DUMPED JUST LIKE THAT!! WTF—

How is this even possible— I'm just gobsmacked right now, would've never thought in a million years it would turn out like this! Stunned beyond description!! And I never saw it coming.

For someone who claims to really care about his partner, this was some real effin shady move. If you really love your partner, you do NOT pull this kind of stunt.

See, a Virgo friend of mine seemed to be very much in love with his girl. They had been together for several years after having met in their late teens, and they were planning a family. I've known this girl for a long time and she was crazy about him. She is also not a cheater. She's the last person I'd expect to cheat. I don't believe that's the case at all.

So I can't really figure out why they suddenly became sour with each other over time. Now, they're both competitive people but they were a very rocking couple. I saw things becoming strained between them bit by bit, but for him to just show up with his siblings and get all of his stuff out of their house and leave and not say a word to her........that's effin shady.

Under what circumstances would a Virgo turn so bitter?

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I'm fairly sure he's brushed his teeth since he dined on that cottage cheese-filled penis a few days ago. But erm.......10 feet is pretty much the distance, just to be on the safe side.

Posted by magma2
Some of us are/aren't highly assertive but after several years, any partner will know how we think about anything and everything, and that would most certainly include any issues in the relationship. So unless there was some sudden and serious (deal breaker level) problem that came up, she knew everything she needed to know. So did he.

There is no guarantee in relationships except one, selfishness is the destroyer of relationships. It's always there somewhere in one or both partners when good relationships go bad. That's what makes love conditional.

To just up and leave means that he was completely without hope, depleted, without respect, repulsed. It doesn't mean that he doesn't still love her, it probably goes without saying that love is a pain magnifier. It was flee or fight, self-preservation, survival, zero tolerance, without consideration, an emergency, 100% done.

Me and him had kinda grown apart the past few months (he'd probably blame my being preoccupied with my Virgo boy), but I'd be aware if something bad had happened and had driven a wedge between them. But he's very good at dodging the subject, very good at pretending.

Very bizarre indeed. Even if something bad happened, I'd expect him to be the bigger person and be upfront about his intentions, not go behind her back like a weasel. I really did think better of him. Then again he's got that cold Aqua moon. Yikes.

Virgo men can be very cowardly

I was just talking to one who admitted *i don't like confrontation*

Kind of weak

not sure what could have happened but it doesn't sound like it was so "all of a sudden" since you had noticed things were strange for quite some time

they might have tried to work through things but it failed miserably for whatever reason and then one day one of them just decides to make a break for it

it's sad but it happens and I hope they grow in better directions because of it - or get back together and live happily ever after - who knows what will happen

It's not bitterness it's peeling off the band aide as fast as you can.

No stringing along... Wasting our time and theirs.

Relationships are just like a business gotta learn not to hesitate when cutting out that which is stunting the growth.

yeah its not bitterness.

its just really easy for Virgos to just walk away and not give a fuck if they felt like they're doing the right thing.

Posted by tcta
not sure what could have happened but it doesn't sound like it was so "all of a sudden" since you had noticed things were strange for quite some time

they might have tried to work through things but it failed miserably for whatever reason and then one day one of them just decides to make a break for it

it's sad but it happens and I hope they grow in better directions because of it - or get back together and live happily ever after - who knows what will happen

They seemed a bit off but every couple goes through things like that, right? Even really awesome couples, it's just the stress of everyday life and things beyond our control. But his final move seemed quite drastic compared to the seeming severity of the situation.

I was gonna say that I'd never seen that before with all the Virgos in & out of my life, but I should've looked closer to home. More specifically my Virgo moon, because I did the exact same thing to my mom. Although I did make a solid effort to work things out between us and tried to talk to her multiple times. She's just not the kind of person who bothers to consider other people's viewpoint.

So I walked away. I have not seen or spoken to her in a year. Didn't wish her happy birthday (a few weeks after mine) although my Jed might be to blame for that lol, didn't wish her Happy Easter or Merry Xmas and I don't plan to do so this year either. I don't need or want her in my life. Definitely the right thing for me.

Posted by Snow123
Im a Virgo and I have to admit I've done this before - more than once. It's a series of small conflicts/annoyances/things that build up. We remember everything and try to let go of the little things but they eventually build up. Then one day it just takes one more thing to take it over the edge and I'm done with the relationship. I'll just explode and think treetrunk this butter! He doesn't care, he doesn't have time for me, he's annoying as hell, he doesn't even know what cabornara is! (All valid reasons to end a relationship). In the heat of the moment I'll pack my things and disappear without a word.

Once I've calmed down we'll have a talk but usually at that point I've made up my mind, unless he can convince me otherwise.

Well then you should walk out on YOURSELF!! Because you can't spell CARBONARA lol. But seriously what kind of guy doesn't know carbonara? Fuck his basic ass.

But why wouldn't you try to sort a few things out BEFORE it reaches the snowball point? If it's someone you care about, why not make the effort?

Posted by startwars
yeah its not bitterness.

its just really easy for Virgos to just walk away and not give a fuck if they felt like they're doing the right thing.

I hope you didn't come in here because you thought I was talking about Jed dumping me lol.

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Posted by tcta
not sure what could have happened but it doesn't sound like it was so "all of a sudden" since you had noticed things were strange for quite some time

they might have tried to work through things but it failed miserably for whatever reason and then one day one of them just decides to make a break for it

it's sad but it happens and I hope they grow in better directions because of it - or get back together and live happily ever after - who knows what will happen

They seemed a bit off but every couple goes through things like that, right? Even really awesome couples, it's just the stress of everyday life and things beyond our control. But his final move seemed quite drastic compared to the seeming severity of the situation.

I was gonna say that I'd never seen that before with all the Virgos in & out of my life, but I should've looked closer to home. More specifically my Virgo moon, because I did the exact same thing to my mom. Although I did make a solid effort to work things out between us and tried to talk to her multiple times. She's just not the kind of person who bothers to consider other people's viewpoint.

So I walked away. I have not seen or spoken to her in a year. Didn't wish her happy birthday (a few weeks after mine) although my Jed might be to blame for that lol, didn't wish her Happy Easter or Merry Xmas and I don't plan to do so this year either. I don't need or want her in my life. Definitely the right thing for me.

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yep - sometimes it just reaches a boiling point - one never knows what goes on behind closed doors

sounds like you can vouch with your moon being Virgo - and I understand about the mother thing - I had to walk away from mine as well and at the time I was in my early 40s - it's sad but true

my venus in virgo lover admitted to me how much he loves me last week then wanted to friendzone me lol

wtf?

they are deff unique people

From my experience, sudden breakups happen when the person who breaks things off deems themselves unworthy of, or are incompatible with their partner(s). They basically can't, or are unwilling to provision your needs, and convince themselves that someone else out there can do it better than they can, and/or you deserve better than what they can provide.

Keep in mind that many peeps have already left the relationship before breaking up, and to them it isn't sudden. The cases I spoke of above will help you determine where they're at. The opposite is a very emotionally charged breakup because the person is still emotionally attached, and is enduring an immeasurable amount of pain by willingly severing the bond.

In any case, I wouldn't be quick to assume that they don't care about you. From my experience, you can never truly severe a bond once it's established. There is always a piece that remains that cares. It's eternal and indestructible.

Virgos always put thier needs first and if they feel slighted they have no trouble dumping your ass. Stay away from them.

Well most users already wrote it. It wasnt just like that. I puzzled that you are puzzled frankly. Stop just looking at the outside level, the behavioral level. Look at the inside. Many people who break up like that go through internal hell and inner conflicts, some of them have even broke up (in their hearts and heads) without showing it. And then all of the sudden they are of your life. Something happened and you dont know what.

There was friction there was something going on. The sudden reaction wasnt so sudden, something was boiling deep inside him and whatever it was, something set him of. There is the german proverb that goes like the drop that caused to the barrell to spill. It could be anything. Maybe she said something truly hurtful some words that got in the most intimate and sensitive parts of his soul. You ll never know unless he tells you.