He text but won't call

My Virgo made it apparent that he was irritated that I message him on Facebook versus using his phone number to text. I told him that it was duly noted and that I would start texting him through his phone. He then texted two pictures of himself over the weekend. I took that as a good sign. However, I have asked him several times that we actually speak on the phone. He dances around that subject, but will answer my text at the drop of a dime unless he is busy. I know that he does have conversation with women through phone calls, however, it seems to be an issue with me. Nothing comes to my mind as to why he is avoiding having a phone call with me. I have let him know that I just want to hear his voice. What is the deal with my Virgo not wanting to talk to me, yet seems to answer any texts that I send to him. My next step is just to ignore him until he picks up the phone.

Have you met him face to face or is this an online relationship/text thing?

How long have you known him.. if it's fairly recent.. could be one of two things... he's obviously got another chick/married so you phoning him is an inconvenience.

Or... I'm more likely to go with this scenario.. he is super stingy with his money and is either waiting for you to call him so he doesn't waste his phone credits... lol

We started out as Facebook friends due to someone we both know. I met him back in August on vacation when I went to his city with a travel group. I reached out to him then to see if we could meet up, which we did. He gave me his number 2 hours later after the initial contact. He didn't ask for my number, or if I wanted his number. I just received a Facebook message with his phone number.

I called him a couple of weeks after I got back home from that vacation, and he acted like he didn't know who he was talking to. The conversation was really awkward. I asked him why would he give me his number if he didn't intend for me to use it. His response was that he didn't know that it was me that he was speaking to and that he would save my number in his phone. I just never reached out to him on his phone because the initial phone call was so uncomfortable.

Fast forward to this past weekend and I send a message to him on Facebook and he tells me that it irritates him that I message him on Facebook rather than using his number.

This guy sounds like a prick, next!

He is not married. This I am 100% sure.

nutjob

So why call him ‘my Virgo man’ when he isn’t yours? You guys aren’t even dating. Weird.

Posted by KYdiva
I know that he does have conversation with women through phone calls

How do you know that?

No, I said my Virgo...not my man. Seriously, I know we aren't dating.

I have my sources, but he is not married.

Posted by KYdiva
My Virgo made it apparent that he was irritated that I message him on Facebook versus using his phone number to text. I told him that it was duly noted and that I would start texting him through his phone. He then texted two pictures of himself over the weekend. I took that as a good sign. However, I have asked him several times that we actually speak on the phone. He dances around that subject, but will answer my text at the drop of a dime unless he is busy. I know that he does have conversation with women through phone calls, however, it seems to be an issue with me. Nothing comes to my mind as to why he is avoiding having a phone call with me. I have let him know that I just want to hear his voice. What is the deal with my Virgo not wanting to talk to me, yet seems to answer any texts that I send to him. My next step is just to ignore him until he picks up the phone.

Hmph. How exactly did you get to "My Virgo" if you rarely speak on the phone? Especially if it's an expectation and need on your end? Also, how do you know he has conversations with other women?

As for the last bit, good luck with "silent treatment until you bend to my will" approach. Mutables will go with flow, up to a point. Don't confuse that with thinking you can control one.

Posted by KYdiva
We started out as Facebook friends due to someone we both know. I met him back in August on vacation when I went to his city with a travel group. I reached out to him then to see if we could meet up, which we did. He gave me his number 2 hours later after the initial contact. He didn't ask for my number, or if I wanted his number. I just received a Facebook message with his phone number.

I called him a couple of weeks after I got back home from that vacation, and he acted like he didn't know who he was talking to. The conversation was really awkward. I asked him why would he give me his number if he didn't intend for me to use it. His response was that he didn't know that it was me that he was speaking to and that he would save my number in his phone. I just never reached out to him on his phone because the initial phone call was so uncomfortable.

Fast forward to this past weekend and I send a message to him on Facebook and he tells me that it irritates him that I message him on Facebook rather than using his number.

So you met once in August and have been messaging each other the whole time? Or do you have the occasional phone call?

Okay, I get what everyone is saying. I stayed my Virgo because I meant the Virgo I was dealing with, not that I was in a relationship. I should have clarified that.

Okay, I get what everyone is saying. I stayed my Virgo because I meant the Virgo I was dealing with, not that I was in a relationship. I should have clarified that.

Posted by MiZLeo
Getting messages on Facebook aggrevates the shit out of me too. If you have my number, use it. I only use it for people I don't know or people I have my friends list but don't normally talk to on a regular.

Other than that.... sounds like he has someone else. Married or not there is someone else and she probably looks at his Facebook messages too. Which could be a reason for him to get angry about it.

He didn't even know who you were when you called. Why would you continue to persue? He is not "your virgo". Now you just look desperate. Virgo's love to talk. They are chatter boxes when they like you.

That call took place months ago. That was the initial call, which happend a week from when we met. There is a possibility that he didn't know who I was, but he made a point to say that he would save my number.

Last month I went somewhere else with my travel group and he decided to text me a random question, so now I know he actually did save it. I made a comment about him calling me, but that hasn't happend. I said something again...no call.

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Posted by KYdiva
We started out as Facebook friends due to someone we both know. I met him back in August on vacation when I went to his city with a travel group. I reached out to him then to see if we could meet up, which we did. He gave me his number 2 hours later after the initial contact. He didn't ask for my number, or if I wanted his number. I just received a Facebook message with his phone number.

I called him a couple of weeks after I got back home from that vacation, and he acted like he didn't know who he was talking to. The conversation was really awkward. I asked him why would he give me his number if he didn't intend for me to use it. His response was that he didn't know that it was me that he was speaking to and that he would save my number in his phone. I just never reached out to him on his phone because the initial phone call was so uncomfortable.

Fast forward to this past weekend and I send a message to him on Facebook and he tells me that it irritates him that I message him on Facebook rather than using his number.

So you met once in August and have been messaging each other the whole time? Or do you have the occasional phone call?

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Only texts. Matter of fact, he has asked some pretty serious questions.

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Posted by KYdiva
Okay, I get what everyone is saying. I stayed my Virgo because I meant the Virgo I was dealing with, not that I was in a relationship. I should have clarified that.

Are you from Kentucky? Since your name. It's bothers me lol

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Yes

I had to laugh at the lube

Posted by KYdiva
We started out as Facebook friends due to someone we both know. I met him back in August on vacation when I went to his city with a travel group. I reached out to him then to see if we could meet up, which we did. He gave me his number 2 hours later after the initial contact. He didn't ask for my number, or if I wanted his number. I just received a Facebook message with his phone number.

I called him a couple of weeks after I got back home from that vacation, and he acted like he didn't know who he was talking to. The conversation was really awkward. I asked him why would he give me his number if he didn't intend for me to use it. His response was that he didn't know that it was me that he was speaking to and that he would save my number in his phone. I just never reached out to him on his phone because the initial phone call was so uncomfortable.

Fast forward to this past weekend and I send a message to him on Facebook and he tells me that it irritates him that I message him on Facebook rather than using his number.

I am confused as to what interest you about this man so far I have heard nothing but a cat and mouse game and you the cat.

Posted by KYdiva
Okay, I get what everyone is saying. I stayed my Virgo because I meant the Virgo I was dealing with, not that I was in a relationship. I should have clarified that.

but your not dealing with him you seen each other once, spoke once and it was awkward and short you don't go into dealing with someone who's initial reaction to you reaching out to them is irritation regardless of how you did it because you don't know each other you are trying to. So why is it that you feel the need to hear the voice of an obvious prick? You need to be more guarded of your feelings.

Okay, let me start with "courtesy". When he gave you his # you dialed, and immediately DIDN'T say, "Hi, this is so and so, we met on FB, and you gave me your number. Do you remember me? How are you?!" (without breathing) as he will erase the brain fog and say something like, "OH, yeah, I remember you!" etc.

Second, you don't text him (although that's what he WANTS you to do) because of the "awkward" way YOU began the conversation (he didn't know who you were); you're LUCKY it did not go to voicemail and he let it go; he saw the # on caller I.D. and answered. Okay, that's water under the bridge.

A man LOVES for his cell to ring or ping; since everyone in this universe is attached to it and when I am on my phone; it does NOT always "ping" that I have a message via FB. He asked you to text him and you're not adhering to his specifications of communication.

START from scratch and begin to text him for a couple of days and after day #4 text him and let him know you will be calling him in five minutes. If it goes to voicemail; then you know the answer to your question (why doesn't he call? He calls all others and not me).....let me know how THAT goes before Christmas.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by EvatheDiva
Okay, let me start with "courtesy". When he gave you his # you dialed, and immediately DIDN'T say, "Hi, this is so and so, we met on FB, and you gave me your number. Do you remember me? How are you?!" (without breathing) as he will erase the brain fog and say something like, "OH, yeah, I remember you!" etc.

Second, you don't text him (although that's what he WANTS you to do) because of the "awkward" way YOU began the conversation (he didn't know who you were); you're LUCKY it did not go to voicemail and he let it go; he saw the # on caller I.D. and answered. Okay, that's water under the bridge.

A man LOVES for his cell to ring or ping; since everyone in this universe is attached to it and when I am on my phone; it does NOT always "ping" that I have a message via FB. He asked you to text him and you're not adhering to his specifications of communication.

START from scratch and begin to text him for a couple of days and after day #4 text him and let him know you will be calling him in five minutes. If it goes to voicemail; then you know the answer to your question (why doesn't he call? He calls all others and not me).....let me know how THAT goes before Christmas.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You are correct on the courtesy part. I did just assume that he knew. Also, the part about texting vs. Facebook...so true

Posted by KYdiva

Posted by EvatheDiva
Okay, let me start with "courtesy". When he gave you his # you dialed, and immediately DIDN'T say, "Hi, this is so and so, we met on FB, and you gave me your number. Do you remember me? How are you?!" (without breathing) as he will erase the brain fog and say something like, "OH, yeah, I remember you!" etc.

Second, you don't text him (although that's what he WANTS you to do) because of the "awkward" way YOU began the conversation (he didn't know who you were); you're LUCKY it did not go to voicemail and he let it go; he saw the # on caller I.D. and answered. Okay, that's water under the bridge.

A man LOVES for his cell to ring or ping; since everyone in this universe is attached to it and when I am on my phone; it does NOT always "ping" that I have a message via FB. He asked you to text him and you're not adhering to his specifications of communication.

START from scratch and begin to text him for a couple of days and after day #4 text him and let him know you will be calling him in five minutes. If it goes to voicemail; then you know the answer to your question (why doesn't he call? He calls all others and not me).....let me know how THAT goes before Christmas.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

You are correct on the courtesy part. I did just assume that he knew. Also, the part about texting vs. Facebook...so true

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🤗 🤗 double cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

To be honest.. I think you should let him go.

If he was interested he would've made an effort to contact you. The fact that you're the one doing all the chasing and putting in the effort..I'm sorry to say he sounds very feminine in his approach.. so he's the female and you're playing the part of the male.

This would grate in the long term - unless you like taking the masculine role and do all the initiating and chasing then by all means continue. If not find someone who's prepared to put just as much effort in as you.

PS. What star sign are you?

Posted by Pisces1803
To be honest.. I think you should let him go.

If he was interested he would've made an effort to contact you. The fact that you're the one doing all the chasing and putting in the effort..I'm sorry to say he sounds very feminine in his approach.. so he's the female and you're playing the part of the male.

This would grate in the long term - unless you like taking the masculine role and do all the initiating and chasing then by all means continue. If not find someone who's prepared to put just as much effort in as you.

PS. What star sign are you?

I am a Gemini/Cancer cusp