MissCancer6
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Cancer Woman Confused by Virgo Man
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I met Virgo Man 4 months ago for a FWB relationship and was instantly smitten! As a Crab, it's difficult for me to come out of my shell and open up to anyone but with him, it was almost effortless and I was a little shocked when he shared some intimate details from his past with me (I did my homework). And his eyes....I was mezmorized looking into his eyes (still am!). S*x with him was Ahhhh-mazing from the beginning but I had to put the brakes on after a couple of weeks because I felt myself becoming emotionally involved and that wasn't the deal. He is very persuasive -and I am weak when it comes to him - so we still saw each other occasionally but I began to ignore his texts in hopes he'd give up and move on. Not because I didn't want to see him but I was developing deep feelings for this man who could satisfy me in ALL ways. The last time we were together was so intense (and very gratifying!) but I knew I had to move on because I was falling big time. That was almost 6 weeks ago and i had successfully stayed away until today but I couldn't ignore him when he wanted to know why no responses and was thinking he had done something wrong. I evaded that issue but agreed to see him again after he told me he missed being with me and had been trying to get in touch with me for some time (glutton for punishment, I know). Thing is, when we're together we do everything in the bed except cuddle (not that I've ever tried). But all that I've read about Virgo men is that they have to really like someone to 'do the deed' and I would think that, with me ignoring him for so long (childish, I know) , he would have found someone else to..ummm...satisfy him if that's all he wanted. So, I'd like opinions from other Virgo men or women who know them very well - could he be interested in more than just a physical relationship and if so, how can I bring that out of him? Or should I continue to keep my feelings for him hidden in my shell and either call it quits once and for all or accept things as they are?
Okay, as a virgo who has been with a cancer... i'm telling you stop the putting onthe breaks if you feel something for this man. do you not care abouthim? find yourself emotionally attaching? Why are you afraid of this? Virgo's do not typically sleep around with just anyone, man or woman. You felt these things because you were on the same emotional wavelength. I know, because I have
I messed up my comment.. basically crabs nor virgos are fwb material and there is deep emotional currents between the 2 from my experience. I still miss my crab deeply, even though I have tried to move on. You communicating with him is important. Shutting him out, after he opened up to you, would def cause the behaviors of friendly and distant sometimes. It comes off as playing games, esp when you are backing off. Yet, he's come back around. We only do this if we are really interested in someone. Not many male or female virgo's are out to just get a piece of ass for 4 months. Virg's dont open up easily... and when we do it can be very hurtful when someone just drops us. Try not to be so afraid of what's happening and go with the flow. When we say something, it's true. Dont shut off something special if you know you feel as well. Good luck!
Thanks! I did emotionally attach right from the start and have found that I think of him often whether we're talking or not. But he gives off mixed signals which leaves me confused and scuttling back in my shell. Talking over the phone/text, it's all about s*x but when we're together we've talked for hours about everything (but no cuddling which confuses me).
Wow. Thanks for clarifying....I was completely unaware what FWB meant (sarcasm font on).
You missed the point. Contrary to what you think I DO know what FWB means; 'no emotional attachment allowed' is why I backed off in the first place. The point of my post was asking if maybe there could be more to it than that since I've gotten mixed signals. If 'a piece of meat' or 'a tool' was all he's after, surely he would have found another by now, right? No? This is why I posted.
You missed the point. Contrary to what you think I DO know what FWB means; 'no emotional attachment allowed' is why I backed off in the first place. The point of my post was asking if maybe there could be more to it than that since I've gotten mixed signals. If 'a piece of meat' or 'a tool' was all he's after, surely he would have found another by now, right? No? This is why I posted.
Perhaps you are both right. Being a Cancer, I tend to let emotions blind me from time to time and maybe, in this instance, too much research wasn't a good thing. After reading up on Virgo's, I assumed that when he told me intimate details about himself and when he kept persuing me, that there may be more. I know that I agreed to a no-strings-attached arrangement which is why I tried to back off when I first starting developing feelings. There's just something special about him, ya know? *sigh* Thanks for your opinions and the reality check. I'm thinking seeing him again would not be a good idea.
Pick your FWB very carefully. It sounds like your instincts to leave were good but better than your instincts to enter into a FWB with a guy your really really like. Always pick the guy you wouldn't want to bring around your family and friends. Perhaps not really your type but enough of your type to lay down with. That would actually make it more fun, less painful because you would always be somewhat emotionally detached. Just don't get knocked up or you will be stuck with him forever. 😛
Or, just don't have these relationships, doesn't seem to gratifying to me. As a Cancer and a woman it's important to know who you are and what you want from a relationship so that when these issues come up they can be dealt with appropriately and swiftly.
Try not to think too much about what he's thinking and doing, you don't know him that well to say he isn't sleeping with someone else. Plus it's not really your business, anyhow. The fact that he is ignoring your texts and shutting you off speaks to his interests.
If you really want to get to the grits of the matter, tell him you want to renegotiate the contract to a friendship only! Tell him you are starting to really like him and want to get to know him better; tell him that from now on you are only having sex with men you are in a committed, monogamous, relationships with. So from now on he should contact you for a proper date, i.e. restaurants, concerts, walks in the park, etc.
Or, just don't have these relationships, doesn't seem to gratifying to me. As a Cancer and a woman it's important to know who you are and what you want from a relationship so that when these issues come up they can be dealt with appropriately and swiftly.
Try not to think too much about what he's thinking and doing, you don't know him that well to say he isn't sleeping with someone else. Plus it's not really your business, anyhow. The fact that he is ignoring your texts and shutting you off speaks to his interests.
If you really want to get to the grits of the matter, tell him you want to renegotiate the contract to a friendship only! Tell him you are starting to really like him and want to get to know him better; tell him that from now on you are only having sex with men you are in a committed, monogamous, relationships with. So from now on he should contact you for a proper date, i.e. restaurants, concerts, walks in the park, etc.
Hey MissCancer6,
My Virgo bestfriend and I had a conversation about FWB a couple months ago. And the conversation started like this:
I asked, "Have you ever engaged in a friends with benefits?"
Him, "Yes."
Me, "Why didn't you date her beyond that?"
Him, "I would never. I would question her as a person with dignity or integrity."
Me, "Why would you put that against her when you, essentially, are a person of questionable dignity and integrity too."
Him, "That's why I would never expect her to date me."
Then he added, "Do you build the roof of the house before the foundation?"
So, that kind of ended our conversation. I hope you understood the moral of the story. What he's trying to say is that if he had wanted to date the girl, he would not have agreed to those terms. He would have tried to get to know her in a dignified and honest way before they jumped into bed with one another. But, because he had no intentions of dating her, he didn't mind the sexual relationship.
My Virgo bestfriend and I had a conversation about FWB a couple months ago. And the conversation started like this:
I asked, "Have you ever engaged in a friends with benefits?"
Him, "Yes."
Me, "Why didn't you date her beyond that?"
Him, "I would never. I would question her as a person with dignity or integrity."
Me, "Why would you put that against her when you, essentially, are a person of questionable dignity and integrity too."
Him, "That's why I would never expect her to date me."
Then he added, "Do you build the roof of the house before the foundation?"
So, that kind of ended our conversation. I hope you understood the moral of the story. What he's trying to say is that if he had wanted to date the girl, he would not have agreed to those terms. He would have tried to get to know her in a dignified and honest way before they jumped into bed with one another. But, because he had no intentions of dating her, he didn't mind the sexual relationship.
I think I might have misunderstood the agreement of FWB deal u two made in the beginning. I would be careful. Becoming attached can be a bad thing in this situation, if you cant handle it, dont do it. However, I will say that I would never start telling things that are very personal to me, it is never with a FWB. Like I said before, crabs and virg's are not FWB material in most cases. The onlytime I have done that was with someone I was not interested for more, and I did NOT share deep info. Even then, I become attached in some sort of way. There is a very strong sexual attraction between the two signs and from my experience a deeper level of understanding each other. Problem is communicating out loud... and thats a biggy. You both might FEEL it, but it's hard to communicate it. This has happened with multiple crabs. Like I said... good luck either way you go.
Agree with Moonman 100% !
Political correctness confuses reality!
Political correctness confuses reality!
+2 for MoonMan. I was a bit confused with what FWB actually meant as I am used to the term Fuck Buddy. It's a crude term but much more honest and sobering. I had never heard of FWB until I joined a particular dating website and it was all the rage.
But regardless of what term you call it, the results are usually the same, someone develops deeper feelings.
But regardless of what term you call it, the results are usually the same, someone develops deeper feelings.
Posted by MissCancer6
I met Virgo Man 4 months ago for a FWB relationship
.... could he be interested in more than just a physical relationship
::: shakes head :::
So, let me guess .. you want him to be accountible, via how he feels ... so you won't feel how you look = a slut
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