvious interest in me, I shouldn't treat him like he's special!
If a guy says he likes you, and can see a lot between you, especially if it's a Taurus, you've got absolutely no reason to flirt with other guys other than to inflate your ego. You brought this reaction on yourself. You deserve to lose this guy, and playing games with him like you did is pretty low. You can't honestly expect someone to give a shit about you if you treat them that way, especially when he did nothing wrong outside of being a little jealous. There's no fixing it the way you want, because he's just going to think you'd do it again, which you probably will because you seem to think it's okay.
Also, how you can't see why he sent that message to you is just crazy. You legit took advantage of this dude's heart and stomped on it. The main reason why Taurus take their time to get to know someone, so they don't let this sort of thing happen. Take FWB, go see other people, and try to be a bit more thoughtful of other people's feelings next time.
I wasn't trying to make him jealous. A few days before that he said "I don't want you to get jealous of other girls, I won't get jealous if you don't get jealous". I have no clue why he told me this because it was completely unwarranted and I had done nothing or said nothing for him to say that to me so I took it as for me to do my own thing.
I'm a Leo.
Posted by jebrooks1988
I wasn't trying to make him jealous. A few days before that he said "I don't want you to get jealous of other girls, I won't get jealous if you don't get jealous". I have no clue why he told me this because it was completely unwarranted and I had done nothing or said nothing for him to say that to me so I took it as for me to do my own thing.
continue to do your own thing. that's what you want to do. this guy only became important to you when he started to turn away.
Posted by jeanePosted by jebrooks1988
I wasn't trying to make him jealous. A few days before that he said "I don't want you to get jealous of other girls, I won't get jealous if you don't get jealous". I have no clue why he told me this because it was completely unwarranted and I had done nothing or said nothing for him to say that to me so I took it as for me to do my own thing.
continue to do your own thing. that's what you want to do. this guy only became important to you when he started to turn away.click to expand
When he said that he didn't want me to get jealous of other girls how else was I supposed to take that?
Again, you didn't really understand him. Taurus value friendship above everything else. It's pretty common for Taurus to have friends of the opposite sex, mainly because they are wildly attractive and draw in a lot of people, however they only let specific ones get through. In other words, he probably has a lot of friends that are girls, and he legitimately has no feelings for them beyond that, so he wanted you to know in his own way that they meant nothing romantic to him. So he was being exceedingly loyal, and didn't want you to get jealous when nothing existed. You taking that as, "I'll do my own thing," without asking what he meant exactly is problem #1.
This is really common in Taurus people, and part of the reason why so many believe they are cheaters, or constantly need to be monitored. However, this is quite the opposite of their real personalities. They stick, and are stubborn about it, and are loyal until the end. Again, they need to build trust in someone, before stuff like this happens to them.
This is really common in Taurus people, and part of the reason why so many believe they are cheaters, or constantly need to be monitored. However, this is quite the opposite of their real personalities. They stick, and are stubborn about it, and are loyal until the end. Again, they need to build trust in someone, before stuff like this happens to them.
Posted by jebrooks1988
When he said that he didn't want me to get jealous of other girls how else was I supposed to take that?
it could be like adwand says but ultimately, why play games? why would you want to play games with a person you like? why ignore him? you can still be non-exclusive and not ignore him. why would you want someone you profess to care about feel bad/upset/insecure?
all this suggests that you don't really care for him because friends don't pull that shit.
Posted by adwand2k
Sorry, not sorry. This message is going to be harsh, but I'm just going to say it like it is.
I can't even fathom how you thought it was a good idea to ignore him and flirt with other guys while he was with you somewhere. You even said he mentioned he thought there could be a lot more between you, and you did this? Seriously, that's incredibly disloyal, and the main reason why this whole "exclusivity agreement" crap is bull. If you like someone enough to get hurt when they turn you down, then why would you do what you did? "We promised not to get jealous. We're not exclusive like you said." The logical leap to these comments is to go out there and play the field! Clearly, despite his obvious interest in me, I shouldn't treat him like he's special!
If a guy says he likes you, and can see a lot between you, especially if it's a Taurus, you've got absolutely no reason to flirt with other guys other than to inflate your ego. You brought this reaction on yourself. You deserve to lose this guy, and playing games with him like you did is pretty low. You can't honestly expect someone to give a shit about you if you treat them that way, especially when he did nothing wrong outside of being a little jealous. There's no fixing it the way you want, because he's just going to think you'd do it again, which you probably will because you seem to think it's okay.
Also, how you can't see why he sent that message to you is just crazy. You legit took advantage of this dude's heart and stomped on it. The main reason why Taurus take their time to get to know someone, so they don't let this sort of thing happen. Take FWB, go see other people, and try to be a bit more thoughtful of other people's feelings next time.
He told me only a few days before that he didn't want me to get jealous of other girls, how else was I supposed to take it? I saw that as him saying I'm going go talk to other girls so you should do the same. If I knew how he really felt I wouldn't have done that to him.
Posted by HotbeefyPosted by scorchedearth
the height of your dumbassnesss is too much to explain to you. wow.
1+ to this. 😐 Omfg...
SMHclick to expand
That's pretty much all I could come up with too... Wow and oh my god.
Posted by jeanePosted by jebrooks1988
When he said that he didn't want me to get jealous of other girls how else was I supposed to take that?
it could be like adwand says but ultimately, why play games? why would you want to play games with a person you like? why ignore him? you can still be non-exclusive and not ignore him. why would you want someone you profess to care about feel bad/upset/insecure?
all this suggests that you don't really care for him because friends don't pull that shit.click to expand
Well, and this is my fault for interpreting it this way but I took it as when you see me out leave me be. We did interact a bit. As soon as one of the guys I was talking left he asked if that was ex. After the stuff he told me I ignored him and didn't go home with him because I thought he was just screwing with me. How can you go from don't be jealous of other girls and throw it in my face that we're not exclusive to all that he did at the bar? In all honesty I was just confused and didn't want to go home with him...
Posted by jebrooks1988Posted by jeanePosted by jebrooks1988
When he said that he didn't want me to get jealous of other girls how else was I supposed to take that?
it could be like adwand says but ultimately, why play games? why would you want to play games with a person you like? why ignore him? you can still be non-exclusive and not ignore him. why would you want someone you profess to care about feel bad/upset/insecure?
all this suggests that you don't really care for him because friends don't pull that shit.
Well, and this is my fault for interpreting it this way but I took it as when you see me out leave me be. We did interact a bit. As soon as one of the guys I was talking left he asked if that was ex. After the stuff he told me I ignored him and didn't go home with him because I thought he was just screwing with me. How can you go from don't be jealous of other girls and throw it in my face that we're not exclusive to all that he did at the bar? In all honesty I was just confused and didn't want to go home with him...click to expand
Read my other comment in this thread. It's honestly what I've come to learn from dating three Taurus women, each one of them attracting a lot more friends of the opposite gender. If you didn't ask what he meant by it, then you can be getting upset over your actions. You became just another of his friends that are girls, enjoy it or get out, but don't expect a relationship unless you severely prove to him you understand how you screwed up. Even then, it's likely a small chance.
To be fair, based on the additional info you have provided, I'd probably interpret his 'don't get jealous of other girls' line as you have. Depending on the full story and circumstances which we don't have.
I wouldn't have purposefully sought another man in the venue to 'make him jealous' but if someone came up to me then I'd engage in polite conversation.
I think your situation sounds a bit fucked from the start really. You're either exclusive or not. If it's early days then sure, date others but I don't think it's completely your fault.
You guys sound a little young. How old are you both?
Not that the dating thing is any easier or better the older you get! It's probably worse!
I wouldn't have purposefully sought another man in the venue to 'make him jealous' but if someone came up to me then I'd engage in polite conversation.
I think your situation sounds a bit fucked from the start really. You're either exclusive or not. If it's early days then sure, date others but I don't think it's completely your fault.
You guys sound a little young. How old are you both?
Not that the dating thing is any easier or better the older you get! It's probably worse!
Posted by jebrooks1988
I wasn't trying to make him jealous. A few days before that he said "I don't want you to get jealous of other girls, I won't get jealous if you don't get jealous". I have no clue why he told me this because it was completely unwarranted and I had done nothing or said nothing for him to say that to me so I took it as for me to do my own thing.
Taurus testing.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by jebrooks1988
I wasn't trying to make him jealous. A few days before that he said "I don't want you to get jealous of other girls, I won't get jealous if you don't get jealous". I have no clue why he told me this because it was completely unwarranted and I had done nothing or said nothing for him to say that to me so I took it as for me to do my own thing.
Taurus testing.click to expand
Yes... And she failed miserably.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by jebrooks1988
I wasn't trying to make him jealous. A few days before that he said "I don't want you to get jealous of other girls, I won't get jealous if you don't get jealous". I have no clue why he told me this because it was completely unwarranted and I had done nothing or said nothing for him to say that to me so I took it as for me to do my own thing.
Taurus testing.click to expand
How so?
If say that you did EXACTLY what you weren't supposed to do
After he said that and I highly doubt he will ever trust you.
Buuut I'm not a taurus....
After he said that and I highly doubt he will ever trust you.
Buuut I'm not a taurus....
My taurus gave me some kind of silly test when we first got together. He admitted it afterwards. I can't remember what the test was ATM...
I can't comprehend why you would take another dude home unless you weren't all that serious about him. Was it to make him jealous? Sorry if I have missed something I haven't read your last couple posts :p
". If you didn't ask what he meant by it, then you can be getting upset over your actions. You became just another of his friends that are girls, enjoy it or get out, but don't expect a relationship unless you severely prove to him you understand how you screwed up. Even then, it's likely a small chance."
This! ^
This! ^
Just take the FWB. Its the only thing this pairing usually does well together anyway.
In my younger/more insecure years, I would constantly test. Dating a Cancer, I always told her "Well, if you ever want to have a threesome, you just let me know who you'd want to invite." Of course, she passed initially, was wise enough not to know she should come right out with that. But I also watched as she formed a close friendship with my Virgo friend, always chatting on the phone with him. I let it go, never said anything - all part of the test to see how far she'd go with it - all the while not really giving this girl my heart until the results came in. One day she came to me with "I think I'd like to have that threesome." LOL, and guess who she recommended for inclusion? I broke up with her on the spot.
I wouldn't do anything like this anymore, but my mind still does work in a similar fashion. Its really all about getting to the root of who a person is - what they REALLY think and desire. Seeing who they are WITHOUT restrictions, when they feel comfortable enough to say anything to you. Taurus can seem super accepting at first. Don't fall for it though. Deep down, there's often a very conservative/traditional nature.
I wouldn't do anything like this anymore, but my mind still does work in a similar fashion. Its really all about getting to the root of who a person is - what they REALLY think and desire. Seeing who they are WITHOUT restrictions, when they feel comfortable enough to say anything to you. Taurus can seem super accepting at first. Don't fall for it though. Deep down, there's often a very conservative/traditional nature.
The way you behaved that night, in his opinion, showed him who you really were - how you roll when there are no rules, what you desire. A Taurus often wants someone who is so crazy about them, that they have no interest whatsoever in another person. Its a tall order.
Ah yes that's what it was has creepy Virgo (now ex best friend) best friend was constantly acting shady and trying to be close to me. I kept trying to tell my taurus... "Your friend is acting fucked up" I kept thinking he didn't believe me. In the end he believed me because he was observing all along. Turns out this Virgo had a thing for all his buddy's girlfriends. There is plenty more to the story with this Virgo, but I don't have the patience to type it all out.
His*
Posted by Eris
My taurus gave me some kind of silly test when we first got together. He admitted it afterwards. I can't remember what the test was ATM...
Ok so he didn't "give" me a test, but played oblivious to see how things would unfold.
If you want a strategy, your best bet is this.
1. take the FWB
2. be the perfect girlfriend from that point on - great in bed, feed him occasionally, very considerate, and unwavering in your loyalty
3. be vulnerable from time to time and express your discontent with the situation - if tearfully, not in an overly dramatic/demanding way, but sincerely.
4. be apologetic for getting off on the wrong foot and very honest about any games you've played or false impressions you've given. You probably were just being a typical Leo, and not really interested in this other dude per se, but more interested in his interest in you. LOL.
Most likely, over time, he'll forgive you and you will evolve into a proper couple. Taurus aren't really built for FWB's IMO. He may punish you a bit first. He's probably a softy deep down though. Show the hurt; don't lash back. He'll feel guilty and stop.
1. take the FWB
2. be the perfect girlfriend from that point on - great in bed, feed him occasionally, very considerate, and unwavering in your loyalty
3. be vulnerable from time to time and express your discontent with the situation - if tearfully, not in an overly dramatic/demanding way, but sincerely.
4. be apologetic for getting off on the wrong foot and very honest about any games you've played or false impressions you've given. You probably were just being a typical Leo, and not really interested in this other dude per se, but more interested in his interest in you. LOL.
Most likely, over time, he'll forgive you and you will evolve into a proper couple. Taurus aren't really built for FWB's IMO. He may punish you a bit first. He's probably a softy deep down though. Show the hurt; don't lash back. He'll feel guilty and stop.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
. A Taurus often wants someone who is so crazy about them, that they have no interest whatsoever in another person. Its a tall order.
Posted by ErisPosted by TaurusLovesScorpio
. A Taurus often wants someone who is so crazy about them, that they have no interest whatsoever in another person. Its a tall order.click to expand
Oops!!
Meant to say seems very true, but you'll receive the same in return
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
If you want a strategy, your best bet is this.
1. take the FWB
2. be the perfect girlfriend from that point on - great in bed, feed him occasionally, very considerate, and unwavering in your loyalty
3. be vulnerable from time to time and express your discontent with the situation - if tearfully, not in an overly dramatic/demanding way, but sincerely.
4. be apologetic for getting off on the wrong foot and very honest about any games you've played or false impressions you've given. You probably were just being a typical Leo, and not really interested in this other dude per se, but more interested in his interest in you. LOL.
Most likely, over time, he'll forgive you and you will evolve into a proper couple. Taurus aren't really built for FWB's IMO. He may punish you a bit first. He's probably a softy deep down though. Show the hurt; don't lash back. He'll feel guilty and stop.
is there a timescale to this?
Posted by jeanePosted by TaurusLovesScorpio
If you want a strategy, your best bet is this.
1. take the FWB
2. be the perfect girlfriend from that point on - great in bed, feed him occasionally, very considerate, and unwavering in your loyalty
3. be vulnerable from time to time and express your discontent with the situation - if tearfully, not in an overly dramatic/demanding way, but sincerely.
4. be apologetic for getting off on the wrong foot and very honest about any games you've played or false impressions you've given. You probably were just being a typical Leo, and not really interested in this other dude per se, but more interested in his interest in you. LOL.
Most likely, over time, he'll forgive you and you will evolve into a proper couple. Taurus aren't really built for FWB's IMO. He may punish you a bit first. He's probably a softy deep down though. Show the hurt; don't lash back. He'll feel guilty and stop.
is there a timescale to this?click to expand
Somewhere around 25 years lol
Posted by AgentP911
To be fair, based on the additional info you have provided, I'd probably interpret his 'don't get jealous of other girls' line as you have. Depending on the full story and circumstances which we don't have.
I wouldn't have purposefully sought another man in the venue to 'make him jealous' but if someone came up to me then I'd engage in polite conversation.
I think your situation sounds a bit fucked from the start really. You're either exclusive or not. If it's early days then sure, date others but I don't think it's completely your fault.
You guys sound a little young. How old are you both?
Not that the dating thing is any easier or better the older you get! It's probably worse!
Yea didnt go out of my way. I did talk to a guy that I haven't seen since HS, and thw guy that I'm interested kept asking if that was my ex. Hate to admit this lol, he'll be 27 in May and I'm 24.
Also should I be insulted for him even offering to be friends with benefits? I have never in my life been propositioned in this way and honestly feel like he's a pig for even saying it to me.
Posted by Eris
Ah yes that's what it was has creepy Virgo (now ex best friend) best friend was constantly acting shady and trying to be close to me. I kept trying to tell my taurus... "Your friend is acting fucked up" I kept thinking he didn't believe me. In the end he believed me because he was observing all along. Turns out this Virgo had a thing for all his buddy's girlfriends. There is plenty more to the story with this Virgo, but I don't have the patience to type it all out.
It was good to know that I couldn't trust that guy. And it was confusing at first, because he really seemed to look up to me, and even try to emulate me in some ways. But then I realized that was also part of his reason for crossing that line. I talk to the Virgo even to this day. I've just compartmentalized him; I would never really fully trust him with anything.
Posted by ErisPosted by jeanePosted by TaurusLovesScorpio
If you want a strategy, your best bet is this.
1. take the FWB
2. be the perfect girlfriend from that point on - great in bed, feed him occasionally, very considerate, and unwavering in your loyalty
3. be vulnerable from time to time and express your discontent with the situation - if tearfully, not in an overly dramatic/demanding way, but sincerely.
4. be apologetic for getting off on the wrong foot and very honest about any games you've played or false impressions you've given. You probably were just being a typical Leo, and not really interested in this other dude per se, but more interested in his interest in you. LOL.
Most likely, over time, he'll forgive you and you will evolve into a proper couple. Taurus aren't really built for FWB's IMO. He may punish you a bit first. He's probably a softy deep down though. Show the hurt; don't lash back. He'll feel guilty and stop.
is there a timescale to this?
Somewhere around 25 years lolclick to expand
3-6 months.
if he folds in less than 3, you know he really likes you. Don't be offended by the FWB. Sure, he's taking a swipe at you with that, but you can see through it. Its really him just leaving a door open IMO.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Eris
Ah yes that's what it was has creepy Virgo (now ex best friend) best friend was constantly acting shady and trying to be close to me. I kept trying to tell my taurus... "Your friend is acting fucked up" I kept thinking he didn't believe me. In the end he believed me because he was observing all along. Turns out this Virgo had a thing for all his buddy's girlfriends. There is plenty more to the story with this Virgo, but I don't have the patience to type it all out.
It was good to know that I couldn't trust that guy. And it was confusing at first, because he really seemed to look up to me, and even try to emulate me in some ways. But then I realized that was also part of his reason for crossing that line. I talk to the Virgo even to this day. I've just compartmentalized him; I would never really fully trust him with anything.click to expand
Sounds so similar, but this guy has been cut from the taurus' life completely because he didn't stop the shady shit he kept progressing into a worse state....
Posted by jebrooks1988
Also should I be insulted for him even offering to be friends with benefits? I have never in my life been propositioned in this way and honestly feel like he's a pig for even saying it to me.
I think you should walk away if this is how you feel.... I accepted FWB proposition from mine because honestly that's all I wanted from him.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by ErisPosted by jeanePosted by TaurusLovesScorpio
If you want a strategy, your best bet is this.
1. take the FWB
2. be the perfect girlfriend from that point on - great in bed, feed him occasionally, very considerate, and unwavering in your loyalty
3. be vulnerable from time to time and express your discontent with the situation - if tearfully, not in an overly dramatic/demanding way, but sincerely.
4. be apologetic for getting off on the wrong foot and very honest about any games you've played or false impressions you've given. You probably were just being a typical Leo, and not really interested in this other dude per se, but more interested in his interest in you. LOL.
Most likely, over time, he'll forgive you and you will evolve into a proper couple. Taurus aren't really built for FWB's IMO. He may punish you a bit first. He's probably a softy deep down though. Show the hurt; don't lash back. He'll feel guilty and stop.
is there a timescale to this?
Somewhere around 25 years lol
3-6 months.click to expand
I agree with this timeline... I was just joking (of course)
Posted by Infinite8Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
if he folds in less than 3, you know he really likes you. Don't be offended by the FWB. Sure, he's taking a swipe at you with that, but you can see through it. Its really him just leaving a door open IMO.
But then again... That could also be a "test".click to expand
Yes, and if he ends up not wanting more she could end up extremely hurt. She already didn't take the proposition well and that's why I think she should decline.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by ErisPosted by jebrooks1988
Also should I be insulted for him even offering to be friends with benefits? I have never in my life been propositioned in this way and honestly feel like he's a pig for even saying it to me.
I think you should walk away if this is how you feel.... I accepted FWB proposition from mine because honestly that's all I wanted from him.
Yep... I agree with Eris. That's what she wanted in the first place so there is no room for dissappointment. She just MASSIVELY lucked out 🙂
If you say yes to this in hopes that he will change his mind and then he doesn't, you would have no one to blame at the end but yourself.click to expand
Too funny ... We are so on the same page here 🙂
So did luck out and fortunately him and I moved at the same pace.
We both started considering more around 3-6 months in( I know this because we discussed recently how crazy it all worked out). We didn't make it official with titles till about a year in.
We both agreed from the get go not to pursue relations with anyone else since we were already getting what we were looking for (sex).
Turns out we just clicked and there was no denying it.
Massive luck.
We both started considering more around 3-6 months in( I know this because we discussed recently how crazy it all worked out). We didn't make it official with titles till about a year in.
We both agreed from the get go not to pursue relations with anyone else since we were already getting what we were looking for (sex).
Turns out we just clicked and there was no denying it.
Massive luck.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
if he folds in less than 3, you know he really likes you. Don't be offended by the FWB. Sure, he's taking a swipe at you with that, but you can see through it. Its really him just leaving a door open IMO.
But then again... That could also be a "test".click to expand
If he follows through with his end of it, at a minimum it is *still* a prolonging of the relationship. And if she goes into it, intermittently expressing a desire for more (following my steps!), its a way of passing long-term IMO. If she was seemingly ok with talking to other people while seeing each other, I'm not sure what is so undignified about temporarily accepting an FWB. He's probably *just* mad/hurt anyway. I'm not even saying what she *should* do. All depends on how important it is to her.
Posted by ErisPosted by Infinite8Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
if he folds in less than 3, you know he really likes you. Don't be offended by the FWB. Sure, he's taking a swipe at you with that, but you can see through it. Its really him just leaving a door open IMO.
But then again... That could also be a "test".
Yes, and if he ends up not wanting more she could end up extremely hurt. She already didn't take the proposition well and that's why I think she should decline.click to expand
I really don't want to say what she should/shouldn't do; just giving a strategy for her, *if* she felt that this was worth pursuing, given that he seems to have gone into a final decision. Desperate times may call for desperate measures. Her post is really asking how to fix it. People often say "done is done" with a bull, but I disagree. I have seen SO MANY bulls take people back again and again - *particularly* Leos. That's not to say you don't have to swallow some pride, but it totally is possible, especially if there is still regular physical contact.
Posted by Infinite8
I don't see it as undignified either, especially if she knows that is what she wants and stays true to what she wants (no silly games). But you just said that Taurus men set traps and deep down they are pretty conservative. A conservative man would not respect a girl he saw as accepting a FWB.
Sure he would, if he was convinced over time that she was so into him, that it was her way of still maintaining *some* sort of connection to him to possibly have a shot at a real relationship again. And honestly, deep down I suspect that this is just his way of taking a shot back at her bc he's pissed "You've been demoted to FWB only!" LOL, think about that right there. It shows he had feelings and was hurt. Is he a robot to where he can just totally take his feelings away now? That's how he is portraying it to her of course. But he can't. He's still hurt; he still has feelings. My 2 cents. This is a way to shame her a bit but still maintain connection.
Posted by busyeyes88
@jebrooks1988. If there was anything you were not sure about you should have askeD. Besides, the Leos I know seem to love having their ego stroked and prefer short flings not serious relationship and taurus ultimately prefers a serious relationship. I suggest you take your flirtations to another fire sign like a sag or Aries and leave him be.
I'm actually very into relationships... I just got out of a 4 year one back in October. Do I flirt? Sure but I'm very committed to my partner ONCE I know where he stands. This honestly scares the sugar honey iced tea out of me lol because he's so guarded which makes me guarded.
Posted by jebrooks1988Posted by busyeyes88
@jebrooks1988. If there was anything you were not sure about you should have askeD. Besides, the Leos I know seem to love having their ego stroked and prefer short flings not serious relationship and taurus ultimately prefers a serious relationship. I suggest you take your flirtations to another fire sign like a sag or Aries and leave him be.
I'm actually very into relationships... I just got out of a 4 year one back in October. Do I flirt? Sure but I'm very committed to my partner ONCE I know where he stands. This honestly scares the sugar honey iced tea out of me lol because he's so guarded which makes me guarded.click to expand
Yeah, but just like distrust breeds more distrust (he's guarded so you become guarded). Openness and vulnerability in you, will engender that in him. That's how you deal with a distrusting person. You open up to them, and they begin to feel safe to be more open with you. In this case you should really just be very open/honest about why you acted the way you did, how you were unsure about how *he* was feeling, not how you were feeling, etc. Taurus people look for *real* explanations. His being distrusting doesn't necessarily mean he's unforgiving, if you can truly explain your behavior. He's hurt and putting walls up, partly due to pride; you react the same way to his lashing back and that's where it will end. What's it worth to you? That's the important question....
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by ErisPosted by Infinite8Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
if he folds in less than 3, you know he really likes you. Don't be offended by the FWB. Sure, he's taking a swipe at you with that, but you can see through it. Its really him just leaving a door open IMO.
But then again... That could also be a "test".
Yes, and if he ends up not wanting more she could end up extremely hurt. She already didn't take the proposition well and that's why I think she should decline.
I really don't want to say what she should/shouldn't do; just giving a strategy for her, *if* she felt that this was worth pursuing, given that he seems to have gone into a final decision. Desperate times may call for desperate measures. Her post is really asking how to fix it. People often say "done is done" with a bull, but I disagree. I have seen SO MANY bulls take people back again and again - *particularly* Leos. That's not to say you don't have to swallow some pride, but it totally is possible, especially if there is still regular physical contact.click to expand
Its funny because he has taken me back in a way. He said months ago in the beginning, after finding out/me telling him I was talking to multiple guys he said
"I just don't want to lead you on I don't see this going anywhere if we're both dating other people, I was cool with just hanging out I didn't want things to get serious"
Umm what?? That was a complete oxymoron lol. How is it getting serious if we were both dating other people? I took that as his pride not letting him admit that he couldn't handle/didn't like me dating other guys. I told him all the best but then rekindled things a few weeks later. So I think what he's saying now is pretty similar to what he said months ago except the fwb thing which threw me for a loop.
Posted by Infinite8
How funny... It sounds like something a Leo guy would do.
Another fixed/proud/stubborn sign. It could be that he has Leo placements and that brought them together in the first place. Or maybe its my 3 Leo placements speaking...lol. I am just putting it out there, tapping into some of the ways I would've behaved when I was younger and more insecure.
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