Do virgos always start off as friends first?

I gave this Virgo guy my number we always text a lot. Never a dull moment. I noticed he would read my messages but not respond. I asked him he said, "I'm sorry I suck at responding sometimes my cousin told me that recently. I don't mind if you continue to text when You haven't received a response!" I know virgos move verrrrry sloooooooow, when it comes to relationships! Is there anything I should be weary of?

Being a Virgo moon myself, it makes me more Virgo than Pisces the older I get, so here's to ya:

"We" like our alone time during which we don't like to be bothered. It's when we recharge our batteries and process thoughts & emotions. It's nothing personal, it's not that we doesn't like you enough, it's more like we wanting to be left in peace for a little while. We'll get back to you when we're ready, and when we do it'll be like no time has passed. Meaning we'll pick up where we left off last time.

The worst thing you can do is push the matter and turn it into an issue. We don't like to be rushed. When the pressure from you starts building up, we start associating negative feelings with you, like annoyance. Once that happens, it's hard to repair the damage and it doesn't go away. Stubborn is our middle name 😉

Like a Cancer friend of mine, very persistent guy. He picks the worst times to get in touch to the point where whenever I see his message come through, I automatically groan. I don't hate him or anything, but I don't look forward to chatting with him anymore. It's like a chore.

If you like your Virgo, you'll leave him be once in a while. He'll really appreciate it in the longrun.

I believe it is the Virgo motto to be friends first so they can feel you out. The real challenge is waiting for them to decide weather you're worthy of their love or not.

It can literally feel like an eternity if you're not patient enough. Even worse, it can break you in two if you fall too deep and after waiting forever for them, they don't reciprocate your feelings.

Truth is, they like to have their space. When they're in seclusion, you should let him be and do your own thing. Don't get offended if he doesn't respond your messages or doesn't call you back, he's just inside his own head going through some sort of process (that we, of course, don't understand). He'll eventually pull back from it and everything will be back to normal.

For better or for worse, i feel like being in love with a Virgo is a life a lesson.

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Being a Virgo moon myself, it makes me more Virgo than Pisces the older I get, so here's to ya:

"We" like our alone time during which we don't like to be bothered. It's when we recharge our batteries and process thoughts & emotions. It's nothing personal, it's not that we doesn't like you enough, it's more like we wanting to be left in peace for a little while. We'll get back to you when we're ready, and when we do it'll be like no time has passed. Meaning we'll pick up where we left off last time.

The worst thing you can do is push the matter and turn it into an issue. We don't like to be rushed. When the pressure from you starts building up, we start associating negative feelings with you, like annoyance. Once that happens, it's hard to repair the damage and it doesn't go away. Stubborn is our middle name 😉

Like a Cancer friend of mine, very persistent guy. He picks the worst times to get in touch to the point where whenever I see his message come through, I automatically groan. I don't hate him or anything, but I don't look forward to chatting with him anymore. It's like a chore.

If you like your Virgo, you'll leave him be once in a while. He'll really appreciate it in the longrun.

I do not agree with the part where you say we don't change our minds about people, but then it must be another placement that makes me more flexible. If someone understands and gives me my space and is eventually nice or i realise i misjudged them because well i wasn't paying enough attention, then i definitely change my mind. It's a quite recent thing, may be since two years.

And to answer OP im not comfortable texting and replying, sometimes i just forget, most of the time i'm just busy and don't want to read messages or reply. But when i get close to someone then i reply once im not busy and ready to give an honorable answer. I actually hate replying on a rush and would rather keep my reply for later when i'm ready to make a good nice one. All my friends get that. I'm more of a face to face person.

I dont see what you mean by start off as friends, it depends on the relationship. If a virgo wants you, at least for me, they know it from the beginning even though they can give you the illusion of being just friends to get to know you and make a little progress before diving. And yes we are slow but love to be surprised and someone who knows how to initiate smoothly. It has to be smooth, nothing too emotional or calculated. We then process what happenned. Again I am speaking for myself, other placements might be reponsible for that.

They tend to, but that friendship period could last anywhere between a few days to a few decades.

My Virgent and I, our relationship began on a foundation of friendship with a heavy dose of flirtation until we realised, or rather he finally got his head around it, and into the right place by realising if we did not decide to pursue this further ahead. We would lose one another instead, even a friendship would no longer be a possible and viable option. Therefore we both decided to take the plunge, and here we are. 🙂

Be patient, be very patient.

Virgents, they tend to need the time and space to reside in their own minds. They do so in order to think their way through to their emotions.

Let them be, if he wants you, in time, he will come around and 'claim' you, there would be no mistaking it.

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
They tend to, but that friendship period could last anywhere between a few days to a few decades.

My Virgent and I, our relationship began on a foundation of friendship with a heavy dose of flirtation until we realised, or rather he finally got his head around it, and into the right place by realising if we did not decide to pursue this further ahead. We would lose one another instead, even a friendship would no longer be a possible and viable option. Therefore we both decided to take the plunge, and here we are. 🙂

Exactly basically all my relationships started with "frienship with a heavy dose of flirtation". I m stealing this one from you :p that's also why i don't call them friendship. It's a phase where i m interested, sometimes A LOT but still can't make up my mind so i just roll with it and see how it ends

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Be patient, be very patient.

Virgents, they tend to need the time and space to reside in their own minds. They do so in order to think their way through to their emotions.

Let them be, if he wants you, in time, he will come around and 'claim' you, there would be no mistaking it.

How does this claiming process work?

Posted by leo16
I gave this Virgo guy my number we always text a lot. Never a dull moment. I noticed he would read my messages but not respond. I asked him he said, "I'm sorry I suck at responding sometimes my cousin told me that recently. I don't mind if you continue to text when You haven't received a response!" I know virgos move verrrrry sloooooooow, when it comes to relationships! Is there anything I should be weary of?

No they dont.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Be patient, be very patient.

Virgents, they tend to need the time and space to reside in their own minds. They do so in order to think their way through to their emotions.

Let them be, if he wants you, in time, he will come around and 'claim' you, there would be no mistaking it.

How does this claiming process work?

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I would assume you are a Virgent, why would you even have the need to ask?

Posted by leo16

I gave this Virgo guy my number we always text

when it comes to relationships! Is there anything I should be weary of?

that's a big leap ... from hello to relationship assumption



btw, Virgos don't move slow. You just have expectations on him being more than he is, and since he isn't owning up to your fanatical expectation of him being in a relationship with you when he hasn't agreed to be anything more to you ........ you are being impatient for him to preform according to your fantasy.

There is no indication in anything you've said that even remotely suggests that he wants to be in a relationship with you .... but, here you are bombarding yourself with your fanatical imaginings of him moving towards a relationship with you.



It's very bizarre ..... this crazy shit women imagine, and fully believe it to be real.

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Posted by leo16

I gave this Virgo guy my number we always text

when it comes to relationships! Is there anything I should be weary of?

that's a big leap ... from hello to relationship assumption



btw, Virgos don't move slow. You just have expectations on him being more than he is, and since he isn't owning up to your fanatical expectation of him being in a relationship with you when he hasn't agreed to be anything more to you ........ you are being impatient for him to preform according to your fantasy.

There is no indication in anything you've said that even remotely suggests that he wants to be in a relationship with you .... but, here you are bombarding yourself with your fanatical imaginings of him moving towards a relationship with you.



It's very bizarre ..... this crazy shit women imagine, and fully believe it to be real.

Being single can be tough. And the longer one is single, the more unlovable one feels, and nobody enjoys that sensation. It can become a pretty uncomfortable itch.

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Feelings come from the self. Another person cannot make you feel loved, or unloved.

If a person feels unloved, it has to do with their own self esteem. People who feel unloved will do so even in a relationship because, again ... that is within the self.

One only has to look in dxp, for example, to see all these women in relationships where the men are there and present with them, and STILL come in here complaining about not being loved ..... so, it wouldn't matter who the man was on the other end, and they'd still feel unloved because it's a condition within themselves in where they don't love themselves.

In this case, again ... this woman is attempting to place relationship expectations on a man to whom she barely even knows, and who hasn't made an indication of wanting more (according to what she has written) .... and the mere fact that she feels lonely, doesn't constitute him having to accept expectations placed on him, nor does it mean that other people (like me) have to take her seriously and feel sorry for her.

Posted by leo16
I gave this Virgo guy my number we always text a lot. Never a dull moment. I noticed he would read my messages but not respond. I asked him he said, "I'm sorry I suck at responding sometimes my cousin told me that recently. I don't mind if you continue to text when You haven't received a response!" I know virgos move verrrrry sloooooooow, when it comes to relationships! Is there anything I should be weary of?

just too much thinking going on in virgos heads. if i respond immediately the person might lose interest in me, if i respond too late the person might lose interest in me haha. we virgos do well with friends, not love interests i think. yet, if a virgo feels secure and sure of the partners interest, virgo can feel comfortable opening up.

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy
Being a Virgo moon myself, it makes me more Virgo than Pisces the older I get, so here's to ya:

"We" like our alone time during which we don't like to be bothered. It's when we recharge our batteries and process thoughts & emotions. It's nothing personal, it's not that we doesn't like you enough, it's more like we wanting to be left in peace for a little while. We'll get back to you when we're ready, and when we do it'll be like no time has passed. Meaning we'll pick up where we left off last time.

The worst thing you can do is push the matter and turn it into an issue. We don't like to be rushed. When the pressure from you starts building up, we start associating negative feelings with you, like annoyance. Once that happens, it's hard to repair the damage and it doesn't go away. Stubborn is our middle name 😉

Like a Cancer friend of mine, very persistent guy. He picks the worst times to get in touch to the point where whenever I see his message come through, I automatically groan. I don't hate him or anything, but I don't look forward to chatting with him anymore. It's like a chore.

If you like your Virgo, you'll leave him be once in a while. He'll really appreciate it in the longrun.

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