Orgasm and masturbation , how ? I need help, women only

I’m aware dxp isn’t to ideal place but I’m too lazy to sign up for another forum so here goes

One: there should be a sexuality forum

Two : the problem :::

I didn’t understand what sexuality/ masturbation was a long time like til I was 15 . I was a girl and an only child so I never had the curiousity to discover

But when I was younger I would monkey slide down the stair handrail for fun. I just noticed it felt good because of the rubbing and playing around sliding down the stair rail without thinking much .

Then I learned that if I squeeze a pillow between the my legs and thrust and squeeze , I’d get an orgasm later on.

Well I’m in my 20s now and can get an orgasm if I’m on top and rub my .... on him when I ride . But that’s the only position I can orgasm . After researching online, there’s 2 type orgasm , one from external stimulation such as rubbing and the other is an internal one from g spot stimulation . I have never experienced the latter . It seems i got myself used to masturbating incorrect by using the death grip ( squeeze) method . And unless I’m in an environment where I can death grip and squeeze ,its almost impossible for me to orgasm .

It is said i need to retrain myself such as touching myself and exploring and such . Though it feels good Ans tingly , i can’t orgasm unless I squeeze on something . I want to be able to “play “ with myself and feel good in other ways other than squeezing a pillow between my legs .

Help? Tip?

Tmi but serious question

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
I’m aware dxp isn’t to ideal place but I’m too lazy to sign up for another forum so here goes

One: there should be a sexuality forum

Two : the problem :::

I didn’t understand what sexuality/ masturbation was a long time like til I was 15 . I was a girl and an only child so I never had the curiousity to discover

But when I was younger I would monkey slide down the stair handrail for fun. I just noticed it felt good because of the rubbing and playing around sliding down the stair rail without thinking much .

Then I learned that if I squeeze a pillow between the my legs and thrust and squeeze , I’d get an orgasm later on.

Well I’m in my 20s now and can get an orgasm if I’m on top and rub my .... on him when I ride . But that’s the only position I can orgasm . After researching online, there’s 2 type orgasm , one from external stimulation such as rubbing and the other is an internal one from g spot stimulation . I have never experienced the latter . It seems i got myself used to masturbating incorrect by using the death grip ( squeeze) method . And unless I’m in an environment where I can death grip and squeeze ,its almost impossible for me to orgasm .

It is said i need to retrain myself such as touching myself and exploring and such . Though it feels good Ans tingly , i can’t orgasm unless I squeeze on something . I want to be able to “play “ with myself and feel good in other ways other than squeezing a pillow between my legs .

Help? Tip?

Tmi but serious question

Also I think it would help my sex life and also that I was so sexually frustrated

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Well I’m in my 20s now and can get an orgasm if I’m on top and rub my .... on him when I ride . But that’s the only position I can orgasm . After researching online, there’s 2 type orgasm , one from external stimulation such as rubbing and the other is an internal one from g spot stimulation . I have never experienced the latter . It seems i got myself used to masturbating incorrect by using the death grip ( squeeze) method . And unless I’m in an environment where I can death grip and squeeze ,its almost impossible for me to orgasm .

No you didn't do anything incorrectly.

Majority of women can only orgasm via clit stimulation. Don't worry. Your completely normal. In fact your excelling in your class if your getting off during sex at all. Sad but true.

Don't focus on the illusive vaginal stimulation only orgasm. Focus on multiples. Thats when the real fun starts.

i will have to get back with you on that. to tired. but you should look some youtube videos. i can tell you my doctor told me things are like way high up inside me 😆. basic a guy will have a hard time hitting my G spot. plus G spots move during different times of the month too.

Posted by UnicornSag
Your case sounds like 99% like me lol

However I did feel internal one and the feeling is incomparably better then the outside stimulation! But for quite some time didn't get to feel that one :/ it's really difficult to achieve it and for me as well I can't achieve it unless I'm on the top. I can be very close to it from other positions too but rarely ever managed to have it that way

mine is doggy style . lol its funny this is a real problem for woman. so sad that 80 % of the women out never have orgasm. they think they have but not really its just a huge wave is what i call. plus a womans mind can get in the of an orgasm too. i know my mind can be a butt. lol

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Posted by UnicornSag
Your case sounds like 99% like me lol

However I did feel internal one and the feeling is incomparably better then the outside stimulation! But for quite some time didn't get to feel that one :/ it's really difficult to achieve it and for me as well I can't achieve it unless I'm on the top. I can be very close to it from other positions too but rarely ever managed to have it that way

mine is doggy style . lol its funny this is a real problem for woman. so sad that 80 % of the women out never have orgasm. they think they have but not really its just a huge wave is what i call. plus a womans mind can get in the of an orgasm too. i know my mind can be a butt. lol

that one would be my second best lol and it's weird cause it should be the least comfortable one when you're with someone who is "big" but it just fits me better than some other positions in which it really hurts :/

Idk really how women bare with not having orgasms :/ it would drive me crazy if i'd have sex on regular base and not come...sometimes to skip it is acceptable but most of the time? No way lol

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its because they dont know what an orgasm is. i been with a lot of guys before my ex and never got an orgasm till he took a vibrator to me. 😆 i was like What the hell was that? WOW my body went into spasms. you would have thought i was having a convulsions. plus there is something to say about guys with the magic curve. hehehe

I think you are thinking too much about it...you need to find a way to turn off that Virgo brain ( I know easier said than done) and let go. Dont worry about how you should be or shouldn't be having an orgasm...be thankful that you can. Use some toys, watch some vids or hell take a class if need be (idk if this exist...I'm sure it does lol).

If you keep stressing over it, you're going to end up making sex/masturbation into an anxiety provoking thing.

*sips Capri sun*

I feel funny in my pantalones.

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Posted by UnicornSag

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Posted by UnicornSag
Your case sounds like 99% like me lol

However I did feel internal one and the feeling is incomparably better then the outside stimulation! But for quite some time didn't get to feel that one :/ it's really difficult to achieve it and for me as well I can't achieve it unless I'm on the top. I can be very close to it from other positions too but rarely ever managed to have it that way

mine is doggy style . lol its funny this is a real problem for woman. so sad that 80 % of the women out never have orgasm. they think they have but not really its just a huge wave is what i call. plus a womans mind can get in the of an orgasm too. i know my mind can be a butt. lol

that one would be my second best lol and it's weird cause it should be the least comfortable one when you're with someone who is "big" but it just fits me better than some other positions in which it really hurts :/

Idk really how women bare with not having orgasms :/ it would drive me crazy if i'd have sex on regular base and not come...sometimes to skip it is acceptable but most of the time? No way lol

its because they dont know what an orgasm is. i been with a lot of guys before my ex and never got an orgasm till he took a vibrator to me. 😆 i was like What the hell was that? WOW my body went into spasms. you would have thought i was having a convulsions. plus there is something to say about guys with the magic curve. hehehe

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the only man who could make me squirt was an Aries man with a banana shaped curve peeen lol

my g spot must suit his anatomy.

Posted by Lioness18881
I'm linking it to astrology for you because I have cancer mars too. It has problems with letting go. It's very protective and holds everything in. So when it comes to sex, the release is more difficult. So that's why being on top is easier to orgasm. It's because you have the control.

I am addicted to control . like im having sex and I still worry if my body is in an aesthetic angle from his point of view >.< )

ive been meaning to go to the sex store and but some stuff to get comfortable with myself.... but I know im going to be tense not even knowing where to begin if I do get something

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
ive been meaning to go to the sex store and but some stuff to get comfortable with myself.... but I know im going to be tense not even knowing where to begin if I do get something

Buy your toys online.

https://www.edenfantasys.com/

All you really need is a rechargeable rabbit. A pocket vibe. And maybe a glass dildo.

When you do cowgirl is he laying down? Have him sit up, and then get your grind on. Sensations are so much better. Plus its easier to hold onto each other.

Its easier to orgasm after you have the first one. So if your dude is on his way over rub one out. Then your 2nd and 3rd are gonna happen more rapidly during the sesh.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Its easier to orgasm after you have the first one. So if your dude is on his way over rub one out. Then your 2nd and 3rd are gonna happen more rapidly during the sesh.

It’s official I’m dedicating my summer break to study orgasm and playing with myself . Cuz I’m always sexually frustrated since it long distance I only get sex like once a month

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Posted by UnicornSag

Posted by WitchmitchAries

Posted by UnicornSag
Your case sounds like 99% like me lol

However I did feel internal one and the feeling is incomparably better then the outside stimulation! But for quite some time didn't get to feel that one :/ it's really difficult to achieve it and for me as well I can't achieve it unless I'm on the top. I can be very close to it from other positions too but rarely ever managed to have it that way

mine is doggy style . lol its funny this is a real problem for woman. so sad that 80 % of the women out never have orgasm. they think they have but not really its just a huge wave is what i call. plus a womans mind can get in the of an orgasm too. i know my mind can be a butt. lol

that one would be my second best lol and it's weird cause it should be the least comfortable one when you're with someone who is "big" but it just fits me better than some other positions in which it really hurts :/

Idk really how women bare with not having orgasms :/ it would drive me crazy if i'd have sex on regular base and not come...sometimes to skip it is acceptable but most of the time? No way lol

its because they dont know what an orgasm is. i been with a lot of guys before my ex and never got an orgasm till he took a vibrator to me. 😆 i was like What the hell was that? WOW my body went into spasms. you would have thought i was having a convulsions. plus there is something to say about guys with the magic curve. hehehe

the only man who could make me squirt was an Aries man with a banana shaped curve peeen lol

my g spot must suit his anatomy.

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thats soo my Ex virgo had a banana shape to 😆 that was its nick-name

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Its easier to orgasm after you have the first one. So if your dude is on his way over rub one out. Then your 2nd and 3rd are gonna happen more rapidly during the sesh.

It’s official I’m dedicating my summer break to study orgasm and playing with myself . Cuz I’m always sexually frustrated since it long distance I only get sex like once a month

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Get it gurl!!!

Maybe stay away from vibrators so you don't desensitize your clit. We women take way longer than men to get our engines warmed up. But the payoff is way greater I think.