Help Me I'm Seeing Red (Page 4)

You have a MS right? The only thing left to do is find a random dude and leave your number on his car jk

I'm a jealous/suspicious person too. I get where your coming from.

My fear is more based around people messing up my life or stealing from me these days.

This past year really took it's toll on me to care about anything socially, though I understand.

Maybe your scorpio would think it's cute your so jealous lol hope you guys make it, good luck

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Posted by Ellygant

I’ve had strangers leave their cards/notes on my windshield before, 4 times before, so I don’t actually find that to be too strange lol.

2 times, were at friends apartment complexes. I was visiting those friends often, hanging out all hours. One dude used to hang out in his garage across from one friends unit. Another guy (different apartment complex) had a boxer who he’d walk around the same time I’d walk my dog. I never even so much as waved to either. But at different times both left their cards and a note about liking to get to know me.

Once a woman left her card cause she overheard me talking about tarot with a friend.

Another time a dude left a card at a coffee shop I frequented that he did as well.

So I feel like it’s pretty common tbh? And I know I never did anything to prompt interest. Even being a fairly sociable person. I never called any of the guys and the woman I did and she bought a reading lol.

I also was single in every instance. And granted it’s more common for men to chase than a woman. But maybe she’s just a woman that likes to pursue.

Either way, you’re clearly upset and this activates something in you that doesn’t trust him, or doesn’t trust period. Before speaking with him, I’d think it benefit you to narrow down which it is, if not both. It’s not really about the number anymore, it’s about the feeling. Is it intuition or paranoia? Is it something you can talk through with him eventually or not? Make these decisions before approaching him so that you don’t lose focus or get swayed from you ultimately want and can handle.

Omg I wish I had your life. No one ever left me a note anywhere. That would be so romantic

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This is the problem isn't it? What if she received the note. Would you tell the scorpio? Would part of you be intrigued? We all feel the same things. It all comes down to choices we make about the feelings

I don't think he knows her. He doesn't even know her name and certainly doesn't have her phone number so he didn't do anything wrong. She found him attractive and made a move.

The worst thing he could have done is flirt with her in the supermarket or laundromat or wherever which encouraged her to pursue him. If your mind automatically assumes the worst case scenario in otherwise innocuous instances, then maybe you suspect (or even know) that's how he is.

Is he naturally friendly and flirty even when he's in a relationship? Is he a harem collector? lol Sadly, some men will always seek out and encourage attention from other women even when in a relationship. It's an ego boost knowing they have all these women swooning over them.

Some women adopt the "I don't care where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home to eat" attitude and don't mind their man flirting up a storm. While others (like me) could not be in a relationship where I felt insecure and neurotic every time he was out of my sight -.- These men will always have options (or think they do) and won't hesitate to leave you when things don't go their way in your relationship. It's like walking on eggshells.

I have no idea if your Scorp is a harem collector btw lol I hope it was an isolated incident in the produce section and he did nothing wrong.

Wow, I'm really touched at the responses, advice and heartfelt good wishes given!

So here's what happened when I left work Friday. Drove to The Scorp's place, he was out walking his dog. Opened a bottle of wine, poured a glass and set on his front stoop waiting for him with my heart pounding. He walks up, can tell something is wrong with me right away. Asks me if something happened at work. No, let's go inside and I'll tell you what's wrong. Hand him the piece of paper, telling him I found it on his windshield this morning and what is this about? Without missing a beat he said he has no idea who this person is, he's never met her. He didn't blink, didn't turn his head away-just looked me straight in the eyes while saying this. He got upset that I thought he would do something to provoke her leaving her digits.

After I calmed down we went to hang with some friends. I told the women what happened, asking if they had ever done something like that. All three of them said no. So quite a bit of wine later, one of them says give me the number, we're calling her. She dialed her number, when the girl answered she said you left your name and phone number on my husband's windshield. I grabbed the phone. She tells me that she's never done something like that before, that she saw The Scorp and thought he was cute. I told her she should be careful when doing something like that in the future, and if I saw her around I would fuck her up. I mean I really went off....

Things are fine now, it was bonding for us. I realized that I wouldn't have reacted so strongly if I didn't truly love him. I apologized the next day for over-reacting, but told he knows I'm protective. I also feel more secure, he was really upset that I thought he was messing around. He felt flattered that someone thought he was cute, so I was calling him a stud the rest of the weekend. And he realized that you really shouldn't mess with women from Texas lol.

Thank you again for all the suggestions, some of you are very creative!!

Posted by Sag898

You have a MS right? The only thing left to do is find a random dude and leave your number on his car jk

I'm a jealous/suspicious person too. I get where your coming from.

My fear is more based around people messing up my life or stealing from me these days.

This past year really took it's toll on me to care about anything socially, though I understand.

Maybe your scorpio would think it's cute your so jealous lol hope you guys make it, good luck

Yes I'm MiS too, thank you for saying this so I don't feel crazy. I'm not jealous or controlling, but if you come after my man or family it's game on... And The Scorp joked around yesterday that he needs to make me jealous more often ha ha.

Posted by Phantom_Limbo

What happened, Jules? I hope you're okay!

Thanks @Phantom_Limbo, I'm good! DXP won't let me log in from my cell, when I try to change the password says it doesn't recognize my user name and email...

Posted by Jules-ll

Wow, I'm really touched at the responses, advice and heartfelt good wishes given!

So here's what happened when I left work Friday. Drove to The Scorp's place, he was out walking his dog. Opened a bottle of wine, poured a glass and set on his front stoop waiting for him with my heart pounding. He walks up, can tell something is wrong with me right away. Asks me if something happened at work. No, let's go inside and I'll tell you what's wrong. Hand him the piece of paper, telling him I found it on his windshield this morning and what is this about? Without missing a beat he said he has no idea who this person is, he's never met her. He didn't blink, didn't turn his head away-just looked me straight in the eyes while saying this. He got upset that I thought he would do something to provoke her leaving her digits.

After I calmed down we went to hang with some friends. I told the women what happened, asking if they had ever done something like that. All three of them said no. So quite a bit of wine later, one of them says give me the number, we're calling her. She dialed her number, when the girl answered she said you left your name and phone number on my husband's windshield. I grabbed the phone. She tells me that she's never done something like that before, that she saw The Scorp and thought he was cute. I told her she should be careful when doing something like that in the future, and if I saw her around I would fuck her up. I mean I really went off....

Things are fine now, it was bonding for us. I realized that I wouldn't have reacted so strongly if I didn't truly love him. I apologized the next day for over-reacting, but told he knows I'm protective. I also feel more secure, he was really upset that I thought he was messing around. He felt flattered that someone thought he was cute, so I was calling him a stud the rest of the weekend. And he realized that you really shouldn't mess with women from Texas lol.

Thank you again for all the suggestions, some of you are very creative!!

Lmaooo yass

That's ya honey dip!!!

Own it 😉🙃

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Posted by Sunsetvirgo

I always think maybe I could date a Scorpio and then I’m reminded of how unnecessarily secretive they can be and I’m like :/

Honestly if it were me, I’d just ask him about it calmly and discuss it with him. But it seems ur man is quite secretive and you’ve been having issues with that 😔

Idk if I could be w/ someone who I can’t talk to freely about topics w/o their walls going up. Props to you 🥂

Unnecessarily secretive indeed, but want to know everthing about you 😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️

I also couldn’t be with someone so secretive, I wouldn’t trust them, and would always think they have something to hide.

Same but I would just get bored. I don’t want to spend my relationship w/ someone always trying to figure them out. It gets tiring and I probably would start to lose interest since secretiveness for the sake of mystery has never been a quality I look for in men to date.

True....it becomes really boring...

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Hmmm I must be weird, I like something to probe and dig into...so to me it's not boring. His walls don't go up when I ask him directly about something, it's the "omission to not start anything" that gets me going...

We're both over 30% water (he's almost 37% water), so neither of us are hiding a thing from the other lol.

Posted by Jules-ll

Wow, I'm really touched at the responses, advice and heartfelt good wishes given!

So here's what happened when I left work Friday. Drove to The Scorp's place, he was out walking his dog. Opened a bottle of wine, poured a glass and set on his front stoop waiting for him with my heart pounding. He walks up, can tell something is wrong with me right away. Asks me if something happened at work. No, let's go inside and I'll tell you what's wrong. Hand him the piece of paper, telling him I found it on his windshield this morning and what is this about? Without missing a beat he said he has no idea who this person is, he's never met her. He didn't blink, didn't turn his head away-just looked me straight in the eyes while saying this. He got upset that I thought he would do something to provoke her leaving her digits.

After I calmed down we went to hang with some friends. I told the women what happened, asking if they had ever done something like that. All three of them said no. So quite a bit of wine later, one of them says give me the number, we're calling her. She dialed her number, when the girl answered she said you left your name and phone number on my husband's windshield. I grabbed the phone. She tells me that she's never done something like that before, that she saw The Scorp and thought he was cute. I told her she should be careful when doing something like that in the future, and if I saw her around I would fuck her up. I mean I really went off....

Things are fine now, it was bonding for us. I realized that I wouldn't have reacted so strongly if I didn't truly love him. I apologized the next day for over-reacting, but told he knows I'm protective. I also feel more secure, he was really upset that I thought he was messing around. He felt flattered that someone thought he was cute, so I was calling him a stud the rest of the weekend. And he realized that you really shouldn't mess with women from Texas lol.

Thank you again for all the suggestions, some of you are very creative!!

what is it about Scorpio men?

i once went nuts over my toothbrush not being in the bathroom sink when i was with a Scorpio sun/Gem moon.

shitting you not, that's the first and only time that i've actually went over the crazy meter.

this is why i'm avoiding Scorpio men now. i like living my life in an emotional stasis as much as possible. and they are NOT naturally conducive to my life atmosphere goals.

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Posted by Jules-ll

Wow, I'm really touched at the responses, advice and heartfelt good wishes given!

So here's what happened when I left work Friday. Drove to The Scorp's place, he was out walking his dog. Opened a bottle of wine, poured a glass and set on his front stoop waiting for him with my heart pounding. He walks up, can tell something is wrong with me right away. Asks me if something happened at work. No, let's go inside and I'll tell you what's wrong. Hand him the piece of paper, telling him I found it on his windshield this morning and what is this about? Without missing a beat he said he has no idea who this person is, he's never met her. He didn't blink, didn't turn his head away-just looked me straight in the eyes while saying this. He got upset that I thought he would do something to provoke her leaving her digits.

After I calmed down we went to hang with some friends. I told the women what happened, asking if they had ever done something like that. All three of them said no. So quite a bit of wine later, one of them says give me the number, we're calling her. She dialed her number, when the girl answered she said you left your name and phone number on my husband's windshield. I grabbed the phone. She tells me that she's never done something like that before, that she saw The Scorp and thought he was cute. I told her she should be careful when doing something like that in the future, and if I saw her around I would fuck her up. I mean I really went off....

Things are fine now, it was bonding for us. I realized that I wouldn't have reacted so strongly if I didn't truly love him. I apologized the next day for over-reacting, but told he knows I'm protective. I also feel more secure, he was really upset that I thought he was messing around. He felt flattered that someone thought he was cute, so I was calling him a stud the rest of the weekend. And he realized that you really shouldn't mess with women from Texas lol.

Thank you again for all the suggestions, some of you are very creative!!

what is it about Scorpio men?

i once went nuts over my toothbrush not being in the bathroom sink when i was with a Scorpio sun/Gem moon.

shitting you not, that's the first and only time that i've actually went over the crazy meter.

this is why i'm avoiding Scorpio men now. i like living my life in an emotional stasis as much as possible. and they are NOT naturally conducive to my life atmosphere goals.

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That's not a scorpio man thing, that's a virgal thing Chica!

Posted by Jules-ll

Wow, I'm really touched at the responses, advice and heartfelt good wishes given!

So here's what happened when I left work Friday. Drove to The Scorp's place, he was out walking his dog. Opened a bottle of wine, poured a glass and set on his front stoop waiting for him with my heart pounding. He walks up, can tell something is wrong with me right away. Asks me if something happened at work. No, let's go inside and I'll tell you what's wrong. Hand him the piece of paper, telling him I found it on his windshield this morning and what is this about? Without missing a beat he said he has no idea who this person is, he's never met her. He didn't blink, didn't turn his head away-just looked me straight in the eyes while saying this. He got upset that I thought he would do something to provoke her leaving her digits.

Good to hear.

Kind of figured that was the case.

Some of the responses on this thread were....interesting (As in: "how to f*** up/self-sabotage a relationship in several easy steps")

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Jules-ll

Wow, I'm really touched at the responses, advice and heartfelt good wishes given!

So here's what happened when I left work Friday. Drove to The Scorp's place, he was out walking his dog. Opened a bottle of wine, poured a glass and set on his front stoop waiting for him with my heart pounding. He walks up, can tell something is wrong with me right away. Asks me if something happened at work. No, let's go inside and I'll tell you what's wrong. Hand him the piece of paper, telling him I found it on his windshield this morning and what is this about? Without missing a beat he said he has no idea who this person is, he's never met her. He didn't blink, didn't turn his head away-just looked me straight in the eyes while saying this. He got upset that I thought he would do something to provoke her leaving her digits.

Good to hear.

Kind of figured that was the case.

Some of the responses on this thread were....interesting (As in: "how to f*** up/self-sabotage a relationship in several easy steps")

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Thanks @CancerOnTheCusp! I believe in honesty and no game playing, so that's how I handled it. Some of the responses sounded as if they were from people that have probably never been in a long term relationship, but there was a lot of humor and support too...made me feel good.

Posted by tiziani

Nice one on just confronting it directly. Minimal drama maximum romance.

Thanks @tiziani, your's was the most creative explanation by far 😄

Posted by tiziani

Nice one on just confronting it directly. Minimal drama maximum romance.

And people say virgo venuses aren't romantic...