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Posted by jeaneDating in 2018 is very odd.
i'm beginning to really dislike this word "clingy".
it seems a fairly new aspect to dating. i don't ever remember worrying about if i was appearing clingy but somehow it now renders scores of young women paralysed to express their feelings and desires.
should i text him? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to spend more time together? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to be exclusive? i don't want to appear clingy.
i mean really, wtf? what happened to having confidence in the person you are and have to offer another person? are young women being somehow taught these days that they need to be small and passive in order to be in a relationship?
ultimately, what is wrong with having a conversation? the number of threads here that could be resolved easily by just having a conversation. people can treetrunk but they can't talk. i don't get that.
There is being "clingy", "ghosting" and god forbid "catching feelings"
I got out of a 5 year relationship 6 months ago, and it was crazy to me how often these terms got thrown at me ..."you're too clingy" you "caught feelings"....excuse me, what's so bad with showing a person you care for them, like them and want to get to know them more.
Young men don't know how to have these conversations. I was so use to communicating in my past relationship and the "boys" (I won't call them men) that I have dated in the past 6 months are immature and would rather "ghost" then have a REAL communication.
I feel for all those dating in today's age...it's tough and in 30! At my age I shouldn't have to be chasing around little boys. But the issue is we, as women allow it, we don't speak up, we don't take action we just worry and get insecure.
It's ducked up.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns"Who cares less" has" the power"...ugh so true and it's so sad.
I know, it’s like sorry for liking you and expressing the feeling. Modern dating is about who cares less in order to have the power.
I love fully and wholeheardly...it's made me guarded and I hate being a guarded person.
Now I just say idgaf...if I like you I'm telling you, if you walk away...buh bye
Posted by Boots1313yes, those terms just seems so disparaging to women. it almost seems like a situation no one can win.Posted by jeane
i'm beginning to really dislike this word "clingy".
it seems a fairly new aspect to dating. i don't ever remember worrying about if i was appearing clingy but somehow it now renders scores of young women paralysed to express their feelings and desires.
should i text him? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to spend more time together? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to be exclusive? i don't want to appear clingy.
i mean really, wtf? what happened to having confidence in the person you are and have to offer another person? are young women being somehow taught these days that they need to be small and passive in order to be in a relationship?
ultimately, what is wrong with having a conversation? the number of threads here that could be resolved easily by just having a conversation. people can treetrunk but they can't talk. i don't get that.
Dating in 2018 is very odd.
There is being "clingy", "ghosting" and god forbid "catching feelings"
I got out of a 5 year relationship 6 months ago, and it was crazy to me how often these terms got thrown at me ..."you're too clingy" you "caught feelings"....excuse me, what's so bad with showing a person you care for them, like them and want to get to know them more.
Young men don't know how to have these conversations. I was so use to communicating in my past relationship and the "boys" (I won't call them men) that I have dated in the past 6 months are immature and would rather "ghost" then have a REAL communication.
I feel for all those dating in today's age...it's tough and in 30! At my age I shouldn't have to be chasing around little boys. But the issue is we, as women allow it, we don't speak up, we don't take action we just worry and get insecure.
It's ducked up.
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what is the perfect woman supposed to look like these days? someone without feelings, no desires or needs and who is happy to accept everything she is given? is it weak to be emotional? is that really where we are now?
There is being "clingy", "ghosting" and god forbid "catching feelings"
Haha....such ridiculous sayings
Robot society ... scared of intimacy
Haha....such ridiculous sayings
Robot society ... scared of intimacy
Posted by MyStarsShineshucks, thanks.
I love your your posts @jeane 👍
Modern day toxic living
Where will it all end?
you're right though, where does this end? especially for this generation? is it something they grow out of? or are those skills lost for now?
oh god, i feel so old.
Posted by jeaneSadly yes, I think the above is the image of the "modern day woman"Posted by Boots1313Posted by jeane
i'm beginning to really dislike this word "clingy".
it seems a fairly new aspect to dating. i don't ever remember worrying about if i was appearing clingy but somehow it now renders scores of young women paralysed to express their feelings and desires.
should i text him? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to spend more time together? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to be exclusive? i don't want to appear clingy.
i mean really, wtf? what happened to having confidence in the person you are and have to offer another person? are young women being somehow taught these days that they need to be small and passive in order to be in a relationship?
ultimately, what is wrong with having a conversation? the number of threads here that could be resolved easily by just having a conversation. people can treetrunk but they can't talk. i don't get that.
Dating in 2018 is very odd.
There is being "clingy", "ghosting" and god forbid "catching feelings"
I got out of a 5 year relationship 6 months ago, and it was crazy to me how often these terms got thrown at me ..."you're too clingy" you "caught feelings"....excuse me, what's so bad with showing a person you care for them, like them and want to get to know them more.
Young men don't know how to have these conversations. I was so use to communicating in my past relationship and the "boys" (I won't call them men) that I have dated in the past 6 months are immature and would rather "ghost" then have a REAL communication.
I feel for all those dating in today's age...it's tough and in 30! At my age I shouldn't have to be chasing around little boys. But the issue is we, as women allow it, we don't speak up, we don't take action we just worry and get insecure.
It's ducked up.
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yes, those terms just seems so disparaging to women. it almost seems like a situation no one can win.
what is the perfect woman supposed to look like these days? someone without feelings, no desires or needs and who is happy to accept everything she is given? is it weak to be emotional? is that really where we are now? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnstrue. it's sad that what is supposed to be a partnership has turned into a power play.
I know, it’s like sorry for liking you and expressing the feeling. Modern dating is about who cares less in order to have the power.
Posted by jeaneNot old....wise 😀Posted by MyStarsShine
I love your your posts @jeane 👍
Modern day toxic living
Where will it all end?
shucks, thanks.
you're right though, where does this end? especially for this generation? is it something they grow out of? or are those skills lost for now?
oh god, i feel so old. click to expandclick to expand
They are lost people ... not all of them of course....I know a few teens who don't allow porn, social media etc to dictate to them. They are strong minded people who think outside of the box
Thankfully 👍❤️
I honestly don't even know how people hook up anymore.
Oh wait. Alcohol, I almost forgot. Not only does it shave away inhibitions, it also takes away all this silly bullschite. We'd die out if it wasn't for firewater.
Oh wait. Alcohol, I almost forgot. Not only does it shave away inhibitions, it also takes away all this silly bullschite. We'd die out if it wasn't for firewater.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I know, it’s like sorry for liking you and expressing the feeling. Modern dating is about who cares less in order to have the power.
"Who cares less" has" the power"...ugh so true and it's so sad.
I love fully and wholeheardly...it's made me guarded and I hate being a guarded person.
Now I just say idgaf...if I like you I'm telling you, if you walk away...buh bye click to expand
Exactly. From now on I’m just saying how I feel and if the other person wants to say it’s not right or make a game of it then goodbye. I’m only expressing my genuine feelings. click to expandclick to expand
That is the way it supposed to be. Doing as you feel can never be wrong.
Posted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I know, it’s like sorry for liking you and expressing the feeling. Modern dating is about who cares less in order to have the power.
"Who cares less" has" the power"...ugh so true and it's so sad.
I love fully and wholeheardly...it's made me guarded and I hate being a guarded person.
Now I just say idgaf...if I like you I'm telling you, if you walk away...buh bye click to expandclick to expand
I have always being like that.
If I feel it I tell you if the moment is right.
If I want to talk to you I call you or text you.
If I missed you I will let you know.
If you don’t like it then you are not right for me.
Posted by TotiYes truth.
Just be you. It's the only way we can survive. Actually, when someone is a "normal" human being, it can be quite refreshing.
Easier said then done when you allow outside things influence you and when people tell you how you "should act"
But always be true to yourself. I'm learning that now, hard lesson to learn and now that's what I tell everyone I meet who is having "relationship issues"
Posted by pisceswoman123"Then you're not right for me"Posted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I know, it’s like sorry for liking you and expressing the feeling. Modern dating is about who cares less in order to have the power.
"Who cares less" has" the power"...ugh so true and it's so sad.
I love fully and wholeheardly...it's made me guarded and I hate being a guarded person.
Now I just say idgaf...if I like you I'm telling you, if you walk away...buh bye click to expand
I have always being like that.
If I feel it I tell you if the moment is right.
If I want to talk to you I call you or text you.
If I missed you I will let you know.
If you don’t like it then you are not right for me. click to expandclick to expand
I think this is another issue. We don't know how to realize a person isn't "right for us" we change ourselves to dot what they want, and aren't true to ourselves.
We limit OUR happiness to appease someone because we WANT them not because they are right for us.
I see so many friends who stick out horrible relationships, with the wrong guy and conplwtely change themselves and lose who they are just to appease him?
Excuse me...no, what about you!
Posted by Boots1313Posted by Toti
Just be you. It's the only way we can survive. Actually, when someone is a "normal" human being, it can be quite refreshing.
Yes truth.
Easier said then done when you allow outside things influence you and when people tell you how you "should act"
But always be true to yourself. I'm learning that now, hard lesson to learn and now that's what I tell everyone I meet who is having "relationship issues" click to expandclick to expand
pick nearly any thread here and someone is faced with trying to behave in a way that they think others will see as pleasing.
i get the insecurity part. that's common for everyone. i also understand the huge importance we place on trying to impress the other person and wanting to make them stick around. it's just more a recent phenomenon of "clinginess" and not speaking up for yourself.
Posted by Piscoj
I love this. It’s too true.
This is why I think dating and relationships have mostly gone into the toilet. You can’t even guarantee faithfulness either, because people are already looking for someone new at the slightest mishap in the relationship. Everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side, because our society is used to having everything they want with ease. Take some damn time to fight for the person you’re with.
Le sigh. Unfortunately, I think It’s just going to get worse as time goes on. Just start freezing your eggs, that way you can still have your children even if your partner decides to jump ship after 7 years because it’s “too serious” for him.
Been together 7 years..."damn, your too clingy!" Bahahaha
Posted by Boots1313That is very true.Posted by pisceswoman123Posted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I know, it’s like sorry for liking you and expressing the feeling. Modern dating is about who cares less in order to have the power.
"Who cares less" has" the power"...ugh so true and it's so sad.
I love fully and wholeheardly...it's made me guarded and I hate being a guarded person.
Now I just say idgaf...if I like you I'm telling you, if you walk away...buh bye click to expand
I have always being like that.
If I feel it I tell you if the moment is right.
If I want to talk to you I call you or text you.
If I missed you I will let you know.
If you don’t like it then you are not right for me. click to expand
"Then you're not right for me"
I think this is another issue. We don't know how to realize a person isn't "right for us" we change ourselves to dot what they want, and aren't true to ourselves.
We limit OUR happiness to appease someone because we WANT them not because they are right for us.
I see so many friends who stick out horrible relationships, with the wrong guy and conplwtely change themselves and lose who they are just to appease him?
Excuse me...no, what about you! click to expandclick to expand
You can only find the one if you are true to your self. If not sooner or later you realize that you don’t have anything in common because you just try to feet in.
Whoever you are with should love you for who you really are with all your imperfections and all your craziness. That will be the love that last.
Posted by vixen14This is exactly it 👌
In all those situations you mentioned, it’s just the fear of being rejected or not having your feelings reciprocated. Which all leads down to one thing: he’s just not that into you. Plain and simple.
No man who’s interested in you, will ghost.
Being that most of the threads are based on signs here, I would assume that some signs would agree with it (or would be more likely to comment) and others wouldn’t. it would be interesting to see what signs are posting since I’m new and don’t know a lot of you.
I’m a Libra, I have lots of Libra and Scorpio. Basically if I like you, I’ll tell you. I can be called “clingy” because I don’t like playing games. An Aqua guy tried to be weird with me about that stuff. But he probably needed a person that was going to text him like twice a month, which made me lose interest. His way of dating didn’t match mine.
When I met a Sag, he contacted me more than I did him. When I was talking to a Gemini, it was literally all day texting/wanting to see me, but then mixed with periods of nothing. When I was with a Taurus, he didn’t express his feelings a whole lot, but hated going a day without talking to me.
It all depends. Yes, dating can be horrible. My consistent communication is not for every type.
I’m a Libra, I have lots of Libra and Scorpio. Basically if I like you, I’ll tell you. I can be called “clingy” because I don’t like playing games. An Aqua guy tried to be weird with me about that stuff. But he probably needed a person that was going to text him like twice a month, which made me lose interest. His way of dating didn’t match mine.
When I met a Sag, he contacted me more than I did him. When I was talking to a Gemini, it was literally all day texting/wanting to see me, but then mixed with periods of nothing. When I was with a Taurus, he didn’t express his feelings a whole lot, but hated going a day without talking to me.
It all depends. Yes, dating can be horrible. My consistent communication is not for every type.
Posted by euphonySo far it seems libra and Taurus are big comments on this board.
Being that most of the threads are based on signs here, I would assume that some signs would agree with it (or would be more likely to comment) and others wouldn’t. it would be interesting to see what signs are posting since I’m new and don’t know a lot of you.
I’m a Libra, I have lots of Libra and Scorpio. Basically if I like you, I’ll tell you. I can be called “clingy” because I don’t like playing games. An Aqua guy tried to be weird with me about that stuff. But he probably needed a person that was going to text him like twice a month, which made me lose interest. His way of dating didn’t match mine.
When I met a Sag, he contacted me more than I did him. When I was talking to a Gemini, it was literally all day texting/wanting to see me, but then mixed with periods of nothing. When I was with a Taurus, he didn’t express his feelings a whole lot, but hated going a day without talking to me.
It all depends. Yes, dating can be horrible. My consistent communication is not for every type.
It is interesting to look at signs but when it comes down to it I think it's a new cultural/social standard in modern dating.
In my expierences saggitarius and Scorpio called me "clingy" aquas "ghosted" ....but I hear this from literally everyone about someone no matter what the sign.
All my girlfriends have had these expierences and even my male friends have had flaky girls.
I don't know if signs are to blame in this
Edit: side note I had my libra ex of 5 months tell me right before we broke up "its a turn off that you WANT me so much..." haha, oh sorry...are we not bf/gf...I'll ignore you then bahahaha
Posted by Boots1313that's just madness.
Edit: side note I had my libra ex of 5 months tell me right before we broke up "its a turn off that you WANT me so much..." haha, oh sorry...are we not bf/gf...I'll ignore you then bahahaha
Posted by jeaneIt really is! I think we broke up a week later hahaPosted by Boots1313
Edit: side note I had my libra ex of 5 months tell me right before we broke up "its a turn off that you WANT me so much..." haha, oh sorry...are we not bf/gf...I'll ignore you then bahahaha
that's just madness. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by jeaneSo weirdPosted by Boots1313
Edit: side note I had my libra ex of 5 months tell me right before we broke up "its a turn off that you WANT me so much..." haha, oh sorry...are we not bf/gf...I'll ignore you then bahahaha
that's just madness. click to expandclick to expand
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Haven’t read the thread yet but I’ll just say this has never been a problem for me because I never let it be a problem for me.
If me trying to communicate makes you feel like I’m being clingy then we are not compatible. Onto the next.
Ok off to read through this..
If me trying to communicate makes you feel like I’m being clingy then we are not compatible. Onto the next.
Ok off to read through this..
Whoever mention those are just not that compatible. Majority of those immature relationship will fail because that particular party is just too selfish in a relationship. (deeming people who care clingy/catching feels)
Just gotta find the right one among a sea of people that doesn't communicate in your language. Find a person that accepts you for the communication you give, text when you feel like it, call when you feel like it, tell him/her you love/miss them when you feel like it. It's how long term relationship works. Being superficial can only take a relationship so far.
Just gotta find the right one among a sea of people that doesn't communicate in your language. Find a person that accepts you for the communication you give, text when you feel like it, call when you feel like it, tell him/her you love/miss them when you feel like it. It's how long term relationship works. Being superficial can only take a relationship so far.
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My only experience was with a Scorpio male that was super super excited & couldn't get it up.
it seems a fairly new aspect to dating. i don't ever remember worrying about if i was appearing clingy but somehow it now renders scores of young women paralysed to express their feelings and desires.
should i text him? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to spend more time together? i don't want to appear clingy.
should i tell him i would like to be exclusive? i don't want to appear clingy.
i mean really, wtf? what happened to having confidence in the person you are and have to offer another person? are young women being somehow taught these days that they need to be small and passive in order to be in a relationship?
ultimately, what is wrong with having a conversation? the number of threads here that could be resolved easily by just having a conversation. people can fuck but they can't talk. i don't get that.