Confusing Virgo man

Alright.

(For context, I'm a Sag Sun, Sag Rising, with Venus in Aqua)

About a month and half ago I met this Virgo man on Tinder. Very shy, a bit socially awkward, but seemed like he was very determined to be in a serious relationship. I went on vacation for a week and he sent me messages all the time, complimented me whenever I sent him pictures of myself, and was very keen on us meeting.

We met for the first time about a month ago and went out. I wasn't sure about him at first glance, because he seemed far more serious than I am, the constant questions were throwing me off and he was just *so* eager. Nevertheless, I agreed to go out with him a second time, and a third, and a fourth etc. He kissed me on the second date, and whenever our dates ended he sent me these messages about how into me he was. Slowly, he kind of began to chip away at my shields because he just came off so earnest.

We ended up having sex and he even told me that his feelings were already moving past just the "liking" stage at this point. As a Sag, this threw me for a loop and I just reiterated that I obviously like him as well. Then one night, we ended up getting into a bit of an argument, and I left his place feeling a bit confused. I still wanted to see him, but he himself had said that it would be a good idea to take some time to think. Because of this, we didn't send each other all that many messages the past week. However, then all of a sudden he sent me a message asking if I was mad at him, and apparently he thought that the whole time apart thing was for me? He told me he missed me and that he just hadn't wanted to be a nuisance. I told him that I had developed a bit of a crush on him and we agreed to see again.

The last time I saw him, we ended up having sex again, and afterwards he did this whole speech about how long it takes for him to develop serious feelings for someone - He also mentioned that I had actually caused him anxiety by telling him that I had a small crush on him. While he himself had love bombed me right from the start! I told him that it wasn't all that serious and I'm just the kind of person who blabbers endearments constantly. This felt a bit hypocritical to me, as he'd been so vocal about his interest right from the get-go.

On the surface, everything is well and good, but we were supposed to see each other tomorrow, but he up and cancelled and said he has to work overtime tomorrow. He did say he was sorry, but I did find it weird that he sent me that message at 9:30 pm the day before, when I think he could've and should've known about his work engagement prior? The cancellation bothers me, but I'm also a bit befuddled by how his texting behavior has changed. At first, he'd always send me these very sweet messages after our meetings, and now, nothing. He's still very touchy feely whenever we meet, and uses pet names etc. but I can't help but feel a sort of distance.

I had a bad experience prior to meeting him with a guy ghosting me after sex, so I still feel a bit burned by that experience. Is there a rational reason for why this Virgo would all of a sudden switch gears and seem less than enthusiastic in text? I don't want to sound clingy, because I am definitely not, but I just fear that I'm wasting my time on someone who is pulling in the other direction. This guy came off so honest and sweet, that I just find myself feeling quite confused by it all.

Would y'all honestly say you're not interested in someone or do you just have a tendency to blow hot and cold? Feedback appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

He "love bombed" you FROM the beginning. That's a red flag right there.

This is exactly why I hate texting anyone and I sit on my hands until they message me. Start talking to other guys and don't ignore him, but don't go out of your way either. Also, don't cancel any plans if he wants to do something last minute. Tell him you have plans and he needs to plan to see you. Switch back and forth between compromising but don't up and cancel anything once he becomes available.

Virgos take a while, I guess. I'm currently seeing one too and I just wait until he contacts me, we see each other then I send a text saying can't wait to see you again and then just leave it at that. He knows my interest level and can choose to see me if he wants. We've been seeing each other fairly consistently so far. If I don't know what he's doing, he doesn't know what I'm doing ether AND if I do have plans, it's his fault for not planning ahead, cause I don't flake on people.

I got sick of the pulling away with the last Virgo I was seeing, seemed like he was playing games with the canceling and not making me a priority, so I cut him off. Then he came back 2 months later and said he didn't think I took his feelings into consideration. I calmly reminded him that we were not boyfriend and girlfriend and that we were friends only. We owed each other no explanations of not having sex anymore. But I am a little cut throat when I get tired of stuff. 😄

My point to all this,

I think he will be back, just let him have his space and do you for a while. Try not to concentrate on him. He probably needs time to think about how he feels about you- Although you probably wont really know until he's sure.