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Posted by ScorpioNluvOkay, so then this:Posted by PhoenixRisingWell i did not necessarily raised the topic per say. Back in December, i was at a friend's party and was gonna spend the night at her place but then she started talking stuoid stuff and weirded me out completely so i left and went home. I told mr bull at that time that i changed my plan coz of my friend talking about threesome crap- and that was it. His exact words at that time was "whoa, no s^**". Then it was never talked about again until a few nights ago.
I'm wondering why you even raised the topic as it relates to your friend. You're suppose to be getting to know each other and talking about yourself.
Posted by ScorpioNluvWas just bulls*t (pun intended) to push an agenda. Whatever that agenda is will remain to be seen, but I have my suspicions. If the context of the conversation was to simply discuss why your plans changed and you said it in passing, it wasn't an invitation for a deeper discussion months later. Yet, he's trying to make it one and imply that you opened that door, but it simply got dropped? Lol okay. Did he raise anything that you actually shared about yourself during that conversation in December over dinner or just the passing remark about a threesome? If not, what does that say about where his interest lie? Not to mention the way he kept pushing the topic after you gave your answer:
So during our dinner convo he brought up the topic of "threesome" and how do i feel about it. I asked him why are we talking about that particular topic and he said "coz you've mentioned before that one of your friend got drunk and kept talking about having threesome with her dude"...
Posted by ScorpioNluvNot too many ways a person can say "that's not my thing" in a firm way. Perhaps being hard of hearing is a Bull thing (sorry Bull pen, sarcasm).
"..neither would i be interested in participating. He said "why not, what if your man asks you too- don't you want to make him happy"?click to expand


Posted by ScorpioNluvIt's quite obvious you're not fine with it given your last couple of posts and reference to him "disappearing". You need to be clear about what you will and will not work for you or this will just become an issue.Posted by Infinite8Well this is the second time that he's done it. The first one he disappeared for 3 days, (again after i thought was an amazing night- when i say amazing night, i mean we had a deep level of conversation and it always ends up sweet and i am always at ease). Then when i finally reached out to him the fourth day of his first disappearance, he apologize for the lack of response and he told me he's busy some personal matter and he said he has little time to give coz of business so he said i should expect gaps in communication. So i took that and was fine with it. Then we went back into texting back and forth but very minimal- it's always been minimal so it was not a big deal. So this time, today is the third day of no communication- so i am letting him have his space. I am lost for words tho on what to do next 😢Posted by ScorpioNluvHow long does he usually disappear for? And he never iniciates?
@Infinite8 - will keep this in mind! Now i will wait again since he decided to disappear again..lol third day and counting. This is the second time that the disappearing act has happened and it sucks coz he always does it after what seemed to be an amazing perfect night 😢
I agree that Taurus DO like there space from others and do their own thing (even if it's lounging in the sofa doing nothing). So, it's something you have to consider.
But I remember a frequent male poster here (TLS) once mentioned that if a man doesn't contact you in less than a month... He JUST isn't interested in you.
You might want to test that?click to expand

Posted by jeaneI just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your lifePosted by DMVwhat happened?Posted by busyeyes88i wish a mofo would call me after a month,Posted by Infinite8Who would wait a whole month?? But then again, there have been some very desperate women on these boards who would wait or initiate contact with a man who has been gone that long!!Posted by ScorpioNluvHow long does he usually disappear for? And he never iniciates?
@Infinite8 - will keep this in mind! Now i will wait again since he decided to disappear again..lol third day and counting. This is the second time that the disappearing act has happened and it sucks coz he always does it after what seemed to be an amazing perfect night 😢
I agree that Taurus DO like there space from others and do their own thing (even if it's lounging in the sofa doing nothing). So, it's something you have to consider.
But I remember a frequent male poster here (TLS) once mentioned that if a man doesn't contact you in less than a month... He JUST isn't interested in you.
You might want to test that?
A man regardless of sign would never wait a month to contact a person if they were interested. A lot of women need to bear that in mind and have a "cut off" time in their heads!!!!click to expand

Posted by busyeyes88Aries w venus in taurus. Were just friendly.Posted by DMVWhich one?!! How's the taurus and the Aries?!Posted by busyeyes88i wish a mofo would call me after a month,Posted by Infinite8Who would wait a whole month?? But then again, there have been some very desperate women on these boards who would wait or initiate contact with a man who has been gone that long!!Posted by ScorpioNluvHow long does he usually disappear for? And he never iniciates?
@Infinite8 - will keep this in mind! Now i will wait again since he decided to disappear again..lol third day and counting. This is the second time that the disappearing act has happened and it sucks coz he always does it after what seemed to be an amazing perfect night 😢
I agree that Taurus DO like there space from others and do their own thing (even if it's lounging in the sofa doing nothing). So, it's something you have to consider.
But I remember a frequent male poster here (TLS) once mentioned that if a man doesn't contact you in less than a month... He JUST isn't interested in you.
You might want to test that?
A man regardless of sign would never wait a month to contact a person if they were interested. A lot of women need to bear that in mind and have a "cut off" time in their heads!!!!click to expand

Posted by PhoenixRisingWell i am fine with minimal texting but the disappearing is something that will get old if it keeps happening. But i feel like we are still in the early stage - so i don't really have so much expectations. If and ever we will get to a deeper level of relationship, then of course it will completely different.Posted by ScorpioNluvIt's quite obvious you're not fine with it given your last couple of posts and reference to him "disappearing". You need to be clear about what you will and will not work for you or this will just become an issue.Posted by Infinite8Well this is the second time that he's done it. The first one he disappeared for 3 days, (again after i thought was an amazing night- when i say amazing night, i mean we had a deep level of conversation and it always ends up sweet and i am always at ease). Then when i finally reached out to him the fourth day of his first disappearance, he apologize for the lack of response and he told me he's busy some personal matter and he said he has little time to give coz of business so he said i should expect gaps in communication. So i took that and was fine with it. Then we went back into texting back and forth but very minimal- it's always been minimal so it was not a big deal. So this time, today is the third day of no communication- so i am letting him have his space. I am lost for words tho on what to do next 😢Posted by ScorpioNluvHow long does he usually disappear for? And he never iniciates?
@Infinite8 - will keep this in mind! Now i will wait again since he decided to disappear again..lol third day and counting. This is the second time that the disappearing act has happened and it sucks coz he always does it after what seemed to be an amazing perfect night 😢
I agree that Taurus DO like there space from others and do their own thing (even if it's lounging in the sofa doing nothing). So, it's something you have to consider.
But I remember a frequent male poster here (TLS) once mentioned that if a man doesn't contact you in less than a month... He JUST isn't interested in you.
You might want to test that?click to expand

Posted by PhoenixRisingI agree- my suspicious nature came out so fast when i heard this. And the reason why i felt the need to look at him straight up and say i am not into this freak show. I am sure that he got and heard that clearly. I must tho that he did raised up other things that i've said back then that a normal person would have forgotten already..lol he raised up the issue that i told him that comes March i will inviPosted by ScorpioNluvOkay, so then this:Posted by PhoenixRisingWell i did not necessarily raised the topic per say. Back in December, i was at a friend's party and was gonna spend the night at her place but then she started talking stuoid stuff and weirded me out completely so i left and went home. I told mr bull at that time that i changed my plan coz of my friend talking about threesome crap- and that was it. His exact words at that time was "whoa, no s^**". Then it was never talked about again until a few nights ago.
I'm wondering why you even raised the topic as it relates to your friend. You're suppose to be getting to know each other and talking about yourself.
Posted by ScorpioNluvWas just bulls*t (pun intended) to push an agenda. Whatever that agenda is will remain to be seen, but I have my suspicions. If the context of the conversation was to simply discuss why your plans changed and you said it in passing, it wasn't an invitation for a deeper discussion months later. Yet, he's trying to make it one and imply that you opened that door, but it simply got dropped? Lol okay. Did he raise anything that you actually shared about yourself during that conversation in December over dinner or just the passing remark about a threesome? If not, what does that say about where his interest lie? Not to mention the way he kept pushing the topic after you gave your answer:
So during our dinner convo he brought up the topic of "threesome" and how do i feel about it. I asked him why are we talking about that particular topic and he said "coz you've mentioned before that one of your friend got drunk and kept talking about having threesome with her dude"...
Posted by ScorpioNluvNot too many ways a person can say "that's not my thing" in a firm way. Perhaps being hard of hearing is a Bull thing (sorry Bull pen, sarcasm).
"..neither would i be interested in participating. He said "why not, what if your man asks you too- don't you want to make him happy"?
con't....click to expand

Posted by DMVI hear what you are saying..but i think that it also depends on which stage is the relationship is so to speak. I think my deal with this taurus is that we are still at the very early stage. So i will let it marinate for a minute and let the nature takes its course.Posted by jeaneI just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your lifePosted by DMVwhat happened?Posted by busyeyes88i wish a mofo would call me after a month,Posted by Infinite8Who would wait a whole month?? But then again, there have been some very desperate women on these boards who would wait or initiate contact with a man who has been gone that long!!Posted by ScorpioNluvHow long does he usually disappear for? And he never iniciates?
@Infinite8 - will keep this in mind! Now i will wait again since he decided to disappear again..lol third day and counting. This is the second time that the disappearing act has happened and it sucks coz he always does it after what seemed to be an amazing perfect night 😢
I agree that Taurus DO like there space from others and do their own thing (even if it's lounging in the sofa doing nothing). So, it's something you have to consider.
But I remember a frequent male poster here (TLS) once mentioned that if a man doesn't contact you in less than a month... He JUST isn't interested in you.
You might want to test that?
A man regardless of sign would never wait a month to contact a person if they were interested. A lot of women need to bear that in mind and have a "cut off" time in their heads!!!!click to expand

Posted by DMVis this the promising, handsome taurus? yes, i can understand your thinking. it's a shame. it looked like it could be wonderful from what you were saying.
I just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your life

Posted by busyeyes88Busy, not everybody would be so understanding about the Bull mentality like you. I am amazed, you are still entertaining your Taurus crush, even if you dont see him in months and communication is spare. To be honest, I cant believe how your venus in pisces can put up with his gemini influenced flakiness. this new life with him is not going to happen, time to kick him in the curb! Btw. your best photo, hot! as for the OP, just to utter the world threesome to a man is a suicide, I would never do it in any context, because they will remember not the context but the word threesome........ so I would not discuss this any further (like somebody suggested), but keep my lips in check before uttering unnecessary sexual suggestionsPosted by Infinite8Who would wait a whole month?? But then again, there have been some very desperate women on these boards who would wait or initiate contact with a man who has been gone that long!!Posted by ScorpioNluvHow long does he usually disappear for? And he never iniciates?
@Infinite8 - will keep this in mind! Now i will wait again since he decided to disappear again..lol third day and counting. This is the second time that the disappearing act has happened and it sucks coz he always does it after what seemed to be an amazing perfect night 😢
I agree that Taurus DO like there space from others and do their own thing (even if it's lounging in the sofa doing nothing). So, it's something you have to consider.
But I remember a frequent male poster here (TLS) once mentioned that if a man doesn't contact you in less than a month... He JUST isn't interested in you.
You might want to test that?
A man regardless of sign would never wait a month to contact a person if they were interested. A lot of women need to bear that in mind and have a "cut off" time in their heads!!!!click to expand


Posted by jeaneThis taurus is the epitome of the man of my dreams minus the disappearing act..lol this guy is just a totally different breed. Very handome and extremely intelligent but he is so grounded as well despite of his stafus. I just admire everyghing about him. It is a shame that i can't get through him as much as i would like to be coz he is so guarded and we have such a minimal "text/call" communication. But when we connect it's like i am able to see through him- he'll talk a lot and share some personal information with me and i learn new things about him everytime. And it always end up to be a magical night- so this taurus has totally piqued my interest!!Posted by DMVis this the promising, handsome taurus? yes, i can understand your thinking. it's a shame. it looked like it could be wonderful from what you were saying.
I just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your lifeclick to expand

Posted by busyeyes88Busy, I am glad to hear you are moving to his area to be with him! I was a bit sceptical, but I am really happy to hear it worked out. I know (read) your history and just was impatient on your behalf, that you didnt see him in person for months (and not seeing him for your planned christmas holiday) so..... I am happy it turned out right, believe me!
@Pandora101.What on earth are talking about?! My taurus and I were hot from day one!! I was not ready for a relationship. But our communication has always been CONSTANT. He has always been by my side. Bulls don't need affirmation EVERY day.. It's not how we work!!!
And for your information, time has allowed our friendship to develop into something stronger). We are in a relationship together and I am moving to his area to be nearer to him!!
A bull will heavily pursue you in the initial stages and if it is reciprocated the friendship will begin to grow. As time moves onwards the bull when comfortable with you will NOT NEED to be constantly calling texting every five minutes of every day. The communication may be space to some but it a natural nature for a taurus because both parties know they are BOTH invested in each other.
So get your facts right Pandora! U r not a bull so don't pretend like you know and you don't know the the circumstances of my relationship for FO! We are BOTH bulls so we understand each other nature.
Friendship is important to develop first with a bull and that takes time. But from day one a bull will not just "disappear" for a month nor will he mention threesomes if he is serious about the person.

Posted by ScorpioNluvsorry, scorpionluv, i was talking to dmv about her taurus. but i hope things work out between you and yours.Posted by jeaneThis taurus is the epitome of the man of my dreams minus the disappearing act..lol this guy is just a totally different breed. Very handome and extremely intelligent but he is so grounded as well despite of his stafus. I just admire everyghing about him. It is a shame that i can't get through him as much as i would like to be coz he is so guarded and we have such a minimal "text/call" communication. But when we connect it's like i am able to see through him- he'll talk a lot and share some personal information with me and i learn new things about him everytime. And it always end up to be a magical night- so this taurus has totally piqued my interest!!Posted by DMVis this the promising, handsome taurus? yes, i can understand your thinking. it's a shame. it looked like it could be wonderful from what you were saying.
I just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your lifeclick to expand


Posted by busyeyes88Hi busyeyes88! I appreciate your input always! Now that you told your story again, mine started out this way with mr Taurus. He pursued me non-stop in the beginning, then after 2 dates, that's when the minimal texting started- but when we connect again, we just pick up where we left off. Like i said the slow pace does not bother me one bit. I actually like it. And it has not happened that this bull disappeared for a month..lol i don't know where all of this came from..the first time he disappeared for 3 days- no text, no responses. This is the second time that he's disappeared and as of today, it's been 4 days now± So this is the only part that i don't understand. Why disappear if we had a great connection and conversation (monday eve). The "threesome talk" was brought up indirectly. He did not say "do you like threesome" per say. He brought up the conversation i had with him back in december, and the threesome issue was one of the three things he brought up. And like i said, it made my blood boil inside that i had to come to this forum to kinda get an insight of a bull's mind. I was so focused on "why would he remembered all these things" when i told him this stuff four months ago and it was not even like sit down convo"- we were talking on the phone when i mentioned all these things..i was just shocked with his memory lane to say the least.
@Pandora101.What on earth are talking about?! My taurus and I were hot from day one!! I was not ready for a relationship. But our communication has always been CONSTANT. He has always been by my side. Bulls don't need affirmation EVERY day.. It's not how we work!!!
And for your information, time has allowed our friendship to develop into something stronger). We are in a relationship together and I am moving to his area to be nearer to him!!
A bull will heavily pursue you in the initial stages and if it is reciprocated the friendship will begin to grow. As time moves onwards the bull when comfortable with you will NOT NEED to be constantly calling texting every five minutes of every day. The communication may be space to some but it a natural nature for a taurus because both parties know they are BOTH invested in each other.
So get your facts right Pandora! U r not a bull so don't pretend like you know and you don't know the the circumstances of my relationship for FO! We are BOTH bulls so we understand each other nature.
Friendship is important to develop first with a bull and that takes time. But from day one a bull will not just "disappear" for a month nor will he mention threesomes if he is serious about the person.

Posted by ScorpioNluvare you sure he is single? just throwing it out there...Posted by busyeyes88Hi busyeyes88! I appreciate your input always! Now that you told your story again, mine started out this way with mr Taurus. He pursued me non-stop in the beginning, then after 2 dates, that's when the minimal texting started- but when we connect again, we just pick up where we left off. Like i said the slow pace does not bother me one bit. I actually like it. And it has not happened that this bull disappeared for a month..lol i don't know where all of this came from..the first time he disappeared for 3 days- no text, no responses. This is the second time that he's disappeared and as of today, it's been 4 days now± So this is the only part that i don't understand. Why disappear if we had a great connection and conversation (monday eve). The "threesome talk" was brought up indirectly. He did not say "do you like threesome" per say. He brought up the conversation i had with him back in december, and the threesome issue was one of the three things he brought up. And like i said, it made my blood boil inside that i had to come to this forum to kinda get an insight of a bull's mind. I was so focused on "why would he remembered all these things" when i told him this stuff four months ago and it was not even like sit down convo"- we were talking on the phone when i mentioned all these things..i was just shocked with his memory lane to say the least.
@Pandora101.What on earth are talking about?! My taurus and I were hot from day one!! I was not ready for a relationship. But our communication has always been CONSTANT. He has always been by my side. Bulls don't need affirmation EVERY day.. It's not how we work!!!
And for your information, time has allowed our friendship to develop into something stronger). We are in a relationship together and I am moving to his area to be nearer to him!!
A bull will heavily pursue you in the initial stages and if it is reciprocated the friendship will begin to grow. As time moves onwards the bull when comfortable with you will NOT NEED to be constantly calling texting every five minutes of every day. The communication may be space to some but it a natural nature for a taurus because both parties know they are BOTH invested in each other.
So get your facts right Pandora! U r not a bull so don't pretend like you know and you don't know the the circumstances of my relationship for FO! We are BOTH bulls so we understand each other nature.
Friendship is important to develop first with a bull and that takes time. But from day one a bull will not just "disappear" for a month nor will he mention threesomes if he is serious about the person.click to expand




Posted by ScorpioNluvgame playing nearly always backfires. just get on with your life. before you know it you'll be occupied with other thing and it won't matter anymore if he gets in touch or not.
@Pandora101- I will try this approach. Will mirror his communication- he was the one who initiated the last date (Monday evening).. Then disappeared..i'm like "wth"..lol so i will not say a word and mirror his disappearance. Meanwhile, i am keeping my fingers crossed and hoping for a better outcome!

Posted by jeanethe Taurus and me are really good friends. he's intuition and ability to reflect impress me.Posted by DMVis this the promising, handsome taurus? yes, i can understand your thinking. it's a shame. it looked like it could be wonderful from what you were saying.
I just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your lifeclick to expand

Posted by DMValso his ability to swallow his pride and admit when he is wrong.Posted by jeanethe Taurus and me are really good friends. he's intuition and ability to reflect impress me.Posted by DMVis this the promising, handsome taurus? yes, i can understand your thinking. it's a shame. it looked like it could be wonderful from what you were saying.
I just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your lifeclick to expand

Posted by DMVnothing more?Posted by DMValso his ability to swallow his pride and admit when he is wrong.Posted by jeanethe Taurus and me are really good friends. he's intuition and ability to reflect impress me.Posted by DMVis this the promising, handsome taurus? yes, i can understand your thinking. it's a shame. it looked like it could be wonderful from what you were saying.
I just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your life
but i am the same way, if i do something not good, i own up to is to.
thats what friendship is about.click to expand

Posted by jeaneNope that it. Besides i swore off relationshipsPosted by DMVnothing more?Posted by DMValso his ability to swallow his pride and admit when he is wrong.Posted by jeanethe Taurus and me are really good friends. he's intuition and ability to reflect impress me.Posted by DMVis this the promising, handsome taurus? yes, i can understand your thinking. it's a shame. it looked like it could be wonderful from what you were saying.
I just think its a waste if time to entertain people who pop in and out of your life
but i am the same way, if i do something not good, i own up to is to.
thats what friendship is about.click to expand




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