Cancer and Virgo—??

Ok so I have seen this page a few times and figured I will try it out I am really confused and would love insight from Virgo males....I work with a Virgo male I am a Cancer female...we have worked together for awhile now at first I never even noticed him but a few months ago it just happened total attraction on both parts it was like love at first sight everytime we are around eachother it is such a connection like we look into eachothers souls....so we go out a few times text and talk on the phone we went out to eat and talked for 6 hours crazy! and after that day he would ask me out and fake at the last min. I would text him and no reply it drove me crazy but I kept my cool (at first) I see him at work and he would act all cute and flirt and what not he would say sorry and give some excuse and it would happen again fake and then act like everything is ok...So I confronted him on it and the charm wasn't gonna work, I told him I want the truth whats up, and he was I hella like you I know you feel what I feel and so on,...anyways we went tthrough this like too many times and yes I got emotional and crazy and he liked it....Now it's nothing at all I am really tired of it I don't get it I feel sooo drained...I don't see if 2 people are really like eachother why play these games...I never have done this before but I never felt like this about someone before so I would really like some honest respones please, thank you very much 🙂

🙂) Welcome to the Cancer-Virgo world! Sometimes you will find it difficult, sometimes sweet or intense... there are a lot of emotions to pass through and also mental challenges ... but you know what? You get addicted to this things. A Cancer and a Virgo can't stay apart from each other once the connection is made. And the situation is more difficult because you work together so even if you want to get away from the other you can't because you still have to meet each other everyday. And so the bond grows stronger and stronger and you try to avoid it but you can't. The dissapearing and the acting that nothing happened before is because of this.

At the beginning of any relationship you need some time to see how things work. Working together doesn't allow you to have that time of your own so everyday you have to face the emotions and deal with them, for both Virgos and Cancers.

I've noticed that Virgo are very patient even they like to make the first move. But because Cancers are so hidden inside, the Virgo will not be so sure that he has to make the first move. So the Cancer will get more and more confident with himself that he will show his feelings for the Virgo. After that, the Virgo is so amazed by the intensity of the Cancer's feelings that he needs his own space to analyze the things that happened and to see how he couldnt figure that out. And so the Cancer begins to be unsure of himself and sees the Virgo so cold and without feelings that he retreats in the shell... and this seems to be the beginning of the rollercoster and of the mind games that stimultes both the Virgo and Cancer.

Posted by Cancer69
I don't see if 2 people are really like eachother why play these games...

Games are fun.

He's probably not convinced you're into him or he's feeling out his options.

I'm not really sure how he feels....When we see eachother it's like we are the only ones around he is always walking by my office and staring at me and the way he stares I just melt....When we are together it feels so magical..He will be leaving my job soon he is a sub contractor so we don't really work together....He said wait till he leaves and things will be better...I just don't get it. It was all fun and ok at first and no problems and now it's like he makes no time for me at all...I broke and told him how I felt and it was hard but I felt he was worth opening up to so I did it and he said alot of things as well and it seemed we was on the same page....The only thing he said was that alot of the guys he works with says alot of things about me like they want me and such...I told him I can't controll what they say but I would never do that to him my eyes are for him and him only...I just feel that I am wasting my time at this point...I'm the type of person if it feels right then go for it I don't feel this connection often and I know if he let it happen it would be an Amazing thing.But now I feel that it's a one way street and I don't know if I should just give him his space and move on or what it's just hard for me to act like I don't care when I strongly do...I just feel if someone really likes you then nothing should stop you from what you want or maybe thats just me....Thank you all for your input I am just trying to understand this Virgo I know signs are not everything but I know what they say about Cancer is sooooooo dead on me and I have never been with a Virgo I don't even think I know one Ha! I just feel something with this man that I have never felt with anyone and soooo early into it...very scary

Posted by 25thDecan
Man oh man where do these dudes come from? I think he's not actually single, and he's a piece of jersey shore muff cabbage for not being honest about it. Why have drama like that at work—??(directed at him) wth?

LMFAOOOOO

"I don't see if 2 people are really like eachother why play these games..."
completely agree with this. games are resourse of fun i guess till the moment it not cause damage.For cancer to take part in such games requires to be equal "sparring" partner ,which is unlikely ,because of the differrent "mind legues .
why virgos need to play games? they are known as honest and straightforward people?what is the "bet" that give such satisfaction ?

If you can trade emotional cling-on fullfillment for your beloved cleanliness and order then yes, dive right in.

Posted by quo vadis?
"I don't see if 2 people are really like eachother why play these games..."
completely agree with this. games are resourse of fun i guess till the moment it not cause damage.For cancer to take part in such games requires to be equal "sparring" partner ,which is unlikely ,because of the differrent "mind legues .
why virgos need to play games? they are known as honest and straightforward people?what is the "bet" that give such satisfaction ?

Question QV: I'm not saying that you do this but can you perhaps enlighten me as to the "Cancer manipulation?" I get the whole "emotions" thing but, I would like to hear it straight from the mouth of a Cancer. In love relationships, the mind games and emotional manipulation, what is it all about? Is it to feel a sense of dominance over the other due to low self-esteem? Is it just your own emotional confusion of not knowing what you really want or not being sure of the other so it looks like you're playing games when your really not? Is it your indirectness that causes you to play games and manipulate to get what you really want? I guess Cancers could ask Virgos the same thing hence the reason for this thread as we seem to confuse eachother a hell of alot but what is it all about underneath it all?

AngleicVirgo....What do you think that pull is between these two signs? I mean cancers are all I attract now...almost uncanny and they always seem really into me. The problem seems to be getting on the same page after the first meeting.

Can't really comment much on the post here. I def am a strange Virgo guy. When I'm into someone, I'm rather Tom Cruise on Oprah's couch about things. I've been this way even in my teens.

sorry VirgoVixxxen,i couldn't be much of help here,because i didn't have close romantic relationship .i don't play games,i was referring to the post.i don't want to mislead people ,however i often confuse them.Hmmmm,from my experience i learned 1 important thing about relationships:you can't manipulate or convince the other to feel something you want,if it's not there.Hmmm just today i was accused by virgo that i'm trying to present myself as a "victim" ,trying to look for compassion ,but as you know there are at least two sides to every story ,so depends from the point of view.I agree that cancer can be manipulative,as any other sign too.
i believe in your case the cancer you meet is completelysincere and honest about what he is feeling,well perhaps he just may be a little insecure that he could be rejected.
i think Sandyclaws could help you more,because she knows very well virgos.

Thanks so much QV. Just trying to get a better understanding of what goes on inside of you Cancers. Perhaps the same thing that goes on inside of us Virgos when we two meet? C & V's have such a weird, awesome, intense connection that it's literally out of this world. It's mind boggling, actually. No one confuses me except a damn Cancer (and scorps a bit too...just a bit). I can literally feel the electricity between myself and this guy and it's just downright otherworldly...

As for your Virgo, yes we do tend to feel like you Cancers are playing victim often. The martyr attitude gets to be a bit much sometimes for us because we are pretty much "just get yourself together" type of folk. We kick our feelings to the side and trudge on. It's our logical side that always wins over. Cancers deal with the world of feelings so until your Virgo learns and understands your emotional processes, there will always be confusion and misunderstanding as to why you say or behave a certain way.

I really thank everyone for all your input...I really am an emotional person and I think the best thing is to keep my distance I hate feeling like I am chasing someone that doesn't want to be caught I know our signs play some part of how we are but I think if you care and really want to be with someone you will make that effort to do so...Ha maybe I scared him off..He always says he is very honest but it seems like I can't ever get a straight answer from him at all...Well he is leaving my job tomorrow so It will be alot easier for me to get over it without him in my face all day....Thank you sooooo very much to all of you it may not seem like much but all the input really does help 🙂

LOL Thanx Decan first smile of the day 🙂

Posted by 100percentvirgo
AngleicVirgo....What do you think that pull is between these two signs?

ehhh.. hard question... Cancerians expect people to read their minds and we are pretty good at this. They need optimistic people in their life and we are. They are used to be the ones that everybody likes them - we also do like them but we don't show it from the beginning so they start to think that they have to impress us more and more so they get closer to us. Once they get closer they get the security they need, because we don't like to hurt people even when they hurt us. We are very stable and cancers crave for this. The attraction comes from the inside to the outside. I think they cannot manipulate us, they now that if we do something it's because we enjoy to do it.

The most important thing is that they find in us all the things that a cancer looks in a partner and all these things came natural from us, it's something that we are not something that we are trying to be so that we could attract them.

"As for your Virgo, yes we do tend to feel like you Cancers are playing victim often. The martyr attitude gets to be a bit much sometimes for us because we are pretty much "just get yourself together" type of folk. We kick our feelings to the side and trudge on. It's our logical side that always wins over. Cancers deal with the world of feelings so until your Virgo learns and understands your emotional processes, there will always be confusion and misunderstanding as to why you say or behave a certain way. "

we just work in same department and i'm trying to find the right way of communication ,difficult is for me to understand him. but you are right:the problem is in me and i really have to "just get myself together"....that constant "battle" between thoughts and emotions sometimes makes me impulsive and not good way to gain success in life

we just work in same department and i'm trying to find the right way of communication ,difficult is for me to understand him. but you are right:the problem is in me and i really have to "just get myself together"....that constant "battle" between thoughts and emotions sometimes makes me impulsive and not good way to gain success in life




Yes it can be very difficult for V/C's to understand one another. You may want to try being a little more direct and see what happens? I know that being direct is normally not a Cancer's 'thing' but, you're not all the same right? I'm sorry to probe but, can you provide additional details? Is he taken? Have the two of you established to eachother that you're interested? Forgive me if I missed something? If you don't want to, or if it's too uncomfortable, I'll understand.

you make me smile Virgovixxxen...we are only colleagues and i see on this forum the main topic are man-woman romantic relationshps.
i explained to him /he's born on September 13/ that just because I understand or see something clearly in my own mind, doesn't mean that I can quickly help someone else see the same thing I see or understand.
The problem for me is that i often expect the opposite to be true.And when it's not, then become frustration that the other person not paying attention or listening.i think he understand me ,because today we are more civilized in our communication.
i really think than in this case the sunsign matters ,because he has no problems with connection and understanding with the virgo,cap,pisces taurus and leo colleagues.He has strong convictions,very calm and always with logic ahead ,that's why i respect him .Not to mention he is very smart,so it's not about boyfriend-girlfriend theme.

Thanks QV. I was just trying to get a better understanding of the type of relationship you had with the Virgo because it would help me or anyone else, to better help you or answer questions you may have. When you mentioned that the two of you worked together, I assumed that there was an attraction brewing. Perhaps because I am in that situation but on the reverse. I didn't want to assume anymore, and asked for clarification. Thanks for clearing it up and now I understand better.

The very first encounter or experience that a Virgo has with a Cancer or vice versa, can really leave your head spinning. Cancers and Virgos both have such different ways of communicating that they leave one another in a constant state of intrigue. I don't think there's ever a boring moment when a Cancer and Virgo team up because although they share many, many, similarities, their differences (and even the differences are complimentary) make for grand excitement. Once a Virgo gets their first dose of a Cancer, or Cancer their first dose of a Virgo, each one is hooked (and of course this doesn't apply to every single Cancer and Virgo...just speaking generally). Both want and try hard to understand the other and will 'analyze' and 'feel' their way through until they figure each other out. Ha! For the Cancers and Virgos that are too chickenshit to actually approach one another, it can be a never ending cycle of confusion, games and manipulation and exhaustion until someone gives up. Cancer and Virgo are both an enigma to one another. They both truly want to understand the other.

QV I hope this helps a bit more. I know I spun it from more of a romantic angle but you take what you need and throw the rest away. You and your Virgo should have no problem getting along in the workplace because naturally, the two can go together like peanut butter & jelly. Keep in mind that he is going to do everything through his head and in the work place as a Cancer, feelings would probably be best to be put aside in some instances.

The interaction I have with my virguy friend started out very guarded on both our sides. He was the one who asked me to lunch first though. But maybe I'm not a 'normal' cancer, because I am able to be direct once I 'sense' that someone is being genuine with me. We had some open and direct conversations and I could tell it was tough for both of us. It was kind of like we had to both go on faith and just say what we had to say. Once we had some practice doing that, and no one got hurt, it has become much easier to just talk to each other.

He's learned to go with my intensity, and I've learned to back off more. He doesn't do the out of sight out of mind thing. We can go a week or so with just work talk, then hang out and enjoy each other's company when we get together on our own time. I think cancers tend to think intensity has to be sustained or keep increasing for the feelings to be 'valid'. But virgos are in for the lower-level long haul. If a cancer can connect on a real level with a virgo, that sinks in and it's easy to relax and trust in the connection. And once a cancer can relax and back off a bit, a virgo can learn that the emotions from a cancer won't suffocate.

But there are so many variables, it all depends on the people involved.

thank you very much vv and sandyclows for the explanation and advices🙂

Well I thought I would give an update on how things went...He left last Thursday he text me good morning sweetheart and said we would get together before he left, that morning...(Another broken promise) never seen him for the rest of that day...I text him when I left for the day, (goodbye and it was nice while it lasted and I wished him all the luck)And I never heard back from him 😢 it's been 5 days I decided if he really liked me he would make more af an effort so I won't be calling or texting him anymore....I thought it would be easier with him gone but all his other co-workers keep mentioning him to me...My heart feels broke but I will get over it as I always do...What do you guys think?

Sorry to hear that. But... something makes me feel that he is involved in a relationship but also he liked you a lot and he can't deal with the feelings.

Try not to think of him, don't put you life on hold because of him. And if he contacts you just enjoy the moment! Time is a friend in the relationship between C and V, at least that's how I feel. Keep us updated because I think there will be more 🙂

Thank you Angelic 🙂 I'm not waiting around I know I deserve way more than what is being given....But I can't lie it really does hurt...It seemed like it was sooooo right and that we was on the same page in so many levels I just can't understand how things changed so fast not the person I thought he was at all...He might have someone I don't know...He's not from here but looks like he plans on staying here...He kept telling me things will get better but all they did was get worst..Oh well thanx for listening and giving input it really helps to know how other signs react with one another