For Reka

Reka, the castle was getting a little crowded. I enjoyed our ongoing conversation and would like it to continue.

So, I'm inviting you to this little beach front property of mine, secluded from life.

You and I can explore away.

I'm respecting privacy, so as I said before, lady chooses direction.

Talk to me.

VirgoSquared

Hi Reka.

After reading the above post, it came across a little odd.

So, no dramatics of language, just plain English.

I enjoyed our conversation on the other board, I want it to continue, that's all I meant.

You value your privacy, which is why I used the word "explore," because in a sense, in terms of conversation, that's what it is. At least that's what I see it as.

As for lady chooses direction, again, it goes back to privacy. I said I wouldn't intrude, so I prefer you to choose where the conversation goes.

This is just clarification, my tendency for flamboyant language sometimes imparts an unintentional awkward impression.

Anyway, I hope everything is going okay.

Take care,


VirgoSquared

I hope that I am not intruding here but I just wanted to say that I am looking forward to seeing what path is taken and where this journey will go. Hurry and begin it! No time to waste - get it on!

C'mon Reka dear....your turn. 😉

Hey Virgo Sqaured,

I thought i lost you in the crowd.... Good to see you back as usual your post has got a smile on my face... trying to visualise a virgo giving an explanation.... there was no Dramatics there ... infact i enjoyed it 🙂

Don't clarify ... believe me, i think i understand you... hope this is not sending wrong signals 🙂

About our lovely castle getting overcrowded i do agree about that 😢.... i dont understand where the conversation is headed to out there 🙂 .... Did you realise we completed 100 posts there 🙂 .... boy we can talk and you so rock (lol)

I gladly accept you invitation to join you in your beach front property.... though i like snow better... but with you around... im sure i'll very soon enjoy beaches too 🙂

Well, this is gonna sound strange but i get this feeling that i kinda know u 🙂... i know thats weird and pls stop laughing at me .... Anyways forget it, i knew i was good at yapping .... but was not sure could really hold a converstaion for such long time with a stranger...

Hey stranger 🙂 i do enjoy these conversation as much as you do ... any yes i do wait for ur post... so keep talking.

Well as of for now.... im pretty busy with work these days... hope all's well at ur end.

Take care,

Reka

Hey Freebird..

Your most welcome.... you can never be an intruder ... so don't even think about it.

Decide on the path and we will join you..

Reka

Hi Reka,

everything's okay on my end. It always feels good to impart a little sunshine.

Hey, I think we've found our conversation. You feel like you know me? Is that so my dear (smiling)?

And I'm not laughing, I'm actually curious. Explain me to me lol. Tell me the impression I give you. Seriously, you brought it up, so be honest.

And no. I will not forget it LOL.

Keep safe and warm.

Talk to you later,

VirgoSquared

Hey VirgoSqaured,

Well you impart a good amount of sunshine 🙂..... Stop getting curious... it was just one of those wierd feelings... i thought you spoke like someone whom i knew... crazy me .... just forget abt it...

Anyway so howz life coming along... Now im kinda getting curious i see your posts most of the times coming post midnight... dont you sleep 🙂.... so what are ur plans for holidays?...

Hey so any updates on ur babe ... hahaha

Merry Christmas and Happy Hoidays....

Keep smiling,

Reka

Hi Reka.

Fancy meeting you here. 🙂

Stop getting curious? That's like telling the sky to stop hovering. It's who I be Man! LOL!

I'm curious by nature, you don't think that's a good quality?

Do I sleep? I am a habitual insomniac. Eventually, after a few days on a couple of hours of sleep, I crash and the cycle repeats. It's just the way I'm built.

Talking about me, keeping track of my hours 🙂 LOL. You're up late tonight yourself Missy. Party? Special guy friend? Night out with the gals? The ladies. lol

Cackling about fingernail polish and Justin Timberlake. Eventually getting to the inevitable about how guys are dogs. Friend number one, Ruth, says a guy took her out on a date and bought her a happy meal, making her share the fries. The other, Bertha, says on a first date a guy asks to use her bathroom and comes out two minutes later in his birthday suit with a black Stetson hat and cowboy boots.
Then it's your turn. You take one sip from your Strawberry Daiquiri, look up and say, "This guy, VS is nothing like that, man! As far as guys are concerned, let me tell it, he walks on water." And they say you're crazy, and you get offended, a fist ensues with you defending my honor, and . . . all right, all right.

See what happens when there's lack of communicative momentum? LOL

As for the holidays, food and family. How about you? Do you have any family in the states?

As for my "Babe" as you say 🙂

Beauty is lovely. She persists just fine.


Enjoy your Holidays Reka,

VirgoSquared

Hey Virgosquared,

Hope ur enjoying ur wine and dine this Christmas....strange but im getting curious about ur insomniac nature... doesn't this take a toll on u....

I dont have to keep a track of ur hours.... when it becomes a pattern its obvious... 🙂 dont let ur imaginations run wild (lol)...

About me being up so late.... had it been a special guy friend ... would not have stuck to PC writing post (lol)... there are better things to do then 🙂....It been hard these days... too much of work on my plate ...

About defending your honor... i will fight every inch for it🙂.... they should have thought about it before getting themselves into trouble (hehehe)

Well about me i dont have a family in states 😢.... planning to start one shortly 🙂(jus kidding)

Hope you have a wonderful Christmas...

Take care,

Reka

Hi Reka.

My insomnia nature? It's been this way for a while. I eventually catch up on the sleep I've missed. It'll be one day where I'd stay in bed all day; alone lol. For sleeping purposes lol. Then the cycle starts over again.

And that's right, you so rock for defending my honor LOL Can you believe them, talking about me like that?

Oh wait, this part interest me. You know I'm completely aloof so you have to explain lol.

". . .had it been a special guy friend ... would not have stuck to PC writing post (lol)... there are better things to do then 🙂"

I don't understand. Better things to do than writing post? LOL!!! Seriously? Such as? You keep telling me to not let my imagination run wild so you need to elaborate on this one lol

Reka, you are so crazy. The good crazy 🙂

Hey, I hope you enjoyed your Christmas. If you don't post before New Years, I wish you a radiant one.

And try not to work too hard. Find time to enjoy your time.

Let the sun shine in,

VirgoSquared

Hey Virgosquared,

How are ya?, hope all's well at ur end.... Could u please explain me what 'good crazy' is? 🙂

Oh, so you don't understand ... the better things to do part 🙂... hmmm let me start explaining you lol...so what is that so complex for you to understand (lemme help you understand) 🙂 kidding

Hope you enjoyed your holidays and had a good christmas.

Awaiting your defination on 'Good Crazy', If i dont receive your post by tomorrow... A very Happy New Year to you ... May all your dreams come true.... hahaha

Hope ur girl is doing fine (kidding) ... i like to rub you on this 🙂

Reka

Hi Reka.

Crazy: comical, fun, a little out there 😉 It's an American expression; don't worry, I find it to be an excellent quality in people. It makes them interesting.

So what's so complex for me to understand about the better things to do part? LOL!

Well, you joke me about my imagination, so I'm going to keep that bronco in the pin and let you explain. My dear, you brought it up. Hey, you played teacher in the other thread, take to the chalk and black board again 🙂

As for my Christmas, it was okay. A little quiet. Well, really quiet, but it was far from bad. I've had worse. In fact, it turned out pretty good. A sweetheart with almond eyes was precious enough to keep my time.

"Hope ur girl is doing fine (kidding) ... i like to rub you on this"

Yeah, okay lol! Reka my dear, I think you just like to rub me, period 😉 LOL!!

Kidding. In all seriousness.

Happy New Years.

I genuinely wish you an exceptional one,

VirgoSquared

Hey Virgosqaured,

How are you, hope new year has started on a positive note...
Just thought of saying a quick Hi to you.

Well i dont mind rubbing you... as long as the conversation moves on ...🙂

keep writing

Reka

Hey there.

I was wondering what happened to you. I thought you abandoned me Man 😢

By the way, that "keep writing" goes for you to. Come on, you can't expect me to talk to myself. Well, you are an Aries; you guys tend to expect the other person to bend over backwards 😉 Fairness is fairness though, two party conversation, agreed?

Reka, this maybe presumptive on my part, to think I can insight moods through post, but, that's never stopped me before lol . . .so, is everything all right? I can't put my finger on it, you seem . . .I guess muted is the word. A little down. You can talk, I'll listen. That's of course providing you want to share.

Hey, I hope this New Year found you radiant. I hope it's all you want it to be and more.

Take care you hear?

VirgoSquared

Hey Virgosqaured,

You are such a darling🙂 ... I hear you loud and clear.... Actually yes, i was a bit low yesterday... jus trying to cope up with too many things...thats ok... that kinda makes you strong...

I have too many things on my plate these days so kinda dont get time for myself. May be this is one of the reasons the conversations got stuck up in between or may be beacuse someone ruined our castle (things were moving good before that... that was such a cozy place)....with time passing im sure we will make another castle here too🙂

So howz ur almond eyes doing (hehe).... Your sure gonna loose ur cool soon ... jus kidding. I wanna see a angry virgo... that would be a scene what say?

Tell me one thing... how do you deal with anger... people whom you are angry with... do you ever patch up?..

And yes you dont have to bend backwards.... be what you are... I think you are pretty cool..🙂

Take care,
Reka

Hi Reka.

I know I'm a darling, you don't have to tell me that. 😉
And my dear, you got to make time for yourself. All fun and no play . . . you know the rest. As for coping with too many things, I truly understand that. Way to well 😢 Way, way, way too well. And you're right, it does make you strong. Suffering builds character. But sometimes things get to the point where you're like character be damned, I just want what's wrong to be over. I'm not going to give you some limp latitude, but I will say, of every avenue that's possible, determine where you want to go; what will make you happy, and after you figure out how to get there, use that fire to claim it. That's all any of us can do.

I'm finding that it helps to talk sometimes, so, this island is our own. If you ever want to post, I'm willing to listen. I know your privacy is a diamond, so I won't bring this up again.

And yes, our castle is now a hell hole LOL!!! It's okay, this property is shielded by mountains to the East and the ocean to the West. It's vagrant secure LOL!!!

And you're not going to offend me by asking about Brown eyes. Let me tell you, Lovely has been beautiful for every life time I've known her, that's not going to change. Your genuine concern is touching though 😉 . I'll be sure to tell her you asked about her lol.

As for losing my cool, I used to internalize more. Now, I'm realizing internalizing builds resentment. It's like, someone pisses you off, say a friend. You can let it slide, and slowly build resentment as time passes. Which, with me is going to end the friendship sooner or later because I'd just go. I don't get hurt, I get pissed. When pissed, regardless of how much I value the person, stubbornness has to suffice. It'll be over.

Now, I'm more into addressing it. Not some type of Arien dramatics, red ears, bulging eyes, and clenched fist 😉 , but just bringing up the perceived offense. If I value the relationship, I've found this offers the best chance of keeping people I care for in my life.

How about you? When you get angry, is it war from the outset? Is there forgiveness? What would be an unforgivable offense to you? Like, those chicks that were talking bad about your "darling" at the bar LOL!!! Is that unforgivable? lol

Take care Reka,

and find something that makes you smile. It helps.

VirgoSquared

Hey Virgosquared,

"I know I'm a darling, you don't have to tell me that" Really, are you?.... hmm let me think if i want to take my statement back (lol kidding). Brutish Virgo 🙂

About all work ... i am trying to get some life for myself ... and im reaching there 🙂 .... What makes me happy ... Oh these long posts from you makes me happy ... they really do ...:-P... see an Aries trying to find happiness with a Virgo.... what a lethal combination... i hope the poor Virgo survives 🙂

"Lovely has been beautiful for every life time I've known her, that's not going to change. Your genuine concern is touching though ... Mr. stop getting ideas .... I like to tease you period... ur discomfort on these topics is evident in your posts... so i keep talking about your almond eyes once in a while 🙂 ... and by the way Lovely has to beautiful if you have discovered her (A perfectionist Virgo settling for something has to be good :-P )... Hope you are not on cloud nine.... come down (lol)

Hey about how you let go people you value in life ... i can write a whole post on this.... If you ask me I think this is really bad .... if you value something in life... stubbornness doesnt come into picture.... if its over because of your so called stubbornness... then it means you never valued the person... The very fact that you cared for someone was because you liked the person for who he or she was ... how can you let something so close to you just go off, beacuse some1 pissed you.... For me that is "SELFISHNESS". Using the person till the time he or she gives you happiness, pleases you etc.... I am happy to hear that you have changed (hahaha).. Should the credit go the the almond eyes(lol)

I think the post is getting longer will talk about me and the way i react in the next post. But before i leave.... irrespective of how i react ... those chicks would never be forgiven .... they should have thought about it before entering the Aries teritorry and offending my friend (LOL). You pay for your sins and if the crime is so huge (ruffling my poor Virgo's feather)... then they desrve to be punished LOL...

This was a small effort to get a smile on your face... hope i succeded (hey dont have time to do a spell check got to leave so pls ignore if your critical eyes find some)

Take Care,

Reka

Hi Reka.

You know I'm a darling Reka, don't play coy. lol

Hey, in terms of working, reaching for what you want. I so admire that. I understand you completely. After ten years of chaos, my life has reached a kind of equilibrium. So, I feel like I'm starting life at 27. Now, the difficult part is figuring out what I want to do and how to get there. And I think I've gotten that part down . . . as recently as today taking steps to bring about happiness. So Reka, I dig you on what you're doing and feeling.

An Aries trying to find happiness with a Virgo, lol. Don't worry about this "poor Virgo" I'm quite resourceful. And no my dear, I'm not getting ideas.

The letting friends go thing . . .tisk tisk Reka. "Darling" sounds like I hit a sore spot lol. I'll explain it this way. You could care for someone. I mean genuinely care, but over time, building resentment can outweigh; it can mitigate that care. Regardless of how much I care for someone, I'm not going to get walked over or put in a position where I'm always feeling crappie from something I've taken offense to. At a certain point, the relationship becomes more trouble than it's worth. And to note, self preservation, be it physical, or emotional isn't selfishness. In a situation where someone is looking out for their best interest, to keep the playing field even, you have to do the same.

My dear, Aries are takers by nature, so I know it's hard to grasp the above point LOL!!! For instance, an Aries would sleep in your bed in the winter and steal all the covers for themselves LOL!!! They'll take a shower with you and she'll hog all the hot water. It's just the nature of the sign. I don't blame you Reka, you where born this way LOL! 😉 But I accept you all the same.

Now though, I bring up what's bugging me to try an avoid losing people. What brought this change was growing up. I got tired of losing people.

About those chicks downing me. Damn right don't forgive them. How are they're just going to talk about your darling like that 😉

And to note Reka. Your post do make me smile. I genuinely enjoy them. I genuinely enjoy the back and forth, the conversation if you will. "Critical eyes," I am so not hypercritical. At least not outwardly anyway, it's more inward. I wasn't focusing on the errors, I was enjoying the entire post.

Take care you hear?

VirgoSquared

Be careful Reka. The neighbors let their dogs run loose again.

I stepped in a huge pile of horse Parallax on my way in.

Damn it. And these were a brand new pair of shoes lol.

Oh well, even paradise can't be perfect.

Hey VirgoSquared,

"So, I feel like I'm starting life at 27". See i got a virgo speaking . i mean you disclosed ur age (kiddin). There is no doubt you are resourceful and interesting. Had it been otherwise you would not have hold my attenntion for such a long time (i have a short attention span).

The letting friends go thing . . .tisk tisk Reka. "Darling" sounds like I hit a sore spot lol. Maybe you have and now that yopu have.... you got to take this from me ...I think the basic problem with you virgo's is that you guys cant think beyond what you believe or want to believe. Everything is so well chalked out and you expect others to behave the way you see things, we are all different individual with diff needs, diff ways of expressing feelings.Just because yor constipated when it comes to feelings, doesn't mean others should react similarly.

Also relationships are for keeps. What you say about taking an offense about certaiin things and feeling crappie, again its just you feeling this way, may be you fail to realise what the other person is trying to tell you. Its a generic "VIRGO" problem. You cant expect people to behave the way you want them to behave , they are not puppets. This just goes to say that you are so superfical in your relation. You boast about the fact that you guys dont like to get into confrontations.... thats beacuse deep down you know you are wrong and you dont have a point so what would you fight or argue about.

"Self preservation, be it physical, or emotional isn't selfishness." Self preseervation is good but not at the expense of you causing emotional trauma to someone else. I have heard you make these statements that many a times you have walked off without giving explanations... Maybe you had no explanation... May be Virgo's cant face situation... Good! atleast there is an area where you guys are not perfect yet "Chicken" 😉

With all these explantions given above, if you call Aries a taker, then what should Virgo's be called? Stealers. Anyway but we ARIENS accept people for who they are and not what we want them to be🙂. So i accept you the way you are.

Hey if you think i came across pretty strong in this post, please ignore whtever i said.

I dont want our paradise to be ruined, I think we should gift a leash to our neighbours. Lets fence our walls today (lol)

Take care,

Reka

Hello Reka.

My protector and supporter lol. Thanks again for that hug.

So, I have hit a nerve 😉 . I think I understand why. It's nice to see you still have that fire lol 😉 It's quite prodigious. This Arien fury, I can't help but dig that. Believe me. I told you once before, speak your peace with me. Your post here is fine, you're expressing yourself. I can't believe you think I'm that temperamental lol. My dear, I have more planets in fire in my chart than anything else. You're gold. I understand the fire in your expression.

There is one thing. This comment.

"Hey if you think i came across pretty strong in this post, please ignore whatever I said."

Okay. Don't edit what you think with me. Never tell me to ignore what you said. It's like you're belittling, or invalidating you're feelings. It kind of makes me feel like you have this image of me as someone you can't talk to or be yourself with. I'm not that guy. Don't do that, it builds resentment. Obviously you feel strongly about this, and those strong feelings are valid. I don't have to tell you this, but at least with me, if you believe you're right. Don't back down.

Express strongly, it conveys the feeling. I prefer you to express yourself. It lets me know where you stand. Trust me on this. If I ever take offense, I'll tell you. I won't just abandon. With me, it's how you get across what you feel, not what you feel. We can't control feelings, so they're valid. Whether I agree or not, I accept you.

Now, to address the hurt. Reka, I don't think this is aimed at me. I think I'm playing Virgo target, but I'll post a response tomorrow, well, later today. It's 3:30AM here and I have to get up early in the morning. But, just note. I understand where you're coming from.

And my dear,

Be fiery;
Be sweet;
Above all, just be you. I accept you all the same. 🙂

Hope that got a smile out of you.

Take care,

VirgoSquared

Hi Reka.

Okay. I've heard you out, so now you have to hear me, being that you accept me an all 😉

Relationships are for keeps? Idealistic, for sure. Realistic, of course not.

People grow, sometimes that means growing apart. And me taking offense, it just being me? Suppose it's not? What if it's not just me taking offense? Then what? What if my perception is the reality of the situation? Are relationships supposed to be that way? Where one or both always feels sh**ty? According to relationships are for keeps, I would assume you believe so.

Beyond that. You have two people that are in some ways extremely similar, and yet others quite different. Disagreements are going to arise. Who bends to the other to accommodate those differences? How about a situation where one 'feels' they're always bending to another, you truly believe that's fair? Even worse neither feels the other can see the other's side. You neglect all of this. To make a blanket statement relationships are for keeps is peep hole thinking.

I mean, what if you're feeling neglected? Misunderstood. What if you always feel the other feels they're doing you a favor by being in your life? You can't possibly believe persistence in something like this reasonable.

Then, there are the cases where for whatever reason, the other person just wants to end it. Do you cling, do you continually try to change their mind? And confrontation is supposed to help that? Confrontation is probably the cause. Come on Reka, you have to admit, some things don't persist forever. If she wants things to be over, what are you going to do? I'm not going to insist that someone accepts me nor am I going to drastically change to get that acceptance, regardless of how profoundly I care.

As for the puppet thing. It's not about expecting people to behave a certain way, people are people. They're individuals. Regardless of how I may expect them to respond, they're free to do what they want. I'm not so rigid to box them into those mental constructs. Figuring people out, is for me anyway, just to help in relating. It's not some evil tool of manipulation lol. It's just thinking ahead, trying find favorable circumstances for both people. The problem comes in when another's person's perspective is so angular to your own where you can't predict how they'll respond. They're a wild card . . . and in that regard it's difficult to maneuver into the best relations. You end up stepping on one emotive land mine after another. See, thinking ahead isn't always just for my best interest, it's for both. And even in that, it only yields potentials.

Self preservation, but not at the expense of causing emotional trauma to someone else. Fine. But earlier you said,

"What you say about taking an offense about certain things and feeling crappie, again its just you feeling this way, may be you fail to realize what the other person is trying to tell you."

Well, emotional trauma could just be how they take it. See, I can accept you, your feelings, but that doesn't mean I have to agree with them. We can't control feelings, they occur at a whim over some of everything. So, I accept them, BUT, for this same reason, I'm not going to necessarily agree with them. You shouldn't expect someone to. The emotional trauma, that's a feeling. It doesn't mean it's something you did, it could just mean it's how they took it. In this assumed emotional trauma, at least try to accept the other person's feelings to figure out why they responded the way they did.

Oh, and Ariens being takers . . . it's a joke. I don' t make generalizations like that. It was more for humor than anything else.

Sorry for the length and tone of this. This has been an immense and profoundly sh**ty day. Just so happen, I may have lost a friend today. Over what? Hell if I know. A fitting topic right?

Actuall

Hey Virgosqaured,

I would like to differ with you on some point. I agree with you on the stament you made "Relationships are for keeps? Idealistic, for sure. Realistic, of course not.".... might be true but not always... Tell me one relationship that you had which was not of compromise.... I think each realtion has its share of compromises and adjustments... Nothing is going to be rosy for ever.... Yes i agree people grow.. but when you grow, you dont forget about the times when you grew together may be a short duration but you did... Look im perfectly ok about people outgrowing each other and looking for a life ahead...but i think it should be as clean as possible you should let the other person know about it ... why do it on sly...

My argument with you was about why fade off without an explantion.... Things happen talk about it, face it... why be chicken ..

I would never cling to anyone... if i know its over... that how i am.... not that i have a big ego but i have never ever done that.... but if i seriously care about someone... i always try to find if there was a problem... i dont end my realtion just beacuse of a ego clash or if i think the person is difficult... you can always be friends with someone, thing dont have to end... The end does not always justify the means.

Again i can see wht you say, as im like you in many which way... i would not let others know how i feel about them, will not admit the fact if i like someone (though deep down i know i do). Acceptance comes to me gradually.

Hey i dont mind the length and tone of the post ... i enjoying reading them... i can hear a honest voice behind all these posts.

If you dont mind me asking ... what happened about this friend ... it seems you cared about her a lot.

Also wht was the new voice that you heard... "Actually, there was one bright spot tonight. A startling bright one at that. I'm realizing as I type this, how bright it was. I can't stop smiling as I think about it lol. I heard a voice like a rose through the discord that I haven't heard for a life time "... who was it this time 🙂

Take care
Reka

Hi Reka.

I truly enjoy reading your post to. They are definitely a smile. It's late here and I'm dead tired . . .don't want you to think I'm neglecting 🙂 I'm going to respond to this one tomorrow.

I forgot to tell you, the other day when I said that day was perfect. Got a new job. Yeah! LOL. Don't you love it when a life plan comes together? It starts next month, so, between the end of my present job and the beginning of my new one, I'm going on a little vacation.

I'm going to be away for a while, so, I'll talk to you when I get back.

Stay kind and warm 🙂

Take care,

VirgoSquared

Hey,

I think we were online around the same time.... Congratulations!!!

Hi Reka.

Thanks for accepting. I agree with you, talk it out. Don't be a 'chicken' as you say lol. I try to now, but sometimes talking is just thrown fibs and sonic wind to distract both people from the inevitable. Besides, talking probably had been going on before hand to no avail. Even if it wasn't overt. Don't get me wrong, you're right. As humans, talking is all we have to express. We dress our words up in their finest suit, and send them out as representatives to what's inside us. They can be discounted, they can be accepted, but my dear, either way, I only have so many suits 😉 At a certain point, I'm just not going to care LOL.

I don't know, I guess I'm saying when it's clear my words are feathers, what's the point in wasting them. Providing both sides have an idea why it didn't work, even if their ideas are different, even if they're wrong. What does it matter? I grew to distrust her, she didn't trust me. She couldn't accept me, I couldn't understand her. Really, does it matter? It didn't work, that's what it boils down to. Sometimes I just don't see the point in talking.

There's this song, I believe by Taking Back Sunday, first album. It ends with this Cat screaming, "Don't call my name out your window! I'M LEAVING!!"

Reka, you're probably not going to agree with this, but that guy's right. Sever ties and be done with it. You're probably saying, "Easy for you, Virgos are machines." Yeah, after a certain point, I become apathetic. That doesn't mean I want to; but if you're just going to tear each other down, what's the point?

"What happened with the friend?" You ask. Yeah, I did care for her a lot. Still do. But, entropy is a universal law. Things just fall apart and once broken isn't easily fixed. Two objects that seem similar can upon closer inspection be viciously different. Some differences can be mitigated, some add spice, others assert themselves rotten.

The voice through the discord was in retrospect one of those words that get thrown in the way as a diversion to skew sight of the inevitable. Too bad, it was a beautiful voice.

You said congratulations LOL!!! Yeah, nice to know I'm not the only night hawk. I'm off tomorrow, that explains the late hour.

I dig your perspective on this. Thanks for sharing it. I am curious though. What would it take for you to end a friendship? If not from you perceiving the other person as difficult, what? My thought is friends should be a refuge from a difficult world. If you come from difficulty to friction, I miss the point. It's like chasing Tequila with Vodka. You sound like you've had a few experiences with this. My eyes are ears if you want to share.

Take care Reka,


VirgoSquared

Hey VS,

Hope ur enjoying your vacation, Thanks for ur insight.
If we both keep arguing this can go on and on and may be we might reach a situation where one is not able to see other's point of view 🙂 (kiddin).

I grew to distrust her, she didn't trust me. ... was its you grew to distrust her was beacuse you were looking for an excuse to move on or it was a misunderstanding , did you ever try to clear or you prefer living in false world by not discussing. May be somewhere she thought you are cheating on her.

She couldn't accept me, I couldn't understand her..... did you ever try to understand her.... did you ever showed her yourself for her to accept you... these are questions you should ask yourself.... If you always want to protect yourself from hurt or dont want others to know you and hence build a sheild against you. Its not their fault. Bottom line, if you care for a person clarification helps.

Well about the guy being right or wrong, i dont care, people react differently in different situations. It his stand on a particular thing and i have no right to change it. Also we were never more than friends. I care for him , but no more respect him. It best not to have someone in your life who is so shallow. If i was in a relation with him i could have still tried to understand his point of view, but when we were just friends, that was silly. May be he was not sure of his feeling. Anyways each to his own. Honestly, I am yet to meet a man who can make me skip a beat.

About experiences no not really, this was one silly experience i reacted because i was finding it crazy, something which i didnt expect, also something which never happened earlier.

If you dont mind would like to know why you distrusted her, what happened.

Take care,

Reka

Hi Reka,

sorry for the time lag. I didn't see this with the site being down and all. What did I mean when I said I grew to distrust her?
Okay, let me explain it this way. People that don't know me, they're really nonfactors in my concern of their opinion of me. Someone I care about though, that's a little different. They actually matter, so . . .you can take it from there.

Cheating on her? LOL! Reka, this is a friend. None of the "cheating" stuff comes into play. And no, I wasn't looking for an excuse to move on. Why would I want to move on from someone I care about? I don't like to lose friends.

Got to finish this later, I didn't want you to think I abandoned you.

Let me know you're all right.

Take care,

VirgoSquared