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If I saw a note on my girlfriends car with some dudes name and phone number on it and lost my sh1t, after I calmed down and rationalized the situation, I would probably be at the crossroads yet again:

Why did I take it if it wasn't for me - or was it for me, if it was - did I take an L?

Maybe life was testing him but I came around just at the right time so I got tested first.

Most likely these words would follow : "Why does this bother me, what exactly do I fear is going to happen, maybe if a woman can get almost any dude she wants, yet she's with me = doesn't always mean that she's gonna go and cheat on me + big maybe - there's a reason why she's with me".

Actions usually speak louder than words but idk.

Chances are I'd take the L and keep it moving but not forget the lesson which I failed and hopefully not repeat it.

Interesting you brought this up...the thought flashed through my mind when I saw the note to just leave it. But I figured if I took it he would never have the woman's name and phone number. Interception.

This is something that I would think about too. Sometimes I’d rather not interfere with someone else’s free will. You’re taking away that choice he has. You also may have missed an opportunity for growth / trust. What if you had left the note and he told you about it? That would have been a huge gain in trust an opportunity that you just lost.

Did you confront him about his prior lies? What did you two agree upon on what would happen in the future?

I honestly would not hold it against him for lying if he feared it would create drama, but I would explain to him why it would be important to me if he had told me the truth and that the real drama was the lying and not going to dinner with an ex. If I had explained to him that it hurt me or triggered me when he lied about something innocent and he agreed to not to do it again, but continued to lie despite his compromise and knowing how it makes me feel then I would hold it against him.
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Not confronted, more like an intense conversation about it. I let him know exactly what you just said, that the hurt is in the witholding of truth or clarity not the act itself.

I like that you brought up free will, big believer in it. Maybe I should put the note back on his windshield later tonight. See what he does when he finds it...
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Maybe confront him with it...then be like 'I had a guy friend call the # and pretend to be you. I'm going to give you one chance to tell me everything.'...if he doesn't fess up, laugh and say 'just kidding'?...

Is this advice from a Scorpio man? 😄

honestly am probably more of the jealous/manipulative stereotype than any scorp I've met....after the 1st or 2nd lie, I'd be researching surveillance equipment...and probably very excited about it...

I'm the same, don't toy with me. I've stalked a guy I was dating. I won't lie. Knew something was up. Saw him getting out of his car at his place with his ex girlfriend at about 11:30. Left, drove home like a bat out of hell. Next thing I know, he shows up at my place. My adrenaline was pumped, that was a fun, sweaty, loving night. He was my closest experience to a twin flame, had really vivid dreams about him.
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its understandable that you'd want to watch over him - like his angel lol....twin flame starter packs can be purchased here: http://www.pigear.com/
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Sounds fishy, try reverse phone number search and obtain full name of the person. Then move to the people look up, you should be able to access quite the great amount of info, such as, names, aliases, date of birth, people related, if the given person is in marriage or not, the address, landline phone number, social networks. That's all you need to start with. I wouldn't call just of yet, if you do cover your ID
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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Seriously, why not just give him the note and say "someone left this on your car" instead of getting all caught up in "what ifs"?



On a less serious note, you could then tell him "but I kept the Watchtower magazine....."

This is what I love about men, you keep it simple and focused with a touch of humor... thanks @CancerOnTheCusp.

OR

Suggest buying spy gear and setting him up with forged notes and fake phone numbers....

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Posted by pisceanloves

Sounds fishy, try reverse phone number search and obtain full name of the person. Then move to the people look up, you should be able to access quite the great amount of info, such as, names, aliases, date of birth, people related, if the given person is in marriage or not, the address, landline phone number, social networks. That's all you need to start with. I wouldn't call just of yet, if you do cover your ID


She did

"did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down"
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Sounds fishy, try reverse phone number search and obtain full name of the person. Then move to the people look up, you should be able to access quite the great amount of info, such as, names, aliases, date of birth, people related, if the given person is in marriage or not, the address, landline phone number, social networks. That's all you need to start with. I wouldn't call just of yet, if you do cover your ID

I did this as soon as I got to work, except for the phone call. Still contemplating calling and saying I found her name and number on my man's windshield, asking what I can help her with?
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Ask yourself why you’re so mad before you even know the scenario? Isn’t it possible she just saw him and thought he was cute and didn’t know anything about him - like if he was single or not?


My thought. But who would leave a number on somebodys windshield expecting them to call/text IF they know that the desired person doesn‘t know how she looks?
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Sounds fishy, try reverse phone number search and obtain full name of the person. Then move to the people look up, you should be able to access quite the great amount of info, such as, names, aliases, date of birth, people related, if the given person is in marriage or not, the address, landline phone number, social networks. That's all you need to start with. I wouldn't call just of yet, if you do cover your ID

She did

"did a reverse phone look up, registered to a man. Looked him up on FB, he's single. Yeah, my mars is fully activated right now Stars. I'll call the number when I calm down"
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GOD DAMMIT/

the easy thing to do would be 2 just ask the bae

DO WE TRUST THE SCORPIO BAE?

WOT IS THE VERDICT GUISE?!

Herein lies the issue! Is the lack of trust due to the bae's behavior, the relatively short duration of the relationship (compared to what I'm used to), or the OP's insecurities?

I would have just asked my husband what it was, but I trust him.
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It's not lack of trust, it's not knowing what prompted a woman to leave her number on his windshield...
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Need advice... I found a woman's name and phone number tucked under the Scorp's windshield wiper this morning when I left for work. What do I do after I calm down?


Missed this... somehow read or thought viser...

Um, no. Just no. Like this is so random and innocent. If anything, and it would still be doing THE MOST, I would be calling and telling her that he's taken.
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GOD DAMMIT/

the easy thing to do would be 2 just ask the bae

DO WE TRUST THE SCORPIO BAE?

WOT IS THE VERDICT GUISE?!

Herein lies the issue! Is the lack of trust due to the bae's behavior, the relatively short duration of the relationship (compared to what I'm used to), or the OP's insecurities?

I would have just asked my husband what it was, but I trust him.

It's not lack of trust, it's not knowing what prompted a woman to leave her number on his windshield...

Well, there is some lack of trust or else you wouldn't be upset about it. I think it's probably a realistic level of trust, given your situation.
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I don't fully trust anybody...

So if a woman randomly left her name and phone number on your husband's windshield it wouldn't bother you at all?
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I’m not reading 12 pages but it’s on his windshield, does he even know it’s there? Someone could have put it there not knowing anything about him but he may have caught their eye. If he doesn’t know about it he’s done nothing wrong.


Good job noticing this. Somehow viser was in my mind until you posted this.
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Need advice... I found a woman's name and phone number tucked under the Scorp's windshield wiper this morning when I left for work. What do I do after I calm down?

Missed this... somehow read or thought viser...

Um, no. Just no. Like this is so random and innocent. If anything, and it would still be doing THE MOST, I would be calling and telling her that he's taken.
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Now that I've calmed down I see your point. It should be taken it as a compliment to both him and myself. I was freaking out because I found it strange some random chick would leave him her name and number.
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I personally, would have used it as a bonding moment and showed him what I found... like gossip to share.

But I’ve never had any of my ex’s lie to me like your Scorpio does to you. And if I had... I think i would have broken up before the disrespect broke me.

That type of behavior makes you suspicious and jealous out of fear and insecurity. His behavior isn’t bringing out the best in you.

I understand where you're coming from, but how do you know none of your ex's lied to you?
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Need advice... I found a woman's name and phone number tucked under the Scorp's windshield wiper this morning when I left for work. What do I do after I calm down?

Missed this... somehow read or thought viser...

Um, no. Just no. Like this is so random and innocent. If anything, and it would still be doing THE MOST, I would be calling and telling her that he's taken.

I would NEVER call. That’s his job, I’m not his mom.
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Nobody's job.

Would you ever call an anonymous flirt via note to tell them "no?" I mean awkward.

If I left a flirtatious note, and the dude called me to tell me he's taken? Wtf? Not calling is enough.

Even if single, would never entertain someone I've never seen.
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As of now I've decided not to call the number. She could be a complete psycho, don't want to open any type of communication with her...

I like this kind of "what if" topics, makes you think about how you would react in different situations. Like when Shane hit the guy in the knee to hobble him so he could get away from the zombies.

Thanks for all the good advice, I'll let you know how it goes...
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Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.

The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
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K so I’m a million pages late to this game but “I saw you pull into the complex..?”



WHATS THAT MEAN!

Did he run over someone and she is hinting she saw him? Is she blackmailing him?? Did he steal someone’s cat—?



Omg I’m dying in suspense
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Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.

The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?

Oof. That's not encouraging, but it could still be innocent. If I were worried, I would have left it there and camped out to see his reaction. Is that crazy?

And then waited, to see if he would tell you about it 😂
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Exactly. I would take a pic of the note and then I would put the note back tomorrow morning.
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Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.

The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?

Oof. That's not encouraging, but it could still be innocent. If I were worried, I would have left it there and camped out to see his reaction. Is that crazy?

And then waited, to see if he would tell you about it 😂

lol

Exactly! Of course, I'm full of it, because that is not my style at all. I'm an immediate and direct type.

Sometimes it pays off to just sit back and wait it out... you learn a lot that way. Like people that think they’re getting over bc u don’t say something the 1st time, when really ur just sitting back observing, waiting to see if they’re gonna try that (bleep) again.

😂

Then they’re confused wondering why u up and stopped fu $ &king with them lol smh

Like u tried it, thought u got one over, I played dumb to see how disrespectful u would get (insulting my intelligence) and walk away without a word like...

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True Aqua shit right there.

Everything except that gif I agree with.
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Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.

The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?

Oof. That's not encouraging, but it could still be innocent. If I were worried, I would have left it there and camped out to see his reaction. Is that crazy?

And then waited, to see if he would tell you about it 😂

lol

Exactly! Of course, I'm full of it, because that is not my style at all. I'm an immediate and direct type.

Sometimes it pays off to just sit back and wait it out... you learn a lot that way. Like people that think they’re getting over bc u don’t say something the 1st time, when really ur just sitting back observing, waiting to see if they’re gonna try that (bleep) again.

😂

Then they’re confused wondering why u up and stopped fu $ &king with them lol smh

Like u tried it, thought u got one over, I played dumb to see how disrespectful u would get (insulting my intelligence) and walk away without a word like...

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True Aqua shit right there.

Everything except that gif I agree with.

Gif was just funny to me but I agree with ur disagreement 😂😂

I don’t raise hell when I’m leaving, I just leave, and u won’t know that I left until I’m no longer answering text/calls/the door/telegrams 😂😂whatever

Then they wanna scream aqua just left for no reason😒

I can give u 3,4,5,etc reasons ... all the bs u thought u were getting away with, I was just tallying that (bleep) up 😂😂📝

Until ur time is up, then it’s adios👋🏽... I’m way too analytical smh

I’m like a human hole puncher, punching holes in the stories people tell all day 😂

Hey babycakes, glad to see 🤳🏼😏😘
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Again, spoken like a true Aqua.

People be doing too much.

Being hasty and shit.

Then wind up in an endless rotation of bs.

"Not I, said the cat"

We're doing this right or we're not doing this at all.

Hola babycakes.
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I always think maybe I could date a Scorpio and then I’m reminded of how unnecessarily secretive they can be and I’m like :/

Honestly if it were me, I’d just ask him about it calmly and discuss it with him. But it seems ur man is quite secretive and you’ve been having issues with that 😔

Idk if I could be w/ someone who I can’t talk to freely about topics w/o their walls going up. Props to you 🥂
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Ok I changed my mind.

I would first definitely call this bitch and say why are you leaving notes on taken men’s cars— THEN I would take a pic of the note and put it back on the car.



THEN I would wait two days. If he said squat about it I would demand he hand me his phone and I would go through it while he watched me. Then I would lose my shot and prolly dump him if I found her number on it.

Omg but I would definitely first call up this hoe. She DEF knows he’s taken
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Posted by LethalFantasia

GOD DAMMIT/

the easy thing to do would be 2 just ask the bae

DO WE TRUST THE SCORPIO BAE?

WOT IS THE VERDICT GUISE?!

Herein lies the issue! Is the lack of trust due to the bae's behavior, the relatively short duration of the relationship (compared to what I'm used to), or the OP's insecurities?

I would have just asked my husband what it was, but I trust him.

It's not lack of trust, it's not knowing what prompted a woman to leave her number on his windshield...

Well, there is some lack of trust or else you wouldn't be upset about it. I think it's probably a realistic level of trust, given your situation.

I don't fully trust anybody...

So if a woman randomly left her name and phone number on your husband's windshield it wouldn't bother you at all?
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Superwomen of dxp usually don’t bothered by anything because they don’t have men as a LTR...all these Fwb don’t required to be exclusive.

Another kind of dxp superwomen are newlyweds who are just being brave until their men starting to act up and you know as soon as it’ll happen they will post and moan and cry and bitch but until then - superwomen!!!

Don’t worry about those hon...just read and take whatever resonates with you into consideration and you are the one who knows your Scorp.

My take is...(I don’t know if you’ve answered that already) he is not comfortable telling you everything.

Is it him or is it your way of dealing with his ‘stuff’?

I wouldn’t look at his dinner with an ex and kids as a lie if he didn’t mentioned an ex...men don’t like that shit.

But you calling it a lie. No. It’s just ‘I am ain’t mentioning an ex’ and that’s that...well...it’s for another thread...❤️
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Have a guy friend call the number on speaker and say he’s your dudes name, got your note etc. See what she says. Maybe she’ll give up all the info if they are having an affair.

Then you can ask him about it calmly and see if he’s gonna look you in the eyes and lie.


HOW are they having an affair if she is not having his phone number? Snail mail to his work? And then she figured out quicker way to see him by putting note on his windshield? 🤦‍♀️
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Jules!!

First he did nothing, and I mean nothing wrong in this situation. He pulled in to a parking lot and some rando placed a note on his car. To get upset with him? why? I get there has been past lies by omission ( telling you after, leaving out details etc) so yes there are trust issues, you need to work on that btw, both of you. I understand what Silverado was trying to express. Sometimes it's not worth the battle it creates. Does it make it right? no, but if his intention behind the why was honorable, you need to look at that.

2nd, I have a different scenario from everyone else. Perhaps she is a sales person and that's her shtick. If you think about it, it's pretty brilliant. You see a dude that is alone in a car, leave a note that if the guy rarely has it happen is flattered by that type of thing .. so he calls and she's just trying to sell him land or cars or something. it might not be a pass at your man.

TBH I would handle this by being direct but fair and respectful, I do not advise you to just discard the note and to omit from telling him, you do not like that when he does it to you, right? I Would just say something light/ funny like " hey sweetie, found this on your car today, should we call her and say thank you for thinking my hunny is smokin hot" then hug him, reach around and pinch his butt.

Would I be upset with him? nope. I would be a bit bothered by the note and woman, but to get this worked up over something you nor him have any control over.. naw no one should be giving that type of energy away. He is YOUR hubby not hers, he is with YOU, he comes home to you. keep that in mind.

my final comment after reading all these pages I understand why some of y'all are challenged in relationships. Jesus I just can't with some of you! 🤣 sorry this was so long.
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I always think maybe I could date a Scorpio and then I’m reminded of how unnecessarily secretive they can be and I’m like :/

Honestly if it were me, I’d just ask him about it calmly and discuss it with him. But it seems ur man is quite secretive and you’ve been having issues with that 😔

Idk if I could be w/ someone who I can’t talk to freely about topics w/o their walls going up. Props to you 🥂

Unnecessarily secretive indeed, but want to know everthing about you 😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️

I also couldn’t be with someone so secretive, I wouldn’t trust them, and would always think they have something to hide.
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Same but I would just get bored. I don’t want to spend my relationship w/ someone always trying to figure them out. It gets tiring and I probably would start to lose interest since secretiveness for the sake of mystery has never been a quality I look for in men to date.
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I always think maybe I could date a Scorpio and then I’m reminded of how unnecessarily secretive they can be and I’m like :/

Honestly if it were me, I’d just ask him about it calmly and discuss it with him. But it seems ur man is quite secretive and you’ve been having issues with that 😔

Idk if I could be w/ someone who I can’t talk to freely about topics w/o their walls going up. Props to you 🥂

Unnecessarily secretive indeed, but want to know everthing about you 😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️

I also couldn’t be with someone so secretive, I wouldn’t trust them, and would always think they have something to hide.

Same but I would just get bored. I don’t want to spend my relationship w/ someone always trying to figure them out. It gets tiring and I probably would start to lose interest since secretiveness for the sake of mystery has never been a quality I look for in men to date.
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Good luck finding an easy-to-date man! 🤦‍♀️
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I always think maybe I could date a Scorpio and then I’m reminded of how unnecessarily secretive they can be and I’m like :/

Honestly if it were me, I’d just ask him about it calmly and discuss it with him. But it seems ur man is quite secretive and you’ve been having issues with that 😔

Idk if I could be w/ someone who I can’t talk to freely about topics w/o their walls going up. Props to you 🥂

Unnecessarily secretive indeed, but want to know everthing about you 😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️

I also couldn’t be with someone so secretive, I wouldn’t trust them, and would always think they have something to hide.

Same but I would just get bored. I don’t want to spend my relationship w/ someone always trying to figure them out. It gets tiring and I probably would start to lose interest since secretiveness for the sake of mystery has never been a quality I look for in men to date.

Good luck finding an easy-to-date man! 🤦‍♀️
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I always think maybe I could date a Scorpio and then I’m reminded of how unnecessarily secretive they can be and I’m like :/

Honestly if it were me, I’d just ask him about it calmly and discuss it with him. But it seems ur man is quite secretive and you’ve been having issues with that 😔

Idk if I could be w/ someone who I can’t talk to freely about topics w/o their walls going up. Props to you 🥂

Unnecessarily secretive indeed, but want to know everthing about you 😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️

I also couldn’t be with someone so secretive, I wouldn’t trust them, and would always think they have something to hide.

Same but I would just get bored. I don’t want to spend my relationship w/ someone always trying to figure them out. It gets tiring and I probably would start to lose interest since secretiveness for the sake of mystery has never been a quality I look for in men to date.
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True....it becomes really boring...

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Make 100 copies and hang them up in the house...wait to see his reaction. 😂Jk

Obviously tho...if someone is leaving their info on his windshield...he must not know her. I would have taken a pic and left it there...see what he does. Check the phone bill and see if he called it etc. Always stay a step ahead 😉.

But I understand why you are mad...most here won't get it. Doesn't matter if he didn't do anything....it's just the fact. It's perfectly normal to feel angered.. wait till you can think logically again before approaching him or coming up with a better way to handle it.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Make 100 copies and hang them up in the house...wait to see his reaction. 😂Jk

Obviously tho...if someone is leaving their info on his windshield...he must not know her. I would have taken a pic and left it there...see what he does. Check the phone bill and see if he called it etc. Always stay a step ahead 😉.

But I understand why you are mad...most here won't get it. Doesn't matter if he didn't do anything....it's just the fact. It's perfectly normal to feel angered.. wait till you can think logically again before approaching him or coming up with a better way to handle it.


I can hear your Scorpio rising talking and my five planets in Scorpio agree 👍
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Have a guy friend call the number on speaker and say he’s your dudes name, got your note etc. See what she says. Maybe she’ll give up all the info if they are having an affair.

Then you can ask him about it calmly and see if he’s gonna look you in the eyes and lie.

HOW are they having an affair if she is not having his phone number? Snail mail to his work? And then she figured out quicker way to see him by putting note on his windshield? 🤦‍♀️
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Ok I changed my mind.

I would first definitely call this bitch and say why are you leaving notes on taken men’s cars— THEN I would take a pic of the note and put it back on the car.



THEN I would wait two days. If he said squat about it I would demand he hand me his phone and I would go through it while he watched me. Then I would lose my shot and prolly dump him if I found her number on it.

Omg but I would definitely first call up this hoe. She DEF knows he’s taken

Why do you think she knows he's taken?

I feel like I'm missing a big part of the story
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Because I find it hard to believe that she doesn’t know who’s house he parked at...

Like if she “saw him pulling in” that means she lives in the complex. Which means that she knows who’s house he parked at. Which means she knows it’s a broads house. Which means she knows he’s taken.

I dunno. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Posted by Ellygant

I’ve had strangers leave their cards/notes on my windshield before, 4 times before, so I don’t actually find that to be too strange lol.

2 times, were at friends apartment complexes. I was visiting those friends often, hanging out all hours. One dude used to hang out in his garage across from one friends unit. Another guy (different apartment complex) had a boxer who he’d walk around the same time I’d walk my dog. I never even so much as waved to either. But at different times both left their cards and a note about liking to get to know me.

Once a woman left her card cause she overheard me talking about tarot with a friend.

Another time a dude left a card at a coffee shop I frequented that he did as well.

So I feel like it’s pretty common tbh? And I know I never did anything to prompt interest. Even being a fairly sociable person. I never called any of the guys and the woman I did and she bought a reading lol.

I also was single in every instance. And granted it’s more common for men to chase than a woman. But maybe she’s just a woman that likes to pursue.

Either way, you’re clearly upset and this activates something in you that doesn’t trust him, or doesn’t trust period. Before speaking with him, I’d think it benefit you to narrow down which it is, if not both. It’s not really about the number anymore, it’s about the feeling. Is it intuition or paranoia? Is it something you can talk through with him eventually or not? Make these decisions before approaching him so that you don’t lose focus or get swayed from you ultimately want and can handle.


Omg I wish I had your life. No one ever left me a note anywhere. That would be so romantic