Would you listen?

Say you were hanging out with a guy you liked, early stages, not even sure if you're dating yet, and one of his female friends came up to you and casually told you all of his red flags.... say.... they told you he had a small dick....that he wouldnt give oral but expected it, told you he was financially unstable, shit like that....

Would you listen to them? Take it under advicesment and keep a look out for the flags yourself, OR would you think she was a jealous cunt and ignore her completly?

*this hasnt happened to me nor have I done this, its just a stupid question that popped in my head this morning*

Posted by PVSoy

Posted by SeaLion

Say you were hanging out with a guy you liked, early stages, not even sure if you're dating yet, and one of his female friends came up to you and casually told you all of his red flags.... say.... they told you he had a small dick....that he wouldnt give oral but expected it, told you he was financially unstable, shit like that....

Would you listen to them? Take it under advicesment and keep a look out for the flags yourself, OR would you think she was a jealous cunt and ignore her completly?

*this hasnt happened to me nor have I done this, its just a stupid question that popped in my head this morning*

I'd take it under advisement. This has happened to me. Also a friend of mine. Both times the supposed "friend" was actually a chick they were sleeping with and had friend zoned.

In my case it didn't matter. I wasn't interested in him, and had no idea he was interested in more than friendship with me. I actually found out later what was going on between the friend and him.

In my friends situation, there were already mistrust issues in the relationship. As soon as she broke up with the guy the supposedly helpful "friend" ended up dating him.

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So the "friend" won in the end.

Posted by BlueStar

Sometimes people give you warnings because they know how shitty someone else.

This is true too. I think Id take it under advicesment depending on how much I liked the guy. Or Id just not involve myself because true or not sounds like the guy has a lot of drama around him already.

Would you be considered a bad friend if you did warn someone? Or should you mind your own business? I have a lot of guy friends who are financially unstable, cant keep a job, have ended up on friends or family members couch because they lost their home on more than one occasion.... yet these girls want to date them.... and its like "why?" But its probably because they don't know how unstable they are... cause ppl dont reveal that kind of stuff in the begining.

Posted by slug

I'd call her out on it and then I'd tell him.

Do you think telling him would help your relationship or do you think she would know him well enough to be able to manipulate him into thinking you are psycho?

Posted by BlueStar

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by BlueStar

Sometimes people give you warnings because they know how shitty someone else.

This is true too. I think Id take it under advicesment depending on how much I liked the guy. Or Id just not involve myself because true or not sounds like the guy has a lot of drama around him already.

Would you be considered a bad friend if you did warn someone? Or should you mind your own business? I have a lot of guy friends who are financially unstable, cant keep a job, have ended up on friends or family members couch because they lost their home on more than one occasion.... yet these girls want to date them.... and its like "why?" But its probably because they don't know how unstable they are... cause ppl dont reveal that kind of stuff in the begining.

I wouldn’t want to be with someone who’s friends talk shit like that. Either unfinished business or messiness.

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Very true.. like I said "drama"

Posted by Dread_Pirate_Phanta

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by PVSoy

Posted by SeaLion

Say you were hanging out with a guy you liked, early stages, not even sure if you're dating yet, and one of his female friends came up to you and casually told you all of his red flags.... say.... they told you he had a small dick....that he wouldnt give oral but expected it, told you he was financially unstable, shit like that....

Would you listen to them? Take it under advicesment and keep a look out for the flags yourself, OR would you think she was a jealous cunt and ignore her completly?

*this hasnt happened to me nor have I done this, its just a stupid question that popped in my head this morning*

I'd take it under advisement. This has happened to me. Also a friend of mine. Both times the supposed "friend" was actually a chick they were sleeping with and had friend zoned.

In my case it didn't matter. I wasn't interested in him, and had no idea he was interested in more than friendship with me. I actually found out later what was going on between the friend and him.

In my friends situation, there were already mistrust issues in the relationship. As soon as she broke up with the guy the supposedly helpful "friend" ended up dating him.

So the "friend" won in the end.

And what a prize she won.

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Lol true, but never know, guy could have been perfect and the girl was just lying so they would run away.

Posted by slug

I'd call her out on it and then I'd tell him.

I concur

Posted by SaintAmour

I'd absolutely take that into consideration. I'll have him under a 🔬 to see if it's true or not. I'd test the ish outta him, 🦂 style .

Would it be worth your time and energy to do that tho? Why not just cut ties? Unless he kept coming around and trying to date you. Then maybe I'd test and try to find out as much as possible.

All I got from this thread is that size matters.

I’d definitely keep in in consideration. I wouldn’t tell him and I wouldn’t completely blow her off but I also wouldn’t take it as gospel and stop talking to him...I’d want to find out for myself. Sooner rather than later