Getting my stuff back from virgo ex boyfriend (Page 2)

as you know I cut off communicaiton with ex virgo, except email to get remainder of stuff at his home, my hope was when he dropped my stuff at girlfriends he would bring everything not forget to bring 2 of the 5 things. With that being said, I emailed him to meet me to get the rest of my things:

Me: Wednesday evening I will be at Church from 7-9pm, if you can, bring the headrests and car mats around 6:45, that would be great?
Him: call me when ur close. I might not hear the email

Posted by prplhayesr

Him: call me when ur close. I might not hear the email,

This is a mild form of sarcasm.
Simply just call him, go over there and get your items.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
If you're not ready to move on....

I suggest you GO to his residence, pick up the rest of your belongings, confront him, get it off your chest...

And then find closure for yourself.

I really DO hope that everything works out for you.

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Use this as an opportunity to get this off your chest.

He may not grant you this closure in the near future.

From the sounds of things, seems like he wants to get something off his chest. This is like the 4th time, he has said call or made reference to picking up the phone and etc. I have the email from him so, that was my closure. As for me going over there, you are right, I would not feel comfortable. Interesting take romancingA

It seems to me like your just not ready to let go. A break up is always hard, especially one that end so suddenly and with no dramatic reason. You really need to just get your things and move on. You are blocking calls and emails with someone who simply only wants you to come and get your belongings. I'm sure when your belongings are back in your possession, he will have no reason to contact you, and you will have no reason to block calls or answer any emails and that scares you more. The relationship is clearly over and you holding too, not wanting to go get your things from him is not going to change that. He's not coming back % 100, because he does not want to come back. You don't have to teach him a lesson, because there is nothing to learn. He waited to long to muster up the courage to end a relationship he knew he had no emotional connection to, but at least he was able to do it, better late then never. At this point all you can do is speak your peace to him and move on.

Posted by RomancingA
Sometimes men, at the last minute shape up and ship off because they realize they've accepted things for far too long and want to get out there and make the best of his life,

This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

I guess libra you have not read the email thread, I have been trying to get my stuff since March 7th, I asked him to leave somewhere and he did not, he contacted me 2 weeks later and asked was I in the neighborhood, I said no, because I was not. I then asked him to leave at a girlfriends house, right around the corner from him. He did not do that. He then asked to bring to my job 30 minutes away versus dropping off at my girlfriends house. I said NO, just drop at my girlfriends house. He finally dropped stuff at my girlfriends and he had a list of 5 things and he forgets 2 of the 5 and I am not ready to let go. The day I got the email 3/7 was the day I was done.

and since I drive 2012 Hondal Pilot, yes, I want my leather headrests that go to my third row and floor mats.

breaking down, no... he has/had a rotating schedule. I said had/has because he changed positions so, I do not know his schedule anymore. It was or is not the same schedule every week. Which was one of the reasons why I asked him to leave out for me and I could come get it. Hem and Hawing no, I keep getting called out for trying to hold on or let go, which neither, I have done. This could have been done on March 7th, he could have said, I will leave your stuff in the backyard fence. Which he can do, because that is where UPS/FEDEX left our stuff.

Unblock your phone....

And CALL!

He will give you a day and time to get your belongings.....

Trust me!

According to you OP....

He's holding on.
He's confused.
He's going through a mid-life crisis.
He's using your belongings as bait.
He's contacting you because he wants to reconcile.

None of this is true!

You will not find peace and be able to heal if you hold on to these false fantasies/notions.

I have read about the situation which is why I commented the way I did. My stance is the same. If you ask him what time is good for him to come and bring your things, I'm sure he will provide you with one. If you have such a nice car and you want your floor mats then go get it. I know I would. Instead of telling him what dates are no good, and what your not willing to do, finalize your situation. All his actions are pointed towards the end of a 6 yr era, yours are all holding on to it. One day you will realize that all this is an end to your relationship, and you missed the opportunity to get real closure, not this email mess, but real emotional closure. Take advantage of this opportunity now, once he leaves, you will not get it again.

I hear all of your points of views and wanted my stuff again. when this first happened and asked. Am I upset that this era has ended of course. Did I want it to end of course. However, having him drive 30 minutes out of the way to come to my job did not make sense. When he could drive around the corner literally. Again, these are his words, Sorry forgot that stuff. When ur ready let me no.I rather u call me thou. No hurry take ur time. His words, call me when ur close. I might not hear the email, TO be honest I do not want to call or see him.....
I am trying to heal and deal.

Sorry, I was under the impression that you wanted your things, I see what you really want is for him to keep contacting you.

Get your mind right and go get your things then let us know how it went

OK libra, I give up. I do not want him to keep contacting me.. He should have just dropped all of my stuff off like I asked or let me come get then when I first asked.

I will let all of you know the outcome...Country song or not...

and thanks for the ones who private messaged me regarding the comments, I appreciate you and your support as well.

bahahahahahaha

Posted by prplhayesr
He should have just dropped all of my stuff off like I asked or let me come get then when I first asked.

Lets keep it honest hun...

Posted by prplhayesr
here is the email thread re: stuff at his house.

me, 3/7 Please let me know when I can come pick up my stuff. I prefer you not be there, if you could leave it somewhereFrom this point out, I absolutely do not want any further contact with you

This was NEVER stated or even asserted during the initial conversation. Am I right?

Posted by prplhayesr

me, 3/17 I spoke with Cindy, to make things easier you can drop my stuff by her house on Bradlee. Maybe one day this week when you drop Tyler off
him, 3/17 Ok

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Nor was this stated or asserted during the 2nd conversation.

If he works rotating shifts, I can understand why he would find the emails annoying....especially when your messages are indirect & procrastinating.

How many of you commenting are virgos? Just wondering. He intentionally didn't bring those couple of things because he wanted to keep a hold on you. He wants to keep you around because you do have something there and this chick clearly is a live in the moment type of deal. He is going to keep stringing you along until he e-mails saying he still has a penny that was once yours...and you need to come and get it... It's how they do things. Get your shit, and let him go or you will constantly be hanging by a thread in his web... it will get old and you deserve better than that.. Trust me!

Thanks, Godmadebeauty...

as for the others, his email goes to his cell phone, and his shift is two 24 hour shifts, he has 5 other days. and the dates from 3/7 when I first asked for my stuff to 3/17 is two weeks, asking was I in the area. I would not be as I had moved 1 1/2 hours away and he knew that.

@ prplhayesr

I will pray for you.
I hope you DO fine inner peace.
I will leave this thread alone.

@Godmadebeauty-
Thanks for giving her the answer(s) she's been seeking all along.

Posted by GodMadeBeauty
He intentionally didn't bring those couple of things because he wanted to keep a hold on you. He wants to keep you around because you do have something there and this chick clearly is a live in the moment type of deal.

Have a nice evening ladies 🙂

same to you...
to tell me I am doing something and I am not, is upsetting... I am here to understand the virgo man and what, why he is doing what he is doing.
anywho off to the gym

sheeeesh forget the things... start moving on hun.

Again, thanks for all of your insight, the good, the bad and the ugly. I asked him to meet me at 6:45, Wed, at Church to get the two items. His reply: call me when ur close. I might not hear the email. I said OK

Ok all Today is the day I get the rest of my stuff. I admit and I am nervous to see my virgo ex. I have not seen him since 2/22.

Hold your head high and keep it together AND if you are put on the spot, don't answer straight away!

You will be fine. Just trust yourself. Beforehand, say a little prayer and ask God to give you strength and he will. When you finally do walk away you are going to realize that it wasn't nearly as hard as you may have thought.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
You will be fine. Just trust yourself. Beforehand, say a little prayer and ask God to give you strength and he will. When you finally do walk away you are going to realize that it wasn't nearly as hard as you may have thought.

This right here is very true, although he may try something just to see if he still "HAS" you... dont let him get that satisfaction and good luck,

Hmmm...she should drag him inside the church douse him with some holy oil and whip him with some left over Easter palms, while explaining to clergy that he's been possessed, and that an exorcism needs to be performed a.s.a.p. After, she can simply walk over to the altar and repent.

omg, virgovixen I love you.... that is the best.. I am praying on it Godmadebeauty.

All done, I did it sort of. Well we met and I kept it short and sweet. I did not get out of the car. He asked how I was I said fine, and you. He put the stuff in the back of my car, and I said thank you and drove off. Well I get home, and only 2 or the 3 headrests were in the back. I text him and said sorry to bother you and be a pain but, 1 is missing. He said so come bye and get after you leave church. I told him that I did not have to work at the Church tonight I had my days mixed up and that I was home now. He said OK, that he will leave it at his Mom's tomorrow.

Got all my stuff back, weill picking up headrest from his Mom's after work. Feeling OK.... a little sad but, now the healing process begins. I must concur with my girlfriend that he looked older... and looked stressed and or tired.

thanks

Got my last headrest from his Mom's house. The reality of this whole mess has been here but, now it is full blown. Thankful for it to be done and sad... I will keep busy and continue to work on me. I appreciate all of the responses. I will meditate tonight and pray

Posted by prplhayesr
omg, virgovixen I love you.... that is the best.. I am praying on it Godmadebeauty.

🙂
Just thought I'd try and make you smile a bit.

You should be proud of yourself for being so brave and facing him head on. I do agree with GodMadeBeauty that this guy may still want to see how much control he has over you.

You done well.

Now the healing process can begin. Prayer and meditation is a great start.

I must admit the pain is surreal.. I just wish this didn't drag out..