Years without contact

How do you bulls feel after years of not communicating.Someone you once cared for but, ended not on the best of terms, reached out to you?

we do it pretty easily actually, we have the will power to not to speak to someone for yearsssss haha, but if it ended on bad terms, OH BOY, good luck to you, sincerely.

It wasnt bad terms. Its just there was a lot of tension built up emotionally. Then a mutual friend of ours was killed and well her and I just stopped talking for some reason. I always think about her but, felt scared to contact her again

I don't know if my Taurus friend ever got over his ex. They ended in a similar way...just stopped talking, and after a few years she reached out to him. He went to see her and had no hard feelings it seems, almost as if he'd been waiting for her return. Nothing developed from there, but it didn't seem he had a problem looking back.

Id guess that unless it's a horrible breakup then there's no hard feelings, but idk.

There was just a thread on here about why a Taurus reached out to his ex to apologize & most Taurus peeps were in agreement that it isn't unusual for us to talk to/resolve issues with people from our past. Me personally, I will hear anyone out if they reach out to me, even if things ended on bad terms I will at least listen & thank them for the effort, wish them well & move on. I don't like to leave things unresolved. I also don't like to expend my emotional energy holding grudges. So I think you should reach out to her. She will either talk to you, ignore you or tell you off. Either way, you'll survive. 🙂

A cap and a aries both reached out to me after 20 years and 14 years respectively. I have no problem with this as long as if they apologize and recognize where they screwed up, which they both did. They both felt at the time that life would be better with someone else, but it didn't turn out that way. The Cap and I tried to re-connect, but I think the distance is a problem. The Aries and I don't speak too much after she contacted me. I'm not sure what it is, but I needed closure. Might not be a Taurus thing, but a Libra Moon.

Here's some experience I've been through..So twelve years later you meet your ex at a random place after not talking ever again..

And when we were younger, he treated good people bad. You just have to leave the situation. I left..but he apologized four years later and took me for granted. But now.

He's married with a kid and happy..and he thanked me for entering his life when we were younger. And he's changed to be better. We all go through shit and will always remember each other. But never go back. We forgive what people go through. You learn your mistakes and move on...and yes forgiveness is in my book.

But never forget..and can move on with my expectations of what I am accepting from people after you've been hurt. It's hurtful things he did and he owned up to it. Be happy and take care..

For me, it depends,

I can have a stubborn, rigid streak at times, but over the years I have learned to be a little more flexible and learned how to tap into my gray areas. If I assumed partial responsibility for the demise of the relationship and there is still an emotional connection to that individual, then yes, I would consider the possibility of giving them a second chance.

However, if things ended terribly, despite my repeated attempts to salvage the relationship, then once I'm done...I'm done. I never look back! I prefer to move forward, learn from the experience and move on. I don't do well entertaining bad memories, so regressing to past relationships is something I rarely do. When Bulls love...we love hard, and unconditionally, so when our expectations of the other person isn't met, there is a lot of resentment there.

I will agree with the previous posters, over a period of time, the resentment will turn into neutral feelings, and then we may forgive, but to love you with that fierce determination that we once did...will never happen again.

Posted by truecancer
It wasnt bad terms. Its just there was a lot of tension built up emotionally. Then a mutual friend of ours was killed and well her and I just stopped talking for some reason. I always think about her but, felt scared to contact her again

You're not giving us the entire story.

This statement appears a bit vague.

Posted by busyeyes88
@Jeane. Typical cancer!!

what now?


op, from what i have heard, they can never go back. time moves on.

Yeah TB is right we will move on, and it's not fun to give chances over and over to try to make it work..over time I started stressing, had a stroke, and ulcers from all the stress I went through. So people who have been cheated on.. that go back. Is stupid.. maybe you are waiting for a stroke or more heart aches.. but that's what I went through.

That's why now I don't take crap from females or males.. If guys start lying or you're behavior traits start showing I will leave. No talk, no compromise, and stubbornness will set. And I will not change my mind.

When you are young going through drama and cheaters. Why the fuck would I go back to that ex when I grew the fuck up, packed, and left..

and learned alot about not taking any BS ever again..and be independent and I'm still strong...years later. I don't get mad when relationship don't work now, I just have this non caring attitude..and start over again with an open mind everytime so I don't judge you right off the bat.

Even the bull will be like fuck you and walk the fuck away and forever. Emotions and physical endurance are a major part of a Taurus and to get that ripped out of your heart..it's useless and wrong in so many levels...and would make anyone cold detached and distant..

There is always something else. Lol

Is it the same bull that you once had deep feelings for? I remember you posting a couple of years ago.
If yes, I am sure she remembers you the same way as you do.

Posted by truecancer
Someone you once cared for but, ended not on the best of terms, reached out to you?

Posted by truecancer
It wasnt bad terms.

click to expand

The contradiction sent a red flag...

...And then followed by a vague statement.

Lol

Posted by busyeyes88
@Jeane. Typical of cancer to only give 'half a story'!!! I'm too am sure there is more to this than the OP is letting on!!

i think you meant the very wise TB1977. 😉