Getting to know another woman

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Posted by Seraphlight
Find out if she is bi or gay first.

I'm serious.

You will head fuck and heart fuck yourself otherwise.

Really you just spend time with her ...then see what happens. Are you attracted to her personality as well as her physical energy. Are you able to build intimacy? Do you have common values. Are you on the same page ....?

No it's not the same at all as dating a guy. It's way more emotional. That's not to say you don't love guys as much. It's to say the emotional spectrum is more complicated and stormy. Women have very deep intimate conversations. Even just as friends.

You may find her more demanding. But at the same time more giving.

Sex comes quicker ...but dies out faster.

I have not had long term relationships with women though. So ask someone who has.
Well, this was my first time seeing her. I will have opportunities to see her again. I just found her instantly attractive. She is more of the "male" type of female. So, I'm assuming she likes woman, but you never know. I always swore if I ever would be interested in a other woman she would be feminine. Just something about the way this lady carries herself.

She came up and introduced herself, but we only chatted a little.

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Posted by Seraphlight
Find out if she is bi or gay first.

I'm serious.

You will head fuck and heart fuck yourself otherwise.

Really you just spend time with her ...then see what happens. Are you attracted to her personality as well as her physical energy. Are you able to build intimacy? Do you have common values. Are you on the same page ....?

No it's not the same at all as dating a guy. It's way more emotional. That's not to say you don't love guys as much. It's to say the emotional spectrum is more complicated and stormy. Women have very deep intimate conversations. Even just as friends.

You may find her more demanding. But at the same time more giving.

Sex comes quicker ...but dies out faster.

I have not had long term relationships with women though. So ask someone who has.
Well, this was my first time seeing her. I will have opportunities to see her again. I just found her instantly attractive. She is more of the "male" type of female. So, I'm assuming she likes woman, but you never know. I always swore if I ever would be interested in a other woman she would be feminine. Just something about the way this lady carries herself.

She came up and introduced herself, but we only chatted a little.



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There are masculine women or women who give out masculine energy, who are still straight.

Get to know her a bit more first, create a connection with her, but don't rush things, especially since you aren't familiar with this sort of attraction.

This could be a simple crush, for all you know, and will probably fade away after while.
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Posted by Seraphlight
Find out if she is bi or gay first.

I'm serious.

You will head fuck and heart fuck yourself otherwise.

Really you just spend time with her ...then see what happens. Are you attracted to her personality as well as her physical energy. Are you able to build intimacy? Do you have common values. Are you on the same page ....?

No it's not the same at all as dating a guy. It's way more emotional. That's not to say you don't love guys as much. It's to say the emotional spectrum is more complicated and stormy. Women have very deep intimate conversations. Even just as friends.

You may find her more demanding. But at the same time more giving.

Sex comes quicker ...but dies out faster.

I have not had long term relationships with women though. So ask someone who has.
Well, this was my first time seeing her. I will have opportunities to see her again. I just found her instantly attractive. She is more of the "male" type of female. So, I'm assuming she likes woman, but you never know. I always swore if I ever would be interested in a other woman she would be feminine. Just something about the way this lady carries herself.

She came up and introduced herself, but we only chatted a little.




There are masculine women or women who give out masculine energy, who are still straight.

Get to know her a bit more first, create a connection with her, but don't rush things, especially since you aren't familiar with this sort of attraction.

This could be a simple crush, for all you know, and will probably fade away after while.
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True, that's why I need to figure out the best way to approach it. I will take your advice. Thanks ?
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Find out if she is bi or gay first.

I'm serious.

You will head fuck and heart fuck yourself otherwise.

Really you just spend time with her ...then see what happens. Are you attracted to her personality as well as her physical energy. Are you able to build intimacy? Do you have common values. Are you on the same page ....?

No it's not the same at all as dating a guy. It's way more emotional. That's not to say you don't love guys as much. It's to say the emotional spectrum is more complicated and stormy. Women have very deep intimate conversations. Even just as friends.

You may find her more demanding. But at the same time more giving.

Sex comes quicker ...but dies out faster.

I have not had long term relationships with women though. So ask someone who has.
Well, this was my first time seeing her. I will have opportunities to see her again. I just found her instantly attractive. She is more of the "male" type of female. So, I'm assuming she likes woman, but you never know. I always swore if I ever would be interested in a other woman she would be feminine. Just something about the way this lady carries herself.

She came up and introduced herself, but we only chatted a little.




Did she flirt with you?

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I don't know. I have always been told I'm unobservant with that stuff. The last time I got hit on I hadn't even noticed. My friend literally had to tell me the guy was making googly eyes at me.

There was eye contact made several times, but that could have been because I was looking at her lol. She came up and was chatting with me, but she had to help a patient and I had to help another staff member.

There wasn't anything really said that I would consider flirty, except for maybe a small comment I had said.
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Posted by Seraphlight
'What does a winning smile look like?' *BIG SMILE*

I was in an audition ..there was a total tomboy sitting next to me reading for another part...

That was her opener.. oh yeah ! 😄

She started asking me about the part I was reading for.

She was my first female fling...

I knew I was bi ..but I looked totally feminine at the time. I have also made the mistake of assuming girls who looked tom boys ..were gay when i should not have.

In my experience they flirt with you..or they come out to you...

If you are in a long term friendship and it comes up ..that's more tricky.


Good opener! It obviously worked lol.

She is very manly, like haircut and style . But, you're right, she could be a tomboy.
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Find out if she is bi or gay first.

I'm serious.

You will head fuck and heart fuck yourself otherwise.

Really you just spend time with her ...then see what happens. Are you attracted to her personality as well as her physical energy. Are you able to build intimacy? Do you have common values. Are you on the same page ....?

No it's not the same at all as dating a guy. It's way more emotional. That's not to say you don't love guys as much. It's to say the emotional spectrum is more complicated and stormy. Women have very deep intimate conversations. Even just as friends.

You may find her more demanding. But at the same time more giving.

Sex comes quicker ...but dies out faster.

I have not had long term relationships with women though. So ask someone who has.
Well, this was my first time seeing her. I will have opportunities to see her again. I just found her instantly attractive. She is more of the "male" type of female. So, I'm assuming she likes woman, but you never know. I always swore if I ever would be interested in a other woman she would be feminine. Just something about the way this lady carries herself.

She came up and introduced herself, but we only chatted a little.




Did she flirt with you?


I don't know. I have always been told I'm unobservant with that stuff. The last time I got hit on I hadn't even noticed. My friend literally had to tell me the guy was making googly eyes at me.

There was eye contact made several times, but that could have been because I was looking at her lol. She came up and was chatting with me, but she had to help a patient and I had to help another staff member.

There wasn't anything really said that I would consider flirty, except for maybe a small comment I had said.


It doesn't sound like anything yet to be honest.
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Probably not. Like I said before, it is probably only me lol
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Posted by Seraphlight
Find out if she is bi or gay first.

I'm serious.

You will head fuck and heart fuck yourself otherwise.

Really you just spend time with her ...then see what happens. Are you attracted to her personality as well as her physical energy. Are you able to build intimacy? Do you have common values. Are you on the same page ....?

No it's not the same at all as dating a guy. It's way more emotional. That's not to say you don't love guys as much. It's to say the emotional spectrum is more complicated and stormy. Women have very deep intimate conversations. Even just as friends.

You may find her more demanding. But at the same time more giving.

Sex comes quicker ...but dies out faster.

I have not had long term relationships with women though. So ask someone who has.
Well, this was my first time seeing her. I will have opportunities to see her again. I just found her instantly attractive. She is more of the "male" type of female. So, I'm assuming she likes woman, but you never know. I always swore if I ever would be interested in a other woman she would be feminine. Just something about the way this lady carries herself.

She came up and introduced herself, but we only chatted a little.




There are masculine women or women who give out masculine energy, who are still straight.

Get to know her a bit more first, create a connection with her, but don't rush things, especially since you aren't familiar with this sort of attraction.

This could be a simple crush, for all you know, and will probably fade away after while.
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Yeah I carry this and I'm that way too. Sometimes I look but I do like men more. But you are right when it comes to chemistry and connection and someone who had the same interests and some spiciness. It could work.
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women are more receptive to other women than you think. Even straight women will usually not find it offensive if another woman wants them.

Most of this fear is in your own head ..... most all failings people have/make were self made, because they feared too much, which made them insecure.

Any/all women will mostly likely take it in stride if they are hit on by another woman. What women don't like is weak, paranoid partners who are too afraid to be confident in themselves.
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women are more receptive to other women than you think. Even straight women will usually not find it offensive if another woman wants them.

Most of this fear is in your own head ..... most all failings people have/make were self made, because they feared too much, which made them insecure.

Any/all women will mostly likely take it in stride if they are hit on by another woman. What women don't like is weak, paranoid partners who are too afraid to be confident in themselves.
Good points. Have any good advice on how to approach her? Just do it? Take it in stride? I am going to try to talk to her if I get the chance. It just might be hard because of the setting is fast paced.

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women are more receptive to other women than you think. Even straight women will usually not find it offensive if another woman wants them.

Most of this fear is in your own head ..... most all failings people have/make were self made, because they feared too much, which made them insecure.

Any/all women will mostly likely take it in stride if they are hit on by another woman. What women don't like is weak, paranoid partners who are too afraid to be confident in themselves.
Good points. Have any good advice on how to approach her? Just do it? Take it in stride? I am going to try to talk to her if I get the chance. It just might be hard because of the setting is fast paced.

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Females are females, regardless of sexual orientation ..... you will have their attention through a compliment, so tell her something special about her, in which you adore the quality.



she will stop and listen
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Ask her to hang out. Do normal friend things for a bit. Start going out for drinks. Start drinks at home.....
Ok. I will try that.
I have always been reaaaaally curious but never went past tribbing with pants on and making out lol. I've had big, natural, pretty Hawaiian boobs all up in my face and her trying to pin me down. But for some reason still found an excuse to leave lol. Other instances with other chicks too. Why? Why did I do that?

Alcohol helps. Go sit at some gay bars too. Get more comfortable with how a woman approaches you.
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Sounds pretty sexy to me... I have made out with females, but nothing more.

There is only one gay bar here that I know of. I have gone a couple times, but with a group.

Do women really approach that much differently?
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Ask her to hang out. Do normal friend things for a bit. Start going out for drinks. Start drinks at home.....
Ok. I will try that.
I have always been reaaaaally curious but never went past tribbing with pants on and making out lol. I've had big, natural, pretty Hawaiian boobs all up in my face and her trying to pin me down. But for some reason still found an excuse to leave lol. Other instances with other chicks too. Why? Why did I do that?

Alcohol helps. Go sit at some gay bars too. Get more comfortable with how a woman approaches you.
Sounds pretty sexy to me... I have made out with females, but nothing more.

There is only one gay bar here that I know of. I have gone a couple times, but with a group.

Do women really approach that much differently?


Not really... I notice they can be more aggressive with it lol. At least with my experiences.

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What she said.
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How do you go about gping about this? I have never tried dating a woman, but there is this one that I am super attracted to. We just met and I want to try to get to know her. No, I'm not implying she would be interested in me, but how should I go about this? Just like you would with a guy? I'm not really good at pursuing anyone lol.
Think of her as a friend and invite her for casual lunch.

Think 'friend' and nothing else.

Not girlfriend not wife nothing.

Just coffee and Danish...

Can you do this? Yea you can!

Hugs
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How do you go about gping about this? I have never tried dating a woman, but there is this one that I am super attracted to. We just met and I want to try to get to know her. No, I'm not implying she would be interested in me, but how should I go about this? Just like you would with a guy? I'm not really good at pursuing anyone lol.
Think of her as a friend and invite her for casual lunch.

Think 'friend' and nothing else.

Not girlfriend not wife nothing.

Just coffee and Danish...

Can you do this? Yea you can!

Hugs
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I tried! She is moving away soon.
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How do you go about gping about this? I have never tried dating a woman, but there is this one that I am super attracted to. We just met and I want to try to get to know her. No, I'm not implying she would be interested in me, but how should I go about this? Just like you would with a guy? I'm not really good at pursuing anyone lol.
Think of her as a friend and invite her for casual lunch.

Think 'friend' and nothing else.

Not girlfriend not wife nothing.

Just coffee and Danish...

Can you do this? Yea you can!

Hugs
I tried! She is moving away soon.

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So just coffee! Save on dAnish for another one!