Aggressive Virgo Male? I'm confused!

Ok so I worked with this Virgo male for a year, and he was a great guy and all and nice to me, but I never got the "he's into me vibe" off of him. I can be a bit oblivious though. He'd sometimes give me half his lunch like out of the blue (we like the same chinese food)! I just though he was a really nice guy. So then I get fired from that job for being sick, of all things. After I got fired like a month later he starts messaging me on Facebook. He said he had a crush on me, and wanted to hang out. I thought he was being nice again, or joking around. it's been 7 months, and he is still aggressively perusing me, even though he knows I have a boyfriend. This last week he asked for a picture and I sent one, just a normal pic, and then he wanted sexy pictures! He's been like I said very aggressive about it. I thought Virgos were passive? Is this normal for a Virgo? How can I tell if he really likes me or is just playing around? We haven't actually seen eachother since I was fired.

this is not normal for virgos...

they may pursue you for a long time but the rest of the stuff is creepy

Definitely not a cancer. Gemini here, but the thing with my boyfriend is complicated. It was the wrong word to use. I have a domestic partner, father to my daughter, but it's not a monogamous together relationship.

sounds like he just wants attention

Leejt86 - So do you think he is just picture whoring? Like trying to get sexy pictures from lots of girls? He tells me he thinks I am beautiful, and all that, I am just surprised, he was always very confidant and energetic at work, but him suddenly liking me after I am fired and being so aggressive just seems out of character. I mean 7 months just to get a picture? Could it be me getting fired ruined his plans or something? Like he was going to take his time, but the felt like he had to lay it out asap because i wasn't around anymore?

Sagtastic1 - yeah that is kind of the vibe I am getting, and I'm not into all that. Maybe I should just nip this in the bud.

I get what your saying about getting my situation figured out.. The Virgo did come after me though, I wasn't out looking or anything. I hadn't even though of changing my situation, or looking for someone. I am just trying to do what's best for my daughter. I grew up without a father, and I don't what that to happen to my Daughter.

Maybe your right about him, would a Virgo really waste 7 months and ruin a 1 year + friendship for a photo?

Does it make any difference that he has a Rising Sign 20 Degrees in Scorpio??

Posted by faithys
Leejt86 - So do you think he is just picture whoring? Like trying to get sexy pictures from lots of girls? He tells me he thinks I am beautiful, and all that, I am just surprised, he was always very confidant and energetic at work, but him suddenly liking me after I am fired and being so aggressive just seems out of character. I mean 7 months just to get a picture? Could it be me getting fired ruined his plans or something? Like he was going to take his time, but the felt like he had to lay it out asap because i wasn't around anymore?

the picture thing i wouldnt do, but im a prude lol

if he's that aggressive when he knows you have a man already, he's just trying to fuck

Thank you Loveorlust! I appreciate that.
I told him no today, he is bummed, but said he's not mad. I think he's disappointed that I just shut him down, but I just said, hey I live with someone, and don't feel comfortable with this. He will probably fall off the face of the earth now, which is a shame but oh well, what can I do?

Posted by HungVirgo
if he's that aggressive when he knows you have a man already, he's just trying to fuck

^^^^

And being 32 years old, it is assumed that she's NOT innocent, therefore, she merely acts as if she's not encouraging the game.


Another typical attention whore

First of all, I never said I was innocent! Just because I'm 32 doesn't mean anything, I don't like sexy pictures, it has nothing to do with innocence. Yes I've had sex, no that doesn't mean i want sexy pictures floating around. Implying you'd have to be innocent to not be ok sending someone sexy pictures is ridiculous. No everyone has the same taste.

Secondly, during the 7 months, it was not sexual, or at least i didn't pick up on anything. He just kept it platonic, said he wanted to hang out and catch up. So why would i "shut him down" if he was just being friendly?
There are trolls everywhere, I don't really care what you believe. My story is true but who the fuck cares? I just came here to ask because this was the first forum i found about astrology and such, my mistake.

Also I didn't "shut him down" and it was longer than 12 hours, it was 3 days. I just said the pics were out, i didn't block him, and i wasn't rude. I left it open for him to continue to talk to me just told him no on the pics. he's chosen to stop texting and messaging me. So obviously he isn't interested in me other than the physical. I made the right choice.

As to the comments about me showing interest, yes obviously or I would have told him to fuck off right off the bat. Like i said we were work friends, we shared lunches, he was a very nice guy and i respected him. I wanted to have him as a friend.

and how arrogant of some of you to judge me and call me an attention whore for posting a thread! Way to make sweeping judgments about someone you don't even know! How special you must be to to be perfect and be able to judge someone in their entirety from a single post on a single website. by that definition everyone who's post a thread anywhere is an attention whore. How sad, obviously your the attention whore trolling threads for attention, and this comment is the only attention you'll get from me.

I just don't like being called an attention whore. I'm usually very reserved and don't ask stuff like this online, but I was confused and took a shot, and look what I get. I could understand if I had posted a bunch of threads or something but gesh!

lol ok ok.. You're right actually, it's just the internet.

I came to the Virgo forum to get an answer about a Virgo, not to be called names. I don't need people to agree with me, I didn't have a particular answer in mind. I just didn't see how attacking my credibility and calling me an attention whore contributed to the conversation, or answered my question.

You sound very guilty, as charged ... an innocent person would blow past it because it would be irrelevant.

I took a shot, and obviously mine hit the nail right on the head.

7 months is a long time, maybe he REALLY likes you. I don't get the notch on the belt type comments as this definitely doesn't sound anything like that. It comes down to what you want since your current relationship isn't monogamous.