The Cancer Male Virgo Female dynamic

Posted by incandescentcancer
^^ I am Cancer with all air and fire placement (except sun and mercury in Cancer) plus the aquarian moon plays havoc with my personality ...lol. But I see what you mean on PDA, I am usually not very forward with PDA but if a girl initiates it I wont act like a prude/jerk. But lack of PDA doesn't mean I act like her brother either...lol, I think everyone usually knows the moment they see us together. It's kind of hard to explain.

Posted by Peanutbutter
Plus no matter where we go he always guides me by touching my lower back ever so lightly.. hehe.. we still haven't held hands (in public) but otherwise it's pretty evident that were together. I gave him a kiss on the cheek in public! Lol, totally not a big deal to those who r used to playing tonsil hockey in public but it was def s big step for myself since I'm neva eva eva that affectionate w/ anyone in the open! It kinda feels good!

Posted by incandescentcancer
Lastly, Virgos are going to end a relationship with one fell stroke of the surgical knife. They will NOT lead you on since they think it's a waste of time and energy. You can avoid this though, the key being communication, Virgos like to talk and then rationalize things in their heads. A Cancer has the unparalleled ability to sense things going wrong, use it. When you can feel that things are off immediately talk to your Virgo and this will prevent the whole "breaking down on your knees" thing from happening. Virgos allow things to build for some time and then wham they hit you all in one go, so never let the build up happen, talk to her and melt her from the inside out before things get hot. They are very reasonable people and when you talk and sort things out nobody puts things behind them as fast as a Virgo can. Cancers tend to hold on to something and allow it to fester, you got to lose that habit for a healthy relationship with a virgo. As soon as something upsets you or you think she is upset, talk to her (give her a day's space, it usually works) briefly but solidly and trust me you will never have to break down on your knees again!

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Posted by incandescentcancer
Lastly, Virgos are going to end a relationship with one fell stroke of the surgical knife. They will NOT lead you on since they think it's a waste of time and energy. You can avoid this though, the key being communication, Virgos like to talk and then rationalize things in their heads. A Cancer has the unparalleled ability to sense things going wrong, use it. When you can feel that things are off immediately talk to your Virgo and this will prevent the whole "breaking down on your knees" thing from happening. Virgos allow things to build for some time and then wham they hit you all in one go, so never let the build up happen, talk to her and melt her from the inside out before things get hot. They are very reasonable people and when you talk and sort things out nobody puts things behind them as fast as a Virgo can. Cancers tend to hold on to something and allow it to fester, you got to lose that habit for a healthy relationship with a virgo. As soon as something upsets you or you think she is upset, talk to her (give her a day's space, it usually works) briefly but solidly and trust me you will never have to break down on your knees again!

Wow you know your Virgos!

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Posted by Virggy
It's funny this thread pops up. I have two friends and both of them have virgo/cancer parents. First friend, a Leo, has a Virgo dad and Cancer mom. There are a lot of factors to consider in their marriage of course, but looking at it just astrologically, it's not the best match. My friend's mom is a super sensitive and emotional Cancer woman. (It might be so extreme because of other chart placements, but I haven't done her chart so I can't speak on those). It's clear that the Virgo dad really doesn't fully get her (could also be because of other chart placements). They can easily be at odds, and the Cancer takes it personally and immediately reacts. Virgo takes it personally but doesn't address it immediately. He might let it fester for awhile. Lots of cold, awkward silences over dinner.

On the other side, my Libra friend has a Virgo mom and Cancer dad. They met and married young. But they had her later in life (mid forties I want to say). Virgo woman honestly to me seems like she nearly hates the guy. Cancer dad is very impulsive, fun-loving, maybe even a little immature for his age (which is like 60). I personally think he's a fun guy but I don't have to spend all day, every day with him either. But yeah, the Virgo woman seems more ready to share and express herself when she's upset (as opposed to the Virgo dad above). She yells at him a lot, he laughs it off. But hey, they're still together so either it's not that bad, or they're stuck. I haven't figured it out yet.

These are older couples I'm referring to,but I guess speaking in generalities the astrology applies. It sounds like a good dynamic to me, on paper. But once I actually experienced being around these couples for extended lengths of time, I had second thoughts. I still want to believe it can work though >.>

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Posted by Peanutbutter
Plus no matter where we go he always guides me by touching my lower back ever so lightly.. hehe.. we still haven't held hands (in public) but otherwise it's pretty evident that were together. I gave him a kiss on the cheek in public! Lol, totally not a big deal to those who r used to playing tonsil hockey in public but it was def s big step for myself since I'm neva eva eva that affectionate w/ anyone in the open! It kinda feels good!

Hahhahaha, I do the first part too, the light touch to the lower back. The idea is to let her know that I am there and not to worry about anything. I am usually comfortable with a kiss on the cheek, I don't even mind a genuine kiss in public (don't mean slobbering over eachother but a more dignified kiss). I am just not comfortable with grabbing eachother in public or touching inappropriately etc. I think it's a bit much and it's uncomfortable for the people around as well.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
^^Hahaha you have no idea. It's intense war goading eachother, making snide remarks, taking potshots at things we do etc etc. The list just goes on and on about how bad it's gotten. The basic urge is to drive eachother to jealousy, anger and rage to see who breaks first. Every step is planned to cause maximum damage. I can no longer believe that I loved this person at one point in time. You are right no one can play out enimity and hate like Cancers and Virgos. And people say we are calm, rational signs...lol.

Posted by Peanutbutter
But trust me cancers, we Virgals don't mean to b cold nor all about logic, our emotions are just that, feelings. I personally don't see why they must be translated into words. And even if one tries to verbalize feelings of love, words will always fall short you know?

I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.

It's strange but every time I meet a virgo woman I always see this cute, sensitive little girl inside her and I want to draw that girl out. I think that's what most Cancer men somehow see in a Virgo woman and hence the great sensitivity and care they shower on them. However I have also come across nasty virgo women who have tried to take advantage of this, in which case I won't forget and will pay back ruthlessly (not very Cancer there..😄).

Posted by Peanutbutter
But trust me cancers, we Virgals don't mean to b cold nor all about logic, our emotions are just that, feelings. I personally don't see why they must be translated into words. And even if one tries to verbalize feelings of love, words will always fall short you know?

I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.

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Posted by Peanutbutter
But trust me cancers, we Virgals don't mean to b cold nor all about logic, our emotions are just that, feelings. I personally don't see why they must be translated into words. And even if one tries to verbalize feelings of love, words will always fall short you know?

I told my cancer from the beginning that even tho I may not show it I feel it like everyone else. I mean sometimes I wish my words flowed easily from my tongue like it does for you crabs... Sigh. But what can I do, I am only a mere earth sign.. sigh.

Your not going to be the one making the big mistakes it will be him, and the Virgo/Cancer have the best honeymoon period of any sign IMHO. After that the Cancer gets in attached mode, then put the private eye glasses on to see what your really about. If he finds anything inconcistent he will internalize it to a boiling point. He might even violate your privacy so be prepared we do petty crap like that. Its a protection mechanism for us.

I can't really give u advice on how not to hurt his feelings as thats not your responsibility, but if u want it to work be yourself and give him time to see who you are as a person and how you react on different things.

If you want that process to accelerate your going to have to lie about one thing, your ex's. You cannot give the inkling that you feel your ex's are more handsome or attractive than than we are to you. We have to feel your in awe of us right now. You can tell us how you feel later once we get to know each other, then it doesn't matter since we are less fragile since we know you better. Our ego is too fraglie on that respect, we have to be lied to for the time being.

You dont have to do this of course, but a Cancer Male is huge on that type of thing

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Posted by supaleader06
Why is it so much negativity on Cancer/Virgo Relationships? I am currently dating my second virgo, and things are amazing!!!! We clicked instantyl The only reason why Virgo # 1 didn't work out was because she was still in love with her ex and they were together for about 3 years, so obviously she wasn't quite ready for another relationship. However, we are still good friends.

I think what makes Cancer and Virgo work is the fact that Cancers bring out the emotions that virgos try to keep locked inside. We make them FEEL. And in return, Virgos "toughen" up cancers with their critical and analytical natures, overall pushing Cancers to be more confident. Both benefit off of eachother.


My current Virgo is just like this. She sucks at expressing feelings, instead she tries to cover up her feelings by using her sarcastic nature. At first I thought she was just a cold b***h, but then I sat back and recalled all of the things she does for me to show that she cares. Virgos dont express with words, they express with action. Sexually, they are very passionate in bed like Cancers. Both like to make love 😄

Don't get me wrong, it's definetly not a walk through the park, but it's definetly not impossible like A Cancer and Aquarius (Talk about Hell)

Posted by firebunny
is hightide still around? i think he's a cool guy. i want him for limm.

oh geez lol

no offense to hightide but I def would rather take my cancer friend...annoyances and all! lol

Posted by MissFisk
LIMM would chew him up and spit him back out.