Contacting the virgo man with a cancer venus

Hi I've been dating a virgo sun man for about a month now. Everything has felt whirlwind, full on lovely. He has cancer venus, Aries in moon and mars, virgo in mercury. talks of the future all instigated by him and I'm taking long term future, come away with my family next year, we may have to make decisions about where to live sometime together. We live a fair distance apart but he always said he doesn't care, he told me he loved me 10days in, drove 110 miles to take me for dinner and I was a bit woah but when I thought on it it felt right to reciprocate and i love u came after sex, which we both admitted happened sooner than we had planned. He said we are perfect for each other, soulmates, meant to be together, way past just sex etc.
I just went to spend the weekend with him. he was loving as normal until the 3rd day in. I am not aware of any change but suddenly he seemed cooler, detached etc. I pulled him up on it and it became a 3 hr conversation where he revealed he had been trying to find ways to bring us together easier by maybe relocating, asking his boss to expand the business for him to take over elsewhere.this is pretty serious, he went into a panic about what if we couldn't afford to see ach other as often as we like, if once a week isn't enough, if we get so emotionally attached and then get torn apart by this distance / money thing? I was trying to calm him down but was also reeling as I know he's been hurt and is so afraid of t happening again but I don't think any amount of virgo planning or venus cancer fear can fully protect him frm the future. I said I won't hurt him, it's like he didn't hear.he was worried that he had emotionally shut down and didn't know how to come back from this place of resignation. In the morning I was so worried he would be cold but he wasn't too bad. I got stressed at him for I felt he was trying to BS me with needing space to think as an excuse to break it gently but he insisted he wants it to work and not count him out but he didn't also want me to feel like I was waiting for his answer, to live my life So I am giving him space, reluctantly and I told him its painful and that I hope he will call not text when he is ready to talk, he said he would and that I hoped he would revisit our Facebook and SMS chats. I even rang a psychic line and gave her nothing and she says he will call next week, that he's scared but is an all or nothing type. Is this normal virgo in love behaviour—

I meant to add in and it keeps not showing here but does me giving him the space he asked for as he believes this space is what he needs to know if we stand a chance of making it,, will his cancer venus still be hoping I'll message him to show I care or shall I really listen to him and just not contact him. I miss him so much.