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If you were with someone that you've known for years (and they were not physically-abusive nor financially-irresponsible) but anyway, you guys eventually go your separate ways for whatever reason. then they get with someone they've only been with a few months and they're physically-abusive with this person and also financially-irresponsible (which is weirder coz this new person is not as well-off as you). does that mean they haven't really showed their actual personality to you or do you feel like maybe everyone just brings out something different in each of us? 🐰🐰 how much stock do you place on past history of violence/abuse?

Posted by FlowyGraceMoretz
That’s tricky coz that’s like saying some women just have it coming to them 😅

i just asked on here coz i feel like mostly women would be open to discussing it but if guys were abused or were abusive, i feel lile they won't share as readily as women 🤷‍♀🤷‍♀

I think people bring out different sides to a person. Which is why stress, insecurities, anxiety and anger can have a huge effect on a relationship if this is the foundation of it.

I think they had it in themselves, but may not have reached its full potential due to your personality (the rational way you argue) or circumstances (the illusion of financial stability at that time).

Also, some people and situations could bring the worst in someone at some point....

Posted by saggurl88
I think people bring out different sides to a person. Which is why stress, insecurities, anxiety and anger can have a huge effect on a relationship if this is the foundation of it.

i'm also thinking maybe it's coz they can't really use money as a tool to exploit/hurt you but it might be something they can use against someone else? 🤔🤔

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Posted by saggurl88
I think people bring out different sides to a person. Which is why stress, insecurities, anxiety and anger can have a huge effect on a relationship if this is the foundation of it.

i'm also thinking maybe it's coz they can't really use money as a tool to exploit/hurt you but it might be something they can use against someone else? 🤔🤔
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You just describe shitty person whom I wouldn’t give a second look but you seem fond of him. Why?

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don't get me wrong, i have no problem joining the smear campaign on this guy but if they didn't hit you, then they didn't hit you 🤷🤷 i'm actually surprised that he's an even bigger ahole now than he was before.

I've actually had this happen with an ex and I've seen it play out with other people..

I think for some, there is a history of abuse and they abuse anyone they are with. But I also think for some it is because the couple is just toxic for each other and bring out the worst in each other. I'm not putting blame on either party, it's both of them contributing to this and both of them aloud the relationship to get to that point.

I am not saying it is right in either situation either. I think people like that need help.

My upstairs neighbor abuses his gf/wife what ever she is. I hear them. I've called the cops a few times. I don't know if he has always been like that with everyone he has been with but it does sound like he has emotional/anger issues that trigger it. During the aftermath you can hear him on the phone crying about it to someone yet he still verbally abuses her by telling the person on the phone how she is a "dumb ass hoe". Obviously whomever he talks to enables him. I've actually have yelled at him through the walls when he was doing it and told him to shut the fuck up. He yelled back calling me a pussy ass neighbor. But he does not want to confront me because he doesn't want to fuck around and find out what real abuse is.

Posted by virgoOPPP
If you were with someone that you've known for years (and they were not physically-abusive nor financially-irresponsible) but anyway, you guys eventually go your separate ways for whatever reason. then they get with someone they've only been with a few months and they're physically-abusive with this person and also financially-irresponsible (which is weirder coz this new person is not as well-off as you). does that mean they haven't really showed their actual personality to you or do you feel like maybe everyone just brings out something different in each of us? 🐰🐰 how much stock do you place on past history of violence/abuse?

Some crazy shit going on or

Drugs.

Or your hearing things down the grape vine and things are really twisted.

Lion mentioned toxic relationship. That's true!

brings out the worst in a lot of people.

that also would mean they feel they can't part ways for whatever reason.

Posted by virgoOPPP
If you were with someone that you've known for years (and they were not physically-abusive nor financially-irresponsible) but anyway, you guys eventually go your separate ways for whatever reason. then they get with someone they've only been with a few months and they're physically-abusive with this person and also financially-irresponsible (which is weirder coz this new person is not as well-off as you). does that mean they haven't really showed their actual personality to you or do you feel like maybe everyone just brings out something different in each of us? 🐰🐰 how much stock do you place on past history of violence/abuse?

In two months with her

She maybe be pushing buttons but still physical abuse. I mean why wasn’t he with you all those years?

I think people just show their true colours in the end.. also looks like something triggered it